Topic: How to be contented on what you have? - page 31. (Read 9331 times)
This is very easy to do. Don't watch the friends or people who have more money than you and have a better house and a better job than you. If you keep watching them you will never be happy with what you have but if you look at people who have less than you , you will see it is very easy to be happy then as you will be happy with what you have. There is no other way to be happy with what you have. This is also a religion teaching in almost every religion.
As I observed myself it looks like I never stop on planning to buy new things that I dont have yet.
The secret is do not look at what your neighbors have. It is easy to say be satisfied and contented with what you have but when you see your friends new possessions the automatic feelings that we feel is, "it is nice.i wish i could also buy like that." So if we close our eyes or take them off material things, we are less tempted.
Just be thankful and appreciate what you have. Do not yearn for more and more things to come to you. Appreciate every single things and blessings you have in your life. Also do not ever try to compare what you have on other people's have because that is the starting point of not being contented on what you have.
We don't, if were contended on what we have then we won't have internet today as we were contended using snail mails or cars as were contended on horses. Maybe you could, if you renounce knowledge and stop learning new things or go to nepal and devote your life in the ways of monks, not bad at all.
Yes, necessity is the mother of invention and all that. We should feel a drive to make progress. But that's on a meta-level. On a practical, day-to-day level, it's hard to feel like what you have isn't enough.
I believe that a person can not be constantly satisfied, because even if he acquires that thing about which he has long dreamed, then after a while he will still need something new.
Yes I agree with you and that is the reality. Even if we get what we really want at that time still, when time passed by you will look or desired for new things. The desires of our heart is unstoppable. We always want what we do not have. But if you are disciplined enough there is no way you could buy things that you want for the moment. If you have goals and planning for some much better things to buy other than what we just want for the moment we could do it.
I believe that a person can not be constantly satisfied, because even if he acquires that thing about which he has long dreamed, then after a while he will still need something new.
There are few things one can do to be contended. I know its harder and harder to do in the nowa days world. Its a concious behaviour for people not to be contented. If people would be, the debt level would quickly fall down and current economical problem would be in trouble.
Things one can do:
1. Do not expect much. One that expect to have much is to be unhappy. If you will have what you have not expecting it will give you happyness - it will give you happiness. Thats the main rule of positive psychology.
2. Do not compare yourself with those that have more, but with those that have less.
3. Make charity - you will hack your brain that you have enough to share - thats why you do not need more.
Things one can do:
1. Do not expect much. One that expect to have much is to be unhappy. If you will have what you have not expecting it will give you happyness - it will give you happiness. Thats the main rule of positive psychology.
2. Do not compare yourself with those that have more, but with those that have less.
3. Make charity - you will hack your brain that you have enough to share - thats why you do not need more.
As I observed myself it looks like I never stop on planning to buy new things that I dont have yet.
Before, when I still don't have what I want I am just like you. I always want to buy things I want that I don't have or if I have I want to buy because I am not satisfied with it. Like clothes, i want what is trend. Then one time I have an opportunity to buy so I grab that opportunity. I buy all things I want that is in the budget. Now, there is only one thing I most like but I don't and can't bought by that time up to now. So I can say I am not 100% satisfied and contented. I still want to buy it. It is okey to buy something but make sure you have budget for it and you have separated for your needs. Dont just focus on our want. I beleive in the right time we can all have it just work for it.
Buy them, just don't feel better than the others.
As I observed myself it looks like I never stop on planning to buy new things that I dont have yet.
Just be thankful and appreciate what you have,Not everyone is lucky enough to have what we had or have,
You might not know this but I am sure there is someone wishing they have what you had or have right now.
As I observed myself it looks like I never stop on planning to buy new things that I dont have yet.
Being contented is a choice. If you are happy of something and you dont ask for more then you are contented. But because you set a high standard goal or dreams you'll never be satisfied thats why you keep searching of anything.
It is never easy to be contented especially when you have experienced being wealthy, being human means striving for greatness and never be contented. Only few people can say they are really contented on what they have.
We don't, if were contended on what we have then we won't have internet today as we were contended using snail mails or cars as were contended on horses. Maybe you could, if you renounce knowledge and stop learning new things or go to nepal and devote your life in the ways of monks, not bad at all.
Maybe ill be contended when i achieve my real goal in my life but now, i really dont know what i want. Maybe it's not time and i wait the right time. We know each of us dont be contended in their lives even if they have all of they needs and want. They try more more and more and they think it is good but it's not too because it's cross their limitation from others.
It's simple, really.
Before war in my country, I had material wealth but wasn't happy.
In the war my family lost everything.
But, it was blessing, in some way because I started to search for the real purpose of life.
Now, I understand that real happiness and joy comes with true love, family, wife, kids, close friends, health etc. not with money.
Money is just tool to achieve something in life, not final goal.
Before war in my country, I had material wealth but wasn't happy.
In the war my family lost everything.
But, it was blessing, in some way because I started to search for the real purpose of life.
Now, I understand that real happiness and joy comes with true love, family, wife, kids, close friends, health etc. not with money.
Money is just tool to achieve something in life, not final goal.
A person can not just begin to appreciate what he has. You have fallen into a difficult life situation and realized that for you are true values. But most people live in comfortable conditions and have false goals.
Enjoying life is a difficult work on yourself
It's simple, really.
Before war in my country, I had material wealth but wasn't happy.
In the war my family lost everything.
But, it was blessing, in some way because I started to search for the real purpose of life.
Now, I understand that real happiness and joy comes with true love, family, wife, kids, close friends, health etc. not with money.
Money is just tool to achieve something in life, not final goal.
Before war in my country, I had material wealth but wasn't happy.
In the war my family lost everything.
But, it was blessing, in some way because I started to search for the real purpose of life.
Now, I understand that real happiness and joy comes with true love, family, wife, kids, close friends, health etc. not with money.
Money is just tool to achieve something in life, not final goal.
If you want to be contented, just lock yourself in a room and stay there forever.
My point is, no one can be contented to something because that's the nature of human. World is constantly changing, we are living for the future and not for the past. No one can deny it, even its just for a little thing.
My point is, no one can be contented to something because that's the nature of human. World is constantly changing, we are living for the future and not for the past. No one can deny it, even its just for a little thing.
How to be content, part 1: Log off facebook, don't obsess over what other have or what others are doing.. Do focus on yourself and enjoy what you have.
Actually I have read that before in an article that one of the ways to be contented is to stop opening your social media account as they only gives us the feeling of uncontentment. All the post we shared in our social media account are only happy things. We want to be percepted that our life were perfect and that we are happy and we are rich something like that. Let us just be thankful on things that we already have.
Contentment is one thing that's hard to achieve. When we are contented, it solely means that we are satisfied with what we have therefore, we no longer set a certain goal on ourselves to get something better than what we have. Contentment is quite a complicated thing. We all wanted to be contented, but human as we are, we always want something better, new, updated, etc. we never get satisfied nor stop to want something more. We are goal setters, ambitious. Hence, when one gets to be contented or satisfied with whatever disposition that individual is in, he no longer does anything that will make him better or have something better than what he has.
As I observed myself it looks like I never stop on planning to buy new things that I dont have yet.
That would be a bad thing for you. Contenment is a word for those who are satisfied with what they have and not for a person who lets their feeling of desire decide. Likely, if you got all the money do not just buy and buy all the things that you want but learn how invest in more profitable business so that it wont go to waste after you spend it all and maybe in the future you will get for yourself the necessary thing/s you really need like house and lot
People never satisfied with what he has and so always strives to be bigger and better. This is the incentive that causes one to always have a goal in life. I don't think it's bad. Without a purpose it would be boring and not interesting to live.
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