Pages:
Author

Topic: I cannot go home if I don't make a lot of money now!! (Read 1042 times)

legendary
Activity: 1750
Merit: 1094
Assalamu Alekum
As a man, the first rule to take very serious is to avoid kids and female, in your early 20s set your mind of financial freedom, this will get you somewhere even if your life goals haven't become a reality, they way you think will be different.

I see most men starting to regret only after they have two kids and a wife at home, that's when they will start feeling like they messed up, the job they do won't be enough to do something good for themselves because of the responsibility, I have seen some men living the rest of life in this same shame as they don't have any other way out.

There are some things we need to have done before having family, to make our journey a lot easier, if I have a son I will keep advising him to think more about financial goals instead of planning to start a family, this is one of the reasons why.



I somehow agree with your point. Some may see this as a bad thing when it is actually beneficial for both men and women. You cannot just jump into something that you are not ready for. If you are a man in your early 20s and you let your desires get the best of you, and you "accidentally" start a family, you and your whole family will only suffer the consequences financially. Hence, it is better to be smart and avoid situations that will lead you there. Instead, be smart and focus on getting financial freedom first before any of that.

I don't object to what you two are saying. But the problem is when we are at that age, we never think about our career or our future, we get carried away with friends, the pleasures of youth. I believe that when we were young, our parents used to give such advice, but how many people will listen and follow? That is the instinct of youth and almost all of us have to go through it. It seems easy to say, but few people do it, or most only realize the mistake when everything is over.
legendary
Activity: 3542
Merit: 1352
Cashback 15%
As a man, the first rule to take very serious is to avoid kids and female, in your early 20s set your mind of financial freedom, this will get you somewhere even if your life goals haven't become a reality, they way you think will be different.

I see most men starting to regret only after they have two kids and a wife at home, that's when they will start feeling like they messed up, the job they do won't be enough to do something good for themselves because of the responsibility, I have seen some men living the rest of life in this same shame as they don't have any other way out.

There are some things we need to have done before having family, to make our journey a lot easier, if I have a son I will keep advising him to think more about financial goals instead of planning to start a family, this is one of the reasons why.



I somehow agree with your point. Some may see this as a bad thing when it is actually beneficial for both men and women. You cannot just jump into something that you are not ready for. If you are a man in your early 20s and you let your desires get the best of you, and you "accidentally" start a family, you and your whole family will only suffer the consequences financially. Hence, it is better to be smart and avoid situations that will lead you there. Instead, be smart and focus on getting financial freedom first before any of that.
sr. member
Activity: 812
Merit: 260
As a man, the first rule to take very serious is to avoid kids and female, in your early 20s set your mind of financial freedom, this will get you somewhere even if your life goals haven't become a reality, they way you think will be different.

I see most men starting to regret only after they have two kids and a wife at home, that's when they will start feeling like they messed up, the job they do won't be enough to do something good for themselves because of the responsibility, I have seen some men living the rest of life in this same shame as they don't have any other way out.

There are some things we need to have done before having family, to make our journey a lot easier, if I have a son I will keep advising him to think more about financial goals instead of planning to start a family, this is one of the reasons why.

hero member
Activity: 644
Merit: 591
#SWGT CERTIK Audited
Yes, I am complaining that people are not nerdy enough. It's been 14 years since Satoshi published his white paper and the vast majority of people still don't understand what Bitcoin is and how to use it. Sure there are many people buying Bitcoin on crypto exchanges and speculating on it.

However, the average guy on the street that I speak to, and even many people on crypto forums still don't understand Bitcoin's potential as a virtual commodity, or it's potential to create an alternative to Fiat economies. Maybe the problem is deeper than just a lack of understanding about the technology? Maybe it's a lack of understanding about economics as a whole? How many people are economists?

I understand that my frustration might be due to the fact that I am coming from a very privileged position. What are your thoughts on this?

I think ignorance of digital technology is the main reason why a common man does not understand the potential of Bitcoin.If you come from a very privileged place, your frustration is perfectly justified.However,the number of investors in Bitcoin is still not small.People who know about Bitcoin and have capital,are investing in Bitcoin,because they know that Bitcoin has the potential to give them the best returns in the future.I myself came to know about Bitcoin a year ago now I am thinking if I had known about Bitcoin ten years ago I would have made a great return on my investment.I hope that many people will invest in Bitcoin in the future but the need is to try to attract them in a good way about Bitcoin.
hero member
Activity: 910
Merit: 875
Not Your Keys, Not Your Bitcoin
when i was kids, i need to study very hard, to get a lot of score in the test. if i got a zero mark in a math test, i am very scare to go home and show the test paper to my mum.

when i am grown up, i have kids and wife now, i need to work very hard, to get a lot of money in the job. if i got a paycut, or i got fired, i am very scared to go home, i can't sleep well, my head is sweating, the memory of getting zero mark in a test keep haunting me like the nightmare, i need to go out and make a lot of money!!

You need help man, your problem is not just money, you are scared about life and you need to see a therapist to help you out, the forum cannot help you out on that aspect. You have been scared right from kid and that trauma has affected you in facing the reality of life, men are build up by society to challenge life and live with it comfortably no matter how difficult it is, they always learn to adapt any difficulty but you seem to be attached to your kid life that has happened more 15 years ago if I'm right since you said you are married, please do see a therapist, book an appointment and have a one on one discussion about this fear, they will help you out.

Quote
tell me anything i need to do to make a lot of money. doesn't matter what, i would do anything to get all the money, even if it mean unlawful and unethical!

You should never think about doing anything illegal, it will land you in jail and you will become a bad dad to your kid and embarrassment to your family and people that look up to you. If you have an academic results, apply for jobs you studied in school or start a business if you have the means to start anyone, you can also improve and rank your account and joined any available signature promotion on the forum, you can engage in the Forum to earn some sats to support your physical husle and with that, you should be fine and happy with your family.
hero member
Activity: 1358
Merit: 538
paper money is going away
Unlawful and unethical? Why? I know the pressure your family gives you but earning money in a negative way still gives you zero. What if the job you will having will lead you to harm or might also danger to your family? Better to have a good communication with your family and try to think  on how you can help each other.
Psychologically, when a man encounters a problem, he tends to conceal it and tries to solve it on his own. On the other hand, a woman, when faced with an issue, seeks solace and shares it with others.

For OP, if you wish to lead a good and enjoyable life, pursue it through righteous and delightful means. No one justifies that criminal actions will resolve all problems.
sr. member
Activity: 1386
Merit: 326
Eloncoin.org - Mars, here we come!
The OP didn't speak clearly about his situation and misled many people. It can be said that I have had the same difficulty as him when not being able to earn enough money to provide for the family's main meal and coming home after a day of work is a terrible thing. If you have been in that situation, you will understand when you come home from work and see your children standing at the door waiting for their father, but then you will disappoint them after that. As a father, it is an indescribable torment. But luckily, my life has improved a lot now, and I have almost everything I need.

Everyone had some struggling for affordable life some of them went successfully through planning and some of them remains in same phase for years because of lacking planning and wise thoughts.

There are lots of parents who worked in some other cities or even in other countries and the reason of living away from there families is only providing stable life to their children and its one of the appreciable approach for one's family.

Your life become easy but surely you would have faced some troubles and difficulties in life which you would have overcome so everything become easy after hardship.
full member
Activity: 434
Merit: 100
Chainjoes.com
Unlawful and unethical? Why? I know the pressure your family gives you but earning money in a negative way still gives you zero. What if the job you will having will lead you to harm or might also danger to your family? Better to have a good communication with your family and try to think  on how you can help each other.
sr. member
Activity: 392
Merit: 197
The pressure of ensuring that we have the money to provide for our family is truly difficult to deal with specially during times when we can't do much. I know OP is desperate to earn for their family but it will be more difficult to do something illegal and be held accountable for that as all opportunities to earn and make money for your family will all be gone. So the bottom line here is -- work hard.
People are usually busy earning money because they are happy with their family and when their means of earning money is stopped while earning money, that person realizes how difficult it is for him to manage his family. Here OP mentions that he used to earn a lot of money with which he used to live well with his family but suddenly his money income stopped due to which now he is looking for ways to earn money like before and he says he will not return home until he can earn good amount of money ie he is now desperate for money income. As you have said that he should not seek the opportunity of earning money in any illegal way because he is addicted to earning money because there are risks involved in earning money in illegal ways. OP needs to find a legitimate means of income even if it takes a little more time.
hero member
Activity: 1624
Merit: 791
Bitcoin To The Moon 📈📈📈
The pressure of ensuring that we have the money to provide for our family is truly difficult to deal with specially during times when we can't do much. I know OP is desperate to earn for their family but it will be more difficult to do something illegal and be held accountable for that as all opportunities to earn and make money for your family will all be gone. So the bottom line here is -- work hard.
Earning money to support yourself and your family (if you have a family) is great, but you don't need to be overly ambitious by doing everything you can to win.
We need to be mindful of this so that we don't cross the line into things that violate the rules.

Indeed, in this case there may be many reasons such as compulsion or whatever it is but I think it will only be a silly reason so do not let it be because we are only focused on money as one of the things aimed at supporting us and our families, we become uncontrolled and violate all existing rules because precisely by doing so it will harm yourself and the original intention of seeking a life for the family will actually further torment the family.
hero member
Activity: 812
Merit: 560
I have an advise for you mate on this and it's on two opinions which i will like you to decide on what to do or which one to take, the first idea is that we need to be more prolific with your career, which means you can always get an alternative means of earnings money aside the job you're doing, you can try to empower your children as as well to learn and developed a skill, put your wife also busy with maybe a teaching job or any other thing she could easily learn and do to fetch in an additional income benefits, they must not totally depend on your earnings from the current job you do to live, if not your greatest fear of loosing the job will turn a reality one day, secondly i will advise you to learn a trade and personally develope a skill and be self employed, this will permanently solved your fear of getting sacked one day and you loose your job without anything to fall back to.
jr. member
Activity: 73
Merit: 7
It's okay to work very hard but don't pressure yourself, you have a partner now. It's easy to solve if you have a support right? Don't do the bad things for money because your
family will be suffer on your action.

sr. member
Activity: 714
Merit: 358
Underestimate- nothing
The pressure of ensuring that we have the money to provide for our family is truly difficult to deal with specially during times when we can't do much. I know OP is desperate to earn for their family but it will be more difficult to do something illegal and be held accountable for that as all opportunities to earn and make money for your family will all be gone. So the bottom line here is -- work hard.

The primary purpose of making money is to feed, I sat down and consider a lot of things imaging having shelter and not having money to eat imagine what it will look like, I have done some research and have noticed that opportunities to earn have become very limited, which have even lead to the increase of crime rate in most capital cities everyone wants to make money by all means, the nature of how difficult things has become am still not justifying, the fact that it is wrong, sometimes when it comes to finance I become speechless, we have even gotten to the stage were calculation no longer work again, the money is never enough.
legendary
Activity: 3542
Merit: 1352
Cashback 15%
The pressure of ensuring that we have the money to provide for our family is truly difficult to deal with specially during times when we can't do much. I know OP is desperate to earn for their family but it will be more difficult to do something illegal and be held accountable for that as all opportunities to earn and make money for your family will all be gone. So the bottom line here is -- work hard.
sr. member
Activity: 504
Merit: 302
Did you really just say illegal? What kind of money do you want that you don't even care how it will affect you in the end? We are all aware that people who are struggling will do anything to obtain what they need, but we don't hope to engage in any illegal activities in order to succeed in life. Happiness is the most important need for a family. Although I am aware that wealth can make a family happier, there are some joys that money simply cannot purchase. For you to act positively as a guy, you must be content in your life. You can't merely think negatively about a family issue without being happy.

Money is the source of all evil and can take you in directions you'll come to regret. What if, for example, a person you meet introduces you to a money ceremony and then asks you to bring a member of your family along for the ritual because you urgently need money? Money has both good and bad sides, and can help you get some of the things you need in life as well as bring about happiness, You can see that the family you are at odds with is still the one that expects you to become wealthy, therefore my recommendation to you is to stop arguing and find a better way to raise capital to launch a business, which is the best thing I believe you can do at this particular time.
full member
Activity: 1400
Merit: 115
Sugars.zone | DatingFi - Earn for Posting
It is said that money is the root of all evil and that people become bad as soon as they have money, but to be honest, I see bad people because money is still in the minority; people without money, leading to misery, are innumerable.

Once you lack money, you will see the cruelty of the world; once you are short of money, you will truly understand that being rich means having many choices, but if there is no money, there is only one way to go: work hard to earn money.
When someone does not have money it will become soft like fresh bread but immediately money touches the person it will be obvious tahr the person get rigid, money is power, I don't believe in anyone know because I know quite well that you can never know the character of a humans until its satisfied or its contented with what it have.
money must be sought before it comes to us. but it's also not that extreme to make money, we have to know that our portion as human beings certainly has limited strength. what I mean here we have to be regular between making money with sufficient for our life needs. For example, many people work overtime and they forget to eat, and end up getting sick. it means he doesn't love himself. therefore we must be able to create intelligent work, so that everything becomes balanced in our lives
hero member
Activity: 1400
Merit: 655
Bitcoin is achievement
It is said that money is the root of all evil and that people become bad as soon as they have money, but to be honest, I see bad people because money is still in the minority; people without money, leading to misery, are innumerable.

Once you lack money, you will see the cruelty of the world; once you are short of money, you will truly understand that being rich means having many choices, but if there is no money, there is only one way to go: work hard to earn money.
When someone does not have money it will become soft like fresh bread but immediately money touches the person it will be obvious tahr the person get rigid, money is power, I don't believe in anyone know because I know quite well that you can never know the character of a humans until its satisfied or its contented with what it have.
hero member
Activity: 2926
Merit: 722
when i was kids, i need to study very hard, to get a lot of score in the test. if i got a zero mark in a math test, i am very scare to go home and show the test paper to my mum.

when i am grown up, i have kids and wife now, i need to work very hard, to get a lot of money in the job. if i got a paycut, or i got fired, i am very scared to go home, i can't sleep well, my head is sweating, the memory of getting zero mark in a test keep haunting me like the nightmare, i need to go out and make a lot of money!!

tell me anything i need to do to make a lot of money. doesn't matter what, i would do anything to get all the money, even if it mean unlawful and unethical!

I think that your childhood traumas were caused by your parents or other authority figures making unrealistically high demands of you because they were taught the same way and they think that such an upbringing must somehow be right. It is more important for you to overcome this trauma before you can live a happy life. Unless you live in a place with extreme poverty, getting a job after being fired is not hard. You just have been conditioned to be fearful of failure. But failure is important. It teaches us and makes us greater. Would your family starve if you had to find a new job? Would something terrible happen if you were to get a bad grade? No. That failure would have forced you to find a new path for success. Perhaps even a better path.
There are situations in our lives on which it is really that something that affects us totally or generally because we arent get used to things like this or like that. For some people then it wouldn't really be that much of

an issue but for those people who hadnt been able to experience those hardships would really be totally in panic on the time that they are really such on a certain condition which we cant really blame them. We dont know the story behind and this is why its not really that ideal to be judgemental specially on OP that he might seems to be totally scared on why he is really that pursuing on having money more.
If we do speak or talk about the present thing on which if he had been able to spend up the money which it should really be remitted into his wife then it would really be a sure problem.

If you are still that anticipating for possible problem due to lack of money then it would be wise that you should really be thriving on having other source of income so that you would be able to avoid such problem.
sr. member
Activity: 266
Merit: 217
Life is sweet when we have family and life is more sweeter when money is involve but that does not mean we should hustle to kill our self, hunger for too much money can leed to danger or been at the wrong place at the wrong time. Most of this issues are caused by our parents talking about the rich one's they don't like other people children to be more better than theirs, they sometimes think about their own side and not thinking what the child wants, but OP all fingers are not equal and you can't be like others who has plenty of money, appreciate what you can afford and don't risk you self for money life is short and life is one, so enjoy the little you have and spend wisely.
legendary
Activity: 2394
Merit: 1358
First thing to say must be: never do anything unlawful. Life can be very worthwhile if you enough money. If you exploit your position you are making a mistake for sure. You can end up losing anything you own in life, reputation included. But I think I can understand OP when he says he is becoming anxious not making enough money. Many males in society are blamed a lot in society if they can't become richer somehow. Its like mandatory thing expected. Not everyone is this much lucky.
Pages:
Jump to: