Topic: I cannot go home if I don't make a lot of money now!! - page 2. (Read 1042 times)

I think that your childhood traumas were caused by your parents or other authority figures making unrealistically high demands of you because they were taught the same way and they think that such an upbringing must somehow be right. It is more important for you to overcome this trauma before you can live a happy life. Unless you live in a place with extreme poverty, getting a job after being fired is not hard. You just have been conditioned to be fearful of failure. But failure is important. It teaches us and makes us greater. Would your family starve if you had to find a new job? Would something terrible happen if you were to get a bad grade? No. That failure would have forced you to find a new path for success. Perhaps even a better path.

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That is the pressure of a man, a breadwinner in the family, he is living for his family, not just him.  are you happy when you can't make enough money to feed your family? That's what he's going through.  your wife and children don't complain when you don't earn much, but are you happy to give them a full life like other families?  one more thing, health, safety, solidarity... no money, how do you get those things?

Agree. He thinks too much about earning much money. He even assumes that his wife and kids feel unhappy if he can't get much money, it is surely a wrong mindset. I also have a wife and kids, they always happy whatever the money I get everyday. They thanks to God every time I can come back home safety. Health, safety, togetherness are something more important than money, it can't be be equated with money.

Anyway, childhood thinking shouldn't be a nightmare if we think more realistically. When we are a mature person, we must think more realistically and not to think idealistically.

This is something wrong that our parents taught us when we were little, and that many are probably still doing with their children..."study hard and have good grades so you can have a good future", fearing that if we didn't, it We would never be someone in life or typical phrases that..."if we did not graduate from a profession we would not get good jobs to survive in this world", that and many more lies that the only thing that causes is stagnation to achieve true success. Studying is not bad as long as it is done to learn and obtain knowledge, not simply to have good grades... learning about topics that can help you grow as a person is what should be important, it is what leads you to have a better quality of life, because it allows them to dare to do a thousand things to meet their goals, without fear of what will happen, and not just settle for having a stable job that will only consume them and wrap them in frustration for wanting to earn more, a good promotion maybe?, but what about the other alternatives... like a good venture that can be good enough to generate more than what a common job can give them.

People must change their mentality, if you want to earn more money, do not settle for just what you are currently generating, manage it well and dare to invest it in something that can change your life, and you no longer have to worry about needing money.

i've heard very good sentences "if you chase the chicken too much then the chicken will run fast but if you give the chicken food, then you will easily catch the chicken", that also applies to money, when you chase money very hard then the money will keep away from you.

besides that when you get a lot of money, it won't guarantee whether you and your family will be happy, therefore from an early age teach your family simplicity so they don't force you to earn money in any way, you have to think about your future too and also them, don't do stupid things for money.

If we are a married man, such concerns will continue to exist because we have dependents, namely wife and children, so in this case there will indeed be a lot of thoughts, especially if we do not have a permanent job and our money stock is still very limited.
Indeed, without money we can still live and I also recognize that not everything must be based on money. But in other conditions money is still one of the sources to prosper life now.
Many cases that occur begin with the absence of money so in this case I will not be naive even though everything is not only based on money but with money we can live properly.

You topic made laughed because it's look like you are forcing yourself to make money at all means. The mindset in kid and the mindset in adult sometimes looks alike for achievement. What you like to achieve in the childhood display in the adulthood too. There are sometimes that the place of residence also change the thinking of human beings. Many people study hard in their school days to secure a good job after the university education but irony is found in many of them. And in most time childhood thinking becomes nightmare.

In fact i am always in such a situation but i don't feel helpless because now i have started another business from where my income comes from which i run the family expenses. I made a lot of money from bounty but i lost a lot when i invested a lot new project.
The crypto market is a street where you will find positive and negative descriptions and here your experience will be highly valued because the profit will depend on how experts you are in investing or trading.

The way he was raised was way too negative for a kid to be raised and what he is going through is evidence for what he has been through in his childhood. According to him, it was his mother who has been so harsh on him which is another thing one cannot believe because generally it's fathers who are harsh on their children so that they learn the things the hard way and have a better future but this is something different.

Those parents who are harsh on their children on another level need to understand that this thing will have a negative impact on their minds in the future and they will be very vulnerable to even the small things and this negativity will never get out of their head just like what's happening with OP.

It seems easy to say, but this is really difficult to do. I've been in the same situation before with OP, even though I do have those skills but still can't get hired. It is really a matter of opportunity that will arrive on you, and you need to grab or take all of it so that you'll see how it works. Again, if a door closes, there will be another door that will open to you, no matter how long it takes. Just don't lose hope and continue to find it.

Lack of money is temporary and you should not think so much about the fact that your job is gone, you are a competent person and you have to prove it. You feel that the workplace you used to work for did not leave you. You can earn good money. Your job is gone so you can't get out of that place if you're heartbroken. There is no shortage of jobs if you have qualifications. If you can arrange a job next, look for an alternative income stream in addition to that job so that if one closes, you can continue well through the other.

It sounds like you've been living a lifestyle that is quite unhealthy for quite some time. If you are scared to go home, that's troubling to hear. Home should be your sanctuary, no matter what your situation or stress. If you aren't making enough money and you need to make a change, home should be the place where you adjust your plan or make a new one to be able to improve the future. Nothing can be changed in an instant, you can only plan and slowly adjust in order to improve later.

If you are always getting fired that is different. That only comes down to your performance, and maybe if you have good opportunities but you keep losing them, the change might need to come from within instead of changing factors externally.


With this mindset, you will only land yourself in a situation where you might never come home...then you will have to live knowing that your wife and children are stuck to survive without you. Think about that before you take irrational or desperate measures.

I don't think early is good, everything is only good when it comes to the right time and right for each stage of a child's development.

No one forbids you to go home, your wife and children always expect you to come home at the end of the day. But because it's the pressure you put on yourself when you feel like you're useless when you can't make enough money to take care of your family. That's what OP is thinking, he feels so incompetent that he can't give his wife and children a happy life. Are you married yet? If you are the breadwinner, you understand what the OP is going through.

Of course, it's self-imposed pressure. Look, suppose you are the one who takes care of your family, and you are the one who earns for your family. If you get a salary pay cut, your family may ask you why it's happened. There is nothing to be scary. They won't beat you or won't kill you. Understandably, a job won't last forever. You may lose your job if the company collapse. Or, there might be other reasons.

I know what I am doing. I must find a new job if I get kicked out of my job. The important thing is I have to share this with my family. Family bonding is essential. They have to understand the situation and face a hard time together.

Is that self-imposed pressure or are you putting this stress upon yourself? Cause if you'd ask me, provided that you're still young, if your parents are putting you in too much pressure like that I'd say you're better off leaving them the first chance you get. No child should feel this stressed upon reaching dreams that their parents set up for them. You're not an insurance plan. If you're putting this upon yourself, I'd say you should actually take it easy my friend. I'm guessing you're at a point in your life where you don't have to really go through so much stress and pressuring yourself like that isn't going to help you ace your exams or whatnot. Plus, just cause you failed one class or something doesn't mean you're a goner. A lot of my friends weren't really textbook smart but now they're even more successful than me, it's all about what you would do after school that would matter the most in life.

Money isn't everything; you can't buy back a lost loved one's life, knowledge, or true friends. The goal of money is to be able to save it in order to buy things (purchasable, of course) that you need or want, and that will better your life or the lives of others. If you have money but don't know what to do with it, he can't stay long. If you have money but don't know what to do with it, you should look for a job or start a small business that will pay you every day or monthly, and then think about investing in something that will pay you for a long time.

It seems that your position is indeed much heavier than we imagined. But I believe you are a strong person and a person who has high motivation to continue to survive and fight harder. Because somehow I always think that the people who come to this forum are highly motivated people. they fight for life and will never give up. Well, sometimes a lot of money does make us more valued by anyone, including our family. I wish the best for you and your family. never stop giving advice to your family. and believe me one day everything will return to be good again.

Being early is good but its not really that something that should really be forced on doing so because if you do able to do such thing then you would really be definitely be able to stir up their minds and might be ending up
on things which arent you that expecting. Forcing something on early age would definitely be giving out that kind of possible effect which might led into lost of interest or missing out those things which are supposed to be
done first or would cherish out first specially when they are young. You would definitely make them more stressed if you try to force on learning something just because you do really like in doing so.
Always be considerate on other factors or things.

In regarding in the situation on which you cant really be able to go home just because you dont have that much money on which your wife expecting into is such a bullshit story. You've been married
and able to earn things according into your job. How your wife would really be not letting you on going home without bringing money in the first place?
Unless if you have spend it all in other things around.

Well same apply to everyone in here and kids wi alwabe kids and that fear in them make them to seat up and work hard to earn higher marks in the next test because they know that mum is a no nonsense disciplinarian unlike dad.


Life become a cycle and until you attain the financial stability that could take care of all of your bills and at the same time having a lot of savings that way you may not be under pressure when your source of income witness a delay.


In other news, you don't need to put yourself under high pressure because of that but you need to fine other sources of income because if your income is diversified it make your pressure to be less than having a single source.
You said you are ready to do anything to make money,  that mindset could lead you into crime and other activities that could affect your well being in the long run.