Topic: Is marriage a kind of punishment? - page 3. (Read 2100 times)

Now the society subconsciously believes that women do housework and take care of children at home, men go out to work to earn money, and all the expenses of women have to be borne by men, which makes women have no money to work at home. In fact, women should break through the original limitations, and men should also share the responsibility.

if marriage was a punishment, then everyone would definitely not want to marry. how could marriage be a punishment.

it's just that, when you have a family, everything needs patience. marriage is where we love and protect each other, where we fight for each other and make the family the most comfortable place.

if there is a divorce in the family, then in my opinion, one of the parties is very selfish and only comfortable, without knowing the other party's troubles. so, if there is such a problem, the other party will be uncomfortable and feel unsuitable, and eventually lead to divorce.

I am not going to agree on Op on a few point listed. In the past African men did virtually everything has regard provision, shelter, love and protection for his family and in return the woman expressed support to the husband through running home chores, building the home, errand has op mentioned but on rare case. In today's Society women has almost equal rights with men but the fact that men still have to pay heavily to marry their to be wives still find a way to balance up for their loans after the extravagant wedding still find a way to run the house. The African men are trying yet we women still fail to recognise this.

in my country men and women marry because it is mandatory and both of them have agreed to have a relationship together to have a family. so there is no coercion or anything like that.
on average in my country a husband will definitely work hard outside the house to earn money and give it to his wife.
and the wife at home acts as a housewife who takes care of everything at home such as sweeping, washing, cooking for her husband when he comes home from work.

so no one punishes women when they are married because it's like working together to build a family.

If getting married is a punishment, how did you get out? Marriage is an advantage, not a disadvantage. Only when the partners are no longer in love with one another does it become poisonous. Marriage opens doors and delivers blessings.

Marriage is an eternal partnership, so how can you say that marriage is a kind of punishment. if marriage is a punishment for you, then you have the right not to marry. are we here talking about equality, inequality, or do you mean that women are more tormented than husbands. what if we picture the situation upside down, women work hard to earn a living, and men take care of the household. is it fair, of course not at all and the result will always be the same.

The marriage, the consequences for the husband because the woman will no longer work, although this is not always the case.  women are very dependent on their husbands financially if women choose to stay at home, women will stay at home to perform domestic and child-care roles, as appropriate.

note: it's a big mistake when a husband imposes his will, even though it doesn't match his wife's type. gender partnerships are the only way to manage things as agreed.

Entering into a marriage there will automatically be a change in the status of women and men. single woman status, can work professionally. the role of wife, companion and lover of husband and household manager. role of mother, caregiver, protector, and child education. the status of a single man, can be a professional worker and have an appropriate position. the role of the husband, leader and protector of the wife. role of father, caregiver, protector, and educator of children.

For this partnership to be closely intertwined, values ​​such as mutual trust, respect, understanding, and most importantly having equal rights are needed.

Marriage is a lifetime mission, which should not be rushed into based on anxiety,poverty or frustration. So many marriages are passing through this challenge because there was no courtship before marriage. Courtship enables both parties to know each other more and see if they can tolerate one another in life.

 I pity for women who are passing through this maltreatment from their husband,it is time Africa men see that their wives should be loved,respected and cared for by helping them in house chores.There is a tradition in Africa that if a man has paid the bride price of his wife,she becomes his property and he can treat her the way he likes,this custom should be abolish in other to help women from being slaves in their matrimonial homes. Love should be put first since the Bible says 'a man and a woman will be joined together to become one' whatever you do to your wife,you are doing it to yourself unknowingly because she is now part of you.

Responsible men feel guilty when they make mistakes, but like you said, they beat and dump their wives because they don't love their wives at all. What is the point of such a marriage? The right people can be mutually beneficial.

This has something to do with character and morality. Some men are weak outside and will only bully their loving wives at home. Marriage is not necessarily a grave. Marriage is the joint responsibility of two people when they meet the right person.

It is said that marriage is the grave of love. Before the two people lived together, there was still a magical feeling. After living together, they will gradually become less cherished. I always feel that the flowers and plants outside are very fresh, especially men are visual animals. , Once you get it, you will no longer cherish it. His wife does housework at home, and he feasts and feasts outside.

What you are describing is sad, but true in an unbelievably large part of the world. Men are educated in considering women cattle or even less. Some muslin clerics instruct the men on how to best beat their women, in many bits of Africa there is FGM (female genital mutilation) and there is a great difficulty in educating in general, so educating in gender equality and respect is out of reach completely.

Marriage feels like a punishment to many yes.

Marriage has always been a dreaded issue for some people, some going as far as viewing it as an anachronistic institution with no value, but for some, it's fun and fulfilling and even rewarding only if you meet the right person and how you relate with your spouse.
 I think one can avoid the case of divorce and the many issues surrounding marriage if there's a bit of understanding between the couples, that's why most people observe a period of courtship to better understand who they're getting married to.

 
 

This is how trashy that kind of person is. I also noticed this today, but they were getting bashed and also left by their wife. I also noticed that they were also physically and verbally abusing their wife. Women are now stronger than I can see, because they will fight in these situations, unlike a few years ago, but sadly, I saw some families or individuals where the men are just relaxing while the women do their work. I'm hoping that the women who are going through this will leave their husbands and bring their children with them because that type of person is useless. 

Marriage is one woman and one man who love each other. I think if we want to get married we have to see and see the person first. meaning is it true that people love us with the shortcomings and strengths that we have, or is it just lust?

there are many people who marry people who are not right and end in divorce. so I think that marriage is not a punishment. However, you must be able to choose your life partner correctly, so that you are always happy with him.

people who only follow their passions will fall into something wrong. You have to really love someone and accept their flaws and strengths. and mutually correct and complement those deficiencies. and choose roughly people who will always be patient with us.

women in general, especially nowadays, are always the ones who work the most. but know that not everyone is like that. there are many men out there working to meet the needs of their families. but there are also people who work for each other, their mother and father work, but their professions are different. that is, his father works in an office or a company, while his mother sells things at home to help her husband. so, it is impossible for all men in this world to rely solely on their wives to survive.

Marriage can be a punishment but not to everyone. While some people enjoy their marriages,some regret their decision to get married due to the mistake they made. Also it depends on both parties to decide if their marriage would be 'hell' or 'heaven' for them.
 For instance, couple who ignore their flaws and refused or choose not to sort it out, might see their marriage as a punishment. E.g, A guy physically abuse his partner during courtship on slightest issue and the lady in question decide to legally settle with such man without trying to resolve his character or seek attention to it, might eventually regret her action of marrying the man, thereby such marriage would be nothing but a form of punishment to her.

You're talking about the reality which is kind of true as well but this is how the marriage was supposed to be, kind of mutual trade agreement you give money then I give my body either boy or girl? This isn't same few centuries before so the modern world changed the context of everything even the marriage so called love?

If marriage is a kind of punishment, then the question should be, a punishment for which crime? Love!!!! Marriage should be a mutual agreement between two partners who love each other and are ready to spend the rest of their lives together. One of the reasons for frequent divorce cases is the fact that people do not know why they are getting married.

Some persons are concerned about the wedding ceremony which will only last for few days and thereafter they begin to notice each other's flaws and complaints starts. The moment you do not marry your friend and you plan to start studying your partner after wedding, then you have gotten it twisted. Many divorce cases wouldn't occur and no gender will be maltreated if both parties love each other genuinely regardless of their imperfections.

I agree with you some how. When mistakes are made like this in marriage we can't go back what is supposed to be done is for partners to learn how to tolerate themselves, nobody is perfect but if we learn how to be tolerate and love each other every marriage will be in peace.

Ending up with the wrong person's oftentimes leads to punishment, insults, beating and the rest which is not assigned to the man and the Woman when they exchanged vows at the alter or before a priest.
Should not be a punishment but in some part of the world both women and men have gotten what they did not venture all of this is as a result if bad courtship and getting to know whoever you are into very.
It is bad to see that most women are big victims of this punishment.

Married people are defined as being legally or formally united as partners. When a marriage begins to suffer, it is quite confusing when so many people are making love. It's a result of short time spent together, but in married it's a long-term affair. Do not be confused about who you love. You are in love with the right person when you have some similarities in your character, respect for your partner, and interests and habits. Nothing will go wrong but you will be happy. We have different stories, but we don't get confused by what marriage really means.