Topic: Is marriage a kind of punishment? - page 7. (Read 2023 times)
Marriage for me is sacred... you exchange vows and promised to love each other in sickness and in health ..for richer or for poorer till death do you part..and you promised that in front of Our Almighty God... I've been married for 6 years now going 7.. Before I got married I was a responsible daughter to my parents (well actually until now I am still helping them especially this Pandemic started) and a very supporting sister to my two older brothers..my husband was my first and last boyfriend/bestfriend..believe it or not, we got married after 6 months of relationship then we decided we want to be together..I never dreamed of him for being my husband but I prayed for somewhat like him who's not so perfect..before I met him I was a easy go lucky girl.. working in a well known company of BPO in my country as Customer Service..enjoying life of working at night and enjoying leisures and outdoor activities during morning..spend times with friends for Beer time during weekends and being so fragile and religious during Sundays.. Now, I am happily married with one kid..living with my lobing husband.. I work during daytime and work with my bitcoin during nighttime...and being a responsible mother and caring wife during weekends..my husband was a freelancer and not so active with his bitcoin right now because he enjoys much playing online games (which for me is a bit annoying...because bitcoin gives him a good profit while playing games makes him addictive and earn nothing) But were still happy and contented with each other..why? because we have huge trust and respect..if we encounter problems .. we talk about it before the day ends and make sure we fix it for the sake of our love for each other..
Couples need to date for a full year - or longer - without sex or any other intimate relations... and not even living in the same house together. Only then if they find that they are compatible should they get married.
People only hates marriage when both partners can't handle their relationship in a long term that they get sicked off with each others and have regrets, that is why they ended up getting a divorce and find a new partner in life. Just like Rick Sanchez have said in Rick n Morty that "Love is fake weddings are basically funerals with cake", meaning if you get married with the wrong person its like a punishment.
Is marriage a kind of punishment?
Only if your spouse had Covid-19 before you were married, but didn't tell you.
Only if your spouse had Covid-19 before you were married, but didn't tell you.
Wow this topic is almost 2 years old. Anyway, if your SPOUSE got COVID19 before you got married then there is a high chance of you getting the same virus already. Who would not bang his girlfriend when both of you were alone? For sure before you went ahead and decide to get married, there are so many chances of make outs.
Is marriage a kind of punishment?
Only if your spouse had Covid-19 before you were married, but didn't tell you.
Only if your spouse had Covid-19 before you were married, but didn't tell you.
I think that marriage is not a punishment, but that every person should strive for it and find their soul mate.
The problem is in society in general and more and more young people have a very negative view of marriage.
Various factors affect this, because financial instability, all these events in the world in recent years have led to people getting more and more divorced, unhappy in marriages, many getting married out of some interest and it is unlikely that such a marriage will last. fig.
Young people are certainly aware of this, because it happens not only around them but also in their families.
I am a child of divorced parents and from experience i can say that i have a certain extra fear of marriage and that i will not meet all expectations and that everything will end as with my parents.
I think that some fears do not only affect me, but a lot of children of divorced parents, and that as the years go by, it will get worse.
The problem is in society in general and more and more young people have a very negative view of marriage.
Various factors affect this, because financial instability, all these events in the world in recent years have led to people getting more and more divorced, unhappy in marriages, many getting married out of some interest and it is unlikely that such a marriage will last. fig.
Young people are certainly aware of this, because it happens not only around them but also in their families.
I am a child of divorced parents and from experience i can say that i have a certain extra fear of marriage and that i will not meet all expectations and that everything will end as with my parents.
I think that some fears do not only affect me, but a lot of children of divorced parents, and that as the years go by, it will get worse.
Well, all depends on the type of person one choose as a life partner. Woman needs to be treated like a royal queen always while providing all the necessary assistance that will make her most comfortable.
In modern days.This is unlikely. To some, yes but if we're going to compare and include all of the marriages, there are unhappy and unhealthy marriages. I agree with you that it's all up to the person who he or she will choose the love of their lives.
It's a big factor which will have a big impact to their future.
Marriage is a blessing for the family.
When a man and woman get together, there is an exchange of body fluids. This exchange provides both of them with immune system protections that they don't have, but the other one has. This is why marrying close relatives is not good. Rather, it's a build-up of immune system weaknesses.
The uniting done in the marriage is a protection for the offspring.
Having children is a trust issue. Like a trust, the man is the grantor, the woman is the trustee, and the children are beneficiaries. If people looked at it this way, they would either stop having kids, or become honest in their care for their kids.
Marriage can be a great blessing if done in the right way. But it can be like a curse if done in the wrong way.
When a man and woman get together, there is an exchange of body fluids. This exchange provides both of them with immune system protections that they don't have, but the other one has. This is why marrying close relatives is not good. Rather, it's a build-up of immune system weaknesses.
The uniting done in the marriage is a protection for the offspring.
Having children is a trust issue. Like a trust, the man is the grantor, the woman is the trustee, and the children are beneficiaries. If people looked at it this way, they would either stop having kids, or become honest in their care for their kids.
Marriage can be a great blessing if done in the right way. But it can be like a curse if done in the wrong way.
Marriage as instituted by God is not made to be a punishment. It is not a punishment when both the man and woman understand themselves and their individual roles and respect each other. Some marriages are punishment ,especially in Nigeria. So many Women are maltreated and abused all round by their husbands and have remained in such marriages. I had a personal experience about this.
Marriage is not a punishment but a blessing for both the Man and Woman. There are few backward areas in third world countries where you will find women being treated badly after the marriage. However you cannot say this is because of marriage, in some areas women are considered as second citizens and this has nothing to do with marriages.
It all depends how the mom will raise the kids. There are kids that will kill thier parents all for insurance, tis been happenning every time. I would rather be alone and old in the Retirement house than living with kids that you know will slit your with just one signal from their mother.
You know what makes hell for a family? Its the in-laws.
It's not always the fault of the parents. Children can have genetic inclinations to violence. Some kids are born with psychopathic tendencies and if parent's don't notice it early those tendencies will continue to develop. It is partially the fault of the parents but the kid doesn't have to be abused or neglected to become a murderer.
To my own observation marriage is a directive from God to human kind, the Lord made it clear that we should go into the world and multiply.
Really? If he wanted then he could simply created the number of people he wanted than asking them to multiply on their own. And to multiply the marriage is not really needed, all you need is to mate with your opposite sex partner until she gets pregnant.
the word "punish" is a bit too far. I agree though that women nowadays are treated like slaves as it is happening here in the Philippines. For me, its unfair if we let our wives do all the household chores. Everyone who lives in that house should help each other and split the chores. Marriage for me is a gift, is a way of accepting a person wholeheartedly and love him/her until your last breath. If you love a person, you would not allow that person to do all the tasks while you sit and relax. If you love your wife/husband, you should spend time working together on chores and discuss the chores thoroughly so everything will be organize.
I have two brothers and that's what our mother often tells them — that just because they are guys doesn't mean they shouldn't know how to do household chores. Guys and gals should both know how to work inside the house. Same in marriage. They should both work for the good of their relationship. I know I'm not in a position to say this for I am not married but this is my belief. Marriage should not be a punishment but a partnership. Both of them have to work together to make things work. It takes two to tango, as a saying goes. Man may be the one who takes home money for their living but they should not mistreat his wife. And vice versa.
To my own observation marriage is a directive from God to human kind, the Lord made it clear that we should go into the world and multiply.
Well, all depends on the type of person one choose as a life partner. Woman needs to be treated like a royal queen always while providing all the necessary assistance that will make her most comfortable.
It all depends how the mom will raise the kids. There are kids that will kill thier parents all for insurance, tis been happenning every time. I would rather be alone and old in the Retirement house than living with kids that you know will slit your with just one signal from their mother.
You know what makes hell for a family? Its the in-laws.
I am working on an article on relationships and marriages. In my part of the world marriage feels like punishment on the female gender. In the days of old as I learnt, it was the responsibility of the man to provide and protect the family but in today’s society, men relax and have the women do almost everything. I observed this most in Nigeria or African. women grow old faster once married. I take instances from my neighbours, family and the society. The man on any day wakes up, take his bath, dress up, eat and off to work if he has one. The woman is the cook, launder, housekeeper, nanny, hand lady, errand girl, cleaner, and she must be working etc. just name it and she must not complain, she must not be tired. For real this is happening don’t think am just assuming. I see it live. Why is it so? I once asked a man in this case, why he maltreats his wife like a slave and he said no reasonable man is allowed to do house chores or assist in anything. The work of the man is to bring money that’s all. Can this be true? Will you like your sisters, daughters, neighbours, friend be treated badly in the name of marriage? Let’s talk. No abuses or insult please. I need soul lifting contribution.
The problems you talk about are real. The reasons for them are several.
The woman was made by God to be the helper for the man. That's why she is out there doing all the errands she does for the man. It's also why she allows herself to get into positions of overwork. It's in her nature to help the guy.
Everybody likes riding high. Because of this, the man forgets the hard labor that the woman is doing. It shouldn't be this way. But it happens. To make it worse, often the man has a mean streak.
The man should be loving and considerate, and help the woman. If he is, he finds that the woman (usually) will help him all the more. But guys are stupid in this way, much of the time.
Guys need to remember than they will lose their strength and get old sometime. They will need children to help support them. Women bear the children and do much of the raising of the children. Since mom is loved greatly by the children, it will be to dad's benefit to treat mom right. Then the kids won't be against dad. Rather, they will help him in his old age, just like they learned from mom to do while they were in their formative years. After all, kids might love their dads. But they won't be so happy with him if he doesn't treat mom right.
It all depends how the mom will raise the kids. There are kids that will kill thier parents all for insurance, tis been happenning every time. I would rather be alone and old in the Retirement house than living with kids that you know will slit your with just one signal from their mother.
You know what makes hell for a family? Its the in-laws.
Dads and moms need to raise the kids jointly. Anybody who doesn't treat his kids right - with both discipline and love - isn't going to have right kids. However, you can treat some people in the best way possible, and they will still be bad. Most kids won't kill their parents if their parents treated them right while they were growing up. In fact, there are kids who live in poverty who, after they are grown, still treat their parents with great respect.
I am working on an article on relationships and marriages. In my part of the world marriage feels like punishment on the female gender. In the days of old as I learnt, it was the responsibility of the man to provide and protect the family but in today’s society, men relax and have the women do almost everything. I observed this most in Nigeria or African. women grow old faster once married. I take instances from my neighbours, family and the society. The man on any day wakes up, take his bath, dress up, eat and off to work if he has one. The woman is the cook, launder, housekeeper, nanny, hand lady, errand girl, cleaner, and she must be working etc. just name it and she must not complain, she must not be tired. For real this is happening don’t think am just assuming. I see it live. Why is it so? I once asked a man in this case, why he maltreats his wife like a slave and he said no reasonable man is allowed to do house chores or assist in anything. The work of the man is to bring money that’s all. Can this be true? Will you like your sisters, daughters, neighbours, friend be treated badly in the name of marriage? Let’s talk. No abuses or insult please. I need soul lifting contribution.
The problems you talk about are real. The reasons for them are several.
The woman was made by God to be the helper for the man. That's why she is out there doing all the errands she does for the man. It's also why she allows herself to get into positions of overwork. It's in her nature to help the guy.
Everybody likes riding high. Because of this, the man forgets the hard labor that the woman is doing. It shouldn't be this way. But it happens. To make it worse, often the man has a mean streak.
The man should be loving and considerate, and help the woman. If he is, he finds that the woman (usually) will help him all the more. But guys are stupid in this way, much of the time.
Guys need to remember than they will lose their strength and get old sometime. They will need children to help support them. Women bear the children and do much of the raising of the children. Since mom is loved greatly by the children, it will be to dad's benefit to treat mom right. Then the kids won't be against dad. Rather, they will help him in his old age, just like they learned from mom to do while they were in their formative years. After all, kids might love their dads. But they won't be so happy with him if he doesn't treat mom right.
It all depends how the mom will raise the kids. There are kids that will kill thier parents all for insurance, tis been happenning every time. I would rather be alone and old in the Retirement house than living with kids that you know will slit your with just one signal from their mother.
You know what makes hell for a family? Its the in-laws.
I am working on an article on relationships and marriages. In my part of the world marriage feels like punishment on the female gender. In the days of old as I learnt, it was the responsibility of the man to provide and protect the family but in today’s society, men relax and have the women do almost everything. I observed this most in Nigeria or African. women grow old faster once married. I take instances from my neighbours, family and the society. The man on any day wakes up, take his bath, dress up, eat and off to work if he has one. The woman is the cook, launder, housekeeper, nanny, hand lady, errand girl, cleaner, and she must be working etc. just name it and she must not complain, she must not be tired. For real this is happening don’t think am just assuming. I see it live. Why is it so? I once asked a man in this case, why he maltreats his wife like a slave and he said no reasonable man is allowed to do house chores or assist in anything. The work of the man is to bring money that’s all. Can this be true? Will you like your sisters, daughters, neighbours, friend be treated badly in the name of marriage? Let’s talk. No abuses or insult please. I need soul lifting contribution.
The problems you talk about are real. The reasons for them are several.
The woman was made by God to be the helper for the man. That's why she is out there doing all the errands she does for the man. It's also why she allows herself to get into positions of overwork. It's in her nature to help the guy.
Everybody likes riding high. Because of this, the man forgets the hard labor that the woman is doing. It shouldn't be this way. But it happens. To make it worse, often the man has a mean streak.
The man should be loving and considerate, and help the woman. If he is, he finds that the woman (usually) will help him all the more. But guys are stupid in this way, much of the time.
Guys need to remember than they will lose their strength and get old sometime. They will need children to help support them. Women bear the children and do much of the raising of the children. Since mom is loved greatly by the children, it will be to dad's benefit to treat mom right. Then the kids won't be against dad. Rather, they will help him in his old age, just like they learned from mom to do while they were in their formative years. After all, kids might love their dads. But they won't be so happy with him if he doesn't treat mom right.
Marriage is an integral part of every human life. It is not a punishment but marriage is required to play the role of one's family in life. From the point of view of Islam, marriage has been made obligatory on every man and woman. according to the current situation in the country people are getting established first and then getting married. Age is not a barrier here. It is not a punishment it is the security of old age and it is an attempt to respect each other.
We know about the way you treat your 9 year old brides. Different understanding of the age of consent is really not the best point to make in this discussion unless you want to talk about pedophilia.
Marriage is an integral part of every human life. It is not a punishment but marriage is required to play the role of one's family in life. From the point of view of Islam, marriage has been made obligatory on every man and woman. according to the current situation in the country people are getting established first and then getting married. Age is not a barrier here. It is not a punishment it is the security of old age and it is an attempt to respect each other.
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