Topic: The madness of gambling addicts. - page 107. (Read 15791 times)

Easy to notice out with those behaviors but not all the time,considering that there are indeed family members which are really that good when it comes on hiding on what they are currently dealing with, on which
you cant really be able to determine if someone is really that getting that addicted on slowly manner and this is where we should really be needing having that open forum in between members just like in our family on where our parents is really been setting out time for this kind of thing. Yes, it might not really be that not be seen into others but i could say that this is somewhat that effective and able to handle or monitor
our on each family members on what they've been through or been dealing off recently. This is why this do really have that kind of importance on knowing something about each members.

But still, addicts will be easily identified if some of the irregularities that you mentioned above are the impact of addiction, because the nature of the behavior of the addict will show their character directly, the ignorance of parents with what their children do may be one of the causes Gambling was done very crazy at home, or maybe the addict could be able to hide himself well and argue that he spent money playing video games even though he did gambling.


I agree that even people who already have a higher education degree still cannot control emotions and I witness it directly.
They played but they forgot that the ambitions who were playing were not himself with his consciousness so that addiction was faster than what they were thinking and intended in pleasure.

There is a close friend of mine a addict, playing crazy enough every time he has money, he is still working but his money is always running out in gambling and I think he will not get the future if it continues like that, strangely he knows what he is doing is wrong And always asking me to help him stop in gambling but never succeeded because of the work of the work of the work most of the gambling players that affect it so that what he wants always fails.
He is intelligent, has a job that has a high salary but always hasbis and cannot save for his future.

Yes, that's it, I know that privacy must exist even if it's a family, not intending to interfere in the affairs of other family members, I think we also have to take a good approach to find out whether they are in trouble or not.
Obviously temperament will be the most prominent attitude for a gambler, especially if they have lost a lot of money, and it is indeed signs like this that must be watched out for, so that we don't care about the changes experienced by our family members, so we don't regret it later for not caring.

I can't argue about that as that's reality,

there are real people who failed to control even they've got enough knowledge about the danger of getting too much engagement
with gambling, people who think that they are just enjoying around but in the sad reality they already lose a lot because of gambling.


No doubt about that, those kinds of people who can't admit that they are already addicted are the one who will keep denying about
their activities, they are engaged, and that engagement leads them to become addicted and who knows what can they do to make things
worse than losing all their savings.

Well, if someone is observant and very much close to each of the family members, there's a high chance that he will notice the sudden changes about the person involved in gambling, especially if that particular person is addicted to gambling already. There will be signs that the person is having difficulties in money or sudden transition in habits and behaviors. Sometimes, those who are addicted develop attitude problem. Temperament becomes an issue, the aggressiveness in making money or begging for money becomes evident.

But if family members tolerate such acts without confronting, there's a low chance addiction will be prevented to further continue and grow. Privacy is essential, but checking the family members, especially if it's children involved, there should be an open communication.

They will look for money from anywhere to use it to gamble. Gambling addiction can lead to crime because of the urge to have money that will later be used for gambling. If the person doesn't get help soon, he will get worse and may borrow money from other people to gamble. If that happened, he could get into even bigger trouble especially if he couldn't repay the loan. If we see a member of our family experiencing gambling addiction and we know, we must immediately help him so that it doesn't get worse. So he can immediately cure his gambling addiction.

Indeed, in this case, not everyone can be open, but when they are still living with their parents, in fact, if the parents really care about the child's unnatural behavior, it can actually be seen under any circumstances.
Unless the parents don't really care. But indeed in this case, especially from the point of view of the parents who have indeed freed this, maybe this is one of the reasons because in this case, when we as children are adults, there will definitely be privacy, which of course must be maintained.

You are right gambling can not give anything good. Once person become addicted in gambling they are not easy to go away. They always want to win and they become greedy. Because the one cause of gambling is greedy for money. They want to gamble because they want big win until they realize that they are becoming addicted.

I'm not sure how I missed this news. I've heard stories and read news articles about people who have a chronic gambling addiction committing atrocities, but have I ever heard of someone kidnapping his own daughter or grand-daughter? NO, NEVER! This thing is messed up. I'm still thinking about how he faced his family after being caught in the deed.


It will be extremely difficult for the family in this case to simply look past what he has done. Think about it, fr; how on earth will an elderly man just conjure that kind of notion in the first place; if he was given the option to gain money by killing the kidnapped child, I'm sure he wouldn't hesitate to do it.

If I were a member of that family, I'd make sure the man never looked at any of my children again because he clearly doesn't deserve it.

Not everyone can be open with other people even though it is their own family, if a gambling addict is a closed person then it is impossible for his family to know how financial he has so it is difficult to find out.
On the other hand, I believe not many people want to tell or show their finances because this stage is a privacy that is so guarded.
Yes, it is clear that gambling activities and addiction can be shown when someone holds a cellphone or uses a PC all the time while gambling because a gambling addict can spend a very long time using a cellphone or PC for them to play.

Well, honestly, I don't think you've really encountered people, if you have, then you should have known that, some people are so secretive to the extent that, when you sit close to them, you won't hear or see them breathing, they are like a ghost that appears and disappears....

As difficult as this may sound, it is very possible to live with a gambling addict for several years without know that he or she is addicted to gambling.

Maybe the man in question, figured out some ways to not let those around him, know or take notice that he is addicted to gambling, even for several years, it's very possible, so for me, I do not blame the family for not helping, it might just not be their fault clearly.

I think it's a bit strange when the family doesn't know, because a gambler will definitely show unusual behavior, such as their money running out quickly or other things related to money. For me personally, from there, questions started to arise, why did his money run out so quickly, for example, and that could be the start of following up on what he was actually doing. I don't think it's possible for a gambling addict not to exhibit unusual habits, especially in financial terms.

It's because the family doesn't know if their son is a gambler, how they can stop the gambling addiction when they don't know if their son is a gambler in the first place. However I've know some family have stop their son to stop gamble, but it's not worked because the addiction is really control his mind. When it's happen, it's better for a professional to take care about it.

No, I mean why didn't the family prevent it before everything happened. Before that event happened I thought some strange behavior would be shown. Gambling addiction is also something that the family should remind and continue to advise. And when something like this happens, who is to blame? old man turned into a monster by his addiction? I don't think so, because he clearly can't control himself anymore, and it is the duty of those closest to him to be able to pay attention to his behavior.

It doesn't matter even you gamble everyday as long as in moderation, and the money that you're spending are meant for leisure. I'm working 8 hours a day too but I can't gamble frequently because aside from i'm busy at work, my money is also limited to use for gambling. I can only gamble every weekend and when I already set aside a money meant for my leisure during payday, it's also my way to discipline myself.

If you're a gambling addict you'll do everything to sustain your addiction because you're uncontrollable. So it's not surprising if an addict can do a criminal act just to continue what he used to. The story in op is one of the example of what an addict can do. Clearly he has a serious problem that needs immediate attention.

Thats not all, some gamblers turned criminals after gambling and losing some money, they forcefully take from others, even friends and families, and they also do not have a conscience anymore, that's why they don't see anything wrong in hurting other people because they want to get back all they lost.

A youth from my local area sold his father's house without the father knowing and the buyer took over the house and gave order to the father to vacate the premises that he built himself, this child is a known addictive gambler and everybody was shocked that he could pull off this evil plan on his father. Nobody knew he could be this desperate.

If you have any family member that's become addictive to gambling, you as the family member is not safe either, a gambling addict who have no other means to get money can easily go after the family to get more money, some will beg and some will go extra miles, sometimes gambling looks evil but I believe lack of discipline and self respect is why many turned this way.

There are responsible gamblers as well who don't let gambling get over their emotions and make them spend every dime on it. If your friends are working, taking care of their families, not having mental stress, and are able to do it every day and are happy to do it, I don't see any problem with that since all these signs show that they are responsible gamblers.

If they are not doing everything right, then that probably is a problem for them and they need to stop doing it. I wouldn't mind gambling every day if I know that I have a dedicated budget for it that won't affect any other thing in my life and I can enjoy my time with it.

That is why each job requires adequate education. I think gambling also needs education. Those who learn that will be able to control themselves to some extent. Moreover, nowadays gambling can be done so safely that even the person next door will not know anything. If people who are addicted to gambling cannot control themselves, they will continue to gamble until they lose everything. In this situation a gambler should know few rules of gambling and also there are many ways how to protect oneself from addiction. Long-term gambling can be enjoyed if one can manage controlled gambling otherwise everything will be lost.

But there are gamblers that are smart enough in the beginning, they know that there is a chance that they can fall to the category of addicts. And yet, despite people having college degrees and have good education, they still failed to control their emotions and then it's going to be late because they have been addicted already.

So even if we start gambling to enjoy and think that we have  total control of ourselves, majority are going to be addicted. We've seen in before, perhaps even worst by the news that the OP shared, individual lose everything they had in gambling and do things that is beyond belief and it's hard to explain why they do it except that they are addicted and their minds are not that normal.

I get your point and that's reality. Some start gambling to enjoy,

But because they are not ready with the excitement that they've got, they failed to control and they engage too much, most of the time,
without the right control, addictions grow.

After getting engage there are lots of things that you can do without thinking well, things that will add the bad things that you
may do, since you are already engaged and you are already out of control with your gambling addictions.