Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 4. (Read 2655 times)

That kind of setup is really hard because both of them are gamblers. What if both of them lost on the same day? Then the mood in the house will not be good, and it will be really hard for both of them to take care of or mend each other because both of them are down and sad. Also, they have children. I think at that point in life, you need to stop gambling already because you are raising a child. It would be okay if they didn't have kids, but they do. So I think at least one of them should stop gambling so they can minimize the risk that they have when gambling. But it would be better if both of them would stop; it will cause harm to the family if they continue gambling and continue to lose every time.

If the allocation of gambling has been arranged properly, even if the husband and wife gamble is certainly not a very bad thing, I have not experienced anything like this, maybe my answer is not right, but if it were in my position, we would both decide to gamble in turns and manage finances. very maturely, so as not to disrupt household and financial relationships

When both husband and wife does generate out that huge income or source of money that they do have and spending up some dime amounts in gambling then doesnt matter if both of them is really that involved on gambling on which we know that it wont really be that much of an issue if they would really be just that tending to have that kind of control on which this isnt something that simple.
There would really be needing on quitting in between two if you do both are really that responsible when it comes to those priorities. Gambling is really just that for fun but on the time
that you are overexerting already when it comes to spending and the time that had been spent then this is where it would be considered to be bad already.

Maybe a better question is who is safe to gamble, because there are too many scenarios where people should not be playing and should quit it altogether. Having a fair amount of disposable income is a good start, far too many people who are barely scraping by money-wise still think it is a good idea to spend what little they have on extremely speculative and zero sum games like this. Which is highly dependent on a second criteria - you need to understand the basic math involved with betting, and that you are more likely to be killed by a shark, than you are to make it big in a place like a casino - all the games you're pouring money in have been statistically rigged against, but occasionally you'll get little cookies back that trick your brain into believing you're a winner. Do your research and understand how the numbers really work before giving up your hard earned cash.

It would be good if your friend and his wife could stop gambling, and that would be the best decision for both of them. Unfortunately, one of them continues to gamble in secret so that this is known to his partner; they can get into serious discussions, especially if the partner who gambles experiences many losses, which disrupts their finances. That could trigger even bigger problems for your friend and his wife and they decide something bad for their marriage where divorce is the last resort for both of them so that they both will start going their separate ways without any more marriage ties. They cannot be brought back together because there is an assumption that one partner no longer wants to commit to what they have discussed.

An irresponsible gambler should quit and why is because he's being irresponsible for himself and the people around him, some people can be gambling and through the way they did it and how they do so could make us feel very encouraged to also join in gambling because you like seing them from how they were and how they are gambling, unlike when you see some other people and you try to avoid doing anything that has to do with gambling only because of the mentality they have set on your head through how they gamble irresponsible.

The question of who to quit from gambling between a couple I think can only be an issue in a particular family if the couples never had a good relationship before getting married. I said so because such issues are supposed to be talked about by the two intending couples even before their union is finally joined forever.
But in a place where they failed to have such discussion before marriage, I think the best thing for the both parties to do is to quit gambling entirely in other for their offsprings not to get exposed to gambling at their enfants stages.

The numerous factors in the society which can lead a minor to gambling addiction cannot get traced by the parents. Not every gambling parent groom a child to gambling. Non gambling parents also end up having addicted gamblers. It's not mainly about the gamblers not being careful about their kids, while gambling. But the trouble is on the society, where the child goes, and the type of friends he keeps. Such things change the behavior of a child faster than the internet or the mobile devices. When playing gambling at home as a father, a child may not be able to detect immediately, and they can be asking questions on what their father is doing on screen but won't just conclude it's gambling. A father can't begin telling his kids about gambling, for no reason. Unless the child is now participating in gambling activities, then it's crucial that the both parents of the child overinvest in grooming the child in the right manner. 

They should stop both for the sake of fairness and also for their family because gambling will never bring them better but problem.

Why not focus in life?bringing their children in best understanding than learning gambling with them in the future.

They will never be a good example and good influence for the kids so either they both stop gambling or they will gamble forever.

And also why on earth that they are the same gamblers? This is a rare situation.

Well, I am a father and I have two children, an 8-year-old and a 2-year-old girl, and as a father, it is not a lie that you have to be on top of them, in every thing they do, how they do it and why, because every time you see that they enter into something that has to do with the internet one must be very attentive to them, so in this other order of days both we as fathers and mothers must do things very well, not be very knowledgeable in these things that can and They must do it, when I see my son using the phone to play, I'm always aware, but that was because of his mother. What happened is that I had that son of mine with a woman who is not my wife, so He has a different type of training and well, when I see those things that the mother teaches him, some of them don't fit me, because they take him on a very different path than how they believed me or how I see things, where priority is be the best in the class, be the best in the sport, and have good Discipline, where sport keeps you away from bad things.

So the mother is not like that, or she has that Training and that is partly the way things are now, because the mother is the one who is Always defended in every way, both by the laws and by anyone, because a person who says that the mother is the He always has to be with his son for everything, which I don't agree with, but who am I to go against the tide ? I get worn out, so it's difficult because if it were up to me, never in my life until he was 16 would I have given him a phone , now the child is almost an influencer on YouTube, which doesn't seem like it to me , he's a child, but As I said before, his mother is more Responsible for these things than me , I rarely see him and the little I see him is to teach him and he talks things so that he can Defend himself well in life , in fact he Loves Football, but as I am in a Country where it is not Europe that supports these children who have talent, because it is difficult.

If a minor ever gets addicted to gambling then his family can be completely responsible for it. Gambling should never be done in front of young children. A family should always try to keep their children away from bad activities.  Children raised by education will grow up that way. But I think if a child's family can keep away from gambling, I don't think that child can ever become addicted to gambling.

Some persons still do not know that gambling can be hereditary and we can inherit gambling interest from parent. If one of the parents are gambling addicted, that is quite understandable but when the both parents are gamblers, it could have serious effects on the children and there is no way the children will not be exposed to it. Children are always taking there parent lifestyle especially when they are small. They would want to mimic there parent especially if what there parent interest them. There are some certain things we don't have to allow to happen in any relationship we are so that the worse will not happen to us.

I do not think that there is any couple who would succeed in hiding their favorite hobby of gambling, especially if they practice it inside the home. I can't imagine any hypothesis that would actually work.
Perhaps theoretically, it is possible with zero probability that coincidences will not occur and the children will not notice anything. I find this to be a very difficult hypothesis to actually be true.

I also do not believe that it is a healthy environment for raising children to have anyone gamble, whether it is one or both parents. At least only one of them should love gambling so that the other party can find a balance, because there is generally no problem with one or both of them practicing their hobby only during the period when the children are away from home and at long intervals, that is, not every day.

Everything won't be a problem as long as they can control and manage their gambling activities well and don't overreact, but maybe you also know that most people can't do this even though they are adults and not children anymore, the chance of winning is always is one of the main things that gamblers pursue and this point of view makes them vulnerable to bad impacts. I think that even though at first they husband and wife were quite responsible gamblers, that doesn't mean it's impossible for them to eventually fall into the wrong gambling approach, this can happen over time and unconsciously and this is what is feared, it cannot be avoided. deny that one day one of them, whether it be the wife or the husband, ends up becoming an impulsive gambler which will affect the family's finances, and clearly there is no other suggestion and there is no need to choose between the two of them who should stop, the best option is for them to agree to stop together because only in this way can all worries regarding the negative impacts of gambling be completely prevented.

One of the parents just needs to limit the gambling habit because there is no way both parents can be gambling and be careful enough that the children won't come across them one day, which will draw their attention, and they might want to try it out someday when there is no one around them.
 
Another thing again here is that if a husband and wife are gambling, who is going to advise who on how or her gambling habit is? When I know you are also doing the same thing that I'm doing.

Another thing again is that when two people who are into the same thing are in the same house, you can easily start a conversation regarding that, which might last a long time, and gambling most times can lead to little disagreement when both parties are trying to prove that they have a better opinion or their fan club is the best, which the children can also notice such behaviour in them.

Control would really be crucial and its true that as long there are no compromises when it comes to budget and overall financial aspect then i dont see for it to be a problem.
Just make it sure that you and your wife wont really be able to reach into a point that you would really be spending up that much money because you are really that involving
too much about gambling. If you do have both those kind of control then it wont be an issue but if it turns out that things to become that gradually making those impulsive
actions then it would really be something that could bring out that huge problem later on on which it would really be entirely affecting you and your entire family
on which this is something that we dont really like.

I don't see any problem there. Its true that we shouldn't gambling in front of children as it may effect them badly. But when its comes to mature people like you and your wife, there's nothing wrong until both of you guys can control yourselves, follow the discipline as well as able to manage economical status and become so responsible as gambler. Nobody need to quit, just mainly focus on primary income source and do gambling less or stay within limit. Don't spoil family moments , only gambling when get free time or children aren't around you.if you guys can't handle and worry about Ensure the healthy environment for children, then both can quit gambling together, otherwise there'll be a quarrel between you about this matter. So that is my suggestion

Playing games wont really be that bad even if you both husband and wife do really been doing this as long it wont really be able to compromise your family budget then this is which is really that important. This is why it would really be that best that you should really be having those kind of self awareness neither both you and your wife about the things you've been doing.
Just like been said that on each family, there would really be those responsibilities on which we do really need up to handle it well specially on financial aspect because if we do miss
up on doing such thing then it would really be putting up such great effect and this is something that we do like to happen in our family.
If one of you do make out those realizations then it would be best that you should be telling your partner.

Couples who both bet a lot need to talk about it and set clear limits so that they can balance their spending on family and gambling. Playing games shouldn't cost the family too much money. People who talk about how much time and money they spend on games will get along better and fight less. Both of you can gamble together, or you can choose your own time. This way, everyone can do what they want without skipping jobs around the house. Then everyone in the family can stay calm and figure out a way to make everything better. When kids are involved, this is very important.

If for that couple gambling is indeed a harmless hobby then you will be right, given that they have enough money to sustain two people to gamble with their salaries.

However while there is nothing wrong with gambling, there are so many other options for a couple to bond together that I do not see why they could not replace it with some other activity if they felt like it, and once kids enter the picture, it may be a good idea to do it simply because of the added costs a children represents.