Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 5. (Read 2441 times)

It is difficult for a gambler to stop gambling. He can stop gambling if he no longer has assets and money for gambling.
As long as there is money, he will definitely gamble.
Gamblers cannot be advised to only stop gambling on their own accord or do not have money to gamble.

If want to stop between the two choices, the one who stops is of course the woman, aka his wife. because the husband earns money and the wife manages the money.

I believe on of the reasons gambling was set to be played by those in the age of 18 and above, is because of responsibility. So it is believe that at that age range, you are responsible for your own actions, so blaming other people for your losses in gambling look childish. We are all responsible for our actions as adults.

I think in a family settings like that, the both couple should create our time and discipline so that, gambling would affect their home. Mostly we find the males more in  gambling so, the wife could just back down for the husband to continue, that is if he still wants to. We have seen the worse a man can do in gambling but we haven't seen how irresponsible a female can become in gambling so it better to take the notion which says, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know.

it has not been tackled mate .
this is the biggest problem a gambler must have when you and your partner is both in gambling.

mostly a Woman because he is good for taking care of family , and also maybe who is more lucky that needs to stay if whom of them.

You are right that it is very inappropriate to blame other people for failure in gambling, after all, blaming other people will still make someone disappointed about the failure because certain amount of money was lost.
Every gambler must be able to accept loss, must be prepared for risk and must be able to understand the consequences of gambling because whatever happens, only he himself will feel it, not anyone else.

For those married couples who win and have passion for gambling, they can understand and complement each other if something bad happens and of course regret will remain because they are family, they need more money for their family.
I know that if you can still manage time well then gambling activities will never bring ruin to family, but if that happens then they both have to be able to find good solution and reduce the intensity of their gambling as much as possible.
It all depends on how they have boundaries, have management and manage their finances and time as well as possible, if this is done then the problems that occur may not be so complicated.

Well, that what is called managing finances and time.
Indeed, those who do not like gambling do not mean they will be free from problems and difficulties, but for those whose families like gambling and cannot manage their money or time well, problems will arise more often and of course it will be much more difficult.

It can scatterer a family if the husband and wife continue gambling habit because it will make them to experience some hardship that will cause some issues that will make children to hate their parents but the wife need to quit gambling to allow her husband to be gamble. I will not advise the family to be gamble because, it will not encourage the children in the future because they will start gambling at their small age to know how gambling look like and what someone can gain from it.

If the spouse are not yet addicted to gambling, it will be easy for them to quit to save the family for destruction and it can attract divorce for the husband and wife to be separated.

Those who stop are those who realize how bad gambling is. they will definitely stop if it harms them. This is very simple but very meaningful if they cannot control their gambling desires they will continue to spend their assets until there is nothing left. I think stopping gambling is not suitable for people who are willing to run out of free money. except for an addict who even disrupts his family life. this just said they should stop as soon as possible.

And there is a lot of research on other fields that supports what you are saying, since it is known that if a kid grows in a home in which both parents drink, use drugs or are overweight then the chances the kid does the same thing as an adults increases a lot.

So if a kid were to watch their parents to gamble it is likely they will do it too, now gambling responsibly is not an issue, but it is likely that a person that is exposed to gambling at such an early age will be unable to control their gambling as well as a person that was not exposed to it so early on.

There are things parents should stop once children starts coming in the picture, I know how devastating gambling can be to humans but I think with discipline one can curtail his or her habit, there are some things you will be doing in your children's presence you will live to see the consequences because when they start imitating you, they will continue to make the habit a life style until it becomes part of their life, there is no way two spouse will be a gamble and you still expect such house to be responsible is no-no, but if both party can let go of their habit and work together they can achieved a happy home together.

To be honest, I haven't seen or heard of any case like this one. I never thought a family could be like this. Anyway, you are asking for a solution on the internet but a person needs to know every detailed thing before they can think of a possible solution. At first, are they addicted to gambling? Both of them are addicted or not. What kind of gambling it is? some people love to play poker and other card games online. some people do horse races and sports. Some others play in-house games and slots!

If both spouses are gamblers, both of them must make money as well. If not, then the one who does not make money should stop first and force the other one to stop gambling. If they are addicted, it will be a hard job for them to quit gambling. but, they have to think about their kids and the family. Nothing can bring them this precious time. Most of the time, gambling is waste of money.

Parents must admit that their children can use their devices better than their parents, so parents must be wise about their use. Parents need to give their children an understanding of what they can and cannot do with their devices so that their children will not try to do something that could put them at risk. There are many ways that every parent can do this, but this requires learning from parents to know what needs to be done. Children are the responsibility of parents. It cannot be denied, so no matter how busy parents are, they must still be able to find time to accompany their children and not leave them alone to use their devices. Nowadays, many children have fallen into things that are not right, so parents need hard work so that their children can get back on the right track. For this reason, if parents have provided guidance and supervision since their children were at an early age, parents will have no difficulty in providing an understanding of something so that their children will understand more quickly.

Confiscating children's devices because they don't want to comply with their parents' wishes is not a solution. These children want to be understood by their parents, so they ask for attention from their parents so they can use their devices when they are free. Maybe parents can make a schedule for when their children are allowed to use their devices, and after that, their children have to put down their devices and do other activities so that they don't get addicted to using them. Nowadays, children are more busy with their devices than interacting socially with other people, especially their parents and siblings. And if they will need clarification if they don't get an internet connection, they will do many things to get an internet connection. Parents need to worry about this because if left unchecked, their children can fall into negative habits that can cause problems for them and their parents.

Remember that partnership is a dance, not a dictatorship. We lead and follow equally. Gambling requires balance, not just quitting. We must appreciate its emotions; it's escapism from the commonplace. This hobby becomes a problem when it overshadows obligations. It disrupts family life. Leisure shouldn't become a liability in our relationships, thus we must maintain balance.

Instead of quitting gambling, Lida practices moderation. As partners, we must create an environment where both can indulge without sacrificing family. Gambling in moderation can be relaxing. Set boundaries and declare enough. We keep the joy and family holiness this way. We safeguard and nurture relationships by promoting responsible gambling.

In a family where the husband gambles alongside the wife, there is no doubt that people may think of their children as future gamblers. Such perspectives aren't wrong, neither is it a threat to the future life of the children. The most crucial duty is the act of management; kids, family, money, food, bills, etc. These few utilities shouldn't compound to become a problem in any family. Both gamblers must be able to instruct their children on what to do at a specific time and monitor their internet access. Recommending a keylogger installed on the devices or gadgets of the kids would be important. So that the parent would be able to observe any single search the child is inputting on his system. Children are very skillful and fast at adapting to new technologies, hence parents must act as adults too, by staying extra hours in researching for means to stay ahead of their children. The kids we own are our responsibility, they should be grown in a way that pleases us, and if one is found misbehaving, the parents must caution the child to stop. Or be punished. What kind of punishment is effective in changing a change?

In previous years, our parents were used to seizing our gadgets or maybe restricting us from going to participating in games we love like football, basketball, etc. Those moves weren't effective, in my response, because at some point they weren't able to keep up with the pace and got tired, hence the child continued with his bad habit. Punishing a child could be done in different ways. When I want to change a child, I don't buy them what  I bought for others as a punishment. That child would have a rethink or sometimes cry over it. Such things leave a mark on the child that lets him remember that whenever s/he misbehaves his parents won't buy him gifts when they buy for his siblings. Then that child would begin to shape his ways, to be eligible for the next gift. I've used this method to get most children close to me, interested in mathematics and they hardly fail on doing their maths assignments. Parents can as well use this to caution a child that feels the urge to gamble as a minor.

I don't buy the idea that gamblers should give up so easily, they need to try more even if they fail but it is when it is getting too persistent in losses and they are getting uncontrollable about it that they should flee for their money. Gambling has never been easy, but when it is followed rightly, I don't think the gambler can go astray or waste so much money that will now lead to regret or addiction. We should preserve our senses/minds here and anyone can quit gambling at any time. But they do not have that in their minds even before they start gambling, which explains why gambling teaches them a whole lot of lessons always. The best part of gambling should be for fun, but those who are facing issues with it never embrace that aspect but always believe that they can make huge money from it. However, when this huge money making is not forthcoming, instead for them to slow down or quit, they would have lost much money and would want to recover the losses back or still have the mindset that they can enrich themselves through this activity. That is how they get more entrapped into it and will continue to lose more in their folly.

That would be really concerning. If a husband and wife are both involved in the same gambling activities, it could lead to more problems for the family. Both might end up getting addicted to gambling and forget their responsibilities. While I haven't seen such situations often, it's usually the husband who gambles. I'm not saying women don't gamble, but it's more common among men. Some men can control their gambling and keep it outside the home to avoid a negative influence on their children. However, I've also seen families where both parents and children are gamblers, causing financial difficulties at home because everyone prefers gambling over improving their standard of living. It would make even more sense if they both quit gambling and focus more on fixing their family.

I admit that limiting viewing for children is very difficult because nowadays, children are used to watching shows they can easily access. With more advanced technology today, they can choose what they want to watch and even do it without the help of their parents. This is where parents supervise their children to be able to tighten their rules towards their children so that they will not be influenced by anything they see. Husbands or wives need to know this so they can think about whether they should reduce their gambling activities for the sake of their children and maybe stopping gambling is best for them.

This is not a matter of who should stop, but it depends on each individual's awareness, husband or wife because this is their responsibility. If they could realize it, they would think that they both need to stop gambling.

Restricting what your children could watch was easier decades ago, because back then kids had very little access to technology and at most only their friends could expose them to gambling early on.

However thanks to the internet not only kids are exposed to all kind of things at an inappropriate age, now parents are not even aware this is happening as it is impossible for them to monitor everything that their kids are doing online, since it is often the case that parents are way behind in the use of new technologies compared to their own kids.

Lol I can definitely attest to that. Wife always gets the last word on anything. But as the partner I think we also have the responsibility to help her be swayed in the right direction in order for things to be better. in Lida's scenario it seems as though there's a disconnect between taking care of the family and the gambling spree that you guys both have, and it would be a little problematic if one manages to quit while the other is able to keep into their gambling indulgences. I think in this case, both wife and husband should quit gambling religiously for them to have more time to take care of the kids, and of each other. I don't say not to gamble at all, but set a compromise with each other wherein you're not gonna gamble as much anymore for the sake of the family.

Gambling is not gonna be worth anything you're contemplating of dropping for it. It's nothing but a pastime you can partake in if you want to unwind and relax. Keep it that way and you'd not only have a fruitful relationship with your partner, you're sure to have a good life too.

When you are not beneficiary of gambling I don't think you have to delay after you have realized your mistakes in gambling and also done the annual statistics analysis of gambling, so I believe that you gambling realizing the kind of funds you lose in gambling it will make you know that gambling is not your calling or you don't have luck in gambling, many people today gamble continously and become addicted in gambling all because they benefit in gambling but a process whereby what you spent in two years in gambling and you have not gotten half of it, so that is to tell you that you are not destined to benefit from gambling and you don't need extra trial, what you need is to quit from gambling

Not really that something easy and this is why you should really be that mindful about on the things that you are dealing with specially that you do both is really that doing gambling. I cant imagine
on how much money that came from your own salary would really be spending into gambling? For sure you would really be that compromising into those amounts which are really that intended
for other means or simply on your family savings. It is really just that a waste that both of you are really that spending those amounts on which it would really be just that worth if you do spend
it into your children rather than into your leisure means. I dont really see that this wont really be a huge potential problem when the time comes. So must avoid it while its still early.

You've made a great point, and I'd want to stress more on the term Egalitarianism. In this condition, it doesn't mean anybody is more important than the other. Handling money doesn't increase the respect of anybody in the family. Provided that the man and woman earn money, one party should be in control of how is been spent and then report to the other person about their weekly expenses. In economics, it would be termed, the division of labor. Each task should be allocated to the person who can perfectly execute it with fewer problems. In my response, it sounded like a generalized instruction for a woman to be in control of the money, if both spouses are gamblers. This time to make it clear, if the woman isn't capable of doing it, then the man can handle the task. But, from my observations, women have the skill of home-keeping and know when to buy certain important utilities in the house.

As gamblers she can always set aside the monthly money meant for gambling and endeavors that nobody breaks the rule of spending more than the agreed amount of money made for gambling. So, hoping to find a family where both parties would do the same thing just to promote mutual respect or understanding can be rare, as we are created differently. In such a case I can say that, they'll have to joggle the idea. Maybe the wife controls money this month and the man another month, while the wife takes care of strategies. This will only reduce their productivity as the consistency will disappear. Moreover, if the husband doesn't master a strategy that can be applied to their gambling life to stay winning more than losing, how would they be able to stay relevant in gambling or happy, if they continuously lose money in gambling? Since the odds are against them, they need to fight to win at all costs, not just money, but maintaining a good home and being responsible parents.