Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 6. (Read 2655 times)

It can scatterer a family if the husband and wife continue gambling habit because it will make them to experience some hardship that will cause some issues that will make children to hate their parents but the wife need to quit gambling to allow her husband to be gamble. I will not advise the family to be gamble because, it will not encourage the children in the future because they will start gambling at their small age to know how gambling look like and what someone can gain from it.

If the spouse are not yet addicted to gambling, it will be easy for them to quit to save the family for destruction and it can attract divorce for the husband and wife to be separated.

Those who stop are those who realize how bad gambling is. they will definitely stop if it harms them. This is very simple but very meaningful if they cannot control their gambling desires they will continue to spend their assets until there is nothing left. I think stopping gambling is not suitable for people who are willing to run out of free money. except for an addict who even disrupts his family life. this just said they should stop as soon as possible.

And there is a lot of research on other fields that supports what you are saying, since it is known that if a kid grows in a home in which both parents drink, use drugs or are overweight then the chances the kid does the same thing as an adults increases a lot.

So if a kid were to watch their parents to gamble it is likely they will do it too, now gambling responsibly is not an issue, but it is likely that a person that is exposed to gambling at such an early age will be unable to control their gambling as well as a person that was not exposed to it so early on.

There are things parents should stop once children starts coming in the picture, I know how devastating gambling can be to humans but I think with discipline one can curtail his or her habit, there are some things you will be doing in your children's presence you will live to see the consequences because when they start imitating you, they will continue to make the habit a life style until it becomes part of their life, there is no way two spouse will be a gamble and you still expect such house to be responsible is no-no, but if both party can let go of their habit and work together they can achieved a happy home together.

To be honest, I haven't seen or heard of any case like this one. I never thought a family could be like this. Anyway, you are asking for a solution on the internet but a person needs to know every detailed thing before they can think of a possible solution. At first, are they addicted to gambling? Both of them are addicted or not. What kind of gambling it is? some people love to play poker and other card games online. some people do horse races and sports. Some others play in-house games and slots!

If both spouses are gamblers, both of them must make money as well. If not, then the one who does not make money should stop first and force the other one to stop gambling. If they are addicted, it will be a hard job for them to quit gambling. but, they have to think about their kids and the family. Nothing can bring them this precious time. Most of the time, gambling is waste of money.

Parents must admit that their children can use their devices better than their parents, so parents must be wise about their use. Parents need to give their children an understanding of what they can and cannot do with their devices so that their children will not try to do something that could put them at risk. There are many ways that every parent can do this, but this requires learning from parents to know what needs to be done. Children are the responsibility of parents. It cannot be denied, so no matter how busy parents are, they must still be able to find time to accompany their children and not leave them alone to use their devices. Nowadays, many children have fallen into things that are not right, so parents need hard work so that their children can get back on the right track. For this reason, if parents have provided guidance and supervision since their children were at an early age, parents will have no difficulty in providing an understanding of something so that their children will understand more quickly.

Confiscating children's devices because they don't want to comply with their parents' wishes is not a solution. These children want to be understood by their parents, so they ask for attention from their parents so they can use their devices when they are free. Maybe parents can make a schedule for when their children are allowed to use their devices, and after that, their children have to put down their devices and do other activities so that they don't get addicted to using them. Nowadays, children are more busy with their devices than interacting socially with other people, especially their parents and siblings. And if they will need clarification if they don't get an internet connection, they will do many things to get an internet connection. Parents need to worry about this because if left unchecked, their children can fall into negative habits that can cause problems for them and their parents.

In a family where the husband gambles alongside the wife, there is no doubt that people may think of their children as future gamblers. Such perspectives aren't wrong, neither is it a threat to the future life of the children. The most crucial duty is the act of management; kids, family, money, food, bills, etc. These few utilities shouldn't compound to become a problem in any family. Both gamblers must be able to instruct their children on what to do at a specific time and monitor their internet access. Recommending a keylogger installed on the devices or gadgets of the kids would be important. So that the parent would be able to observe any single search the child is inputting on his system. Children are very skillful and fast at adapting to new technologies, hence parents must act as adults too, by staying extra hours in researching for means to stay ahead of their children. The kids we own are our responsibility, they should be grown in a way that pleases us, and if one is found misbehaving, the parents must caution the child to stop. Or be punished. What kind of punishment is effective in changing a change?

In previous years, our parents were used to seizing our gadgets or maybe restricting us from going to participating in games we love like football, basketball, etc. Those moves weren't effective, in my response, because at some point they weren't able to keep up with the pace and got tired, hence the child continued with his bad habit. Punishing a child could be done in different ways. When I want to change a child, I don't buy them what  I bought for others as a punishment. That child would have a rethink or sometimes cry over it. Such things leave a mark on the child that lets him remember that whenever s/he misbehaves his parents won't buy him gifts when they buy for his siblings. Then that child would begin to shape his ways, to be eligible for the next gift. I've used this method to get most children close to me, interested in mathematics and they hardly fail on doing their maths assignments. Parents can as well use this to caution a child that feels the urge to gamble as a minor.

I don't buy the idea that gamblers should give up so easily, they need to try more even if they fail but it is when it is getting too persistent in losses and they are getting uncontrollable about it that they should flee for their money. Gambling has never been easy, but when it is followed rightly, I don't think the gambler can go astray or waste so much money that will now lead to regret or addiction. We should preserve our senses/minds here and anyone can quit gambling at any time. But they do not have that in their minds even before they start gambling, which explains why gambling teaches them a whole lot of lessons always. The best part of gambling should be for fun, but those who are facing issues with it never embrace that aspect but always believe that they can make huge money from it. However, when this huge money making is not forthcoming, instead for them to slow down or quit, they would have lost much money and would want to recover the losses back or still have the mindset that they can enrich themselves through this activity. That is how they get more entrapped into it and will continue to lose more in their folly.

That would be really concerning. If a husband and wife are both involved in the same gambling activities, it could lead to more problems for the family. Both might end up getting addicted to gambling and forget their responsibilities. While I haven't seen such situations often, it's usually the husband who gambles. I'm not saying women don't gamble, but it's more common among men. Some men can control their gambling and keep it outside the home to avoid a negative influence on their children. However, I've also seen families where both parents and children are gamblers, causing financial difficulties at home because everyone prefers gambling over improving their standard of living. It would make even more sense if they both quit gambling and focus more on fixing their family.

I admit that limiting viewing for children is very difficult because nowadays, children are used to watching shows they can easily access. With more advanced technology today, they can choose what they want to watch and even do it without the help of their parents. This is where parents supervise their children to be able to tighten their rules towards their children so that they will not be influenced by anything they see. Husbands or wives need to know this so they can think about whether they should reduce their gambling activities for the sake of their children and maybe stopping gambling is best for them.

This is not a matter of who should stop, but it depends on each individual's awareness, husband or wife because this is their responsibility. If they could realize it, they would think that they both need to stop gambling.

Restricting what your children could watch was easier decades ago, because back then kids had very little access to technology and at most only their friends could expose them to gambling early on.

However thanks to the internet not only kids are exposed to all kind of things at an inappropriate age, now parents are not even aware this is happening as it is impossible for them to monitor everything that their kids are doing online, since it is often the case that parents are way behind in the use of new technologies compared to their own kids.

Lol I can definitely attest to that. Wife always gets the last word on anything. But as the partner I think we also have the responsibility to help her be swayed in the right direction in order for things to be better. in Lida's scenario it seems as though there's a disconnect between taking care of the family and the gambling spree that you guys both have, and it would be a little problematic if one manages to quit while the other is able to keep into their gambling indulgences. I think in this case, both wife and husband should quit gambling religiously for them to have more time to take care of the kids, and of each other. I don't say not to gamble at all, but set a compromise with each other wherein you're not gonna gamble as much anymore for the sake of the family.

Gambling is not gonna be worth anything you're contemplating of dropping for it. It's nothing but a pastime you can partake in if you want to unwind and relax. Keep it that way and you'd not only have a fruitful relationship with your partner, you're sure to have a good life too.

When you are not beneficiary of gambling I don't think you have to delay after you have realized your mistakes in gambling and also done the annual statistics analysis of gambling, so I believe that you gambling realizing the kind of funds you lose in gambling it will make you know that gambling is not your calling or you don't have luck in gambling, many people today gamble continously and become addicted in gambling all because they benefit in gambling but a process whereby what you spent in two years in gambling and you have not gotten half of it, so that is to tell you that you are not destined to benefit from gambling and you don't need extra trial, what you need is to quit from gambling

Not really that something easy and this is why you should really be that mindful about on the things that you are dealing with specially that you do both is really that doing gambling. I cant imagine
on how much money that came from your own salary would really be spending into gambling? For sure you would really be that compromising into those amounts which are really that intended
for other means or simply on your family savings. It is really just that a waste that both of you are really that spending those amounts on which it would really be just that worth if you do spend
it into your children rather than into your leisure means. I dont really see that this wont really be a huge potential problem when the time comes. So must avoid it while its still early.

You've made a great point, and I'd want to stress more on the term Egalitarianism. In this condition, it doesn't mean anybody is more important than the other. Handling money doesn't increase the respect of anybody in the family. Provided that the man and woman earn money, one party should be in control of how is been spent and then report to the other person about their weekly expenses. In economics, it would be termed, the division of labor. Each task should be allocated to the person who can perfectly execute it with fewer problems. In my response, it sounded like a generalized instruction for a woman to be in control of the money, if both spouses are gamblers. This time to make it clear, if the woman isn't capable of doing it, then the man can handle the task. But, from my observations, women have the skill of home-keeping and know when to buy certain important utilities in the house.

As gamblers she can always set aside the monthly money meant for gambling and endeavors that nobody breaks the rule of spending more than the agreed amount of money made for gambling. So, hoping to find a family where both parties would do the same thing just to promote mutual respect or understanding can be rare, as we are created differently. In such a case I can say that, they'll have to joggle the idea. Maybe the wife controls money this month and the man another month, while the wife takes care of strategies. This will only reduce their productivity as the consistency will disappear. Moreover, if the husband doesn't master a strategy that can be applied to their gambling life to stay winning more than losing, how would they be able to stay relevant in gambling or happy, if they continuously lose money in gambling? Since the odds are against them, they need to fight to win at all costs, not just money, but maintaining a good home and being responsible parents.

Yeah this is actually true and real situation or happenings into this life on which there are really cultures or certain races on how they do really raise up their children on which it is really that too loose on which on the sense that it is really that making those young minds would really be that too exposed on things which arent supposed to be that exposed but well there's nothing we can do about it on which there would really be
those kind of things happening around and better not to boggle up yourself when it comes to this situation but rather it would be better that you should mind on about yourself or your own family.
Basing up on this situation on which both husband and wife is really that engage on gambling on which quitting would really be that so hard since both of you are really that engaged into it
on which there's no one would really be able to stop you on the middle on the time that addiction would really kick in. There's no one would really be able to pull you out.
This is why it would be always best that one of you would really be quitting up and then trying out to explain and tell the other side that doing the same will really be that recommended
specially if family relationship is already that compromised.

I get your point and if you ask for my opinion I will also say same thing but I think most western culture or way of life are ignorant of some of these things as the world with them have become so free that the children are constantly exposed to such habits even without the consideration of the effects(negative) that can get to these little observers. Although I know that human are of different types as some are ignorant and careless and do fall under this category.

Firstly, that family is not charting the right course, how then do you tell the children to stay rigid without gambling when it's the way of the parents. If the both of them have gambling as their source of income, it's going to be difficult to tell one of them to stop gambling.

If they have been into gambling before they got espoused, that's even a more critical challenge as they almost can't tell themselves to back off as they've agreed to it before they came together.

But, if anyone has to call it quit then it should be the wife. She has to hold the family and manage resources, it's not good to have her gambling with that.

The truth is that a type of mutual Addiction is due to having very bad luck , the truth is I don't know how it would be done in a case like this , I think that in one of the two of the couple has to take the reins and think well to do things with more intensity To give the Example, generally it should be the man who is more willing to get out of that problem so that the woman is only willing to follow her partner's example, of course all that in good judgment, sometimes it is good to get out of this quickly because they both risk losing each other, and although there is some mutual support, both of them have to get out of it by showing that they have a good understanding even in that, is what occurs to me, is what comes to mind, Therefore, I would say that when it comes to having more ways to attack these problems, it is by going to the same psychologist where they see both of them and between the two of them, finding the way to continue trying there Until they achieve it.

In this order of ideas, we are people who are always looking for the best, so that is when we think we can make a difference, it is better to have the Determination and Enough Willpower to get out of it, with respect to solving it quickly. If the person really wants it, follow all the instructions they are given, if not, then they can simply see what is better, whether to go to a psychologist or do it in the most rudimentary way, which It is not Going to the casino or not playing and doing other activities to minimize the Anxiety that this gives, that is Something that can be done Quickly and with 1000% willpower , this is what Many do when they do not have economic solutions where they can perceive everything What they need, they have to address a type of Demand like this to be Able to get out of the problem , because otherwise it can Become the biggest Problem of their lives , and if they don't control everything , but Absolutely everything gets out of Control.

The addiction of gambling was not easily recovered,if the both husband and wife get addicted to the gambling site.It’s very hard to treat such cases,because we know the recovery of one addiction take 3-4 months.This two addiction even take 8-10 months.Because until the family was suffering financially because of the gambling loss,both husband and wife will not get to know about their addiction.The first addiction felt by the wife of the family because he will buy the essential things for the cooking and he do cooking for the day.So the family will be suffered with the food at the beginning of financial difficulties caused by the gambling addiction.