Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 8. (Read 2661 times)

Gamblers who spend 1% of their income on gambling may not be able to meet the requirements to make money from gambling because it is
difficult to get winnings from gambling. What you say is true is that the key is proportion and the discipline and self-control required so that the husband or wife can both understand that they must prioritize their family first rather than gambling. There is no need to put ego first. The husband or wife has to stop gambling, especially since they have the same goal, namely wanting to build a good household with their children. If they can understand this, maybe both of them will immediately decide to stop gambling because they know that gambling can cause a loss of self-control.

Indeed, we should not assume that gambling is a stable source of income, and that will be difficult to do. Moreover, we often play gambling to see how often we can win. It would be better for the husband and wife to start reducing their gambling activities so that they do not lose self-control when gambling. Even though they have reduced their gambling activities, they can still gamble after their children are asleep so that no one disturbs them from gambling. But they really have to be more disciplined in playing gambling because they can lose self-control and then they can use their family's money. A husband or wife who really cares about their family will choose to give in and decide to stop gambling because they don't want to lose self-control in gambling, which could cause them to lose money for their family.

Since both parents love to gamble, they can make a competition between each other. That will be fair I think. They can start with identical budget, and by the end of a period, calculate, who was more successful in gambling. That persons can continue gambling freely, but the other person only after all the duties are done. And after a period of time repeat competition. Wont that be a solution that dont harm anyone?

After all, there is nothing wrong with helping others, since childhood I have always been taught by my parents to always pay attention to people who need help or deserve help, in any way even if it is just advice and motivation. It's sad if we let people just get lost in the wrong mindset and point of view when on the other hand we know that what they are doing is quite dangerous and needs a push for a realization as soon as possible.

That's what we're always worried about, even if the couple's goal is just to find entertainment by enjoying a few rounds of gambling but the fact is that there will always be situations where as you said they can't fully control themselves along with breaking the planning and management that they have made from the beginning, and of course that means it's no longer about entertainment and fun but leads to some mental and psychological stress that ends up with unexpected financial problems.

Our arrival may be very useful and have quite an important role when the situation of the husband and wife is not good in their gambling involvement, encouraging a little evaluation, justifying the point of view and returning the realization that however gambling always has indications for something much worse to happen, these are all possibilities that will never be foreseen in the end.

Recognizing the complex relationship between gambling and family is necessary. Responsible gambling is a good cause, however it depends on 'if' you can play properly. This 'if' is dangerous. This sounds reasonable: gamblers should spend 1% of their income on gambling. Does this one-size-fits-all strategy meet variations in family finances? Not necessarily. Even minor gambling can be dangerous. The key is the proportion and the discipline and self-control required.

Your idea that women handle finances and men focus on skills sounds oversimplified and stereotyped. Each family's dynamics are different, therefore an egalitarian approach may promote mutual respect and understanding.

Your outlook on gambling's perks, like winning a jackpot, is hopeful. Gambling should never be considered a stable revenue source. The odds are often against the player. Making professional gambling a family aim may not be wise. Making educated gambling decisions requires a balanced understanding of the risks and rewards.

I had always played this local whot card game with my woman whenever she's around for the weekends because she's not always around due to her kind regards of job and the location far from home, so when she's around we play that game together for fun and entertain ourselves you know that lovebirds kind of thing. And I haven't seen her play any other game cause the purpose she plays that with me is not for money making but fun between two lovers.

It is when he two couples/lovers introduce money into the game making it seem as a  challenge between the two that's when you have got to be worried if she can be capable of holding herself together going forward from falling into addiction , because what I discovered is that people that gamble for entertainment rarely fall into gambling addiction compared to those that gamble for money making.

Gamblers who take responsibility for their action wouldn't have trouble or blame others if they failed. Taking responsibility helps the brain to rethink and do the right thing, for a losing gambler, he would figure out a means of restructuring his gambling schedule and change a few bad habits like wagering all their money in a single game. For the spouses, I think they wouldn't have to regret anything about gambling because they can complain to one another if a new unwanted gambling habit erupts in their lives. Management is important, and the woman should control the finances while the man can keep up with techniques and management strategies. The list provided by AmoreJaz is very important and it's what is at stake for any family both gambling or non gambling homes. As I said in my previous response, some families where both spouses don't gamble still face difficulties with meeting those requirements.

It's not just about being a gambler or not. Although one may think that a gambler has a higher chance of failing in building his home, that could be wrong for responsible gamblers. If they spend 1% of their monthly income on gambling, they are still on the right track and the family won't suffer any loss in home-keeping. Both spouses can further ahead to becoming professional gamblers, if any of them wins a jackpot someday wouldn't the family celebrate the enhancement of their monthly income? The disadvantages of gambling have made us not see the advantages of gambling in our everyday lives. Advising them to stop wouldn't be helpful by any means and they can have a tough time agreeing to that term. Adults have to remain responsible for any decision they wish to follow and these two are grown-ups and can differentiate between what's good or bad in gambling. But, if they can't keep up with responsible gambling, I think they'll need help.

Yes, that's what happens in many cases of young people or even old people who are addicted to gambling. What can be reduced is the intensity of gambling, to reduce gambling activity gradually. it is very difficult to ask a gambling addict to stop. What is done is a process of understanding to be able to better control the gambling that is carried out. and the process will of course not happen simply or even in a short time.

but in some cases, it depends on the gambler himself. because of course, there must be a willingness to reduce their activities. whether it's due to worsening finances or coercion from people around you.

It's funny about children in the womb. )) Well, yes, a bad example not only for children, but also for the younger generation. I can’t even imagine the situation when I personally became an example of a gambling person. All this, of course, is funny to talk about this way, but in life I have seen many similar examples. People's lives are turning into a complete nightmare and there is practically no way out of it.

You wouldn't wish such "happiness" on anyone. I don’t know how it is in your country, but this process has been recognized as a serious disease - gambling addiction. It is quite difficult to recover. It's a bit like drug addiction.

In gambling, perhaps regret and disappointment will always be there, but if all of this makes the gambler blame other people, it is also not good attitude because all gambling activities are his own decisions.
Every gambler must be responsible and able to accept all the impacts of gambling without blaming other people, there is no point in blaming other people for the impacts of gambling that we feel.

Agree that they both have to be able to find solution and fix everything because what they do will also have an impact or influence on their own family.
There must be better solution with calm thinking, slowly they have to think about the long term of the activities they have carried out if they continue to happen.
And of course all aspects must be considered carefully and management and boundaries must be able to be set.
I know that for someone who likes to gamble, it will definitely be very difficult to stop, but at least they must be able to control it, manage it and also limit the intensity of the gambling they do.
Building family has been their goal together from the start so don't let gambling cause everything they have built in the family to experience problems or even be destroyed.

I agree they must quit gambling and never do it again, my wife also addicted in this gambling apps in her phone last year and when I discovered she lost like $1k in month I forced her to quite gambling immediately or else I will never gave any money to her since she managed all our finances, surprisingly she listened to me and never gamble again. Gambling is fun but if you lost huge amount of money and affect your families finances then its a disaster to all of you. You will never get rich in gambling believe me.

I have seen many couples engage in responsible gambling. They have a solid financial base and are always disciplined in gambling.

I believe that in the near future, gambling will be legalized in most countries, and there will be widespread information on the internet and the streets. Your children's lack of understanding of gambling knowledge is the foundation for gambling addiction. Thus, the more it is banned, the more curious it is for children to learn. It is important to show them clearly the negative effects of gambling on life and the economy so that children can control their decisions. It is facing the sweet temptation of betting games. Let's raise gambling awareness among our children.

in short, you are here because of your own volition. and when it is time for you to quit, it is also on you.
so don't blame anyone else if you are in this habit, because it is your own choice. now, to what extent you want to go in in this habit, is still your option. as you are responsible for yourself, make sure you won't regret your life's choices.
husband and wife, they both need to sit down and contemplate on their situation. because after all, it is their family who will suffer from their actions.
they need to consider of the following aspects of their lives -
 > financial situation
 > source of income/jobs
 > assets
 > kids (education)
 > savings/emergency funds
 > career
 

Gambling is kind of thing we do base on our knowledge and not basically that someone pushed us into it, I know that gambling have to do with something I know very well that most people who plays gambling doesn't quite in gambling because of someone's advice, the major reasons why so many of them leave gambling might be aa result much losing, so if you don't want to be participating in gambling due to you are not benefiting in gambling again, you can as well understand that you have to leave gambling base on your detriment and your betterment, gambling is something we do without anyone teaching us the way forward.

As a matter of fact, it's a bit strange to even see this kind of situation. It's something I cannot even imagine happening, but if that kind of case exists, then the couples should actually check their gambling habits and work on themselves because it might also affect their kids. Gambling is for fun and not a proper means of earning. If those couples are actually gambling for money, it's because that's what gives them the fun they want, but they should just know how to control it. Perhaps these are the adults we are talking about here. Unless they have become very compulsive gamblers,  it will be difficult to stop in a short time, but if they are still in their right senses, they have to be disciplined and control their gambling habit.

And it would really be always be depending on how each of you would really be able to understand the situation and yes, anything could really be talked well both husband and wife since you are the ones who had been building up the family on which it would really be just that fine that you should really be that mindful on what are the things that  are needed up to be changed
because there's no family that would really be that perfect on which there are moments or times that we do make out some lapses and this is why it would really be needing up to have
those adjustments for the sake of your family. As a husband then it would really be just that right that you should lead on how to handle this situation, it is impossible that you cant be able to determine on which wrong and which is bad.

Yes, maybe that will be experienced as time goes by. Maybe over time they will become addicted because they cannot control themselves in gambling because they may enjoy the games they play too much and forget about proper boundaries and self-control and this will also cause new problems in the family. It is true that this is their personal right or the personal right of every gambler.

That's how it should be, changing your perspective or thinking about gambling is actually not a place to make real money and gambling is a place to spend money quickly. That's the truth.

I don’t know how the both of them will be able to cope. I don’t think two spouses gambling won’t end up affecting their family in one way or another. I won’t be surprised if one of them or even both of them might be addicted to gambling, and if addicted to gambling, then it’s really bad for them because it’s going to affect their financial management, and also because it’s really bad for their children because they might be learning from what their parents are doing, and the children might even end up being addicted to gambling, which might even be worse. If anyone will be gambling, then it should be one person, and parents shouldn’t disclose to their children that they do gamble.

As far as I know, today in some Muslim communities women are still considered inferior to men. Whether it is good or bad, everyone decides for himself, but in my opinion it looks like humiliation of mothers, sisters and wives. Such women are not only unable to gamble, they cannot have their own opinion and voice. It's a shame that this happens.

Yes both of them should quit gambling. They can set an example by doing this. At least they can try to quit gambling for the sake of their children. The thing you said about affecting each other is also correct. If I see my spouse gamble in front of me, it's only natural that I too would want to gamble. Trying to be busy in life with work or resisting the urge to gamble all of these efforts will be in vain if others gambled in front of that person.

Putting it this way, it seems like the father, as the breadwinner of the family, has every right over whatever decision he takes, and the wife is not subjected to the same right.
 
And then again, saying that the man needs to go there in order to raise money for the family, do you mean he is putting the family budget based on gambling winnings, which he is not sure about? If that's the case, then the family might end up going to bed some days without even eating a square meal after gambling, which might have given him the biggest disappointment of his life.
 
But in the aspect of the wife being supposed to be with the children more than the husband in respect of that one going to work to chase their daily bread, it's understandable, but in gambling, I don't think using it as a means of making money is an eligible excuse to permit one spouse to gamble and the other not to.