Topic: Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling? (Read 1361 times)

Very interesting topic, as a gambler I don't even like the idea of women gambling whether old or young..men are naturally rational than women, as men we can control our emotions, and we know the emotional rollercoaster that comes with  gambling, they will definitely make irrational decisions that will affect Everyone around them(family) so to answer your question, yes I will be very worried and I would do everything in my power to make her avoid it..

Of course it will be a risk to his health and obviously I will forbid him from looking for better and healthier activities, rather than having to gamble, of course there is a lot of pressure when he experiences a physical defeat which can have an impact on the heart if he has a history of heart disease, there is no prohibition against playing.  There are no gambling restrictions either, but the bottom line is that if you have a lot of money or are a billionaire then it's legal, but not as an example. People who have money are not required to do that.

Yeah I mean to me this just looks like an old lady trying to finally catch her luck train because she has lost in gambling her whole life. I don't know if that is the case or not but that is what I would imagine when looking at this picture. Honestly tho I think OP makes a good point I think it is less common for an elderly woman and more common for an elderly man to be the gambler. Woman, especially elderly woman tend to hold onto their money as tight as they can. That is how I remember both my grandmas. To my knowledge only my grandpa on my dad's side had a gambling addiction and he lost a lot from what i've heard.

Gambling is just like the air. Everyone have the right to breathe so despite the age you can gamble, but as a mother, you should make sure your children are comfortable and living a good life before gambling and losing because gambling is a very big problem that can come to you if you didn’t take a proper caution, because you will lose some important money that you use for the family and it will turn to a frustration, so I may not advise Model of the age to put more attention in Gambling

I understand your scenario of the aunty that you know gambling plus other women too who gamble just like the picture that Op posted but I don't think the police would have to arrest the men who are there when the women are gambling neither should they arrest the women because they are adults and not exempted from gambling except the law of the country forbid them from gambling and they secretly connive with the men to allow them to gamble. My point therefore is why will the police catch them and what kind of illegality did they commit.

Busted operations sound nice to the ears, but you have to observe the root cause of this type of behavior. That lady is a gambling addict and the addiction is inside them ready to take control whenever they see a chance to gamble. Hence the lady should be careful to avoid any sort of chance based games in the future and the people living with her should be made knowledgeable about it so they can intervene when she shows relapse.

Knowing the operators who run shady casino ops like these, they are likely to be back under another header and another place. Hence be vigilant and make people aware of such operations.

I know someone like this aunty and it's not pleasing to watch because she became addicted and always made bets every night in the lottery and her husband was scolding him every time he found out. Though she wins sometimes it didn't really matter because of how huge the amount of money she already lost. she was convinced by her neighbor and became addicted without even realizing it, so environment and community really matter, and not only her but also other women in the neighborhood are also doing it that's why it became the norm there until the police found out about it and caught the men behind it because their operations are illegal.

I won't be happy for many reasons, as an elderly person there things she should consider which is her health and I believe that her health should be her major priority, standing in a bet shop for a long period of time can trigger some some health issues, as we know already gambling is an emotional thing and elderly people are suppose to avoid anything that involves emotion because emotional stress can worsen high blood pressure which is the health conditions of elderly people.
It will be a great concern to me if I notice this habit from my mother because indirectly she will not be having money for immediate needs again and this will be a great danger for us her children, losing funds alone will make her sick, as an elder person, her immune system is no longer strong so if care is not taken, anything can easily attack her, I will definitely try my best to stop her if I find out that she is doing this.

This is so sad to hear, Imagine? Just because he is complacent that he will win even though there is absolutely no certainty, his life is at risk because of what he did and in the end that's exactly how it ended up, Maybe a large amount of money was really lost so it reached such an event and let's add the age of a gambler. Just a reminder to everyone, even those who are in the middle age, we should also monitor our health to check what things we should avoid so that we don't reach the point where we experience what others have experienced and reach in death.

This case is very similar to my neighbor where he is an old gambler that we know in our neighborhood, at that time he placed a gambling bet with all his savings because he felt sure and confident of winning but ultimately failed and lost that night. because of the increasing emotional level in him, his illness finally recurred, as his high blood pressure rose, which ultimately caused him to suffer a heart attack and died on the spot. It was very unfortunate that this happened because actually he didn't need to put all his money on one bet.

I don't know what gambling game he played that night but as far as I know he was so happy with sports betting he shouldn't have put all his money on one bet, in the end there were complications with his illness and he died on the spot, I think as a child he should have paid attention Our parents or uncles who may be elderly but still like to gamble should be advised not to gamble to maintain their health, especially in many cases of elderly people who sometimes have uncontrolled emotions which can cause those emotions to trigger illnesses which can ultimately lead to illness. make someone die because of it.

Your right doing it online makes it more comfortable and secured so as to avoid embarrassment and insults from people,for me I would be very uncomfortable and worried seeing my mum go to such betting shops to place bets.

The thing is this elderly woman have been into the betting/gambling game and that very day I think she was having a positive mindset that the games would put on a big win,so as it didn't turn out that way,that's the reason it showed on the other part of the picture that she was frustrated and confused but nevertheless she would have use her phone or probably ask her son if she has to play for her instead of stressing herself going to the bet shop.
This shows a true sign of she being addicted to it so the outcome guaranteed that and aher facials expression,I wouldn't be happy seeing my mum or any elderly woman out there doing this just like this woman it will be a big slap to my face.

I feels that too because in society can easily judge that someone is bad because of what he/she doing. If our society knows that our mother playing gambling, we can't accepts what our society will say. Maybe they will gives a bad name to our mother and even all of our family members and that can ruins our relationships between our society. Mother are the back bone in the family who take cares of their children and if our mother addicted to gambling, we can't imagine what will happens to our family. Maybe our family members will also playing gambling and that will ruins the family relationships. It's our jobs to helps our family who gets addicted to gambling to cure themselves so they can realizes that they doing wrong for their family. We must gives attentions to them so they can gets out from gambling immediately.

Honestly, I think that overall all children will definitely not feel comfortable when their parents, especially their mothers, are involved in gambling, even if for example they only make gambling as an activity to fill their spare time and seek pleasure but still, no matter what your approach is, the potential for bad possibilities will always be a possibility, on the other hand, I do not wish your parents to become addicted gamblers but I only see from the concept of gambling that whoever you are and no matter how good your approach to gambling is, the change towards impulsive gambling will always be a possibility.

This is because as we all know gambling has many temptations that are sometimes very difficult to ignore especially when you lose consciousness, even though they can be considered as someone who is mature enough to be able to think carefully but still the bad possibilities will continue to lurk, and one thing that worries me in this situation which I think we would all agree is that we certainly don't want to see our parents spend their old age with many problems and pressures caused by gambling.

I would not feel comfortable. Because in the society women holds a high prestige of caretaker of the family. They play a role of a good leadership of taking care of their husband, children also play a vital role in taken responsibility of the entire family in all ramifications. So women are the back bone if the family. Seing them gambling is like we have lose them to the faith of addiction. What would be the fate of the family when the caretaker of the family has lost it value due to gambling  addiction?

I may feel worried because the older people become the higher chance Of having a higher blood pressure (HBP). meaning frequent lose may affect her health condition and she may collapse one day and die because of HBP.

Op this is actually something To worry about , because seeing My ageing Mother in a betting shop looks very embarrassing considering her age , And again what will people Say of the Family that My Mother is a regular customer in a betting shop . Gambling is nice If regulated very well . If i see My Mum gambling wirh some traditional gambling methods like Ludo i will be happy because i know she does it for fun And By So doing it will relieve her from mental stress And Depression But im other seeing her in a betting shop trying To place bet looks very Absurd And something serious To worry about .

Being addicted in gambling till old age is more or less a serious problem because there is no way To stop it until death , ladies are supposed To gamble And not To be  much addicted till old age . Verily speaking i will not be happy with My Elderly Mother If i should see her in a betting shop , because it is not only a disregard To the Family But a big insult To the Family as a whole . However i will do anything To keep her away from betting shops .

In my opinion, gambling is not bad if we know the limits of gambling and have a sense of responsibility, but in reality there are more people who gamble without limits, and even though there are people who gamble with limits, that doesn't mean they will remain safe, because in my opinion Maybe there will be occasional moments that make them annoyed or trigger their emotions and anger to rise. It's true that gambling isn't dangerous if it's accompanied by a sense of responsibility, but there's nothing wrong with just anticipating it.

That's what they're afraid of happening, they could gamble beyond reasonable limits, which will clearly harm them and possibly harm other family members. Someone who is an adult certainly has their own thoughts and choices and thinks that what they are doing is right, but if they think that gambling is a normal thing then at least if they don't stop it then just advise them to stay within reasonable limits, don't let them do it. gambling that exceeds reasonable limits because it will be a problem that triggers the destruction of the family, I myself do not want to have a biological mother who is addicted to gambling. because in my opinion it will slowly damage their mental and thinking, and in other words, prevention is better than cure.

You have a good point here, but still, I would like to expatiate on that. In some environments, gambling is a normal activity, and old, young, rich, poor, literate and illiterate are engaging in it. In this clime, if someone's mum is gambling, the person will not even feel it and it is not dishonourable as that is their way of life even that might be what the person grew up to know. The mother at times could also send the children to do it for her, so it might not be a big deal in that clime. But in other environments, this might be so ugly, to say the least, and this is not even possible for some women to go out to gamble themselves, they would rather have their gambling app and do it in their privacy or send someone to do the gambling for them. In this kind of environment, anyone will not be happy to see their mum gambling, it will be so disgraceful.

This doesn't matter whether she does it for the money or fun as many have said on this thread, what is disgraceful can't be substituted, it has to be avoided to avoid issues. Also at times, some people might be desperate and might want to disregard the disgrace that comes from it, this is why I will not want to judge the woman in the OP outrightly. What if it's because of her child's medication expenses that she turned to gambling maybe it can multiply the money she has when financial help is not coming from anywhere, or even worse situation?

No one wants their parents to become bankrupt from gambling. Not all gambling is bad. Controlling and knowing limitations. We must teach our parents and others about responsible gambling

It's not enough to stop them; you must guide them. In moderation, gambling may be fun like anything else. Problems come when it crosses the line. We must speak reason, not just opposition. Remember, our parents are grownups. They've always chosen. Our role? To ensure educated decisions immediately

Remember: caring, not contempt. They may resist, but we must persist for their health and well-being. We must strike this careful balance

Is she still doing well? like being accountable of losses? As long as it is her money she is using then  won't mind. I would consider her looking for something to lessen her boredom given that she's old already. Nothing's too much will be advisable of course so if she still handle her gambling habits properly, I won't be against it. People who would do so are just worried of what is happening to people who abuse gambling even if the people they don't want playing, is just doing fine. That's early and bad judgement if I would be asked. I myself knows the danger in gambling but will never support stereotype in this activity that I enjoy, maybe not always, but won't change the fact that there are days I do.
Indeed something to consider; if the laws will allow them to do so. If my grandmother happened to be in a country wherein there's high restriction of gambling activities then obviously I won't and will just rather suggest mobile games which are representing gambling instead or associated with it. There's also this idea of mine to play with her; just between the two of us or between family members such as if it is card games then fine. It will all fall on the idea that they want to be entertained on their years of being 'old' and I doubt it will still be money-driven just as with the youth.

If in your country, gambling is prohibited and no one is allowed to gamble, it will make our grandmother or mother who is caught gambling will be arrested and will make us embarrassed because of her actions. And before our mother or grandmother is arrested, we will take her home to save her from the authorities. We certainly don't want to see our mother or grandmother arrested by the authorities because that will affect them mentally. We also won't let our mothers or grandmothers still gamble in casinos even though our country allows gambling because, after all, they are old, and they should do other things that can give them pleasure.