Topic: Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling? - page 2. (Read 1361 times)

Besides, what's wrong with reminding parents or other people that what they are doing is wrong, even though they are gambling with the aim of having fun, I think they can still do many other things that are more fun and don't have as much risk as gambling. Indeed, it may sound impolite to advise parents because maybe these parents will not accept being advised by those who are still much younger than them,  and maybe they will think that we are the ones giving them advice, so you know, but I can't hide it, I will probably do my best to my parents, and if my parents gamble I will warn them and advise them well.

What you say is correct because we are also like that,  it shows that we really love our mothers no one wants their parents to have mental problems or other health problems  because gambling can trigger them to experience many problems including their own health. who might be affected by the gambling they do.

It must be a humiliating thing for me because in my country gambling has been permanently declared a prohibited act and the parliament has passed a constitution making it an illegal act. Moreover, gambling is a forbidden act in my country's religion policy, especially for women to participate in gambling is more abominable and forbidden. Therefore, if my mother or grandmother participates in gambling in an area where women are completely prohibited from participating, it will certainly become a matter of shame and humiliation for me. I will never mentally accept this act in any way and I will not allow anyone in my family to participate in gambling.

Indeed, it's needed to give additional attention to avoid things like this to take place, when they have other things to do in life they will not focus themselves into gambling, maybe for fun it's okay but letting them to be involve and put lots of time inside gambling, that's something that will affect them both financially and emotionally.

Give them something that will lead them to divert the attention and if possible, take time and spend it with them find other things that they can enjoy with you.

Adults' want for attention and connection, especially from loved ones. I know this from experience: when my parents don't feel valued or involved, they turn to hobbies or gambling. Kind of like announcing, "Im here! Notice me!" individually.

I make it a priority to communicate with my parents. Its about sharing their lives, joys, and gambles, not just watching or asking. I think embracing their interests, even enjoyable gambling, deepens our closeness. Mutual respect and love are key.

Aging makes you sensitive, you're right. It exists! I regularly remind my pals to talk to their parents more. Amazing how a simple discussion can brighten their day. Why not gamble in good fun and within limits? Its another way to connect, laugh, and express concern. Right? Life's too short not to cherish these times.

Most adults look for attention from the people they love in life, and if they can't get it, they will divert their attention to other things, that's where their attachment to gambling and other activities comes in. One of our duties in life is to somehow look at our parents so that we can monitor what they are doing and if they are okay. It is better that we are open with our parents so that we know what they feel and we are aware of what they want to do. Usually when people get older, they often seek attention, become sensitive and feel sorry for themselves because they think that no one cares about them

They are indeed, and some diseases make them more prone to impulsiveness. In fact it has been seen that it is the group of population who are suffering from impulsiveness and attention deficit are the ones who are gambling more often and are more likely to get addicted to gambling than their peers.

It is indeed our job to prevent this and keep social media and internet accessible devices away from such people. If we do that we can stop disasters from happening and prevent loss of huge amounts of money.

Give them non-gambling based games to play with, something that kids love too.

Let's be realistic here, there are some certain things or behaviors that we will not be interested in seing someone close to us behaving not to talk of being in position of a mother to us, gambling is cool a d fine with everyone to play and have fun, but it will be more honourable if your elder mother do it within her privacy, and not to show the whole world she gambles openly, alot of people will talk bad about that, but if she can gamble and know that within herself, there's nothing bad in it than going public that she's a gambler.

In some cultures, it is impolite but if you're showing and doing that to your parents. It's a sign that you love her when you think she's doing the wrong thing.
There are many people that sees that as sign of care and love when you're plainly giving that advise to her when you think she's not on the right path.
But, if your culture tells that it is impolite then so be it and just let your mum gamble until she losses everything and becomes out of control.

Or simply old people are impulsive.  

We cant just afford on letting them see on wrecking up themselves on playing gambling even we do say that even if they are just playing for fun.
There would really be those times or moments that you would really be chasing up those losses, we know that women are really that emotional and having those kind of fragile personalities.
Im not really that looking down on them but being feminine doesnt really fit out that much in gambling space.

On the time that i would really be able to see my grandmother or mother on doing gambling then i would definitely be going against it and would
really be telling them about on having that kind of control and moderation. It might not sounds good for them but giving advises would really be that recommended.

When both the parents in a family reach old age we should treat them well because they feel very lonely at this time and we must treat them in a friendly manner. Some families are treated in such a way that parents are forced to indulge in gambling addiction. A lot of times there is a tendency to be attracted to gambling out of loneliness, so if you grow old with your parents, you mustGood behavior must not be kept lonely. Parents must entertain them in their old age and always share happiness with them otherwise they will reach a stage where they start looking for new sources of happiness. Here gambling can be one of those sources for them.

Yeah, very true, and apart from what you said, it's possible that elderly adults might have fixed incomes and that gambling could put them in financial jeopardy. It goes without saying that gambling losses can have a bigger effect on a person's capacity to maintain their finances. Due to the mental decline that comes with aging, people may find it more difficult to make wise judgments and, as you mentioned, may be more vulnerable to scams.
 
Regarding their health, I believe that excessive gambling may have contributed to their social isolation because they spent more time in physical casinos or online casinos than they did participating in social activities. Knowing the connection between social isolation and a number of health issues, including depression. Furthermore, I worry that older people would sit for extended periods of time, which could negatively impact their physical health due to a lack of exercise.
 

It depends on how she gambles, because if she just gambles for fun without affecting her health or family, then let her enjoy it because your mother is too old now and she should have fun but if she is always frustrated and you could see long hours in that casino then that is another problem. This is a special case because for sure your mother has her problems on her own like she has nothing to do or have fun with so you as her child it is better to look after her, like bring her to your home so that she could take care of your child as that is her grandchild and etc. Just make her busy with something not gambling.

You make good sense and I completely agree with you., but then here are my few points concerning all you have said.

First, speaking on whether older folks should stop patronizing physical gambling outlets and casinos, most especially on place or jurisdictions where gambling is not considered as a noble thing or activities to engage oneself in,  I agree with this, but how about those who can't possibly operate a smart phone not to talk of a computer, not all of our old folks can easily navigate through the world of online gambling, and as long as its gambling we are talking about, as an old person, asking someone to help you deposit money into an online casino from your bank account is also absurd, and also puts you at a very high risk of falling into the hands of scammers, as even your own son can use the opportunity to scam you.
So, considering the above, I think patronizing a physical gambling outlet or casinos with physical cash in their hands is still much safer for our old folks.

And talking about their health and their vulnerability to health issues as a result of loses from gambling, you are also very right here, but I think it depends on how long the old person has been gambling, for those who have been gambling for a very long time, they probably have gotten used to it and the chances that such a person will collapse due to gambling loses is very slim.
The risk is very high with folks who started gambling in their old age.

Going to a gambling house to place bets and get involved with gambling activities physically shouldn't be supported especially with the old as it's not only stressful but it looks very much absurd and doesn't really tell well of their reputation especially in places where gambling is despised and not considered noble.

Talking about the safety of older people with relation to gambling I think the concern should be much on their health, some of them get more emotional as they age and may not be able to cope with losses, it may take them into very emotional state such that some may fall to depression or get some hypertensive reaction when they are suffering a streaks of losses so it's better they avoid it at old age especially for those who easily get emotional at every slightest thing.

Only those who are born in a family of gamblers won't feel ashamed when they meet their mother in such public places, in my country it's a shameful act for your people to sight you in a casino when they pass by.

Either old or young its better to advice any of your live ones that are into gambling to be careful around gambling, teach them the percentage strategy and make sure they know how to walk away from losses, once they lose the money they must not try to get it back.

I understand that circumstances is why some people are forced to try gaming out, still you need to apply some safety strategy first, losses is the most guarantee result you can get out of gambling, the earlier they understand this the better, they will be more cautious.

Yes, education from both parents is indeed a common thing that all parents do and it is true that the behavior of a child usually will not differ much from his parents because parents apply something they know that they think is good for their children. For the problem of parents teaching gambling activities to their children, to be honest, I really never thought in that direction, because what I know is that no matter how bad parents are, they usually always want the best for their children in the future and that means there is little chance for them to teach gambling to their children, but on the other hand maybe there are some parents out there who do silly things like this.

But on the other hand although both parents always want the best for their children the story would be different if as you said that one or even both parents are those who suffer from drug addiction or gambling. it is very clear that education will not be maximized in such a situation because the psychological disorders that a drug addicted person is likely to have make it possible for them to not be able to apply good education to their children, maybe they can even completely ignore this, and as a guarantee it is clear that the future of a child can be threatened. Yes, that's right, the conclusion is that parents should really hide their bad activities and keep them out of sight of their children, after all prevention is better.

The story may be created for the purpose of words,but the story with the image make this feel comfortable truth one.Because the picture is not the fake,the person can lie to us.But the image will give us the enough valid proof about the incident happened in the real life.The story had two sided consequences,the son who love to gamble with their family members will cause the person feel comfortable to the game.If the person was more conservative in nature,he would not allow their mother to be a part of the gambling game.Literally the gamblers who like to play the gambling it’s their family members get more excited in this situation.

The children of a family usually receive their primary education from their parents. Of course, in this case, if the parents are addicted to the harmful drug called gambling, there will be a bad effect on the children of those parents, without a doubt. Moreover, the education that a child receives from his parents will begin to reflect that education in his real life.Learning to gamble from parents will surely reflect bad education from parents later in career. Moreover, a drug addict mother and father are always mentally disturbed and in such a condition a parent can never give positive education to their child, in this case the career of the child will be ruined only because of the bad influence of the parents. So a parentOne should never indulge in gambling or any other vice in front of the child as a child learns by following his parents and starts reflecting his intelligence accordingly.

For us to those who have those senses and having those experience then it would really be just that normal that we would really be having those kind of thoughts that it is really just that bad
for those elderly persons to get involved with it, specially that this is something stressful at the same time it is really that money consuming. If she would really be that telling that it is really just that fine on dealing up with things such as this then it would really be on someones personal choice and since they are far more ahead of us when it comes to age then they would really be normally
trying to point us out on who does have the rights on doing things that they do want and its none of our business on trying out to divert or letting them stop
about on the current dealing that they do have.

Of course it is true, I think that no matter how bad a child is, they must have the same thoughts as us that they do not want one of their family members, especially their own mother, to be trapped in the gambling zone, especially if they have entered the addiction phase, none other than because the impact of gambling is very bad, they will not only lose a certain amount of money but will also certainly experience unusual mental stress because the pressure in such situations is very large and it is not uncommon for me to often see several media channels reporting that some gamblers end up experiencing stress.

Yes, in my country too, gambling activities are strictly prohibited, because this can damage the personality of a child and also his future will be threatened. Basically everyone does have a thing for gambling because after all they are using their own money but the fear is that they can't control themselves and instead end up with a lot of problems in life, so that's why the public's perspective on gambling is very negative especially in my place.