Topic: Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling? - page 3. (Read 1361 times)

It's important to respect personal choices and preferences, especially when it comes to leisure activities. Creating a gambling experience at home for your grandparents, where they can enjoy the activity in a familiar and secure environment does not only provides a space for them to engage in something they find enjoyable but also addresses potential safety concerns associated with public gambling venues.

Monitoring to ensure responsible and enjoyable participation is a responsible approach. Keeping an eye on the situation and intervening if necessary can help maintain a healthy balance and prevent any negative consequences. Your perspective reflects a caring and considerate attitude towards the well-being and happiness of them that balances the freedom to pursue enjoyable activities with a sense of responsibility and safety. It's a nuanced approach that values personal choices while also prioritizing the overall well-being of loved ones.

Yup! No one in the right mind will love to see  elderly especially their mom  or their grandma that will going to be involved into gambling,  but in some cases as we can't really control situation like this, especially now that  gambling can be done everywhere with just the help of good internet connections,  I do see your point in terms of not liking your relatives to be involved as mentioned no one love that but it's going to be depend from how and what the situation from that location, as there are also rural places where everyone is involved with gambling even old folks can do betting and enjoy.

Realistically, no one would want their mother or grandmother to find themselves in such a situation. I definitely don't want my mother to get addicted to online or offline gambling. Gambling in our country is strictly prohibited by the government and against the laws of the country. Here adult youths are involved in the activities of drug addiction, gambling addiction etc. So women in my country cannot be directly involved in gambling but young girls are now getting involved in online gambling. But there is no record of any elderly women and mothers being addicted to this gambling.

You know your mom the most more than anyone in this forum. You know best whether this is something that works for her or not, (assuming that you're asking us about our respective mothers and not the one that's in the post) and in that case, I say from there you make a decision that best fits her.

For one, I have a mom that's not really into gambling, but soon as she started getting old and bored she found gambling a little bit enjoying, oftentimes even gambling with her female friends around our block and earning money which I don't really know what she's going to use for since we're giving her allowances anyway, but I digress. She knows her limits and is able to stop when we tell her to stop. In such a case I wouldn't really be concerned about it. The same case can't be said for some of your parents so as I said, just really push for what works best for you and you parents. This isn't something that you can just point a finger at a choice and advice to people willy-nilly.

We are people when we see any eventuality that has to do with the slots because we like it, knowing what they are and what the slots are like, it is very easy for certain eproans that do not have as much emotional control because it can absorb them, there is no doubt about that, But being a little more emphatic, we are the person who should be more aware, and say, well, if there is someone with certain abilities to be able to do things like play slots, it is good, it is entertaining and there are many things to generate a good game, the slots are quite good, fun, all this has to be done under the scheme of what is possible, when we are anywhere and we see that our mother is playing slots in a casino, it is something that would surprise me, but yes Seeing her last all day there would worry me, because even though she is a young woman, it would make me feel sick to see her there, knowing that she could possibly be falling into an imminent addiction, that is something I cannot avoid.

If I see her like this, I would ask how she is playing, how much she is spending, all this to know how dangerous her game is or turns out to be and if there is any way I can help her, but if I meet her all day, all day only , I would start to think that she is obviously in an addiction that her money is disappearing, and that I don't really know how to get her out of that world, because the number of people who get involved in the lots and most of them are people Older or very old, they generate a lot of losses, they even eat as children, they only think about the casino and the slots, some of them don't even rest well or anything, that's what we should always see and do.

A casino means to me 'peace, relaxation and fun, that's the way I see it, I will never see it as a job or a way to generate money or a form of secure income, so when I see something like that, well, I don't mind. It draws attention, but what I would do is try to escape from that world, since it is very easy for an older person to lose everything.

From the attached picture I don't see that the elderly woman is frustrated not because she lost a lot of money.
However, I saw from another perspective that if you look at his expression, it shows that he is frustrated because he failed to win a number of bets.
Because an old gambler must have thought carefully to calculate the amount of risk he can afford even though he is an elderly woman.
I am even more worried about his health because frustration can trigger his blood pressure which can be fatal.
If it were my mother, of course I would give her all the convenience of gambling online.
And help him overcome that frustration. Because his health is more important than anything.

But it would be normal that we would really be making those kind of checks whether she's really that still doing fine or totally had done something which is excessive. Its true that we should show
respect on the things that she wants to do. It cant really be just avoided that there would really be those people who would really be that skeptical when it comes to gambling
on which they would really be that having that kind of worries that she might be ending up on being addicted, we do know on what are those probabilties and chances
and this is why we dont really like for them to get involved as much as possible specially into our loved ones. For us people who are really that aware
then it would be normal that we will be having those kind of reactions.

Maybe it's okay for me to see or know that my mother is gambling, as long as I know that she's just doing it for fun and that it doesn't affect the family or her own well-being. When this is what I see, for me, I don't see any problem.

But if I see that there are already bad results and effects on her and the family she has, of course I will tell him and guide her in such situations so that it does not get worse in the end, which can become a headache and a problem for me even in the end.

Without the picture showing the woman in a betting shop, I would had doubts if the story was being true but the picture says everything. Every individual deserves to be happy and have fun therefore if this is what gives her fun, she should be allowed to do it. If I was in the situation of being the child of this woman, I'll make her enjoy gambling at home and not having her to come to the public to gamble as the picture is showing due to the fear of insecurity as she can be robbed.

We can create a gambling experience at our homes so our grand parents can gamble and enjoy it like they do at family reunion. Some individual loves gambling and they have been doing that from their childhood but haven't gotten addicted. If she's using only her money and the spare ones I won't stop her from enjoying herself but I'll be monitoring to prevent things that'll make her not enjoy her time gambling.

Forgive me. I have no intention of reconstructing it. Perhaps because I was a bit sleepy, I shouldn't have written that part. I'm so embarrassed by you. Once again, I'm sorry.

Ok, here's my response. Hopefully, I won't do it again. Indeed, there is no limit to someone's suitability for gambling because it depends on how they feel when gambling. Maybe the grandmother still feels capable of gambling and can control her emotions even if she loses, but no one knows how long the grandmother will be able to do that. Maybe the grandmother thought of it as entertainment in her old age, and they would return to gambling another day. But it's still not good for them because after all, it can have an impact on their health. After all, in gambling, many surprises can take them by surprise.

A grandmother must have found an activity that can make her have fun other than gambling. I often see some grandmothers in my neighborhood who spend their time gardening, sewing, or doing casual sports with grandmothers their age, and they really enjoy their time. They often gather at one of them's houses to enjoy tea and reminisce about their youth. That would be better for them than gambling and would not make their children, grandchildren, or whole family busy looking for where they are. But I agree with what you said about inviting her to have a conversation that can show that we empathize with the grandmother. That could give the grandmother an understanding not to go to the casino too often and that she should keep herself busy with other activities.

This are aging are not meant to be stressing themselves to get because they don't need that especially going to a betting shop to play bets. This does not make any sense to me, but I would not react when I see an elderly person  betting online because I know with that, safety is ensured and they would have to bet when that are interested to buy not everytime. Betting is for the young that still have the interest to earn and make extra money for themselves. Seeing old people betting is also something normal because no one knows there present condition and what would have led them to decide to gamble.

Gambling like I always say is an engagement that should only be associated with young people and that's why there's no way I'm gonna be happy to see my mother engaging in gambling. The nervousness that comes with gambling is better endured by young people but to persons above 50 years, it might be detrimental to their health.

If I happen to notice that my mother is engaging in gambling, I'll definitely not be happy with it and would confront her to know exactly why she's gambling. After the confrontation, I'll make her see reasons with me on why she's not supposed to involve herself in gambling and why I don't find it pleasing I believe she's gonna stop after hearing from me

Why do you think the older ones are the ones that will easily get addicted to gambling? I am not really in support of that. I believe the younger ones are the ones that easily get addicted to gambling because they are the ones that are always desperate to make money from gambling. A higher percentage of young people who gamble are doing it just for the sake of money, while a lower percentage are doing it because they want to have fun. But when we talk about the older ones, they already know what gambling is all about, and they will know the harm that being addicted to gambling can cause them. Some of them just decide to gamble just because they have nothing to do, so gambling will always keep them busy.

I hardly see women gamble, so when I see one, there is a way in which I do end up feeling. From the picture that the OP posted, it shows that the woman has already gambled more than her limit, maybe when she doesn’t have anything left with her, she decided to stop gambling, and she looks frustrated in the gambling house. I don’t think anything is bad about women gambling, but they should gamble responsibly. Both men and women can have fun with gambling, but they shouldn’t be addicted.

If someone feels that gambling is not a good activity to be done with someone we know then I would say they should not gamble in the first place, here we are talking about a mother who raised a son already and now she is trying to spend her life which should be allowed as long as she is doing it for fun. All I am saying is let the lady to enjoy her life because she worked tirelessly to be in this place.

They are wiser than that. Old people know what they are doing and also know their limitations especially if they are in deep trouble. I don't think that will happen easily. What we should be more careful of are the young ones because their blood is hotter and they could easily be moved by their emotions which will make them make the wrong decision in their life.
Old people especially those who have pensions don't really have to care about their money anymore. All they want is entertainment and if ever it is our mother who is doing it, we should be ashamed of ourselves first because it might be us who is lacking something which is why they decided for something else to entertain them. Ain't gambling better than them looking for a young guy to please themselves? That will be "ewe".
IMO, it's me who made a mistake if my Mom would be doing these things. I may need to start looking for something that will keep her occupied just so it won't happen again. Maybe it means I am too busy at work that I forgot about taking her out to have some fun.

To be honest, yes. I would definitely become worried if ever I see my mother gambling. Aside from I don’t want to see her losing her funds, but I’m much worried on how her wealth will react to every losses and frustrations she will endure from gambling.

It’s certain that old aged people become more emotional and tend to easily faint whenever they don’t meet their expectations, most particularly with gambling that it’s certainly more of losses than wins. Even if she’ll tell me that she’s responsible with her losing funds, but come to think of it, no son/daughter will be happier seeing his/her mother falling in gambling addiction.

I agree that we are in a generation where there is equality between men and women I don't have a problem with women playing he has all the rights as much as men have the right to gamble, but I am not ok with setting up an example, we have a saying

which means

Mothers are a force to change the world they cannot mold the next generation properly if they indulge themselves in gambling, women can gamble but there is a point that they need to stop to set up an example for their children or if they are gambling they should be as discreet as possible so their children will not get the signal that its ok to gamble.

You just reconstruct what I just said in your first paragraph. LOL

Anyway, I understand your concern about the grandmother having fun without spending a lot of money. However, what if gambling is the only activity that brings her joy, without causing stress or fatigue? It always varies from person to person what they enjoy doing in their later years. The best approach is to have a conversation with them and show that you can empathize with their interests.

Does that include your parents?
In accordance with the title "your mother" this relates to us and not other people, so if your elderly mother still likes gambling, do you not care about it? in the sense that you don't care what your mother does even if it could be detrimental to your mother. What I'm afraid of is that if you don't care about other people then it's possible that you might not care about your own family members, including those who gamble.

Even though it's just done for fun, that doesn't rule out the possibility of them losing control, right? I think even someone who gambles responsibly can still lose control if they experience something undesirable in gambling. Responsible people gamble in the sense that they can accept their losses, but if they continue to gamble but don't win at all, what is it possible for them to do? endure? I don't think so, I think every now and then they will feel annoyed by the gambling they do that only results in losses, therefore it is better to just stop gambling. in a way you as the child have to warn your mother. and this is just an example if your mother really likes gambling even though she is old.

It is a red flag situation, pathological states like I stated previously in this thread, can lead to such impulsive behavior too. Hence it is better to see what is going wrong and treat that. Suddenly a person becoming a gambling addict would not be something to ignore. They will be an added cost on the relatives and that can lead to monetary troubles, broken families or dysfunctional families and so on.

At times keeping them on safer games is possible too where money is not involved.