Topic: Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling? - page 4. (Read 1373 times)

The fact that, staying on your lane would help avoid some issues, but you should also consider that the person we are talking about is a family member. If you don look out for them who will? Gambling is not something I'll advise a friend or family to try, because the way you strategize playing is not the way another person might take it. Sometimes even those you though we're smart enough still end up becoming addicts. There is a way gambling tricks the mind of even smart persons to become submissive to addiction, without them knowing that they are becoming addicted.

Why so regressive mindset and this is what actually the domination over Women. If elder men are allowed to gamble and if Son himself enjoying gambling in public then why can't accept that a mother can be seen in that way too?

There is nothing to be ashamed about gambling or else why the son is gambling in the first place?

It is so discouraging to see an elderly woman gamble publicly. Women are naturally built to be mothers so certain lifestyles even if it's legal shouldn't be exhibited. Imagine if he has his son in the same gambling hall, imagine her calling "number 1 and 2 over 2.5" and his son calling "number 3 and 5 Goal Goal". How will people around view the family? I see that as an irresponsible act for an elderly woman to gamble in the open.

From another angle, elderly people are easily prone to high blood pressure so gambling should be prohibited for the elderly since losing a bet can easily make the heart beat faster thereby leading to high blood pressure which can cause death.

In addition, what kind of money will such an elderly person be looking to get from gambling? I know that gambling at that age means that the person has started gambling long ago because it will be difficult to develop gambling habits in old age. So, in old age, such a person should have given up on gambling and not gather with his sons and daughters to gamble.

I will not allow my elderly mother to gamble in my day but the funniest part is that even though you stop here she will still go and play the gamble because that is not her first time of going there and she has been gambling since from her youth. Elderly mother would not straightly go to a gambling shop when she didn't play gamble in youthful days.

And if she not using the family money to gamble then it is okay. But it is not advisable for her to do that in this age. That money she needs it to take care of her needs now.

If she is completely aware of what she is doing then it's fine for me, and don't let the woman who worked her life back from something is she is enjoying for the right reason. When things go other way then it is a concern just like an everyone and we can't really accept it simply as someone because mom is someone who is closer than anyone else in this world for most people so it's a tricky situation to be in.

I don't really care who is gambling and what their relationship is with me, all I care about is how sane they are even while they indulge in gambling.

Some parents or even grandparents might have been able to sponsor certain responsibilities through gambling over the years, it doesn't mean that they are irresponsible but they are either using it to have fun or to cover for basics and they are gambling moderately, it is nothing to worry about, it only becomes a challenge when it is done irresponsibly

I don't know what to react since I know my mother don't even know how to gamble. But even it's hard to imagined that she do gamble and I surprised she is like that for long, as long as she is doing well in our family, with no financial struggle nor change in behaviour, then I will just allow her to do so. On the way though, I will do some discussions with her related to gambling and will always asks, "how's everything"?

The fact that I learned now her habit, I will make sure I'll always keep her on my watch.

Age is nothing but a number in the system. Addiction is one of the exploratory negative qualities any gambler ought not to develop because it kills slowly and rendered one to become useless without the capacity to handle anything solid without thinking of gambling. Why would I become worried seeing my elder brother gambling? Because they're mature enough to make their own decisions and I don't think any choices made, I have any action to take other than staying on my lane and face my own challenges, we all have what we're fighting really hard to overcome.

If you ask that question to a person who in their entire life knows that their parents are not involved in gambling, the obvious response will be, that they won't be comfortable if there's a surprise. On the other hand, if you ask that question to a person where they know their parents are involved in gambling for long, they are already used to seeing their parents like that.

Will they be worried? It all depends on how responsible the parents are for their family even doing gambling.

I don't even advise an old, or person advance In age to gamble. Because, peradventure they become addicted to it, it will be difficult to convince them not to, because at that age, they feel they have grown to a height of wisdom as their age progresses, unknown to them that they are just being foolish. And most of them out of frustration of live, it will just make them get addicted easily, and such persons could even gamble irresponsibly. Elderly women in the casino hall, isn't something we see everyday, and that because it's not of their gender to gamble, even at that age.

this is why people will just secretly gamble rather than play in a real casino, they just go online. we're all going to judge whether we know the person or not.
but then people are somehow "concerned" or you can call it not minding their own business as to how to handle a nana publicly crying out because she won money.

since she won a big amount, she cried. it must be a life-changing amount.

To be honest, I don't quite understand your point of view. An adult (elderly) person independently chooses how to spend his leisure time and I do not think that he needs advice from his grandson. Of course, the exception is when an elderly person is clearly deceived because he doesn't understand anything about technology (in my country it is quite common practice among immoral people). But gambling has existed for hundreds of years (if not thousands) and almost every person has gambled at least once and understands his chances of winning.

As another member of this forum living in a third world country, I will give my opinion from these two aspects.

First of all, gambling in our society is seen as something bad as it is illegal and a waste of money because the money is hard to earn due to low salary and high costs of living, people would prefer to use that money for living instead of putting it in gambling which obviously gives you a very low chance of winning more and a big chance of losing that amount of money you put in gambling. Now for a female citizen to be seen gambling is a very big deal in our society because no matter what year we are women are still under privileged. Imagine seeing your own mother doing such shameful activity.

However, as a gambler I would be understanding if I caught my mother gambling because I know the feeling, but I won’t hesitate to advise her because I am also aware of the risks of gambling and wouldn’t want my mother to go through such stress and the disappointment of losing money.

Answering your question simply, yes I would be worried before facing her not knowing more details about her engagement in gambling such as the amounts she puts and the frequency of her activity.

It is best to talk to the elderly woman and ask about her gambling experiences. Engage in meaningful dialogue and provide support so he can enjoy his life despite his age. However, it is still important to limit his gambling activities and not allow him to gamble excessively. At their age, they can already make their own decisions. Therefore, guiding and supporting them is very important, but not controlling their choices.

That is why there are people who invite women to discuss or chat about the reasons for gambling. And if the grandmother wants to have fun, these people can advise her to do something that doesn't require a lot of money, and the grandmother can also get pleasure. People around the grandmother can continue to accompany the grandmother or those people can contact the grandmother's closest relatives to take her home.

In my opinion, if they keep quiet about it, it's very wrong, because basically we don't want our parents to experience loss of health, because in my opinion, with those who may be old, it should be time for them to enjoy their old age well, and enjoy their old age by gambling. I don't think that's a good thing, even if they have a lot of money. and worrying about their parents' health is normal, because if there are children who don't worry about their parents,  I think that child is a child who is not filial to their parents, because they just ignore what they are doing and it is detrimental to their health.

I agree with what you say, however we must be able to lead our parents to good things, also by treating them well because we should be able to take care of our parents so if they do something that is detrimental to their health, it must be prevented because it is also for their own good.

Gambling makes us worry about our elders, which is normal. I think there's a flip side. Gambling need not be destructive or addictive. Grandma can enjoy the thrill of chance with a little harmless fun.

Consider: if done appropriately, may gambling not give the elderly some thrill in their regular days? Many people can play bingo or buy lottery tickets without becoming addicted. Its moderation, right? When it comes to kids, how do they discern dangerous habits from innocuous ones?

Addiction is a significant issue, though. Perhaps the solution goes beyond outlawing or giving financial alternatives. Should we also teach kids and adults about responsible gambling? Making informed decisions and understanding when pleasure becomes serious is key.

Everyone is fit to gamble in my opinion, as long as you have the money and knows the rule of the game, then definitely you can gamble. So there is no such age limit, be it our mother or grand mother or some elderly women, they are going to play.


Yes, just like the other day, she is not that old though, but she says like he lost half a million already, she looks like she is what we call balikbayan and she is staying with the hotel. Perhaps in her 60's-70's. And maybe I'm thinking that he should have work very hard abroad for many years and then save enough money for her and her families that she can afford to lose that big money in that casino and continues to play.

Well yeah this happened most of the time when they missed gambling and they will one day make a comeback from that gap during their 30's-40's days when they have no spare time to spend on gambling because of their job or whatsoever. And yeah communication really will help.

Is there really such a thing as being fit or unfit to gamble? If you see an elderly woman, whether it's your mother or your grandmother, gambling, there must be a reason for it. Perhaps they find it as the only way to spend their time and enjoy themselves. Some elderly women may also be seeking excitement because they can no longer experience it as frequently.

It's best to have a conversation with the elderly woman and inquire about her experience with gambling. Engage in a meaningful dialogue and provide support so that she can enjoy herself, despite her old age. However, it's still important to set limits on her gambling activities and not allow her to gamble excessively. At their age, they are capable of making their own decisions, hence it's crucial to guide and support them, but not to control their choices.

Should we call this the hunger for money or an addiction? Well, let's not be in a rush to judge anyone, and the way I see this woman, she is not so bad in the looking, she might not be so desperate about the money or playing because she is that poor (just trying not to judge). Many things could cause her to bet and it is only when we ask her that we can learn the truth about what happened. This is not common in my environment, but in the local and poor environment, it is very common.

Why didn't you ask her that time due to curiosity?...lol Besides, I can still mention more than 20 reasons why people could be gambling, her case might be one or multiple of them and it is not so good to be judgemental whether the person is our relative or not, even the children could be supportive of it as the case may be. I pray we do not have any reason to be desperate about anything. People are facing a lot when it comes to finances, and this could drag them into gambling with the belief that they can get what they need from it. But it is the opposite that often happens when it comes to their betting outcomes, it is risky and highly uncertain, so we should be careful. But to some, it could be that she is used to it as gambling is popular in some climes, it is no big deal to them.

You may still find out though.