Topic: Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling? - page 5. (Read 1373 times)

But if gambling is detrimental to their health, are we going to just keep quiet watching the behavior of our parents who are gambling and risking their money to make a profit? Indeed, some parents don't really think about what their children say and seem indifferent because they feel they are more experienced and wiser, they feel He was right with his actions so he continued gambling even though he had to spend a lot of money. Actually, a child doesn't have a problem if their parents gamble as long as it's for fun and not too much. But a child think about their parents' health condition and worry that it will cause their blood pressure to rise because the elderly are more susceptible to congenital diseases like that.

Yes, the only way is to persuade him, not scold him or tell him to stop because parents don't like being told to, with a good approach and gentle words, I'm sure parents can understand the words of their children who care about them, especially caring about their health.

No child wants their mother to gamble, let alone a grandchild who wants to see their grandmother gamble, whoever it is, your mother or elderly grandmother, should enjoy their old age at home with their family or playing with their grandchildren or children, I'm sure not everyone wants part of their family to leave. going to a gambling house just to buy a lottery ticket and hope for a big win there can become a habit that is difficult to stop.

I will also do the same thing as you, banning them is the most correct way and trying to find money to give a little to our grandmother or mother, at least she can get money from her children or grandchildren so she doesn't hope to survive by playing the lottery in gambling houses , it can't really be used as a permanent income, because the lottery is based on luck and luck will never come every day, it's not easy to win the lottery.

When we see a bad habit, we should never let it go, because stopping it is the most correct way no matter what, stop it before it's too late, especially if it becomes a habit that makes someone addicted to gambling.

Perhaps a grandchild could ask why their grandmother is gambling because, seeing as their age, they are no longer fit to gamble, especially since it could cause problems to their health when they are not ready to look after their health. What needs to be done is to stay with him if his grandmother wants to place a bet, and if necessary, his grandson can help place the bet and make sure that his grandmother is okay while he places the bet or while his grandmother is at the casino. Maybe it wouldn't be comfortable for his grandmother, but his grandson just wanted to make sure that his grandmother was okay at the casino and didn't experience anything bad that could cause her health to suffer. And after they finished placing their bets, they could go home together and forget what they had done.

I would be concerned as she usually doesn't gamble at all. So i would ask the reason for change. But in generally i wouldn't mind as it's her money to do as she wish.

However seeing old people (men and women) front of slot machines was a common sigh in here years ago, that was before regulations change tighter. Now in at least in finland, amount of people gambling, in the first time of history has dropped radically. Even shops are just removing their slot machines as they take space

Corona, mandatory kyc and spending limits affected a lot as people moved online to play and apparently never moved back to physical slot machines fully. And if they remove physical cash, i am guessing people mostly stop playing them at all. So in short: No one would see her gambling as she would do that in home, with a phone. And to older people it's not the same as gambling, like a bingo was more like a gathering socializing and one reason to stay outside.

Such actions are very correct by preventing the badness of gambling addiction, but it is also necessary to understand why your grandmother or grandfather did this. it could be because of the past that always played gambling, making him miss the atmosphere like before.
Communication is a great middle ground between your grandchildren and grandmother.

I don't find it impolite when your parent seems to be doing the wrong thing. We're also their flesh but I think in some cultures, I understand if it looks like an impolite thing.
But with that, you need to direct their paths correctly and if it's going to spend a lot of money and you just watching your mom lose entirely, won't you make a move to remind her?
If it is in the culture that it is impolite to parents, there are always some exception to the rules and beliefs. And if it's for the greater good of your parent, no person will correct her but her only blood and flesh.

If am a grandchild and I see my grandmother gambling ofcourse I will be worried especially when she had gone so far to do it publicly at the gaming house because I believe there are some certain attitude that someone is supposed to outgrowth and playing gambling publicly in the shop where people are filled is one of them and I would even be more mad if I find out she does it regularly.

Are you suggesting, then, that you don't want advice from younger people since older people have more life experience? Despite the fact that your behavior abruptly changes to reflect how your children perceive you, your actions and gambling habit persist.
 
It's not that all older people don't want to hear from their kids, but there are some older than you who don't seem to have the right mindset. That is to say, there are some elderly people who still struggle with making decisions that are best for themselves, their families, and their kids. It's worse for parents who rely solely on their grown-up children, who are employed; in such cases, their desire is to treat themselves, even if it means asking their child for money to support their gambling habit. In what way do you think your kids would fall? Of course, they will be disappointed and will talk to you, remind you, or advise you that you can play but don't go overboard because, naturally, your kids will also believe that their money was wasted and was only used to gamble. When our parents grew older and the kids wanted to give them money, we naturally wanted them to use it to meet friends or maybe join fitness centers to improve their health rather than become dependent on gambling, which may have been the reason they lost the game and ended up losing their lives.

Sometimes, the younger sees the better part that the older can't see it themselves. Having some reminder won't hurt them unless they're going to take it personally.

I know that it's hard to accept when a younger person tries to give you some reminder as if they know what you've gone through. It's normal, it's okay not to listen to them but just accept the care and the thought that should count for those words that might be reminded by the younger grandchildren or son/daughter.

Women engaging in gambling is very common in my environment and the result so far that I have seen has worsen there situation in life. I know of two women in my street who engaged in gambling (lotto) predicting of numbers, one owns a very big private school at first she won a huge amount that everyone heard about her winning which encouraged her to gamble mor and stake higher but as speak now nothing to write about this woman she no win again the worst part her private school that was running smoothly has crumbled. I will never feel comfortable seeing my mother gambling.

There is also a point, in general, basically advising older people is not polite even though it leads to something better and is indeed recommended as a whole, you said that adults or those who are old enough have a good mindset and responsibility about whatever they do, I agree with that and indeed they should really have a good maturity in terms of mindset and responsibility, but aren't they also not always perfect in terms of behavior and mindset? You said it only as a whole and did not see it from various sides, we are human beings who are never free from mistakes, therefore there is nothing wrong if we support a grandson who tries to advise his grandmother if it is for the sake of goodness, it does not matter to put aside politeness first because precautions for safety must be taken early before it is too late.

Although on the other hand someone who is already an adult will usually not care much about the things said by someone who is far below them because of several factors such as what you said about them lacking in experience but I think at least this will have the potential to be quite influential, at least the elderly will feel embarrassed because of being advised and after that there is a possibility for them to take the time to think about whether what they are doing is wrong or not. So the point is that whoever is advising them I don't think it should be a problem even if it's a little unlikely, at least maybe it will help the elderly to achieve awareness.

There isn't much grandchildren can do anyway regards the gambling activity of their grandmothers. An elder is an adult responsible for his own acts, have lived much longer than grandchildren, therefore there is a natural belief of being wiser and more experienced, besides having their own source of income. Why would they listen to orders coming from children? If you put yourself on their shoes you will understand it. We don't like to be ordered by younger people than us and people who we consider to be less experienced, and it seems as we get older, this feeling just gets stronger.

I believe the only thing grandchildren can do, which may work, is to appeal emotionally to their grandmothers that they stop. This kind of approach can sensibilize the elders, although it's not likely to have long term impacts...

Bingo oh yes. I think most women do like those games because it consumes a lot of time. My wife also loves that game and whenever we see a bingo game in the mall or even outside we do stop and I let her play. I think if I see my mother or grandma playing Bingo I would just let them do so. There's a high probability they can win that game rather than playing the lotto.
If it's online gambling, I don't think you need to be embarrassed about it. I mean I have been gambling online and not many in my neighbor know about it. They just think I am a work-from-home employee but they don't know that I also gamble in my spare time. Also, if our mothers are gambling outside then maybe they are lacking something to do at home. Maybe it is our fault that they went out and gambled because we cannot provide the necessary things to keep them at home and be entertained.
It's the boring times that people start to think about something they can do and old people could bump into gambling especially if they have friends that do the same or they are encouraged by someone so that they can be entertained. IMO, I will let it slide as long as she can keep control of it.

Contacting the people closest to him so he can help his father stop gambling is worth doing because getting help from other people closest to him can help his father realize that what he is doing is wrong. Usually, if his grandmother or grandfather gave him advice, his father might listen more so that his father could start reducing his gambling activities. Even though his grandparents couldn't help much, at least his grandmother could give valuable advice to his father so that all family members could help his father get out of gambling quickly.

I agree.

It's her money to take care of and if she's enjoying, I'll her do her own thing but I'll just give her some reminders that she shouldn't do it to the point that everything she is going to be put on stake.

She just take it as simple as enjoyment but she needs to be fully aware that it can wipe her things and money out so, that's it. She can entertain herself with that but still needs to be careful.

It depends on the situation.  If she has the money and enjoys gambling and it doesn't affect her daily life than more power to her.  There are a lot of people who can gamble recreationally and use it as a form of entertainment or even as a form of competition.  All good unless it alters her life negatively somehow.

For those who are skeptical about getting involved into their grandmothers activity then the best approach or actions to be made is to reach out whether your father or mother on which they are
the ones who would really be making out such explaination or would really be telling it to your grandma basing up on what she's doing. For sure she would really be listening on what your parents would be telling. it is really just that there are really things which arent really be that allowed to be done specially when you are old where your sense and decision making is really not that active or something
that would be vague.There are ones who are really that able to quit up but most likely you would really be tending to enjoy on what you are currently dealing with.

I think you can try to get your father to do something that can make him leave gambling and not think about gambling. If the strategy is successful, you can continue to invite and involve him in other activities so that he will slowly reduce his gambling activities. Perhaps this will be hard for your father, but believe me, there's no harm in trying. After all, it is for your father's sake, and you want to see your father distance himself from gambling. For this reason, you as the child must try to keep your father away from gambling and keep him busy doing other things that can take up most of his time so that he will not think about gambling. You can also ask other family members to help you invite your father to other activities. With the support of the whole family, your plan will succeed, and it's best not to tell your father about your plan because there is a possibility that he won't want to do it. So just do it without him knowing so he won't think that you are keeping him away from gambling.

Yes, even me wont really be having those kind of interruption basing up on what she does considering that its her money and she had the full rights on whatever the things that she would intend to do so.
The only time that you would really be considering on having intervention is on the time that you do saw that shes really that becoming that impulsive or compromising already the amounts on which
its not already into that normal mode or casual spending of money throughout gambling activity on which it would really be just that right that you should be at least telling her about the situation
and minding her about her spending through gambling is already that excessive.

You do have the right at least on telling on the right time on when she should really be stopping completely because we dont really like for them to be ended up on miserable
even we do speak about monthly pension or whatever source it could be, because it is really just that too wasteful if they would really be just purely be spending
those amounts through gambling on which its not really that worth.

Well this is not a new scene to me because it's practically what I see all the time over here although the type of game is different because over here the most played form of gambling where you see all these elderly women would be the lotto game that's involves prediction of numbers, I am really familiar with the game but it's normally played by elderly people here and that aslo include the female gender too and another form of gambling you would see old lady's play alot here would be the pool game .