Topic: Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling? - page 8. (Read 1361 times)

We do know the risks, so its normal that we would be having those worries. This is why on the  time that you are seeing your grandmother is really that getting involved with gambling then it would be just that normal that you would really be making involvement and telling them that they should really be that avoiding it as much as they could or possibly as early as they could.Even if they would be saying that it is really just that for fun but still you are really that putting yourself at great danger when we do speak about gambling addiction.It would really be giving out that kind of being uncomfortable on things which you do know that it could really be giving out that kind of impact later on into your finances. If your grandmother would be listening into your advise then its good but if its not then its her choice but as much as possible
it would be always that best that you should really be letting her know about those possible problems that could arise in too much dealing with gambling. For entertainment purposes then its good
but if you are tending to make constant money or winnings then its bad.

The generation today don’t know how to value respect and boundaries, many are feeling entitled. Anyway, if this is the only way for her to have fun then why not? As long as she is capable and still have the funds for gambling I’ll let her gamble. At her age, she’s more focus to have fun but if the result frustrate her or makes her depressed then that is the time for me to tell her to stop and focus on other things, gambling can be very risky regardless of your age.

Gambling can indeed bring frustration to people who lose when gambling, regardless of whether they are adults or old people. But what we see in the picture is a mother who predicted the bet and that she should not have to gamble anymore. We don't know whether she can control her emotions if she loses another bet or whether she will lose control of himself, which will make her place another bet.

Perhaps it's not strange to see elderly women gambling because it really happens. But she shouldn't have to gamble at her old age. We worry about if the woman loses all her money and can only cry because she doesn't have any more money. Gambling can indeed attract anyone to try it because of the possibility of winning, so people put their hopes into gambling so they can make money.

I would assume that the woman in the picture is not new to gambling. She probably has a history of gambling from her younger years, it will be silly to ask someone to quit something they do for fun just because of their sex or age. People should learn to respect boundaries and privacy of others, that picture should not be shared on the internet without the lady’s consent.

I just thought or maybe an elderly mother gambled because she needed money and hoped that the money could become more due to economic pressure or whatever. because I saw he felt disappointed and as if he felt like he was a big failure so I said maybe he was thinking about winning or the jackpot.

certainly not. even though I am a gambler however I will not let my mother experience gambling even though it is considered entertainment.
the reason I say this is because as a child I should provide better facilities to provide happiness without gambling and if it's just just having fun there are many other ways to make my mother feel happy letting her go on holiday is much better than having to gamble but it has a health impact bad.

It was very sad to see this elderly mother gambling as if she felt very disappointed and regretful about what she had done.

You know one thing i will never try about gambling is virtual gambling I think is the most deadliest gambling as it drains you instantly, and if time is not taken you would want to recover what you have lost by so doing you are dying deeper in lost. I have read and heard numerous stories about people who engages themselves into virtual betting and never made a serious profits. Another story came up that a man who received his salary went straight to gamble shop, anyway it's a local shop he went straight to start playing virtual he didn't know when his pocket was empty at caused of trying to recover what he has lost then exhausted all his salaries over there.

The funniest part of it is that, he was supposed to pay his son's school fee and hard already promised to send the school their money within 4 days, this was around 26th he made that promise hoping to get 30th to 1st of next month to deliver the money to them. I don't know if I would say devil came into him and he spent all the money maybe he was trying to see if he could increase his salary before going home, and he ended wasting the money and came back home empty handed.

How did we know, it happens that someone very close to the family saw him while entering the gambling shop it was then the information leak out to family that he spent all his salary in gambling shop. If you look closely to the nature of the lady over there you would see that she's frustrated and don't know what to do either to go home or continues staying there. God help our gender!

It's a difficult question because we don't know all the circumstances. Here you can talk both optimistically and pessimistically. The pessimistic way of reasoning is understandable to everyone, but the optimistic one may sound like this: despite the fact that the woman is elderly, she has a hobby and, most importantly, free time and money to do it. She has an interest in life and enjoys it 
I see no reason why this can't be true. Usually people with financial problems work two or three jobs and we don’t see them in such places.
In general, until we know the specific circumstances, I see no point in judging the situation.

It seems to me that people of different ages, social status, religion, etc. are interested in gambling. I would not be surprised at all if I met an elderly woman in a betting shop. Not only does she have the same gambling rights as many other people.... which means it's not unheard of. It could well be that she was betting at the request of a friend or family member and was upset because now she has to bring someone some bad news.

Anyone is free to gamble, that is their own decision and not mine, if I can't help them in any way or means to make her life better then I must be very careful of not being a hindrance to what makes her happy, there are some people who have completely find gambling as a means of joy to them, they gamble to get rid of dulling moments of their life, try to avoid being worried about life and get more excitements in gambling than focusing on life huddles and cuddles, but I'd she's not gambling the way it is expected, I may be forced to step in advising her.

Yes, it is true that maybe we can only let it go because after all they are old enough and have a mature mindset so that it should be able to make them at least consider and know about which is better to do and which should be avoided. For the initial stage, I understand that there is nothing wrong with giving them a little advice that gambling activities are not good overall especially if they are already in old age which should spend time with pleasure and enjoy it with children and grandchildren at home instead of suffering a lot of pressure as a bad impact of gambling.

If indeed all the advice is really useless and cannot change anything then obviously leave it alone, they have their own decisions, it's useless even though we have tried to care for them but they themselves don't care about themselves all of that will be in vain, and maybe they will only stop when indeed the bad effects that can really traumatize them experience in their gambling involvement. For the issue of whether or not it is comfortable, it is clear as you said that it is not at all comfortable when seeing the elderly involved in gambling, it is concerning especially if they are one of our family members.

You are right about your initial reaction as it should involve asking the mother what exactly is going on. My answer was more focusing on a kind of emotional reaction I would have and my emotional reaction would be that I somehow don't like to see my mother gambling. But it also tells me that my mother would probably think and feel the same when she sees me gambling. I guess it is like holding a mirror in front of oneself when we realize we do not necessarily like the behavior of someone else while we ourselves are doing it. Could be considered an important lesson.

There is no law stating that gambling is for the young or for men only. So that leaves me to a simple and straight forward answer. Which is yes. I will be comfortable seeing my elderly mom gambling as long as she is not yet, and addict and she is gambling responsibly. If on the process of gambling she got lucky and won very big in it. Big to the extent that she does not have to gamble anymore, and she is rich. Will you not follow her and enjoy the riches?

Instead of getting disappointed when you see your mom gambling you can teach her the best gambling options and also teach her how to play safe when gambling. Especially to know when to stop gambling.

No one will feel comfortable or worried if they find out that their mother is a gambler who has been gambling for a long time. They will try to make their mother stop gambling because it is no longer appropriate to do so, so their children will try hard to convince their mother to stop gambling. We don't know what will happen to a mother who often gambles because it could also be related to her health or finances. The mother may lose her money in a short time, which will affect her finances or her health will be affected because she has experienced losses from gambling. Moreover, older people should realize that gambling is no longer the place to seek pleasure or to make money because there will be many problems that can arise from gambling.

If I see my elder relatives gambling, I would really be worried. But not because they gamble (they are adults, they make their own life decisions, I have no right to forbid or manipulate their lives), but because they have turned into gambling to solve financial problems. If they gamble just once or rarely, then it clear that they do it for fun (but that is also a tiny problem, that instead of searching fun in gambling, they should search for having fun win activities with family or close people). If they gamble for big amounts and often, then there is something about money. And it is my duty to help them, than they would search for solution in gambling.

In my opinion, it's best to stop if you're still gambling in your old age, because even if it's just for fun, it will cause losses later, but what you say is true, if it turns into an addiction, maybe that's understandable, but what you have to pay attention to is don't until he loses self-control which makes him addicted to gambling because this is not a good thing, even if the aim is just to have fun, but every once in a while he might feel annoyed with his gambling which always loses, and this triggers them to become stressed.

if they gamble once a day, maybe they can be said to be addicted, even though the goal is just to have fun, and if they do it every day, even if only once a day, in my opinion, it could have an impact on their thinking and behavior, which could be changes, therefore in my opinion it is better to limit their gambling, don't gamble too often and always remind them about the big risks that will occur if they become addicted to gambling. because if that's what makes them happy then it will be difficult to make them aware.

It wouldn't be comfortable if I found my mother gambling like the person in the picture.
From the picture, an elderly woman says you come to a gambling place to gamble traditionally, not online.

For me, it's not a good sight even though it was done of his own free will. Even if an elderly woman wants to gamble, then using an online betting site will get a different assessment.
Instead of not knowing how to gamble online so he comes to see a betting agent, he can ask someone else he knows to teach him if asking for help from a child is not possible for him.

Gambling is for people who have a history of unhealthy illnesses, especially people who have heart disease and high blood pressure, except for healthy people without a history of any disease after being examined.

I would be very worried and not at all comfortable if my elderly mother was still actively gambling, especially since she deliberately came to a gambling shop just to fulfill her desires as seen in the picture. I don't want my mother's habits to make her depressed, her mind disturbed by the defeat that befell her. Due to frequent trips to the gambling shop, household work was neglected and she also didn't have time to take care of my father.
People her age are no longer worthy of betting in gambling places, especially if she is an old woman who has big responsibilities at home. As a child, I always sent money monthly to my mother so she could spend more time at home instead of having to work to earn money herself.

Every individual is allowed to gamble, both male and female are allowed to gamble as gambling is a form of entertainment. The only time I'll be angry with my mum gambling is when she's not gambling responsibly and she has become an addicted gambling. If she's addicted, she'll be using money that was supposed to be used for other things to gamble. She might use money that was supposed to be used for cooking to gamble and she'll lose all and become frustrated.

If she's not over gambling, she is not addicted and her gambling is responsible, I'll be comfortable with her gambling. I might follow her to the game shop sometimes so I can keep my eyes on her to make sure she's not gambling irresponsible as that's why her gambling activities will become dangerous to her and her family. Some mother don't have self control and it can make them become very irresponsible.

Maybe if that happened to my mother. I would strictly forbid it because gambling in old age will increase her blood pressure and this is very dangerous for her health. As a child who really cares about his mother's health condition, of course I will forbid it and it's better to be at home doing more useful activities or watching TV at home because even though I gamble I won't let my mother gamble, let alone gamble carelessly. Especially if she doesn't know what it is before what about gambling is the same as it is just a waste of money.

Indeed, gambling can be used as a medium of entertainment for elderly people, especially if they meet at a gambling table and meet old friends so that elderly people will continue to gamble even if their money is tight, but I don't recommend this to my mother because after all I will entertain him in other ways or give him enough money so as not to make him gamble.

Let them have it. They know so well that they will be losing money to gambling, but they continue in doing it thinking that it might be their lucky break that time. I wouldn't feel any sympathy to people who know full well that their actions could potentially harm them or anyone around them, especially if they faced the consequences. It's just another human making poor life decisions and getting the results of what their actions are. I'd certainly not feel comfortable seeing someone in distress or frustrated because they lose, but I'd say I'll be fine with it.