Topic: Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling? - page 11. (Read 1373 times)

Firstly, my mother in this context I believe is way older, knows better and has had a past I may know nothing about in totality.
If I should see her gambling, I of course would be worried but it is to inquire as to why she is doing so, that would be my initial reaction. Perhaps she's bored or needs urgent cash for some problems I know nothing about or it has been a long addiction I never knew about.

Secondly, I have seen matured women or mothers play lottery games and even stake bets because it is quite cheap to play and it wouldn't be a loss to them, unless they bet big hoping to win and them run into loss.

At first I thought I have a quick answer and opinion so to say, but the more I thought about it, the more I ran into issues. I believe I would not like it if my mother was a gambler and I would see her handing over her bets in a store. I know it may come across as discriminatory, because who says that my mother likes that I am a gambler sometimes? It's weird though, it feels wrong although it is quite the same whether she gambles or I gamble, it is just a subjective opinion. My mother plays the lottery sometimes and that in contrast feels quite normal, but in essence it is gambling.

If necessary I will monitor it and make it stop gradually. Because it would be very difficult if you immediately told him to stop playing. I know what addiction feels like.

The importance of monitoring is that we can find out how much money he uses for gambling, and whether it has an impact on the family's economy. I know that even if it were my mother, she was born first and knew everything before me, but if it was a vital matter for the common good, I would be dead-set on monitoring her and telling her to stop, that is my responsibility to my mother.

Honestly I will feel ashamed, but thankfully my mother never sits well with any form of gambling, she believes that gambling belongs to the devil and working hard belongs to be creator of humans, she always despise gambling, she believe that gambling is for the weak.

Either old or young, don't rest all your shoulder on gambling, those who created casinos want to give few people a chance to make money, but the most favours being to the casinos, it's better to only gamble if you can afford to lose the money, do not go into gambling when you have some responsibility to solve, don't engage in gambling thinking it's your source of income, having a job is far safer than risking your money away in a casino.

In my country there are many people over the age of 50 who get involved with lotteries and to date I have not seen cases in which they report that someone elderly has committed suicide because of the lottery. My opinion is that as a lottery ticket costs a very low price, people in my country, even when they buy a lot of tickets, do not harm their finances in everyday life. but in my country there are also many young people who are involved in sports betting and casino games, such as aviator games, and many young people in my country are committing suicide because of aviator games, I have not yet seen in the newspapers saying whether anyone old man in my country played aviator and committed suicide afterwards

Now if you asked me what I would do if I saw an elderly person playing, my answer would be that I wouldn't do anything since I'm not related to the elderly person, I don't know the elderly person and even if I were a relative or friend of the elderly person, I couldn't say anything. because it's his money and he has the right to do whatever he wants with his money and in casinos there are no impediments, there are no laws that prohibit elderly people from playing, so there would be no way for me to stop elderly people from playing. To avoid conflicts with the elderly person's relatives, I wouldn't say anything. It is up to the elderly person's children to observe their parents' behavior and intervene when they see that their father is not on a good path and therefore take action. If the elderly person does not have children, then other relatives must pay attention to the elderly person and therefore take measures if the elderly person is not behaving well in gambling games.

it is not a problem to gamble until you are old, because there is no prohibition that old people cannot gamble. but what is worrying is that old people usually have illnesses which can recur when they experience constant stress or too much pleasure. by continuing to gamble, it could trigger the disease and it might get worse and lead to them dying on the spot. so if someone is old, they should reduce gambling at their vulnerable age because prevention is better than cure and it is better for gambling places to provide regulations that monitor older people who play at their place to prevent bad things from happening to them.

My father is a gambler and my grandfather was a gambler too, I never worried about them while they are gambling because I know that they are responsible gambler.
I know they are responsible gambler because I knew that they are gambler since I was a kid and there was no time when my family was in a financial issue because of gambling.
I have no idea if it is about my mother or even grandmother because it is still an uncommon thing to see woman do gambling in my area although there are some (mostly adult).
Maybe I'll be worrying if I see my mother play gambling game because I have never seen it before

My parents used to play bingo, but after they closed that betting place they stopped playing... and they were playing with a really small amount, I guess it was more entertainment and hanging out with other people than real gambling.

I agree with you, they have the right to gamble and to spend money as they wish as long as that activity doesn't cause any problems. If they are responsible and they are enjoying why would we even say something against it? I wouldn't like someone to approach me and tell me what I can or cannot do with my own money and time if I don't hurt anyone.

Very odd but they do really visit out into these places yet gambling is never been that a gender focused type of thing, it is really just that unusual we do really find out women to be into these places.
If it turns out that your grandmother is really that going to the place on placing here bets then its not really that bad but it cant really be that avoided that we would really be having those worrying
since we do know on what are the impose risks that it could really be giving, this is why it cant be avoided for us to be having those kind of reactions because we dont want for them to be ending up
on losing too much on gambling on which we know that if you cant be able to control yourself then you are really that bound into those wrong decisions which it might really be that leading
to addiction.

For me it's normal to see an elderly woman gambling. My concern would be only regards the environment she is in. There are gambling shops which are mostly frequented by men where I live, so I wouldn't feel comfortable seeing an alone lady there, especially when the shop isn't solely focused on bets, but it's also a pub. So the environment is really heavy and sometimes vulgar. Not the kind of place I would like to see my mother attending to.

It depends what kind of gambler she is. If she is familiar with gambling since a long time and has never showed any addictive or harmful behaviors to herself, I wouldn't bother she is gambling as part of her distractions. There wouldn't be any reasons to worry about losing money, since she has her budget for that reason, and negative emotions are unlikely, as she is a long term gambler and gambling has always brought her exciting and joy emotions.

But that is my reality. Maybe in your country things work in different ways, due to personal challenges, difficults and financial barriers being tougher. If for some reason you think your mother or any other woman you love shouldn't be gambling, you have to explain her the reasons why you think so, and rationally you can reach an agreement.

It might seem strange to see a woman making predictions for placing bets. But maybe that's a normal thing to happen in some places.
The important thing is that they know that they are old and should no longer need to place bets.
But we can't force them not to stop placing bets because that's up to them too. They can gamble and place bets if they feel they can still control themselves and their ego.
But if it were my parents, I would be very worried and would force them to come home because they are no longer suitable for gambling at their age.

Just as we know, that women don't actually like gambling like that's but that doesn't mean we cannot find some women actively involved in gambling, what we should be concerned in this situation are two, the first one is that if men are not exempted from gambling, women also should not be left out, we both have equal rights to have fun, secondly, as long as the woman can cope with gambling and not get things being compromised, then if she can also have a means she can rely on for gambling fund, she will definitely needs money to gamble and also take care of the house, but if she's just starting, the very first time she will loose a match will be a surprise on her.

So you will supervise your mother and know her gambling activities? She is not your child but mother. Even if there is someone that you have power on that is gambling, the best is to advise the person and not to be wasting money on gambling. On the picture that we saw on the OP, it is clear that women is with a betting agent and that is not a good representation at all. It would have been better if she is doing it online privately with no one knowing. But as for gambling, I think a mother is enough to know that gambling should not be done with huge amount of money, but in what we are going to discuss together, I means my parent and I, it would be my advice that using low amount is what it should be for gambling.

The world of gambling is tough 🤣. I really know how it feels to lose when betting, and how frustrating it is to lose money, and it can even change your mood. Of course, if there are relatives or even family who are involved in gambling, I will supervise and advise them not to overdo it, let alone make gambling their livelihood.

Every son or daughter will be worried, you don't want any of your family to be addicted to gambling, addiction causes loss of money and contributes to the deterioration of health I will try to talk him out of gambling and make him understand that he will lose a lot more money, family relationship, and people will lose respect her, all the whole family will ask her to at least moderate her gambling not to the point that she will stay the whole day to gamble and she will allocate a lot of money even coming from the budget of the family.
I'm sure his heart as his mother will listen if the whole family pleads and asks her to stop or moderate her gambling.

I will be worried if a saw my mother in a gambling shop, first because it's not a norm in my country to see elderly women who are into gambling, talk less of being seen in a gambling shop, second reason will be concern for her health. Most elderly people can not withstand shock like young people, a lose can give her emotional breakdown or worse high blood pressure, which can lead to stroke. Although it's quite common to see elderly men who enter gambling shops to bet, and they're not really frowned at, I guess because people perceive gambling as being a masculine thing, they believe that gambling should not be for ladies.

I feel so scared and terrible anytime I walked into a gambling shop and see an old person gambling. It makes me feel that such person failed in life because they should be relaxed and enjoying at that stage of their life. The failure will be both to them and their children or relatives. Unless the person is an addict that will not stop gambling even when everything is going fine. People like this are in the minority though.

If I have this level of resentment for old people gambling, imagine seeing my mum or relative in that situation, I will really be depressed. I cannot even imagine it because it will also affect me psychologically.

Will I be comfortable if I know my mother is gambling, or will it be okay for me if my mother is gambling? Yes, first of all, we can't do anything about that. Remember, they are our mother or parents. Maybe try gambling back to their days, and we can't just stop them, but of course we will have a reason to stop them and to limit them when we see that gambling doesn't bring good things to her or if I see that she is wasting too much money on gambling.

Why would I feel uncomfortable when my parents gamble? I will limit or stop them; it's my responsibility as a child to help them and stop them from doing things that aren't good for them. Based on the photo, an elderly person is playing or betting. It's normal for the elderly to gamble, but yeah, I see frustration in the gambler, but we can't judge them right away because she has already lost a lot of money.

Grandma used to gamble, but only occasionally, mom is the same way. They only bet on the lottery and its variations, as they don't engage in other types of gambling like card games. I don't worry about their gambling habits because they only spend a small amount, and they're not addicted to it. It's their right to gamble, as long as it doesn't cause problems or stress. But have you ever asked them why they gamble? They might have their reasons, maybe they're just bored or something. Of course, the hope of winning or hitting the jackpot is always there.

If I were to see an elderly woman gambling, it will not make me worried. Although comfortability differs from one person to another. I would probably be amused because I seldom see and elder woman gambling in a physical casino establishment. And the comfortability by seeing her will be based on how knowledgeable and how responsible she is while playing. For instance, it will make me really agitated if she's the type of gambler that is aggressive, impulsive, and has a hot temperament which could cause her to say awful things and even disturb other players. But if she's just minding her own business and doing what she finds joy into, I wouldn't mind. We have our own matters to attend to anyways. As long as she isn't hurting, or stealing from someone while betting and playing, then it's all good.