Topic: Would you quit gambling for a friend? - page 3. (Read 1137 times)

It's rather common when a group of friends are introduced to gambling gatherings that at least one of them will end up addicted. I've seen it on a few occasions. However, I don't find it necessary for the rest of the group to quit gambling, especially if they have full control over it and it isn't causing them any issues. Certainly, they shouldn't encourage it when he's in front, but eventually his compulsive behavior will lead him to start borrowing money and going into debt in a mere attempt to recoup his losses, a common mistake or misconception compulsive gamblers have.

The whole group quitting, although not necessary, is unlikely to have an effect; he has a mind of his own, and he's free to gamble with or without his friends. They need to assist him by seeking out a professional; otherwise, he'll end up screwed before he even realizes it.

That's the point, though one or the whole group of friends become ready to sacrifice their game nights and gambling activities when they are together for the friend who is vulnerable to gambling and might get addicted if they do it more, it wouldn't make any sense or change his mindset when his friends aren't around anymore because they definitely don't live together and the person getting addicted to gambling will still have access to gambling when he is alone.

So it's not about what friends do when they are together, but it's about how self-aware each one of them is so that no matter what they do when they have a get-together, they should have enough patience and self-control they don't make a habit out of the activities they have done together as friends.

Not all of your friends or even you would definitely be doing such sacrifice, if ever they would really be leaving out gambling then it would be temporal since they could easily dumped you down and play on their own
on which we know that making up bets on your own could be still possible even if you dont let your friend know on what you are doing. Only a few would really be having those kind of symphathy on the time that you are on such tough situation but most of them wont really be caring up into your condition and would really be just that definitely be that sticking into their own routine with or without you.

This is why we cant really be able to make out those conclusions that friends would really be there in our side on the time that we are on such problem.In this case with myself on which
i wont really be that still so sure that i would really be that quitting up my betting habits just because one of our friends did fall out into addiction?
It would really be just that depending on you but much sure that not all would really be having those insights.

Yeah that's true, true friends will really criticize you especially when they see what you are doing wrong and when we have a friend like that, let's appreciate it because that kind of person is rare nowadays. Sometimes there is nothing wrong if we listen to them because it is also for our good.

It's rather common when a group of friends are introduced to gambling gatherings that at least one of them will end up addicted. I've seen it on a few occasions. However, I don't find it necessary for the rest of the group to quit gambling, especially if they have full control over it and it isn't causing them any issues. Certainly, they shouldn't encourage it when he's in front, but eventually his compulsive behavior will lead him to start borrowing money and going into debt in a mere attempt to recoup his losses, a common mistake or misconception compulsive gamblers have.

The whole group quitting, although not necessary, is unlikely to have an effect; he has a mind of his own, and he's free to gamble with or without his friends. They need to assist him by seeking out a professional; otherwise, he'll end up screwed before he even realizes it.

A true friend is only there by our side when he knows he needs to remind you if he sees that things are not going well with us. And that thing is to give and make us feel truly blessed.

A friend cannot dictate to a friend who is also close to him, but only to feel true concern for a friend who is considered a friend. So we still have the final decision to make if we follow the advice of a friend of ours.

Of course I stop if it's for my friend's good, but that's not necessary because our friend can of course access it at any time if he wants, it requires close supervision, only self-awareness is the most important thing.

That's the point, though one or the whole group of friends become ready to sacrifice their game nights and gambling activities when they are together for the friend who is vulnerable to gambling and might get addicted if they do it more, it wouldn't make any sense or change his mindset when his friends aren't around anymore because they definitely don't live together and the person getting addicted to gambling will still have access to gambling when he is alone.

So it's not about what friends do when they are together, but it's about how self-aware each one of them is so that no matter what they do when they have a get-together, they should have enough patience and self-control they don't make a habit out of the activities they have done together as friends.

Of course I stop if it's for my friend's good, but that's not necessary because our friend can of course access it at any time if he wants, it requires close supervision, only self-awareness is the most important thing.

So I heard a story of some acquaintances that in their friend group, some person really got addicted recently.
At first it was just fun and game, they would sit together and play some slots together in a big screen with some 10€ or so for as much as this would last them with small stake spins. And this is something they would do on big occasions. Only when together as a group and only for big days like birthday parties etc.

But the thing is, unbeknownst to them, one person in their friend group was really compulsive. So in the course of a few months, he became really addicted. He would spend much of his own money from his salary on slots and sports betting, eventually losing most of it regularly every month. Then on nearly every get together he would ask his friends to chip in so they can play slots this time in his account. Every time asking for more significant amounts too.

This guy hasn't caused any trouble to his friends but it's a worrying situation to see him waste most of his salary every month... So now the other guys were contemplating to quit their poker playing hobby because it was really affecting their friend negatively. And they had a somewhat regular get-together to play poker with very small stakes just for the fun of it. It's a petty that they might have to abandon their poker games but to them it's either that or abandoning their friend and worsening his compulsion.

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

If this particular friend is a compulsive gambler, even they stop this bonding as friends, he will likely find ways to continue this habit since he's the type who is already hooked in gambling. Stop playing for a while is a little sacrifice and a good decision. However, that doesn't mean this friend will also do the same. Chances are, he might continue playing in other place with different companions or doing it alone. Nevertheless it's really sad to see someone started playing to have fun but ended up being an addicted just because he don't have discipline to only play in moderation.

No, not unless he had a good and convincing reason to ask me to quit gambling.

Just because he is my friend does not make his reasoning correct. And he would have to convince me of that reasoning in the first place, so I would consider it at all. Because I do not enjoy being told what to do unless it has good reason. A lot of people exist in the world and each has his own morals and ways of living. Some people in this world want to be able to tell anyone what to do. But that is not right. Everyone has to be able to make their own, informed choices. They can try to talk to them and get them to see their side, but that is it.

I also think that things are like that, that's why I don't like to stop playing for a while and it's necessary only so that my friends can heal and not suffer, in fact all of us, as good friends, should Doing this type of sacrifice, not just for a friend, I believe that this can be done for any person as long as they are not suffering from the greatest dangers, it is something we should not do.

Much more if someone is severely addicted, they are less likely to quit their habits for the sake of someone else because they are mostly selfish and can care less on the people around them, especially if it was only their friend but if it was their family there might still be a chance that they will change. IDK but quitting gambling with a friend can sound like dying for a friend, but who the fuck they are or how special friends are for us to do that?

What I only know is that friends are usually the ones who can influence you to do a bad habit and this is the reason on why our parents are angry with us and they want us to stay away from our friends.

Of course I stop if it's for my friend's good, but that's not necessary because our friend can of course access it at any time if he wants, it requires close supervision, only self-awareness is the most important thing.

As far as I can imagine people get addicted to gambling because of many reasons. If a person is lonely most of the time without hanging out with friends and spending time with family then that person can become addicted to gambling. There are many such people.  A person who likes to be alone most of the time, once he starts gambling, he gradually becomes completely addicted to gambling, and later faces various problems and family disturbances.