Topic: Would you quit gambling for a friend? - page 7. (Read 1126 times)

In my opinion, it would be better if I showed him some concern by telling him that his behavior is unacceptable and that he shouldn't play longer.
For example, I could tell him to take a break, or we could decide as a group of friends to go on a trip, vacation, or even just a picnic as a way to bond rather than go to a casino to gamble.
Personally, I wouldn't give up my gambling hobbies because for me it is part of my recreational activity and it does not affect me. Still, I'm only taking a break so that my friend can focus on something other than gambling or perhaps taking up a new hobby.

Think about what the word friend means, and what is the difference with the word buddy? Buddies hang out together and have fun, and that's where it ends. When it comes to something serious, when it comes to trouble from which you need to pull a friend out, only friends will remain next to him. Friends should not be afraid to tell him to his face that he has a problem that needs to be treated. Just tell him that he should not come to such parties where games are present.
The choice will be your friend's. But instead of collectively quitting games, you can help him with a specialist who treats gambling addiction.

It's easy, if the whole circle of my friends agreed to do it then I'll just do what they do but 100%? No. We can revert our attention into other games like playing computer games where we can enjoy and that might help that poor friend of ours.

It could be quitting temporarily or just reverting attention. As long as there's a help for that friend of ours then I'd love to do it until he comes back to normal.

But I don't know how long I can hold to into helping him but if my other friends feel guilty with the influence. A reminder will come by and I'd just leave a disclaimer that we're not there to help him forever.

I don't think there's any need to change anything for that friend. People will become logical thinkers as time goes by. The one who starts the addiction is himself, not anyone else.
We cannot control what other people want to do, even if we try to limit it, there are still many ways for them to gamble.
Do you want to spend your time just wanting to cure your friend of addiction? If the question were for me, of course I would refuse. I have no moral responsibility to do that, it is his right to gamble as long as he wants.

The group of friends is somewhat feeling a bit of guilt for contributing to the addiction of their friend, I think I would be willing to do something else just to sway this friend away from gambling as it's not good seeing a friend struggle. It's not such a bad attempt to try providing a solution to make this friend quit for it's becoming serious already.

What sort of just for fun could turn his life into a mess because the group introduces him to it. I'm sure some may disagree about the decision but what good does it do to a friend when he spends his money out of control on this addiction and I mean what are friends for?

Why would I quit gambling for a friend who is addicted to gambling and ruined his life?
Will it give a positive effect to my friend if I quit gambling? Will he lose his addiction once I quit? The answer is NO, am I right?
As a friend, we can just tell him what is the best thing to do so he can (at least) reduce his addiction.
One of the first things we can do is just dont talk to him anything related to gambling, do not tell him if we are still gambling.

I think I would be willing to do that for a friend, yes. It is not like someone would be completely giving up on gambling because of a friend, they are just quitting gambling in a social context for the sake of the mental and financial health of their friend. Also, I would talk to him and call him out on his addiction and let him know he needs to sell for professional help for him to face his problems.
You know, when someone goes through gambling addiction is very easy for them to also feel tempted to try drugs or alcohol to peace their depression and self-loathing feelings, those people did good on stopping get gambling instead excluding their friend, otherwise he would have continues to gamble because of depression and anxiety even among other people who are not actually their friends. It is better for all of them to switch the gambling entertainment of their social meetings to someone completely unrelated and still fun, like playing videogames or even dancing (if they are into it), during those meetings their friend could even realize not all in life is gambling and it is possible to continue to live without wagering money. On the other hand, it is a very different question if one would be willing to completely quit gambling (not only the the social aspect but all aspects) for the sake of a friend. Some won't be able to do such sacrifice.

Definitely. You should stop showing any sign of gambling if you have a problem with compulsive gambling problem. It’s like your friend have a liver failure and addicted to cigarettes yet you keep smoking with him when you get together.

If you are a real friend, You will consider what’s your friend problem and if your activity will be affecting him badly. I have a suicidal friend before and we always become positive when we are around him until he recovers. We never talk about anything that is related to what is giving him stress. It’s very easy to stop this gambling if you really love your friend in fact you can play online to make it discreet to your problematic friend.

Bad things have happened and in this situation there really must be changes made, one of their friends has been affected by the decision to gamble together unknowingly and clearly now everything has happened and his friend has entered the addiction phase to spend his entire salary every month. On the other hand as you suggested, the group should really change their plans, they should divert to other activities, there are many other things or forms of entertainment that have no risk but are fun. But I think there is a more important issue that should be resolved first, which is to help their friends who are affected by gambling by agreement of the group in whatever way they think is reasonable. After all, this is a shared responsibility and of course every problem must be solved together.

if he is a good friend, yes of course I will be willing to make sacrifices with him, I mean if he is someone special to me, but if not I will let him be because it is not an obligation, because sometimes it will cause problems if we reprimand our friends even with the aim of which is good, so why should I bother taking care of my friend's life

Are they together 24 hours per day? You could still gamble when he's not around if you know to yourself that you are just fine unlike with your friend. You have a jchoice to hide things from him if you know that he could be triggered of some of your activities. I understand that guilt might be running on his mind which is where this idea came from but in reality, we do always have many options in every situation. Why would you stop something which you enjoy just because your friend is not doing the same thing, on the same field of activity? Always prioritize your happiness than with others. There's no need to give up your friendship as well. Just don't let him know al of the things you are doing because you have the rights to do so and that you are having a valid reason as well.
Also, how sure are we that he'd do the same thing if we happened to be on his situation? Some of us are just too kind to sacrifice that much even your source of haappiness when it comes on other people's regard. But once we think of the same action being reciprocated to us, reactions differ. Everyone could engage to gambling as long as they have the means to do so, excluding minors, but regardless of your circumstances. If you became addicted into it, then be aware of your fault first and have yourself be helped by professionals and not just pity from other people who are just minding their own.

I will do the same when it comes to your enjoyment and gambling activity as long as you are on the safe side gambling I will not quit gambling just because I have to show a friend that we need to stop gambling so he will not become addicted and become a good influence to him, I'll have a talk with him and to his family, because it's the family that needs to influence him into stopping gambling, a friend is limited to what he can do he can only offer advice but his family should be the one to step up and take action so he will be cured from gambling.

From what I understand, the addicted person did not get addicted on the few times that they do have a get together poker game. He got addicted on his own, which means he has being gambling on his own without their knowledge, and this was why it took them some time before they discovered that he has become addicted.

Therefore, if his friends choose to give up gambling, for his sake, the addicted gambler will still be gambling on his own and what they planned to achieve, which was to help him from his addiction will not be achieved, which makes it not worth sacrificing your pleasure for.

I will not accept that suggestion, because it is only the addicted person that can determine to stop gambling on his own, for some reasons. It is better to still gamble with him but always advise him and see how you can help him out, or seek help for him from somewhere.

Every situation has a solution, but I don't believe quitting your gambling activities for a friend will necessarily solve their addiction problems. Your decisions should consider the type of friendship you have with the person, the seriousness of their addiction, and whether they genuinely want help and are willing to quit.
Supporting a friend with an addiction can be tough, but you should seek a solution that doesn't negatively impact you. It's important to show care and support for your friend in a meaningful way that demonstrates your solidarity with them.

The only rime I would quit gambling entirely will be if it becomes a problem to my family especially my immediate family, asides this I will only continue to make adjustments as much as it suits me because I feel allowing some One else's habit affect you as a friend is mostly by choice so if you don't have that strong will not to go ahead wallowing in something you could just avoid and prevent then that's totally on you. If I find out a friend is beginning to get addicted to a habit that was supposed to be an occasional habit I will rather quit that friendship or avoid when such that I wouldn't frequent around them no morethis is because they may Start appearing to me like they lack discipline and self control.

Once I sense thst you lack any of this as a friend from the sake of my mental health rather than quit or please you I will adjust before I get influenced by your habit while trying to help you get better because generally bad habits a re quickly contagious than the good.

It's true, sometimes what starts as harmless fun can turn into a tricky situation, especially with gambling. Not everyone becomes an addict, but that "just a few bucks" mindset can sneak up on you fast, leaving you feeling like you're on a financial rollercoaster.

And yeah, even if your other friends seem chill with gambling, it can still have ripple effects. Seeing someone gamble a lot can make it seem normal, even tempting, for others. That's why open communication is key.

Now, telling your friend to "just stop" might not be the smoothest move. Instead, try a caring chat where you express your concerns, like how their gambling habits might be affecting them. Don't judge, just offer support and maybe suggest checking out some resources with a therapist or specialist who can help navigate this stuff.

Friends are friends, gambling is gambling, so these two things have different relationships, gambling is more about the character of a hobby and addiction, friends are more about the character of the soul, for me I stopped gambling based on a friend's advice or not feeling bad, that's a different problem.

For me to stop gambling, based on friends, for me it doesn't matter, I don't follow that advice, in fact I dare to say that friends are still friends, don't bother looking for food, that's my principle in dealing with friends and stopping gambling.

The other guys quitting their gambling games of fun for the addicted guy isn't a remedy for his compulsive acts, the guy should be confronted as you OP suggested and let him know clearly that NO, this is not how you all started and what yours plans are, you should give him accounts of his lost in his salaries and ask him if he is comfortable of the losts? Ask him how you would devote himself for a continues lost? Because as much as he continues this way, he would continue to loose.

Let him know that initially you all where relaxed on playing for funs and not profits, ask him what his aim in staking so excessively with his salaries are, if was it still for the funs or he is chasing after profits? Infact, you must make him feel like he has ruined his life in the sense that he can no more achieve great things are much as the rest of you people does and then he would have these words and otherwise thinking that would trouble how mind even without your notice.
He can keep playing the one of the occasion and fun type with him and ask him how he feels about it and compare it to the other side which he extended to visiting the casino and after betting he comes back home with a disappointments and broken emotions as a result of his unbearable lost While gambling.

I would prefer to avoid any risks that could interfere with or influence gambling activities for the worse.
like the case you described, indeed as friends we will not feel that we have a problem with the behavior of a friend who addicted but if it is done all the time for me it will be detrimental to ourselves because of course we will spend money on him betting and we could be affected becoming an addict gambling if you continue to associate with an addict.

so if I have an experience like that I better avoid it for the common good as you said as a friend should be the best and for me the best just to avoid and let him regret his actions and immediately seek help to cure himself of addiction and I will be one the person who would help him if he could have the self awareness to recover from his gambling addiction.

You can't find me in the midst of friends that are gambler, and I don't take anyone along to become a gambler like me, in fact, I have always advise against it, because if someone turn into a gambler because of me and they get addicted, I will be the one to blame, by his other friends and families.

You don't want to carry someone along in this gambling thing, you will hate yourself, it has happened to me in Bitcoin investment, and they forced me to carry them along, I should have just told them to do their own research themselves, but I thought I was doing them a favour, it later turned out that Bitcoin started dropping and they panic, saying their money is shrinking every day, in the end I told them to sold if they can't withstand the loss.

Till today I am not in good terms with them, and they failed to realize their own mistakes too, calling Bitcoin a reap off scam coin, since that time I've vowed to never do such favour again, so I believe that gambling will even be more ugly.