Topic: Would you quit gambling for a friend? - page 4. (Read 1196 times)

His own money, his own rules. Why should you be all concerned about where he spends his salary? It's PRIVATE. I found it uncomfortable if people around me, even though they were my friends, were monitoring where my salary went but on the other hand, I'm a responsible person outside of gambling.

The story is not complete and only focuses on how that person spends the money. We should also know not only about how the money is used by that person but also how he is when not gambling. What if he keeps on being a responsible person for their family despite spending money on gambling? What if he can still cover his usual obligations like monthly bills even with a gambling activity?

As a response to the thread's main topic, NO I WILL NOT ADJUST AND GIVE UP MY GAMBLING HABIT FOR THE SAKE OF MY FRIEND. Why should I?

As far as I can imagine people get addicted to gambling because of many reasons. If a person is lonely most of the time without hanging out with friends and spending time with family then that person can become addicted to gambling. There are many such people.  A person who likes to be alone most of the time, once he starts gambling, he gradually becomes completely addicted to gambling, and later faces various problems and family disturbances.

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Would you do the same for a friend?

I am not a regular gambler instead I only gamble for fun and yeah some chance to win so there is no way
that I needed to quit gambling because of anyone as i am a controlled human that will never fall from any bad gambling effect.

So I heard a story of some acquaintances that in their friend group, some person really got addicted recently.
At first it was just fun and game, they would sit together and play some slots together in a big screen with some 10€ or so for as much as this would last them with small stake spins. And this is something they would do on big occasions. Only when together as a group and only for big days like birthday parties etc.

But the thing is, unbeknownst to them, one person in their friend group was really compulsive. So in the course of a few months, he became really addicted. He would spend much of his own money from his salary on slots and sports betting, eventually losing most of it regularly every month. Then on nearly every get together he would ask his friends to chip in so they can play slots this time in his account. Every time asking for more significant amounts too.

This guy hasn't caused any trouble to his friends but it's a worrying situation to see him waste most of his salary every month... So now the other guys were contemplating to quit their poker playing hobby because it was really affecting their friend negatively. And they had a somewhat regular get-together to play poker with very small stakes just for the fun of it. It's a petty that they might have to abandon their poker games but to them it's either that or abandoning their friend and worsening his compulsion.

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

One reason why some gamblers fall into addiction is because they think they are alone. They never share their stories nor ask and listening other's opinions. I'd see some people get into addiction because they are out from socialization, they feel like gambling makes them happy rather than being into friends and family gatherings. This is why I see how important to keep open to all advice and value their opinions because those people around us usually observe and notice what happens to us.

If stopping my gambling activity will help someone to overcome their gambling addiction it sounds right and sit well with me, I can do it but I promise you that I won't land in such position in the first place, someone can't become a gambling addict because of me, t I don't keep such friends, I know people who are into gambling, we grow up from the same state and that's it, but I don't keep friends that are into gambling because I doubt they can control themselves like I do.

I only know how to be a responsible gambler by myself, I can't promise that others will be like me, and I don't want to risk it, normally gambling can be a reason why I won't become a friend with someone, because many of gamblers are too reckless, in the case of gambling only you knows what you are capable of, bringing someone along won't end well.

So I heard a story of some acquaintances that in their friend group, some person really got addicted recently.
At first it was just fun and game, they would sit together and play some slots together in a big screen with some 10€ or so for as much as this would last them with small stake spins. And this is something they would do on big occasions. Only when together as a group and only for big days like birthday parties etc.

But the thing is, unbeknownst to them, one person in their friend group was really compulsive. So in the course of a few months, he became really addicted. He would spend much of his own money from his salary on slots and sports betting, eventually losing most of it regularly every month. Then on nearly every get together he would ask his friends to chip in so they can play slots this time in his account. Every time asking for more significant amounts too.

This guy hasn't caused any trouble to his friends but it's a worrying situation to see him waste most of his salary every month... So now the other guys were contemplating to quit their poker playing hobby because it was really affecting their friend negatively. And they had a somewhat regular get-together to play poker with very small stakes just for the fun of it. It's a petty that they might have to abandon their poker games but to them it's either that or abandoning their friend and worsening his compulsion.

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

People who can stay away from gambling addiction are those who are willing to listen to advice from other people, you are right that good advice will bring us much better, although you don't have to stop completely as long as you can still gamble responsibly, I think it will never be a problem, but don't because you can do it consciously, being able to protect yourself from being addicted to gambling doesn't mean you can get rid of gambling addiction, everyone will definitely fall if their life is without a life support or the people around us who always give advice.

But as long as you listen to other people's advice, I'm sure it will be safe. I also often hear advice from people close to me not to gamble excessively which can eventually make me addicted. If I feel like I'm out of bounds, that's why I try to stop. gamble for some time so that it will come back again after things get better, after all it is important to protect yourself from gambling addiction, especially since gambling addiction is very difficult to cure, it is natural to listen to advice from anyone for our own good

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Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

So I heard a story of some acquaintances that in their friend group, some person really got addicted recently.
At first it was just fun and game, they would sit together and play some slots together in a big screen with some 10€ or so for as much as this would last them with small stake spins. And this is something they would do on big occasions. Only when together as a group and only for big days like birthday parties etc.

But the thing is, unbeknownst to them, one person in their friend group was really compulsive. So in the course of a few months, he became really addicted. He would spend much of his own money from his salary on slots and sports betting, eventually losing most of it regularly every month. Then on nearly every get together he would ask his friends to chip in so they can play slots this time in his account. Every time asking for more significant amounts too.

This guy hasn't caused any trouble to his friends but it's a worrying situation to see him waste most of his salary every month... So now the other guys were contemplating to quit their poker playing hobby because it was really affecting their friend negatively. And they had a somewhat regular get-together to play poker with very small stakes just for the fun of it. It's a petty that they might have to abandon their poker games but to them it's either that or abandoning their friend and worsening his compulsion.

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.