Topic: Can Gambling affect your relationship? - page 14. (Read 3810 times)

Many people keep talking about gambling addiction, they keep talking about how gambling has destroyed many families, but when you look at what has happened in the real world, like what has happened in our families, we realize that gambling is not Bad luck is responsible for most of our families' problems. Sex addiction and alcohol addiction have been the biggest problem in destroying families. Just look at the fact that currently few people get married and stay married to the same person until death. Just look at the fact that nowadays it is difficult to find honest people who do not cheat on their husband or wife.

This is because a large majority of people are addicted to sex, this is increasing a lot, let's look at sportsmen: whether they are football players or boxers or MMA fighters, they are capable of consuming alcohol and having sex as soon as they finish fighting or playing. many women, and society sees this behavior as normal. The laws are not tough on alcohol consumers who keep causing car accidents and killing people. the laws are tough on drugs, but even with this the rich often go unpunished, while the poor are soon arrested

society ignores sex and alcohol addicts, but they criticize drug addicts, and they criticize gambling. as if the greatest evil was gambling alone. while drugs, sex and alcohol are also causing a lot of harm to people who abuse them. It's difficult to understand people, in my opinion there's nothing wrong with gambling, even food when you overeat, it's bad. so people should play in moderation

In my own opinion, gamble can only affect ones relationship with his family and friends if he he gives room for such thing to happen and that's because of the fact that as adults, we're supposed to be in control of whatever we are engaging ourselves with instead of allowing the excesses in our engagements to take full control of our lives. A gambler is supposed to know the best time he can use for his gambling activities and never spend more than the stipulated time on gambling in other to still give his time and attention to people around him.

As long as each of the partners is honest to the other since the very first date of their relationship then nothing can make their relationship go ashtray or affect it for the worse,as long as full mutual trust is established like I said since early in the beginning.

When you have kids then,as I have a small daughter only 3 years old now every time I am about to do some stupid thing like trying to deposit more chasing the lost amount I think about her and I find the strength necessary to quit the gambling session right away as children are the most important thing we have in life.

So in this context everything is based on trust.

Just the same with your argument, there are different opinions and we can't really tell if how a person will respond to this kind of situation,
most of the time if a person is already attached with a carry addiction.

Something that you can't resist. Most of the time, it ruins the relationship between family not alone with the wife or your partner but also those other
people that surround you.

But I go with what you said, prioritizing your family and not to let gambling to dominate you.

Why do you say dilemma, family interests are more important than everything and the decision is certain that we have to stop gambling without any consideration, if it is related to other problems it can still be communicated to continue gambling based on the rules and limits in gambling, but if the demands of my partner and children ask me to stop gambling then I have to make decisions for my family.

Everyone will respond with different opinions regarding the above issues, but family issues should take priority over gambling, they may hide their gambling activities from their partner or reduce their time for gambling.

Of course, when you are in a relationship, your woman will demand more of your time. Specially if she has a career as well, she doesn't need that money specially if you are in a serious relationships. And in the beginning if you hide your gambling addiction to her, and then later she find it out, then that's where the problem might exists. Still though maybe you know how to deal with her and explain everything so that she would understand and that your relationship will not be affected negatively.


But that is the thing though, since she already know that you are into gambling, maybe she will nag you to stop about it. And so it's really up to you on how you are going to respond about it. Whether you are in serious relationship, or that you are already together, married and have kids. It's really important that you make the right decision so that you can keep the relationship. So it's going to be a dilemma for that gambler and it's a very hard decision to make.

Hard to negotiate with a woman who demands full attention while they don't also provide full attention to you. It's always a mutual relationship, it's not just that woman receives the money all the time with them doing something in return.

It's true that gambling can affect relationships whether their partner notices you don't give your attention to her anymore or not. The kids of the couples that they have to look after are just more important than freedom from doing things they like.

I think that you should not hide your passion for gambling from your partner. There's nothing wrong with it if you sit down and talk about it. If your wife or girlfriend loves you enough and is ready for a constructive dialogue, then everything will be fine. I understand that most people, when they hear the word Gambler, immediately imagine that this person is addicted, but in fact, according to statistics, there are not so many addicts among gamblers. Therefore, if you explain everything perfectly to your beloved, then they will embrace you and support you, monitoring your psychological state.

That's the best thing to do as a gambler so since is obvious that most persons doesn't like gambling the best way is to gamble and keep everything secret from them, especially if it has to do with family, most parents doesn't allow there children to gamble because of the fear of addiction which we no that addiction is something nobody should subject themselves to because it doesn't end well with gambling addiction.

Perhaps keeping secret about our gambling activities especially our winings from friends is also good for security reasons because so many people has ran into trouble because of always sharing wining secrets to friends.

Being addicted is indeed not good, but becoming a pathological liar in order to further perpetuate one's addiction only can make things worse in the  long term.
To me and perhaps to others, when comes to personal problems and struggles, it can be more harmful for a couple the fact there was continuous lies being said than the addiction itself.
There is a good chance of the couple staying together and supporting each other if the person suffering the problem is honest from the beginning and admits it, instead of sacrificing the trust the have for each other.

Would anyone of us feel comfortable spending years with someone who could lie to us at anytime? I am not sure I would.

For me there are many outcomes when you involve in gambling even though you have already built your your family. Unless you didn't lie your family cause once you are laying your family and you've got caughted the one thing for sure the trust they gave your will destroy in short it will affect a lot in to relationship and that's the reason why other people got separated to thier love ones. Because being addicted is not good.

This may be right to some extent.  While a successful gambler may enjoy some kind of peaceful relationship,  the peace is a short term one. At some point,  your partner will not only be Interested in the goodies that comes from gambling,  they will demand for more and that is attention.  Most gamblers pay little attention to their partners. Where their treasure is, there will their heart and attention be. It becomes worst if he is a gambling addict.

Women like money , yea. But no woman who is really committed  to the relationship will tolerate a man that gives her little or no attention.  What is love without attention.  Aside romantic relationships, gambling addicts pay little or no attention to happenings around their environment except issues and topics relating to gamble. Gambling can actually affect relationships whether the gambler involved is successful or not.

If a gambler is afraid that people will think negatively about his gambling, he can hide his gambling activities from them so that problems arise later. But those who hide their gambling activities must have good self-control so they don't experience gambling addiction problems. Many gamblers have experienced this problem of gambling addiction, so they must really be able to control themselves so they can gamble comfortably. And it's best that while he's gambling in secret, he can set clear boundaries so that he doesn't use a lot of money, which could cause him to become addicted to gambling.

A gambler must gamble in secret if he believes that his gambling activities may lead to harm if someone else knows about them. Because there are some people who have negative thoughts about those individuals involved in gambling. Many gamblers who are addicted to gambling and their families are ruined. I know a gambler who often take money from his girlfriend for managing his gambling money. He lied and took a lot of money and his girlfriend also give him. suddenly when she found out that her boyfriend was addicted to gambling, she made many requests to get him back and eventually the relationship was lost.

Of course I agree with you that gambling has cost so many relationship a lot because normally most women are not fan of gambling due to the reason that gamblers are mostly the people who are very irresponsible.

But however gambling has done most relationship and marriages more harm than good, the one I witnessed was a man his wife told to stop gambling due to the fact that they hardly feed well and the little they have the husband will use it for gambling , so when she tried so hard to stop the husband and he refused so she had no option but to leave the man. But however I believe there are gamblers who are leaving very wiell with there wife due to the fact that they have control over there gambling habits and doesn't allow himself to be overwhelmed with gambling as such affecting there family.

I agree with your opinions on this
When someone is gambling responsibly, I don't think gambling is going to have any negative effect in his relationship with his people around him because he's gonna be time conscious and also know the ideal time to gamble and when to give people around him the necessary attention they need.
It's a gamble addict that  will always dedicate all his time, resources and energy in gambling which in return will affect not just his relationship with people around him l but also with anyone that he's got business deals with. These are the reasons why every gambler have gamble responsibly.

That's not really a justification as to why you should keep gambling even though it's severing or damaging your relationships. Of course it's different story if you are winning all the time or that you are responsible in your gambling habits but that's not the rule, it's an exception. Can you do what you're talking or you're just saying that because you think it's right because I feel like you make it look easy to sever bonds to justify gambling as if that's what's happening to every gamblers out there.
Not on point dude, as much you and I agree on what @Kelward said, that's not really the case for every gambler out there, what he's saying is the ideal thing you can do when you're gambling while at the same time justifying it when that's not really the case. I don't know about you guys but if a person who is really disciplined, is also smart enough to not start gambling to test his/her discipline.

This is very much on point.

A gambler that is responsible to his duties and obligations will less likely have a problem regarding his gambling routine and to the people around him, and this includes his connection and relationship to the people important in his life. If someone is disciplined enough to practice moderate and responsible gambling, there will be no spouse that will complain and be irritated about the gambling practice. If the needs are being met at home, no wife will be a nagger and there will be no argument. So as easy as that, you should be responsible to your financial obligations to your family and to yourself so you will avoid trouble.

Additionally, you should practice allocating just enough time in gambling so you could have some spare for your family and friends for bonding and relaxation. Having enough time for your family will make them feel loved and cared for and if you lack hiving it to them, they will feel neglected resulting to negative effects to your relationship.

You know what they say that success is everybody's friend but failure is a bastard, so if you're a gambler and you're making fortunes from gambling, at the same time making out quality time to be with loved ones, believe me you'll hardly have a problem with their relationship. Especially when you're responsible in meeting up with your financial obligations without making any excuses. I think that the reason why some gamblers might have issues in their relationship is mainly because they give excuses in their financial obligations, if there's nothing to show for all the efforts that they put in gambling.

Another reason why gambling can affect relationships is because it is associated with addiction and people who are addicted to gambling don't always heed to reasoning, they're main focus and happiness is on the gambling that they're addicted to. In the long run the habit can affect their relationship because of the priority put on gambling over relationship.

I agree, that is the sad state or negative effects of being in social media and a influencer, you might have a lot of followers and friend, but in real life - 0 and you don't know how to get along the way with other people too.

And there is this case wherein I saw a lot of relationships in social media getting broken because their time is just spend to make videos after videos and in the end they just got burn and just decided to call it quits.