Topic: Can Gambling affect your relationship? - page 14. (Read 4383 times)

Gambling actually becomes a problem when the gambler does not manage his time well. I do not think the spouse would complain if everything is being done at the appropriate time. You do not gamble during a conversation,  at the dinning table,  during family outings and bonding. If the gambler is able to schedule his activities well, the spouse has to respect that too. This way, everyone is allowed to live their lives without losing anything.

Relationships need to be nurtured, so if we spend too much time doing something then due to the limited amount of time we have each day we will need to sacrifice part of our time on different activities, and one of the activities that suffer the greatest hit when this happens is the time that we spend with our partners, a big mistake as even if this can be tolerated for some time, if this becomes the norm then it will not rare that our relationship with that person becomes strained.

Of course you wouldn't have that kind of challenge that husbands whose wife don't gamble and it is worse when the wife also don't like it too because there is difference between not gambling and don't like it and of course we can imagine what a woman can do in such aspect when she doesn't like something, she avoids it and everything that associates with it.

Your wife being a gambler herself makes things easy for you because she will also understand with you when you lose your game because probably she also would lose in the same game if she had same bet as you did. No doubt that you guys would bond very well because you guys are already same feathers and are flocking together

Financial instability yes. Emotional turmoil must also be linked to it. If our partner allows us to play gambling, we should only follow their advices. These includes stopping at the right time whether we are winning already or losing. As for the social isolation, I think this rarely happens to me because my wife is also a gambler so whenever I play I just do it beside her. Bonding between couples is important and it's amazing that gambling can be used for it.

You already said the benefits of gambling and maybe some husband knows what they are doing. If their partner are still restricting them, maybe they can decide to leave them. I wouldn't say it's wrong because woman are sometimes over too.

That is the truth because if both partners has the same interest and make it known to each other it makes it easier for both partners to help each other to manage properly while gambling and be able to correct each other when they are becoming overbearing and excessively engaging in gambling.

Even if it is only one partner that gambles it is necessary to let your partners to know your activities to be able to offer some help when you may become helpless in some situations,  but I will not likely be gambling if my wife does gamble also.

Gambling and any other time-consuming activities whether productive or not could affect our relationships, it's we who will be time-conscious and try to do the right thing at all times. No matter how you like a thing, try not to be addicted or engrossed heavily with it to the point that it would be affecting other parts of your life including your relationship. It's not only gambling that should be moderated in this regard but everything especially if the relationship is important to that person

While we talk about relationships in this context, it's equally terrible to the point that it affects more than that in the lives and affairs of some people. . But that should stop before graduating to something else that would be too difficult for them to control.

Having similar views about gambling might provide support for the gambling they do. But it will still influence your partner when you experience defeat. A person with a strong temperament may not be able to accept his defeat and will continue gambling, so if his partner advises him to stop gambling, that person will not accept it and prefer to continue gambling. Experiencing a case of gambling addiction can cause many problems for the gambling addict or his family, and if it spreads to his family, it will be difficult to resolve it. Most cases of gambling addiction will end in divorce, and if they are truly divorced, it is their children who will bear the moral burden.

Well, i do agree with your input, but for record's sake, i personally do not think its ideal to compare a casual friend's relationship to that of marriage relationship, this two are very far from each other, In marriage, we are talking about family, that is the husband and the wife, if this two should both engage themselves in gambling without any of them keeping their gambling activities away or hidden from the other, i personally believe that their gambling activities will not have any course or means to destroy the marriage relationship, gambling can only penetrate and make such relationship go soar if any of the partners is gambling in secrets, not wanting the other partner to know, even though he or she knows that the other partner is also gambling, then in such a situation, i think those husband and wife don't love each other and this will give gambling a chance to possibly destroy such marriage relationship.

Just because you and your partner have the same perspective on gambling, doesn't mean your relationship wouldn't be affected. Same with you, I have seen so many cases of gambling addiction which caused having a broken family, and some of the factors that lead to separation Included the loss of trust, emotional disconnection, and the presence of abuse. It is crucial to address gambling-related issues to protect and preserve relationships, encourage responsible gambling, and ensure that individuals affected by gambling addiction receive the help and support they need.

Even if they have similar views about gambling or a partner is both open to gambling, it still could affect their relationship as it affects their lives. I witness many relationships, not just those between husband and wife, but even friendships. Because of gambling, one of your friends could become greedy in terms of money. I remember seeing a topic here in the gambling section where, because of gambling, one of their friends started avoiding them as that friend won a game. Which shows how a person can show his true nature just because of money. Gambling exists and is valuable because of money. Even in gambling, money could become a root cost for many crimes and affect any relationship, but that's reality. We are all hungry for money, and we are all circled around money. As with gambling, gambling could affect many things, even a solid and pure relationship.

If someone gambles too much and too often while they are in contact with other people in their environment or their family, they can experience many problems. We know that in gambling, we will not win too often. At least for most people, they will rarely get that win. And if they lose, they can become frustrated and when they meet the people around them, they may get emotional if those people say something bad to them. That can trigger arguments between them, damaging their relationship and making it difficult to repair. That is why, if a person gambles in a casino, he must be aware that his gambling may affect his relationships with other people, especially when he loses a lot. But if someone can be responsible with their gambling, their relationships with other people will also be fine and nothing will happen to them because they can still maintain their relationships even though the gambler may experience losses but the losses are still within reasonable limits.

But if they feel that when they gamble, it can have a bad influence on what is around them, they should start reducing their gambling activities and not use money as before. They realize that there are effects that can arise when they win or lose and even though it is normal for them, they should start reducing their gambling. We cannot jeopardize or take risks with our relationships with other people because we are in daily contact with them, while we do not gamble all the time and only gamble periodically. That's why we have to be able to control our emotions after we finish gambling. Most people will lose self-control after they finish gambling because they are still thinking about what happened to them before they finished gambling.

I have always said that friendships are one thing and business is another, there is a saying where I live that says: "Clear accounts preserve friendships" this totally applies to what can be done in multiple scenarios, where basically things can go the same way. hand that if a friend has the account in common with another in a casino, they must take care of it even if it were their own, this to avoid that if one loses the other loses it and plays in an irresponsible manner, in fact in these cases it is always good do or say that to keep things right you should do everything as much as possible so that the other person knows each move, in fact if a friend joins the casino session it would be great if he could record the entire gaming session so he can see how is that it was done, in case you lose, know that it was fulfilled with the usual plan or the plan that they have agreed on how to play, that is what I would think is fine, because that is very delicate when there is money from two people, because that lends itself to many fights.

Whenever there are things like this, what I recommend is that everyone has their own account and that way there are no fights, because if there was someone who made a mistake or assumed it and lost their part, then nothing happens, it is the responsibility of that one person. I operate when there are things in society that means having to fight, that's why I say a friendship should always be strengthened, it should never be put in danger and even less because there is no money involved, as a good player I have been suggested friends who put money in and who I play, even so I tell him no, because if I lose all that money I will be embarrassed, then that will become a very strong pressure, and I will not want to damage anything, neither friendship nor being seen with someone taken advantage of or something like that, I prefer to give them the link to the casino and I will tell them how to do it so that they can do it themselves and if they lose then it is their responsibility. and not mine.

Even if a person is losing in a gambling but still committed and responsible to his obligation, he will hardly have a problem with his family.  The key word here is being responsible and has noting to do about losing and winning.  There are lots of scenario where people are raking millions but still have their family broken.  Why?  It is because they failed to meet and do their responsibility and obligation to their family.


Habit will always affect the relationship if it is not handled well.  There should be balance of everything to have a harmonious relationship.  If balance is disturbed then it will affect the relationship between family.  Like when a person gives more time in gambling than his family.   Even not addicted, the family member that got less attention will surely get a negative feeling towards the gambler and thus may affect the family that can cause a break up or split-up.

Nevertheless, openness is the only thing that a gambler should observe. There can be problems with his wife only in two cases: if he loses a lot of money, or if he spends too much time gambling. In both cases, this is already an addiction, and something needs to be done about it. It needs to be controlled somehow. At the same time, of course, the language between partners is important, the gambler does not tolerate harsh words, for example, if everything is bad with addiction, then psychologists prefer to use words like "problem habit" and not "addiction" at all.

Many people keep talking about gambling addiction, they keep talking about how gambling has destroyed many families, but when you look at what has happened in the real world, like what has happened in our families, we realize that gambling is not Bad luck is responsible for most of our families' problems. Sex addiction and alcohol addiction have been the biggest problem in destroying families. Just look at the fact that currently few people get married and stay married to the same person until death. Just look at the fact that nowadays it is difficult to find honest people who do not cheat on their husband or wife.

This is because a large majority of people are addicted to sex, this is increasing a lot, let's look at sportsmen: whether they are football players or boxers or MMA fighters, they are capable of consuming alcohol and having sex as soon as they finish fighting or playing. many women, and society sees this behavior as normal. The laws are not tough on alcohol consumers who keep causing car accidents and killing people. the laws are tough on drugs, but even with this the rich often go unpunished, while the poor are soon arrested

society ignores sex and alcohol addicts, but they criticize drug addicts, and they criticize gambling. as if the greatest evil was gambling alone. while drugs, sex and alcohol are also causing a lot of harm to people who abuse them. It's difficult to understand people, in my opinion there's nothing wrong with gambling, even food when you overeat, it's bad. so people should play in moderation

In my own opinion, gamble can only affect ones relationship with his family and friends if he he gives room for such thing to happen and that's because of the fact that as adults, we're supposed to be in control of whatever we are engaging ourselves with instead of allowing the excesses in our engagements to take full control of our lives. A gambler is supposed to know the best time he can use for his gambling activities and never spend more than the stipulated time on gambling in other to still give his time and attention to people around him.

As long as each of the partners is honest to the other since the very first date of their relationship then nothing can make their relationship go ashtray or affect it for the worse,as long as full mutual trust is established like I said since early in the beginning.

When you have kids then,as I have a small daughter only 3 years old now every time I am about to do some stupid thing like trying to deposit more chasing the lost amount I think about her and I find the strength necessary to quit the gambling session right away as children are the most important thing we have in life.

So in this context everything is based on trust.

Just the same with your argument, there are different opinions and we can't really tell if how a person will respond to this kind of situation,
most of the time if a person is already attached with a carry addiction.

Something that you can't resist. Most of the time, it ruins the relationship between family not alone with the wife or your partner but also those other
people that surround you.

But I go with what you said, prioritizing your family and not to let gambling to dominate you.

Why do you say dilemma, family interests are more important than everything and the decision is certain that we have to stop gambling without any consideration, if it is related to other problems it can still be communicated to continue gambling based on the rules and limits in gambling, but if the demands of my partner and children ask me to stop gambling then I have to make decisions for my family.

Everyone will respond with different opinions regarding the above issues, but family issues should take priority over gambling, they may hide their gambling activities from their partner or reduce their time for gambling.

Of course, when you are in a relationship, your woman will demand more of your time. Specially if she has a career as well, she doesn't need that money specially if you are in a serious relationships. And in the beginning if you hide your gambling addiction to her, and then later she find it out, then that's where the problem might exists. Still though maybe you know how to deal with her and explain everything so that she would understand and that your relationship will not be affected negatively.


But that is the thing though, since she already know that you are into gambling, maybe she will nag you to stop about it. And so it's really up to you on how you are going to respond about it. Whether you are in serious relationship, or that you are already together, married and have kids. It's really important that you make the right decision so that you can keep the relationship. So it's going to be a dilemma for that gambler and it's a very hard decision to make.