Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 25. (Read 3111 times)

Look at the word I Bold, my question is, is the guy the 2 bald men mean there too? if not, it means the guy they're referring to is avoiding with a purpose, AFAIK, people who win big don't want their money to just run out, so, if indeed the guy they're referring to isn't in the gambling house, means he understands about how psychology in gambling plays out.

Have you seen the level of crazy in the world? Some people get really jealous and will kill if they think they could steal the money. Or plan a kidnapping for a ransom.

I don't think I would be too worried about a win line that, but some parts of the world there are more crazy things happening vs where I live.

I've heard of stories like this before. Winning a significant amount of money can change dynamics in ones relationships, and perhaps those "close" friends started eyeing his wealth. They might've begun expecting handouts or treating them differently. Yeah he did win big, but it doesn't mean he's obligated to share his winnings with anyone, not even close friends. Or maybe, his distancing could stem from a newfound sense of superiority or wanting to mix with a "richer" crowd. If that's the case, then it's a good thing for the other two. It's always good to see people's true colors sooner rather than later.

Maybe the gambler thought that his 'friends' will hound him of the money that he won from whatever game he was playing at the time. I mean, most people certainly don't want people around who are only asking for handouts, and so he thought that distancing himself to these people as early as possible will save him from that treatment. IMO, he's not really a good friend, and he only treat these people as gambling buddies and would likely not want to share personal connections with them at all. That in itself is not understandable, and anyone who thinks that that is a good idea would not develop connections that are strong and not only rooted because of monetary reasons.

This is how your life is. People's loving, pleasant, and charming personalities change right away when they get wealthy. They'll start to distance themselves from you since they believe you no longer belong to their social class and that they need to associate with wealthy people instead. forgetting how the friendships were formed in the past without the need for money.

In other words, when a friend leaves because of money, no one should be surprised or angry about it. Instead of being upset or shocked that a close friend has abandoned you because they have more money than you have. Why can't you focus your efforts on being as wealthy as they are, so that no one will feel inferior to one another. 

Well it could be a lot of reasons that we do not know of. Probably those two (2) gamblers that you met did something that made the friend dislike them; or probably those two (2) gamblers only make friends with people who won.

At the end of the day, we really do not know the scope of the story and it is somehow futile to make pointless conclusions based on such little information.

Personally, if I ever win a huge amount of money in gambling, I would only tell a handful of people whom I trust in order to secure my safety and well-being. Who knows, my friends may disown or start to borrow money from me, etc.

Disappearing sometimes may be for security reasons, because getting a big win comes with so much that you may not be able to imagine when you are yet to have such amount. Some friends could automatically turn enemies over night just because they heard you have got such huge amount, they could be so jealous such that they will go out of their way to make sure you don't enjoy your wins.

It's very much better after such big wins give the much you dim fit to your friends and disappear for awhile that way you find safety for yourself and enough space to spend your money wisely and in your desired style, aside your friends the news could definitely spread and unknown persons may stand as a threat to you even without your knowledge, but fleeing is a possible measure to keep safe till when the pressure from your news dies down you can come back and live your normal live but I strongly advise you relocate.

It’s either he badly needed that money for his own family or whatsoever but that does not justify why he need to avoid his friends after winning big amount. If he is a responsible person, he should meet his friends and tell them that the money he won will have its own purpose, and that he can’t share some tips to them. His friends will surely understand that because they all gamble to earn money, and when luck is already there, then he should use the money wisely so as not to see it gone all of a sudden.

Close friends will usually share whatever condition they are in, both joy and sorrow. Meanwhile, fake friends are where they will share their sorrows and leave when they are happy. And money, right, will prove whether you and he are real friends or not.

In this case, whatever it is, maybe the gambling winner has his own reasons. However, avoiding their friends who in fact are considered closed friends is something that is going too far. especially after getting such a large amount of money. At least, giving a treat to a meal or drink while reading and chatting would be much better. And you, as a friend, must know yourself and not ask for a share of the money because after all it is their right. If we are treated, we will feel very happy. That's how it should be.

Sounds like he won a lot of money and is now jealous of his little fortune. That is not a good sign and it usually ends up with the person either understanding how negatively he has changed in his attitude/character or the person will turn uglier than he already has become.

Or maybe they had a falling out/fight? There are many things that it could be in reality, so we cannot tell.

If you want to know the real reason for his behavior, you should ask him, yourself. Everything else is guesswork. And basing presumptions off merely a simple guess is a recipe for disaster.

Obviously, it's just about the money that a friend of theirs has avoided them. He doesn't want to share it with them just because he has won a million in their currency. You know these days that life is totally hard and each centavo counts for some. But for that guy who had avoided his friends, it won't hurt him if he treats his close friends with ice cream or some sweets or any cheap food that he's willing to share with them. Anyway, people are really changed by money and that's a sad reality that's happening to us. But who knows if, after this incident, these three will be friends again as that guy alone will have a hard time finding his real friends if they're totally close enough. While we're discussing that it's easy to share if we win a jackpot, we will never know how we'll react in real-time if we're in those shoes. And those who are not selfish will agree that it won't be painful to share a couple of bucks to treat for food or gift to his long-time friends. Or he can just reason out that he's got a lot of obligations to pay and for sure these friends will understand it as there's no need to avoid them.

well, we don't know the real story here. we can't judge that person the way he behaves after big win. it may be greed or something else. but i won't conclude anything from this story. we don't know the persons involved and how close they were before such big win. he may have very good reasons why he's avoiding those supposedly friends, where it is seemingly implied that he cared for money over his relationship with friends.

Agree on this one and its a normal or common human behavior or nature on which being greedy but there are really that certain extent that you would really be taking all of those things for yourself and doesnt really tend to share even with your closest friend but we know that not all friends or colleagues would really be wanting to shared up with the winning you do have but it cant really be just avoided not to think about those conditions which its impossible that they wont really be tending to ask out for some share even a little. Not all friends would really be like that but majority of them would really be acting out the same on which this might be the reason
on why their friend didnt really tend to come out and do mingle with them anymore.

Some would really be just having the reason for security purposes because we know that once that the news that you have won up big time then it would really be scattering like wildfire specially
on your community on which it is really just that making yourself that more exposed to possible dangers on which it would really be just that so right that you would really be that pausing
on exposing yourself on public because of that potential danger which you might be able to face on.

Money is certainly the best tool to reveal the kind of person you are. If you are greedy, you would want to keep all your money in yourself and not care sharing some tips to your friends. Which I think is certainly a very bad sign that money is everything in you even if you lose all your friends and love ones. Well, this is not new anymore but in most cases, those who try to be greedy in this kind of situation will certainly regret it doing later on. Remember that money can easily vanish like thin air if you don’t know how to use it wisely. And when that happens, you have no one to turn to because you lose your friends while you’re busy enjoying your millions.

To me it seems rather easy to come up with some reasons why...
- The comradary is overvalued by the friends, expectations might come from that. These close friends might just gamble together, but when one wins big, the others may expect the spoils to be shared, even though there was no investment, loan or actual business involved, they just gambled together and that is all.
- If the winner wants to keep the money they have won, they would probably avoid gambling establishments or anyone who might endorse you to gamble again, especially if you have identified as someone who is vulnerable to gambling and keeping the winnings are of higher priority.

I could remember a similar tale of someone who won in my locality sometime back, he disappeared after the news of his huge win counting to millions, spread in the neighborhood.
It is just the way it is with money. You get to see the real behavior of someone who just won big or suddenly came into millions.

Am sure if you won, you would disappear for sometime too, but with the closeness of such friends, I think a portion of what I have won should be given them, either as a gift item of choice or a sponsored outing or trip of remarkable adventure and fanfare.

If such friends had done something similar to him during their own win, it should be fair what this guy in the story did.

Lol.... There's always a day peeps would realize how Trust worthy Thier close friends are... I just believe that was the day they both had to know what they were doing...
On the other hand, why would you be so daft to expect anything from someone's hard earned winnings?? If they were that close, and the former really valued him, he would have given him a clue on how to bet alongside... anyways, the later might have seen it doubtfully, who knows??

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

That's just messed up maybe the other guy thinks he'll just suck some money from him now that he won that huge amount of money. In my opinion, you shouldn't avoid them or don't talk to them because when you were not having these wealth they're the one that has been there not matter what.

money has the great power to change people and this is something that I have seen happening for many years, for example in my country when people are poor, they sit on the porches of their houses with their friends and even in most cases They make a lot of noise with the music they play, when holidays come, they have parties with lots of people, things like Christmas and New Year and something that means they all get together listening to music and talking and eating, and it's true that the noise that they created irritated me because they exaggerated, but the problem with that is that when one of them got a good job where they were earning a lot of money, then that person, even in their free time, was no longer making noise with those poor friends.

He would take his car and go to a rich beach with his work colleagues, those poor friends of his who grew up with him stay in their houses celebrating as they always did, the most unbelievable thing about this is that the guy who was poor and got a good job , he stays on social media posting photos of beautiful and luxurious places and doesn't post anything else about the places he went when he was poor and with his poor friends, for him it's as if the money he started to have made him superior to his friends and for that reason he must also have rich friends, this is a wrong thought that many people in my country have committed

the case gets worse when they also get rich girlfriends, who also humiliate his friends who grew up with him, the guy, the few times he goes to the neighborhood where he was born and has his relatives and friends, he goes there to humiliate his relatives and friends and the more money he earns, the more arrogant he becomes, but when he loses all the money, those friends of his leave him because he became poor and he goes back to wanting to be friends with the poor friends who grew up with him. I see these cases every year in my country. unfortunately

Money changes people, and gambling money is a reward for your passion and dedicated time to predict or forecast games, and this same gambler may have been losing money for a long time before he won such a huge amount of money, and if he stays and gives his friends money, they may end up not appreciating the small amount he gave them because they know the actual amount he won.

To prevent such conversations, he should buy a smart phone if he doesn't already have one, and then learn how to gamble online. He will have privacy and will be the only one who knows when he wins and when he loses if he bets online.