Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 19. (Read 3111 times)

      -  I also get the point, on the other hand, somehow, because sometimes we have the mentality that we think that our friend's behavior is like that, so we prefer to avoid them. Now, in a situation like that, if I know that the friends I'm with are not really close to me, I would rather keep quiet and not make it obvious that I'm avoiding them.

And apart from that, I will tell them the value of the win first, and if I tell it for sure to someone who knows that I trust completely and who is considered family and important to me,

It is the avoidance of loan requests from family members and close friends that most gamblers does try to stay away from them whenever they win big and that I think is absolutely understandable judging by the fact that these requested loans aren't paid back in most cases and when they try to pay back, it always ends in big fights and quarrells.
It takes a lot of patience from gamblers before they can win big after several losses and that's why it is very important to wisely put to use any proceed they make from huge winnings . Allowing themselves to be accessed by family and friends after winning big increases the chances that the proceeds from the winnings are gonna be shared among friends and family instead of investing the proceeds.

That guy who won the money just showed his true self. Using his friend for his own convinience and abandoning them after the success. Money can be gone in an instant but true friendship last forever. I believe that true friends is more valuable than millions. Though not all has the same mindset as mine and we can't blame that friend because it might be his true nature. Luckily I don't have friends like that, in fact they helped me in making me join in their hussle which makes us all benificial with each other.

 
In same vein $1million is a big money to an average US citizen that's how 1million in any local currency would seem big to a citizen of that country to which that currency is designated irrespective of exchange rate difference in the international market.

 It doesn't have to be in dollars for it to worth his reasons for the avoidance.  Giving loans to family members or friends is a risk that any one would like to avoid because the ending part about getting back that loan in 10 out of 8 cases has never ended pleasantly for both parties.

For it's not difficult to get back a loan from strangers as you will be willing to apply every force necessary to getting it back without a feeling of sympathy for them but for family and friends sympathy and affinity usually gets in our way while trying to device forceful means to regain the loan from them.

Yes, as I said above, it's better to hide it than to tell people or friends around, because of course at least there will be ugliness that they might talk about behind saying that we are one of the stingy friends. whether it's a misunderstanding or whatever the point is, there will definitely be ugliness in friendship because of problems that should not be a problem.

True, I also like to look first at the character of the friends around me, if indeed they are very good to me in any case then at least I will definitely leave a little money from the victory to give to him. Unless like you said, if they have a bad character and lack solidarity in friendship then I will definitely hide it, don't care about them, for sure I will behave well to people who are also good to me and know the sign of gratitude.

When you have friends who gamble, then it is obvious that they will discuss about their losses and wins. No matter how sincere is your friend, he will never want that he loses in gambling and you win more than him. The jealousy factor exists between friends and this is natural. The best thing we can do is to avoid telling friends about our wins.

Yes, we can tell them about our losses, because in that case , the friends will usually show sympathy to us but the relationship will never get hurt. However, if we want that we remain at upper hand among friends, we would not tell about our loses, as in that case, people may think that we are inexperienced and do not know how to gamble.

At least he knows his friends who are used to borrowing money from other friends. So he can prevent experiencing the same incident as his friends. He didn't need to tell many people about his win. It will only attract people to come to his house to congratulate him.

He was indeed able to refuse his friend's request to borrow money. But most of his friends wouldn't want to know about it and they would say that he was stingy and wouldn't lend them money. That has happened to many people so often that everyone already knows what to do if they get a lot of money from anywhere.

Only friends who are truly friends will understand and will not use the opportunity for their own gain. They will only congratulate you without any intention of borrowing or asking to celebrate their win.

There are few reasons that I can think of
1. He don't want to give away money to his friends.
2. He distance himself to refrain spending his won money to gambling again.
3. Or maybe he just want to leave everything behind to start a new beginning with different people particularly to upper class.

If this gambler is a true friend, somehow he will share or celebrate this special moment with his friends. Unfortunately, he just shows his true color for acting that way and it's because of money.

yes, maybe there is a reason why the person left his friends after winning big, maybe he was afraid that his friends would borrow some money from him so it is very likely that he avoided him for some time because sometimes money can cause problems and money can be the cause of breaking the friendship circle if we experience it misunderstanding.
and it is possible that the person celebrates the victory with his family or gives the winnings to his wife for daily living needs or it could be that the money is used to open a business so they avoid their friends so that the winnings they get are not just spent on having fun.

It is possible that way, he probably knows the behavior of his friends that if he wins his friends will ask for a loan that will never be paid by them. He might receive some reason such as you have won a big amount, why not disregard my loan. But on the other hand, if he considers them as his friends, why not deny the request for money and use some reason to avoid loan requests? It's better than to avoid your friends completely.

Simple, he is avoiding his friends as they might be constantly asking him for money to bet and it was just your assumption that they are close friends, they might not, they are might just be a gambling friends and these gambling friends won't gonna help you financially when you lose. These same friends won't gonna find you if you don't have money or did not win big, they are just looking for that lucky guy to ask for money from him, outside of that there are no other reasons.
I'm pretty sure they are just gambling buddies, and I certainly do the same if I were on that lucky guy's shoes.

They wont really be that so dumb if you do make those loan to be paid which would really be your main reasoning specially if the amount is big then it is really that safe to say that it would really be just more than enough for the said loan. You cant really blame them on the time that they would be saying that you are just simply avoiding them because you are afraid that they would really be asking some bonus or some money because you have won something significant. You cant really be able to avoid those kind of approaches considering that we are talking about money on here.
Reactions would really be that so common or be known and if you are someone who is selfish and totally dont consider out even giving some small amounts then its your choice. Its your
money then its just that your right that you will really be having choices whether you would be giving one or not.

One things for sure that on the time that you would really be making some approach again into your friends then you would really be that ignored just because
you have ignored them earlier. Not all friends would really be coming after for the money because there are ones who dont really care that much about on the money
you had won.

Giving in can provide a solution but often if we give in, they will feel more than us so there is an impression of intimidating us. I also sometimes give in, depending on the situation and conditions. But if I can't give in because I prioritize family, I won't tell them anything and it's better to keep it a secret so that misunderstandings don't arise between me and my friends. But I'm lucky. All my friends understand each other. And we support each other too because that's what we need when one of us has problems. And when it comes to money or winnings in gambling, we share with each other because we feel we are nothing if we don't have them, our friends who we have built over the years.
 
I agree with you. By looking at who our friends are, we can choose who to tell so there are no problems later. Especially if this is a personal problem or about winnings from gambling because often when it involves money, a person's character can change drastically and we will no longer be able to recognize it. But if we know who is near us, especially our friends, we can share stories of winnings or whatever we experienced with them so that they will also be very happy if they find out that we can win at gambling.

It would have been nice to know how much money is what that person won in terms of dollars as that will give us a clearer view about his reasons for avoiding his friends.

Because if that amount is high in terms of dollars, it is possible the reason he is avoiding them is that he does not want to listen to the loan requests of his friends, as he will have to reject them directly, probably putting an end to the friendship right there, or he will have to accept the request, and most likely he will never get his money back.

The loan will be the reason for the gambler to use of the avoid of the friends after big win from the gambling.The gambler friends consider the win of his friend as like their win to the gambling,So most probably the gambling addicted friend will ask the money for the commitment to their friends.The gambler friends will use the opportunity to get the loan from their friends.If the friend had repaid the loan to their friend,So it won’t be any problem to the gambler.But if they not paid the money for the longer period,it will kill the relationship between the true friends.So it’s better to avoid such cheap character friends in your life.

They have one saying here if people ask for borrowed money like someone asking you 100 dollar loan,it is better to spend those 100 dollars to give to this so called friend and get rid of him if he doesn't pay rather than continuing your relations with him.The same can be applied to the above scenario,these bold gamblers learned the hard way but learned that this other friend is not what he looked like and what these other friends used to think of him.It is better that he is avoiding them if he is cheap that he won't share a tip with them as is tradition between all gamblers,now if he comes back to them they should be the one avoiding him and keep their relationship in gambling only between them.

My father always says and I quote, "when you become successful, your friend circle will shrink, and when your friends become successful, if you are not successful, you won't be their friend".
I have experienced this in real life, so now I know how the person who is avoiding their friends is feeling. You are a villain in other's stories, and someone else is a villain in your story. From both of their perspective, they are right but when you see from the opposite perspective they are both wrong.
Now imagine this, you are friends with gamblers and you gamble together. So you know how they gamble. Now you have on a big amount of money by gambling. And those friends haven't won anything. When you have the money, people will come to you asking for money for no reason. Even if they have reason, if you don't give them money you are a bad person to them. On the other hand if you keep giving them money they will keep coming back. And being a gambler, it is hard to keep money in your hand if you are an addict.

So I don't blame the man who has won the prize and decided to avoid those who haven't won anything. But it also makes sense not to avoid them and ask before doing so. If he is ignoring them for no reason then that's bad. But it is his personal choice right? So who are we to judge?

This is very hilarious. Imagine gambler's having this sort of logical and cognitive thinking but when it comes to placing bets they become emotional and irrational in their thoughts. Well it is being said that friends of a feather flock together therefore you are not far from the truth. A gambler who avoids his "friends" after a win knows that they are no friends at all. A friend is someone you call to celebrate with you after a win not someone you run away from.

Usually, cases like this are something that normally happens if I refer to my country. however, it doesn't actually have to be as specific as the content of the story in this thread. Before we assume too far, basically we don't know how the friendships between them are, especially those related to gambling. We often encounter cases like this everywhere, especially those involving money. In fact, there are various classic reasons that can refer to why the winner avoids his gambling friends. It could be that they are not close friends as you might assume. or, it could also be that his friends who gathered at the gambling shop also did the same thing before with their winnings. It could also be that when you win, there is no tradition of treating or sharing a little good fortune for your win.

In conclusion, cases like this often occur in society, depending on how we socialize. but suppose, the man who won by deliberately avoiding his friends because of his victory. This could indicate the man's natural character. So, when we talk about capital, especially large amounts of money, our natural human nature will be seen when we have money, especially large amounts.  Money can show a person's personal characteristics, how he uses that money. In this case, I actually can't assume and speculate too much.  in fact, we don't know what really happened. plus, a person has the right to do anything with the money on his winnings from his gambling. Most importantly, he does not disturb or harm other parties, even his friends.

This is usually bad behavior. Why should we hide the fact that we are winning this game, that I have a large amount of money? Let's spend a little and treat our friends. I think this is the most amazing thing. We should remember that when we lose gambling, we have no money to continue. At that time, almost everyone will intend to borrow and be willing to borrow from friends. Then they'll lend it to us.
Why avoid friends when we win?