Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 21. (Read 3099 times)

I think that when people earn some money, they get scared because they see God, so that's basically what happens, they believe that because they have a lot of money, they are more valuable than other people, so other people are not at their level, Which is totally Absurd, what I think is that you can't leave your friends stranded, does money change ? It may be that in some people it does change them, but personally a person should always be very kind, honest and above all humble, because the money runs out, and if the person who earned that money, if not invest it and put it to spending will not give you much, because the basis of this is that you can invest so that you have many more options to win, I would not hesitate to share all the bitcoin I can, but I don't know what others think , as I said before, the sperosnas a Sometimes they believe that because they have a lot of money, the others are less, and that is the worst, life will be responsible for teaching them that what they did is wrong, and that is not done because having money, or what should be done is better for the person. quality of life, not spending everything, Investing , and Above all being the same person, because one day we are at the top, tomorrow we don't know, then people believe that they have God by the beard and that is not the case, things are very Instead, life is the one that has the most Volaitiality, and the one that Sometimes shows you with the goals.

A person like that could simply not be a friend, he was simply a person who was taking advantage of the good will of the other two, or maybe he went traveling, but it is very bad taste for him to avoid his friends, the ones friends can be there in bad times, others you don't know, or money can give you a lot of happiness or make many things easier for you, but it's not the idea that you treat them like that either, because it's very ugly, I think that type of person won't have Not many friends either, because to act like this, it is quite obvious that he thinks only of Himself and that's it, he is Very selfish, in fact there are many people in the world.

You one should make a big win and is not careful, everything will return back to the way it comes without having a tangible record of how the money was utilized effectively, people tend to celebrate with ones when things are rousy and when it became tough they all disappeared, but one will always be left with three set of people if the worst should happen, they are the family, wife or husband and yourself, so when spending the money also, we should have higher priority on this aforementioned personalities because they will always stand by us even at the peak of worst situation and stop making friends without benefits.

Yes, because gamblers are only talented at gambling, they are not very good at managing money, that's why we need a financial advisor when we win big from lottery gambling, for example, sometimes we need a financial advisor to manage our money or if we have friends who are good at managing it, why should we? Avoid friends, paying a financial advisor is quite expensive, but if you have a friend who can be used to organize and manage your money, why not, unless your friend is a gambler, you should not trust him to manage your money.

Gamblers' instincts will usually remain the same, spending their money at the gambling table or just having fun wasting money that doesn't need to be enjoyed by enjoying wealth which will usually just run out in an instant. As you said, it's true and the fact is that many gamblers win big in the lottery but it doesn't take long for their money to run out again and gamblers are poor again.

Hahaha, this is a good explanation and that is why many people may get along very easily or can always show kindness or concern for the people around them when they are just living as they are because there is purpose of being able to ask these people for help or other things.

It is clearly very different if someone already has large amount of money perhaps some groups will disappear and there will only be one or two people who will still be cared about.
However this is an attitude that is not worth imitating because it seems selfish it just that most people probably do something like that and it not surprising if it makes us feel skeptical.

But if the money you get in large amounts comes from winning gambling then it won't last long or will quickly be spent entirely either for fun or to return to gambling.
Incidents like this have happened lot and are common.

This might be true, but you know, there are many reasons why. The reason is not clear, that's why for the sake of their friendship, the two people have to talk to their friend and clarify the reason for the sudden change. Questions in their mind will only be answered by him. They will know if ever he really care about their friendship, if not, considering him as a friend is a waste.

Money reveals the true color of an individual, using it as a reason to distance himself to his friend, he think highly of himself and bad karma will surely hit him.

For a truth, a person's true character is best known when the person has a lot of money or affluence and that's why some people change automatically whenever they win big in gambling.
That being said, some people avoid some of their friends whenever they win big in gambling because if the kind of influence and advice that comes from such friends. Someone who's been gambling for ages and eventually wins big will definitely want to invest huge amount of his winnings on something meaningful and that person is expected to avoid friends that'll advise him to squander the money on material things that aren't gonna be helpful in future to him

He still cares with people around him, but he reduce his circle when he have money.

Before he have money, his priority:
1. Family
2. Girlfriend/boyfriend
3. His friend
4. Other people
5. Him

When he already have money, his priority now:
1. Girlfriend/boyfriend
2. Him
3. Family
His friend & Other people

It's already nothing new because people think there's no real friends because they've experienced to become a royal with a fake friends. So they treat every friends are same and not deserved to get his money.

The very first thing that comes to mind after hearing that story is that he wasn't a true friend and he just needed some people to hang out with and pass his free time because he is most probably avoiding them because he thinks that if he still stays with them, they might ask him for money since they are gamblers as well and we all know that gamblers tend to ask their close ones to lend them money so that they can gamble and repay it back when they have money.

So, I don't see that being surprising really, unless they are friends from a very long time, maybe from childhood, and the guy just ditched them recently because of the big win, but if that isn't the case, I'm 100% sure what I said above is the actual reason why is avoiding the two friends that he used to gamble with.

If someone wants to stay away from gambling after a big win, that's up to him. Nothing in the incident that the OP mentions suggests that the winner wants to stay away from his company so that he can restrain himself from gambling. He may not want to lose the money of his victory. It is not clear that he is estranged from his friends to do exactly. In this regard it is also possible that his friends may not be friendly with him or he doesn't feel safe. As long as he has the cash on hand, he may want to stay away until then and return to gambling later. There are some aspects that no one but a gambler himself will be able to understand why he doesn't want to meet with others.

Money can show a person's true character.
The money that has just been won at the gambling place further clarifies the person's true character, basically he is not loyal to his friends even though he often gambles together, the fact is that he chooses to stay away from his friends when luck comes his way.
Money is neutral, basically money is the same as a knife, it all depends on who holds it. If money is held by someone who is not loyal to his friends, he will walk away when he has money. However, if the money is held by someone who cares about the people around him, he will use the money to help his friends.

But another common thing that I noticed where I live, a friend who achieved a big win was always a source of pride and every time we went out he never stopped showing off his win by watching replays. So far I have not found a single gambler who avoids borrowing from people or friends, because what is often found is fellow gamblers who give each other tips when one of us wins, at least enough to play for 1 hour.

Right and I think also maybe most of them do this because of assumptions like what you said above, they prefer to minimize, honestly I wouldn't say they are stingy but maybe many factors could be the reason, it could be because they have other payments, or for urgent needs or it could be they want to pay off their debts, the point is for their own needs. And well maybe they can also avoid people who want to borrow money, but they prefer to keep it a secret because maybe the person who wants to borrow money is not responsible enough.

Yes, everyone has different reasons why they can do that, or rather hide the winnings from the gambling results and of course that is enough reason that they think it is better to do. But in my opinion maybe it is mixed, meaning between those who are stingy and also with those who really have many other needs that become their reasons.

There were many reasons he couldn't say why he did that. It could be that he wants to avoid people or friends who want to borrow his money or keep his winnings private from those who know him. He can also be so afraid of bad people trying to rob him that he thinks about closing himself off from people he knows. We also won't know the real reason because only he knows.

And all these reasons are normal for people who win a lot of money from gambling and it is known to people close to them. Maybe he wants to use his winnings for himself and his family.

Yes, this is so true, there could be some "friends' who suddenly appear and look for him and ask for some money, a free loader, and as gambler, we don't like that kind of individual because we could have been still in the negative side even if we win huge amount of money because we could have been gambling for many years now and it just so happen that you were able to hit that big win.

But after that, I guess, those who are really close friend of the winner will still be friends after all what has been said and done. And if the other one also have a good win, then he can do shows that, avoid them initially, after all things have settled down.

True, aside from avoiding people who ask tips from him, it is also possible that he is trying to avoid people for his own safety.  Since it was a huge amount of money, some people may be tempted and have an ill-intention towards them just to have access on the money that he won.  I cannot blame the people who think like this since there are really alot of wicked people everywhere.

It is okay to protect his wealth and his family so I think avoiding his "friends" (not mingling with them) is just a protective behavior of the guy.

If the friends referred to were playing gambling together and because one of them got lucky and led to a big win, they were suddenly avoided, I think that for the person who won the big, the attitude he showed to his friends was not good. It seems that when he avoided it, he thought badly of his friends who were also with him at that time when he was gambling.

If he treated the people he was with at that time as true friends, he should have told them that he needed to stay away because of the amount of money he won, and he also explained that I hope they will also understand his situation if the friends he is with are in his situation. But not everyone has the same thoughts.

Not all the gamblers will follow this steps like you mentioned,Some people will enjoy the life after the win with their friends.Because his friends was in the hard times of the gamblers,the discussion of the two friends should not be spread.Because it enable some people to do like this after the big win.The people who had ethics in the business won't be do like this.They will split some money to their poor friend to give loan to manange their loss.

We can only speculate on his actions but people will shut him down or avoid him, we don't want people who are stingy and don't care about people around them, there's no reason why he should not give at least a small portion of his winning unless his colleagues are asking to much, it's not really the money its the friendship they had if they are truly friends, but even if they are not friends the fact that they know each other and they are betting together.

I can understand if the winning is small but if it involves a big amount of money it will not hurt your winning if you give at least 5% of your winning to people who support you, there could be ill feeling on both of them that is why he could not share even a small portion, but whatever reason he may have in not giving it will have a bad impact on his character if they are truly friend and you cannot share a small blessing to your friend what more to other people.

Even if it means on losing some relation into some friends then it wont really be that much of an issue.I do heavily agree about on the winnings that you do have on which on the time that it would landed into your hands then you would definitely be making up some priority on paying up your debts on which it would really be that main priority and this is why it would really be that better that you should really be that wise on allocatiing those funds rather than on sharing it up into some friends just because they have given up some tips on what bet you should be taking. There really some friends who do really have that kind of entitling kind of approach on which on the time that their friend make out some huge win then they would really be having those kind of claims that they are really that
having those kind of shares.

This is why you cant really blame someone to have that kind of reaction or action been made just because the are really that people who wont really be that caring about
relationship with other people as long they could really be able to deal with their priorities on which i dont see anything something wrong with it.

As some have already mentioned I would imagine the reason he's doing it is because so many people are hitting him up for money now that they know he has some, and in his way of just avoiding it all together, it would seem he may be blocking most people out of his life for the time being so he doesn't have to turn people down asking for loans, as it's typically not a comfortable situation. This would be my guess anyhow.