Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 20. (Read 3099 times)

It would be even better if they don't know we gamble, so there is no need to tell them about your gambling experience, whether you win or lose from gambling, so you can enjoy it yourself.

For people whose friends already know that you gamble, and see the character in your friends is very bad when you get a win in gambling, it should indeed be a step that needs to be taken is not to tell it to your friends, it can be told but you should know what your friends will do when you get a win, whether your friends ask or borrow or something else, when you have the intention to tell your friends it should already be a consideration for yourself sir.

True, I think everyone will definitely know about this problem and most of them I'm sure they must have experienced it, as we know money is very sensitive, no matter if it's other people, close friends or their own family, there will always be misunderstandings and of course with talk behind them. Therefore, to be honest, when I experience problems like this, whether it's money from gambling or anything that is definitely about money problems, I always try to give in, none other than I do it because I am afraid there will be ugliness in terms of friendship relationships that should have high solidarity. So by giving in, there will be no excessive problems. Or it's better not to tell them anything, as we discussed above, rather than causing problems, especially misunderstandings, it's better to keep it a secret. I understand they are very enthusiastic when they get the victory but they should be able to think again, if they tell it to many of their friends then surely they will ask for the money, and if you don't want to give it then it's better to keep quiet, from the beginning don't ever tell anything about the victory.
 
Yes, if it can cause problems then you better consider it carefully, none other than for the good of our friendship too. I am the same as you, I also tell the victory to one of my friends who is very close to me, who indeed we have the same thoughts and understand each other. The point is that before I tell about the victory, I will first look at the character of some people, if the possibility of unwanted things can happen, it is better for me to keep it a secret and use the money for my personal needs.

This has often happened to many people where friendly relationships that were previously fine, after dealing with money, everything falls apart and they even become enemies. Money can change a person quickly because human nature can change according to what happens. That's why we have to differentiate between what we need to tell other people and what we need to hide from others. We don't need to tell everything in detail to other people, especially those who are not our family, because that could cause misunderstandings and various kinds of thoughts from them.

Yes, that's what I do if I don't need to tell my best friend anything. I also sort out what I can tell my friends and what I can't so there are clear understandings between you. And to tell about my winnings in gambling, maybe only friends who are really close to me will tell. For the others, I won't tell them about my winnings but I'll buy them food and drinks to enjoy together.

Good thing if you do have that kind of friend on which they wont really be hiding on their own house and never intend to show up their faces on the time that they do make out some win.
It would really be just that a sad part that your co fellow gambler and your friend did really make out such action on the time they win and not on the time that they do lose.
Its really that normal that there would really be some sort of competition on whose the loser of the day and whose the winner of the day on which it is really that something that interesting
if you do have that kind of race specially in between of your friends who do also do some gambling but on the time that jackpot hits then this is where you could really be able to say
whether your friend is a greedy fella or simply that still normal despite of those huge wins. It cant be avoided that you would really be asking out some bonus. lol

Somehow it would really be that understandable that there are really that people who would really flock out and telling you about bonus
on which it makes people to hide right away. 

He probably kept friends as a gambler because they'd be like him, so at times they'd lose some money and cry about it and he'd be able to tell himself that he's not so bad at this, others are also winning, or even better, others are losing more money than him, so it's all good.
I lost $100 today, but Frank lost $500, so at least I'm not at the rock bottom
Also, if one of his friends won big their would be a chance for a celebration, maybe even he could borrow some money from the winner.
That's how degenerates think, so I'm not even a little surprised.

Most likely because they are degenerates amd figures his "friends" will be begging him for money since he has some to burn.  If I won a significant amount of money like that and knew guys I hung with are always gambling I'd stay away too.  Second reason is he probably doesn't want to lose it all.  If he hangs with them, inevitably he is going to jam his money in the middle. And then there is an outside chance he owes them big money

From your story we can conclude why after winning a large amount of gambling he left, it could be because he knew he had spent too much money at the gambling place and this was the first time he had achieved a big win in his gambling. So he didn't want to bother him because he was afraid that if he got close to his friend he would give him money.

Or vice versa, he deliberately distanced himself because he already knew his friend's stingy nature, and he didn't want their friendship to be damaged because of gambling money.

People are assholes… on the other hand friends are assholes too. I didn’t like him avoiding his friends first but then I realized maybe we don’t know the whole story. Maybe his friends were going to ask some “favors” from him. These things happen a lot in real life. I now think we can’t judge him for what he does. Even if his friends were all good people, maybe he just needs some time to plan his future and he is not really deleting his friends for good. Maybe this is just a temporary period. Or maybe… he just doesn’t want to befriends with them poor schmucks anymore. Since he is rich now, maybe he wants to be friends with them rich people. That happens too.

Man, isnt it something when the tables turn and suddenly, winning feels a bit like losing? You're riding high on that gambling win, feeling all king of the world, and BAM! Friends & fam turn into mini loan officers, right? Its crazy. Now, Im all for helping out when you can, but its important to keep the boundaries straight. Friends are friends, banks are banks. Mix them up, and its like pouring cola into your morning coffee. Just a mess.

You hit the nail on the head: the golden rule of gambling winnings is – hush-hush! Keep it under wraps, low-key, on the down-low... you get the drift. That way, friendships stay intact, and your wallet remains safe and sound. Win-win, or should I say, win without any loans?

Ahahahah, the guy was afraid of the taxation of the friends. Such is life, but at least he would have given them small amount so they can use it compensate themselves on their loses of the day. And now that he has done them this they would be very angry with him. And one thing the friend should know is that, a million naira is just a small chance in this present world because the cost of living is very high and the money can not carry him to a long distance. Though if he is wise, he can use it to start up a business and start making income from there or he can use it to invest in bitcoin and wait for the bull time to come.

Why that gambler isn't communicating with his friends is entirely up to him. But the other two friends who are discussing about the winner they are also not lying. There is nothing to be done if other friends perceive it negatively, but it can also be thought of positively. Since the fact is not clear, no comment should be made without knowing. But it is absolutely true that if one gets money it does not take time to change his color. However, it is also possible that the gambler will be devastated by a big win. In terms of relationship breakup is a harmful aspect but in terms of personal freedom he did not do anthing bad.

Money has destroyed many relationships because a friend loaned money to a friend or a relative loaned money to a relative with the mutual agreement of repaying back the loan within a stipulated time but they consciously felt unconcerned and uninteresting in paying the loan for reason best known to them.

Because of the close ties that exists these people feel you will do nothing about it if they don't pay that's why I don't give out loans to people I have any form of affinity with. If am to give you any money I'll do so with the intend of it not been a loan without you knowing, hence if you pay back or not I don't have to worry about it but it just a lesson never to trust you with my money some other time.

Just that in this case we don't know or not sure if these friends to the gambler that won the huge amount of money intend on requesting for money from him or not as to why he's avoid them. Which I had the chance to meet with the winner we would have being able to know the real cause of his avoidance.

Actually, people shouldn't expect anything from others, because when you do, you end disappointing yourself quite often, due to the subverted human nature, which reached to a stage of being heavily deceiving and harmful to people around. As Holy Bible says: "...Cursed is the man who trusts in man...", and puts so much hopes on corrupted human beings, but don't trust their own potential and their own divine essence to cause impacting changes on their own lifes.

We can't rely on prizes earned by other people to change our own reality. Each one has its personal path which has to be trailed by the individual, not being possible to be carried on the back of someone else...

On the other hand, on the few exceptions to the rule, that is, when you find people willing to share what they have with you, make sure to be reciprocal and thankful for the oasis of fresh water you have found on the middle of the deadly desert.

Well that's right, this can really make misunderstandings or end up with misunderstandings, and of course their friendship at least will definitely be tenuous, I really understand how when you are in such conditions and indeed I have also experienced the same thing. The role of money can indeed be an intermediary for us to find out how the real nature of the person is, whether our friends or relatives or whoever it is, money is very sensitive. Everyone wants money but not everyone wants to give money to others for free. If we really don't want to give a small portion of our winnings to others then it's better to keep it a secret, because of course if you tell but don't share the winnings at all then there will definitely be misunderstandings, even though there are other factors that are the reason why you don't give it, but other people won't care about all your reasons, they won't believe it.

There is nothing better unless you hide it, I'm sure you want your relationship to remain good with friends, so it's better to hide it, rather than causing problems that don't have to be a problem, if they don't know then obviously they won't ask anything or even borrow money, well it's true that if you still want to give your friends such as treating friends to food then you can just find another reason, the point is not to mention that the money is the result of gambling winnings.

Borrowing money will usually result in a bad way to relationship if the loan taker does not have the money to return the loan in time. This becomes even more serious if any family member or a close friend took a loan from you and now making excuses to return.

Sometimes, I feel that out of goodwill, you may give a loan to your friend as you have won big money in gambling, but the friend simply does not return it saying that you won so much money, you do not need this money. In most cases, the person who took the loan has the money to return it back, but still, he does not return it.

This is why better not to tell your gambling winnings to anyone and therefore no one will ask for loans from you and hence you are saved from all this hassle.

will not blame anyone in that situation and if we think logically I appreciate the person efforts to avoid his friends after a big win because in my experience history when a friend finds out another friend has a lot of money and tries to borrow a large amount promises to return it but in In the end, they did not return the money and the two parties quarreled and broke off their friendship. so if that person avoids his friends to avoid this situation, I really appreciate it because he wants to maintain his friendship with other friends because money can break someone good relationship.

but if we think instantly we will think how bad that person is when it is difficult and happy they are always together but when they win they disappear and avoid other friends and should win big amounts at least give tips whatever the amount to the people closest to them to give them a feeling of gratitude for getting a big win but after all, it was a decision he had taken and as a friend he did not have to think badly.

Yes, it's true. I also feel it when I win, especially big ones, because I rarely win. I would consider it an extraordinary event that I could get, especially if the winnings could exceed $100. But I don't show it off to other people, including my friends, and just keep it to myself and my secret. I don't want to cause problems for myself by sharing my winnings with other people and if I want to buy them food or drink, I will buy it straight away but don't say that it is from my winnings in gambling.

Sharing our wins on social media will trigger various comments from our friends. Maybe some people don't like what we do, but others will approach and ask to buy food or drink. And the other people want to borrow money from us, especially if our win is a big win. It will also trigger bad people who want to take the money we get from our winnings. So, we must be careful if we want to share our victory with others and only share the news with people we know well.

Indeed, there is no guarantee that our friends can also win from gambling, but at least they will be happy to receive our money. They will be able to have fun without burden because it is not money they spend but from our gifts. And if they are lucky, we will be happy because the money we give them can give them a win like the one we got so we can celebrate together.

Winning gambling is a matter of pride for oneself because winning big is a rare moment for one, so by showing off one's victory one will get praise from other people for having succeeded in winning the gambling.
However, showing off gambling will also cause bad things for yourself and it is very likely that friends who are not usually close to us, if they find out that they have won big, their friends will pretend to be close and hope to get a share of the winnings, even if it is just to buy food or liquor so they can enjoyed together.

If you're not careful, it's likely that the victory winnings will just disappear and just have to have fun with friends, even though we don't know each person character, there are friends who are always there when we don't have money or are in bad condition, and there are also friends who avoid us when we are in a bad condition, so we have to be smart in choosing friends to avoid friends who only take advantage of the situation when they are happy.

Sharing tips is a good thing for a friends to do so that his friend will too can experience victory like him, but it is not certain that the tips will be able to winner at gambling because gambling is a matter of luck and the victory he got from his previous friend was solely due to luck.

Yes, it was because of reasons not told to his friends that ultimately caused misunderstandings. Having a lot of money from the lottery or other gambling games will certainly make many people want to get closer to that person so they can share in their winnings and this is what might cause problems if later someone wants to borrow the money. Maybe that's what he wanted to avoid so that people thought he was stingy, but they didn't know the reason for doing that. Maybe it would be better if the winner kept his win a secret from everyone else so that no one knew about it and nothing changed about his relationships with his friends.

By hiding your winnings from other people, you will be safe from various questions that your friends will ask and there will also be no people who might borrow your money. But those who win can invite their friends to eat to celebrate their victory but will not say that it was from their winnings playing the lottery.

It would be good if no one borrowed his money and made his winnings a source of pride. Maybe that's what he wants by saying or showing off his victory to other people because there are also people who do that to get attention from other people. Giving tips to friends so they can gamble is good because at least those who win can share them with other friends so they can also win like themselves. Later, if friends win, they will do the same thing so this is a good reciprocal relationship between them and will make their friendship even better.

I wouldn't do that. My friends has been with me through thick and thin. We are close knit and my win is theirs likewise my loss and vice versa. Knowing that my friends would not allow spend more that what is necessary, I will stick with them.

The person in the story has friends who are not his friends.