Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 26. (Read 3099 times)

Maybe not all winners behave like that; of course, you won't treat your close friends like that if you are true friends with them. The question is, are those you trust and consider true friends really true friends? Because there are also friends who take advantage of their friendship with people if they know they will benefit from it, right?

Apparently, we know that money has a great effect on people; either you think badly or not, or you can do good to others or not. If you win millions of dollars, will you do the same to avoid your friends? They avoid others as well as their own relatives immediately, and they don't want to know what happened to them when they won a large amount of money.

We don’t really know the other side of the story why their friend had suddenly avoided them but if they have not done bad to him, obviously their friend is just trying to enjoy his money without his circle of friends that he think will surely ask for some money. At least they know the true color of their friend, that he’s all about greed and selfishness. And he’s definitely not worth to keep.

I for ones don't see anything wrong in a friend getting a big win and sharing or gifting whatever little amount he voluntarily wish to give out to his friends, it's not like he's giving it out to some strangers or strays.

There are moments I have had good wins and out of the joy the follows I'll hand out a little box to my guys that are around. It's like encouraging them that their own luck will also shine too as mine has. Or don't you think the man's action was too irrational that he was comfortable to stay around his old folks but eventually he made money he now sees them as mongers that are after his money.

Those friends will go ahead saying all sort of crap about him now, Man would be going low key for his own privacy and security purposes.

Earlier this year, A Young Man in his early thirties got mad the following week after winning 18 Million naira what would be said about this? Since he didn't borrow the money from his friends to bet they have no right. Rather they should look out for them own.
If he feels like stretching his hands out for them he will.
This story I just shared happened real life. It should be in the month of march.

It could also be that this friends look down on him too before he won that money and never believed he could have won that. I don't know enough to say though.

Basing from your story from what you've overheard, I can speculate multiple reasons as to why that friend have avoided them after winning a huge amount.

Firstly, I think it might be a common case of people showing their true selves after having money whereas they cut off people who think aren't their league anymore but it might not be the case without knowing the full story. It might also be that he already know those two and what will happen if he won big such as them asking for some money just because they are his friend or it might just be that their bad friends. Another scenario, I can think of is that they are just his "Gambling" friends and after him winning million, he already quit gambling which is also the reason why he's not in contact with them anymore.

It is possible that the friends who won avoided these two probably because he don't want to be bother by his friends asking for some tip.  Some people really change when they get ahead in life.  Like this guy who won.

It is also possible that the guy stop visiting the local gambling place and find himself busy planning and working on a business establishment to have a good source of income.  Probably the guy will meet with his friend once he is done with his plans or find free time of his busy schedule.

This isnt talking about having those kind of luck been affected or would really be that in minding about other reasons because  the main reason on why his friend or colleague did make out such action on just because he /she doesnt really want for someone to ask out for some money by his friends on which it is really that something that very normal that if you won big then expect that there would really be someone who would really be asking out at least on some sort of bonus or whatever that kind of amount that you would really be given on which i do assume that this is really that some sort of very normal thing or condition on which most winners would really be experiencing and this one is really that no different. There are really people who wont really be minding about long time friendship or relationship with their friends as long that money is really that gets involved then this is the most important thing of all. If their friend did really end up on having that kind of behavior then there's nothing they could do but one day for sure that he/she might really be coming back but ofcourse
that would be the moment that he/she wont really be having any funds or money left out of those winnings. 

What's with people today? Winning isn't a problem; we all want to win. But behaving cocky after a win, especially toward close friends, is bizarre. To believe they gambled together and now he acts distant since chance benefited him once! The core of friendship is at risk. Three close friends gambled together and shared profits and losses. With one great win, a gap appears?

The winner may not know how to handle his newfound money or be frightened that his pals will want a piece. Isnt open communication the answer? Why not sit down, talk, and express feelings instead of avoiding? Manage your emotions, relationships, and bets for healthy gambling.

First of all, they need to review what is the definition of a friend because in most cases people misunderstand the definition of it and mostly think all the people they know in the place they mostly attend are their friends. in reality, they're not and mostly they are just people they know because real friends are the one you can rely on and he loves for you what he loves for themselves. Obviously, with that kind of act, that kind of person is not considered their friend because he only thinks of himself or maybe he has some valid reasons why he doing such things.

There is a possibility that someone who has won a big win has prepared something for a friend who lost in gambling. We should not think badly of them, but if they gamble together and a friend who has a big win leaves his friend who lost and enjoys his own victory, this is really true very bad in their friendship. If I had a friend who did that, of course I would avoid gambling with him because they would only bother us if he didn't win and leave us when they win.

a good reason would be that their friend who won a huge amount of money knows that his friends would ask him for money/tips. I've seen this happen a lot where friends, family, relatives and even people you barely know would hound you for money and sometimes your relatives would even demand that you share a portion of your winnings with the rest of the relatives. They would talk bad about you if you didn't give in to what they were asking you. it is not uncommon for people who have won huge amounts of money to distance themselves for a while from people they know, they are protecting themselves and the new wealth they have.

Not everyone is like that, but most gamblers behave like that, where they avoid and isolate themselves when they get a big win. However, in a circle of friends, this is bad behavior and we will likely be hated by many people for doing this. But we have to remember that whatever profits we get from gambling will ultimately be wasted if we are not able to take advantage of this opportunity. We have to remember that we are social creatures who need each other, so when we get a big win in gambling, there's no harm in sharing some of the winnings with our closest friends as a form of caring for them, so that when we need it then they will not be reluctant to help us.

It's kinda funny though when you don't understand why a gambler can do such because I believe money they say amplifies the true character of everyone and money is really hard to control because in almost all cases it's quite the opposite as the money actually controls the person. This case of the story here is just a typical case of money influencing the particular friend that won the money and for me it's a normal behavior and I feel all gambler or person will do the same.

I think they are not true friends, because that's a great sense of hypocrisy displayed there by  the friend that has won the money, nobody avoids his true friends after making a good win, that's greed. Though there is a saying that, money brings out the true character of a person, and this guy has shown his real character. He doesn't want his friends to bill him, so that's why his avoiding them.

Most times I play my games online, even if I win or I loose, nobody will knows. But trust me when my guys come around, I show them love, especially when i win big money.

He made a mistake by leaving his old friends because he made some money from gambling. Even though there may be a reason why he did that, that is not good because you are lucky to win a gambling game and you leave your friends you're struggling together with. However, even if you think you will go back to gambling, if you continue doing things with them, you weren’t supposed to leave them. You can continue leaving your life with them if they want to go where they gamble, and you tell them to go if you are not more interested in playing gambling again. That is, if you think following them will make you gamble, it’s simple, but leaving them completely is not good in my opinion.


You can’t judge a story just because you hear it from one person or two that he avoided. If you want to know what the actual course is, you need to get the guy who won the money, and he will tell you the reason why he avoided them, because there must be a reason why he will leave his childhood friends after making it in life.

So OP people will be giving you different views from this story you bring, and I believe nobody will tell you the exact thing that happened due to the fact that none of us are here, but people will be given something similar to that that maybe happened to them or someone around them.

Money is a good and important thing and money saves people and money kills people so smart people never want to tell anyone about their financial status and if someone wins big by gambling they try to hide it. Because if that thing is known, it can be dangerous. There are others who suddenly become financially strong and start thinking of themselves as kings and misbehave with friends and other relatives and do not want to associate with them.  A kind of attitude works in him. Your story must be the culprit of some sort.  So he starts avoiding friends after winning something big

The friend in this story is a wise gambler. He probably is avoiding unnecessary unexpected expenses.  He knows that his friends make call for his celebration and guess who's going to spend the money on the drinks and whatever they are going to have to celebrate? Him who won the who won the money. On the other hand I am hoping that this particular Gambler would not spend the money on women during his period of avoiding his friends because they would never forgive him if he ever does that. But if he spends the money on setting up a business acquiring a landed property or on some wise venture or the investment his friends would forgive him because he made the right decision. Avoid friends and the casinos and bet shop when you win.

There is a saying that I like about friendship: "We will be sad if our childhood friend turns out to have a difficult life, but we will be even sadder if our friend turns out to be successful and rich."

To be honest, I don't know the reason why his friend avoided him. If they were that close then I don't think two friends would ruin their relationship just because they won the jackpot. Or maybe their friendship wasn't sincere from the start.

Sometimes money is a source of problems, when we need money we borrow it from friends but when we have money we avoid it. That's a bad act, hopefully we are not one of those people

You may not be aware of the full context behind the history of those three people. It is easy to take sides when you only know only one side of the history. There are infinite reasons someone would create some distance from people after a big win.

I'll give you an example, usually some acquaintances will only gather to have fun and waste money on drinks and women. Perhaps after having such a big win that person decided it was time to straighten their life and only focus on building a future for himself and his family, instead going party with their colleagues.

I have personally distanced myself from people I decided not to be a positive part of my life (I think most of us have done such thing. So it is better not to prejudice).

Avoiding a gambler friend after a big win doesn't look like a bad thing to me, the person who follows such aware of the outcomes if he tries to make a fortune with the money he won, so he probably settled to do other things than just gambling, probably clear the loan or thinking of investing them in the best possible way.

If you are on the receiving end, it may look like the person tore his mask mask but also think from the other perspective and come to a conclusion before judging anyone.