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Quote from: Lida93 on October 11, 2023, 09:08:54 AM

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Maybe there was some trouble between them because of that trouble maybe the winner didn't talk to them. But you can't catch the real story of their problems in two one-minute shows there. Still, I'd say since this guy won a million dollars, the guy wants to be a little safer from the locale. Because the victorious man started avoiding people thinking that he might get into some administrative trouble. Here I cannot blame the man in any way without verifying the facts. But if it was my case I would talk to people but not let them know that I got a million local currency. Because gambling is completely illegal in my country, I will face administrative problems if published locally.

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Quote from: Lida93 on October 11, 2023, 09:08:54 AM

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Things like that are very normal and I often experience things like that too. But I don't take it too seriously. Because it is their personal right. Whether he won gambling or not, I personally have never asked a friend to give me his gambling winnings. So basically, if I have a friend like that, I'd better just ignore him. Because in the end friends who have habits like that will be ashamed of themselves. Apart from that, maybe people who distance themselves from their friends also have reasons why they don't decide to join their friends. It could be that he has other interests, such as having a debt that must be paid. So there are many valid reasons for this. However, if you think about it from a negative perspective, it is certain that such people do not want their profits to be shared with their friends. But once again, as I explained above, don't worry too much if you have a friend like that, just ignore it and the problem will be resolved. Because from my experience, people like that will definitely come back again when the money runs out. But even so, he will definitely return, but with shame. So the surefire way to deal with friends like that is to ignore them. .

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Quote from: ethereumhunter on October 12, 2023, 06:09:19 AM

That's a common thing to happen. Many people change because of money. Not only because you managed to win big but also because of other things related to money. So we shouldn't be surprised if that happens to people because money can change people easily. Maybe his partner doesn't want to share or share his winnings with other friends. He did that for many reasons, and rather than just guessing, it was better for him to ask his colleagues why he had changed since winning such a large amount of money. That will answer all their questions and they know the real reason.

That's one thing that will make everyone of us change, money. But also, for some that's just not a real thing because they remain what they are and they're not cutting their bridges to their friends even if they win big amounts of money. It's a matter of individuality and some really knows the true nature of them. They're willing to cut ties just because they've won some amount of jackpot with their bets and they'll not letting people know about that until they start to show signs of avoidance.

We are humans and we can't entirely blame those who cut ties with friends because of money or a status change, except it's bad to cut ties with true and reasonable friends because of money. If they are regular friends that you don't actually have that trust for or bond with, it's fine, otherwise, you are bad by cutting ties with friends simply because you have won big money.

Some friends are actually worth cutting ties with as they might not be valuable in any contributions other than flexing with the money and frivolous spending like drinking alcohol/drugs, carrying women up and down and sleeping in clubs and hotels. If your friends are bad influences and could influence your mind, you might want to run for your dear life, especially if you are of a weak mind. Also, some friends could be a danger to some people, knowing if such might cause their life to be in danger, they might want to run for their dear life.

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Quote from: Lida93 on October 11, 2023, 09:08:54 AM

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

We don't know the whole story, maybe the guy did the same to him so he is just giving back what they did to him we really don't know their relationship or the man is really that stingy to give even a small portion of his winning, and it's not good it speaks of his character.

Here in our country, the tradition is to part some of your winnings if it's a big amount I always give a percentage of my winning whenever I win a big amount even to strangers so in case the scenario shifts they will also return the favor.

Winning a huge amount means luck smiles on you so you should share your blessing so the blessing keeps coming if people see that you are stingy they will avoid and you will have no friend left.

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There is a saying that ''money reveals a person's real face'' and I always defend that this saying is true. If a person earns high amounts of money in any way not just through winnings from gambling, we learn what kind of personality that person actually has. If a person's character has a tendency to change with money this person reveals his/her real personality when he/she earns a large amount of money in any way. Since the person mentioned by OP has a personality as I mentioned we can see that he starts to reflect his real personality after he earns high amounts of money from gambling. This is actually an opportunity for us to get to know such people around us correctly because the friendship of such a person is not actually a real friendship.

A friend of mine's staff at work also experienced such an incident. He earned a very high amount of money through the lottery and then immediately quit from his job, bought himself a luxury house, a luxury car and divorced his wife. Similarly, another person I know who won a large amount of money through the lottery continued his life as it was. So, this is all a matter of character.

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Quote from: Nheer on October 11, 2023, 09:22:48 AM

The saying "Money reveal people" is quite common. I usually don't believe this phrase, and I used to imagine that friends would always have nice intentions towards one another, but I later realised that this is not true because life is full of diverse individuals, each with their own personalities and viewpoints.

It's best to never expect anything from anyone because everyone is out for themselves. This kind of behaviour is nothing new to me anymore, and whenever there are three friends, I usually anticipate one of them to have such an attitude. Why should you be surprised if it occurs amongst friends when it has even happened between blood brothers? When you put expectations on people all you will get from them disappointments so i have learned to live on my own and not expect much from people.

I believe in that saying because I experienced it before. When I had good blessings, I didn't say anything to anyone I knew; I was just surprised that he suddenly came to my house as if he smelled that I had money and was borrowing a large amount of money.

Now, if there is a gambler who got a big win in gambling, that is his right; if he suddenly avoids like that, his friends also have no right to think badly of him; instead, they should also understand his feelings; their friend won a large sum of money. As long as you are the friend of the winner, don't expect from him or think bad things.

And I think that's a pretty true saying, I'm sure most of them would admit that this is true. It's not always about winning at gambling but the point is when you have money then a lot of people will approach you including close people and even people we know only occasionally they are very likely to come to borrow money, as you said. I think that even if you don't tell anyone that you have a lot of money it won't completely prevent them from coming, there are many factors that can make them eventually find out.

I also think that it's their right, it's up to them whether or not they want to give to other people including their closest friends, but people don't want to be labeled bad and stingy by their surroundings, so if they have the intention of not giving a little money from their winnings to anyone then they prefer to hide it and not tell anyone. If they announce it but do not give pocket money at all to their friends then surely people will stay away from them because they are already known to be bad and stingy in terms of solidarity.

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Quote from: Nheer on October 11, 2023, 09:22:48 AM

The saying "Money reveal people" is quite common. I usually don't believe this phrase, and I used to imagine that friends would always have nice intentions towards one another, but I later realised that this is not true because life is full of diverse individuals, each with their own personalities and viewpoints.

It's best to never expect anything from anyone because everyone is out for themselves. This kind of behaviour is nothing new to me anymore, and whenever there are three friends, I usually anticipate one of them to have such an attitude. Why should you be surprised if it occurs amongst friends when it has even happened between blood brothers? When you put expectations on people all you will get from them disappointments so i have learned to live on my own and not expect much from people.

I believe in that saying because I experienced it before. When I had good blessings, I didn't say anything to anyone I knew; I was just surprised that he suddenly came to my house as if he smelled that I had money and was borrowing a large amount of money.

Now, if there is a gambler who got a big win in gambling, that is his right; if he suddenly avoids like that, his friends also have no right to think badly of him; instead, they should also understand his feelings; their friend won a large sum of money. As long as you are the friend of the winner, don't expect from him or think bad things.

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We do not know the whole picture, but it might be that they are sharing wins.... when someone in the group wins something big and he obviously wants to avoid contact with them, because he does not want to share with them. Roll Eyes

I am also part of a small group of gamblers, who belongs to a WhatsApp gambling group.... where we all try to win against the house and when someone win big, we drop some tips to the people who did not win. (Nobody are running away from sharing, when they win... because they know that their luck might run out and then they want the others to share)

So, pay it forward when you win..... and you will get rewarded ...when you are against the ropes. Cool

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Quote from: Docnaster on October 12, 2023, 08:15:57 AM

Quote from: 2double0 on October 12, 2023, 07:07:16 AM

That's nothing new but human nature.
If a gambler wins big, he does not win just the money but your friend in him (the person you knew) loses against that gambler. And he thinks that the society may come and ask him for money because he now has that class to lend people, but he doesn't want to. So he decides to stay away from his friends thinking that it'd be better to sideline them and enjoy his life on his own, with some new friends of his category.

I think the decision of some gamblers to avoid friends after huge wins is determined by the gambler's kind of friends and how good they were to the gambler during the bad days that he wasn't winning. For instance, if he has a group of friends that are not good in giving to him when he didn't win big and was probably starving just to save money for gambling, he'll definitely not want to give such friends money when he finally wins big and would do everything to avoid them. Also some people who aren't friends to him would automatically claim to be friends because he's won big and when he avoids such people, they claim he had abandoned his friends because he win big

You are making a good point here mate. Most friends are funny you know. They do not feel like doing the needful to helping their fiends financially while they are together. They only want their friend to beg them to help before they would even think of extending hands to them and in some cases, they just post their friends and do nothing about it. So in this case, I would not be surprise if that was what happened to him when he was still with them because nothing pains more than this. The fact that your friends are always around does not mean that they would help you. I have had this experience before so I am talking from my on knowledge of how if feels.

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Quote from: 2double0 on October 12, 2023, 07:07:16 AM

That's nothing new but human nature.
If a gambler wins big, he does not win just the money but your friend in him (the person you knew) loses against that gambler. And he thinks that the society may come and ask him for money because he now has that class to lend people, but he doesn't want to. So he decides to stay away from his friends thinking that it'd be better to sideline them and enjoy his life on his own, with some new friends of his category.

I think the decision of some gamblers to avoid friends after huge wins is determined by the gambler's kind of friends and how good they were to the gambler during the bad days that he wasn't winning. For instance, if he has a group of friends that are not good in giving to him when he didn't win big and was probably starving just to save money for gambling, he'll definitely not want to give such friends money when he finally wins big and would do everything to avoid them. Also some people who aren't friends to him would automatically claim to be friends because he's won big and when he avoids such people, they claim he had abandoned his friends because he win big

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Quote from: Lida93 on October 11, 2023, 09:08:54 AM

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Obviously, they are not really friends, they are co-players in gambling if they are real friends they will share each other winnings, usually if you win a big amount you will give even a small portion of your winnings to your friends who are into gambling or even those who are not playing, so in the future, if his friends win they will do the same to him.
Here in our country, we have a tradition that if you win big you should share a portion of your winnings because winnings that come from gambling are considered a blessing and to keep the blessing continuing to flow you have to share the blessing, so your luck in winning continues to repeat.
Sometimes winners treat his friends to drink or to party it really depends on the amount of winning.

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Quote from: 2double0 on October 12, 2023, 07:07:16 AM

That's nothing new but human nature.
If a gambler wins big, he does not win just the money but your friend in him (the person you knew) loses against that gambler. And he thinks that the society may come and ask him for money because he now has that class to lend people, but he doesn't want to. So he decides to stay away from his friends thinking that it'd be better to sideline them and enjoy his life on his own, with some new friends of his category.

We can see that human nature becomes visible when people win. Indeed, human nature is what we see.
A human being with money earned from anything including gambling will avoid from losing friends fellow gamblers, maybe he does not want to lend money or he asks for money on him, better enjoy with family than friends, this is not strange there are many in our circles like that when someone has earned big money.
Don't be surprised, even friendships can be broken because of money.

I think that depends on your friend. If you know how your friend will react, then most likely you will ensure that your money is safe, especially when we're already talking about millions here. Not all your friends are real; that's the reality. Even if your family might betray you, how much more a friend?

That's just normal; people tend to overreact when they have a lot of money. They make sure that they will be able to protect it. As they say, money changes everything, and in this case, money has become more valuable than friends.

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Quote from: ethereumhunter on October 12, 2023, 06:09:19 AM

That's a common thing to happen. Many people change because of money. Not only because you managed to win big but also because of other things related to money. So we shouldn't be surprised if that happens to people because money can change people easily. Maybe his partner doesn't want to share or share his winnings with other friends. He did that for many reasons, and rather than just guessing, it was better for him to ask his colleagues why he had changed since winning such a large amount of money. That will answer all their questions and they know the real reason.

It is true that a change in person attitude can be caused by having a large amount of money either from winning big project or from gambling but when someone has succeeded in having that amount of money they seem more arrogant and don't care as much about their friends as they might have before have been together for a long time in the workplace or gambling partners.
Some people might prefer to avoid friends who make large amounts of money because they don't want disputes or friction to arise because of the money they earn.

It appropriate to share little money with friends who both like to gamble together and at least if you don't share a little money you can invite them to have fun together whether it going to entertainment venues or just eating together so that friendships don't apart.
But here there is no clear reason for this including what the OP has said in this thread.

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There is two sides of every coins, some people would have thought that this friend is a bad person, and having money revealed who he really is, but that's not what I think about this story, OP instead of trying to figure out how bad this friend could be against is two friends who are also a gambler, why not put your eye on these two friends?

Maybe it's just me but having gamblers as friends is generally a red flag, most I have seen are not true friends, they are pretending to be, they advise themselves wrongly and they enjoy doing stupid things with their money, maybe drinking here and there, maybe this is what the other guy is trying to avoid?

Also if you have friends make sure you try to know them deeply because if you turn out to be destined for greatness in the future, your friends might be your biggest threat, for safety people walk away from friends because they aren't on the same level anymore and they can be a threat to your life if you keep them around.

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Quote from: 2double0 on October 12, 2023, 07:07:16 AM

That's nothing new but human nature.
If a gambler wins big, he does not win just the money but your friend in him (the person you knew) loses against that gambler. And he thinks that the society may come and ask him for money because he now has that class to lend people, but he doesn't want to. So he decides to stay away from his friends thinking that it'd be better to sideline them and enjoy his life on his own, with some new friends of his category.

We can see that human nature becomes visible when people win. Indeed, human nature is what we see.
A human being with money earned from anything including gambling will avoid from losing friends fellow gamblers, maybe he does not want to lend money or he asks for money on him, better enjoy with family than friends, this is not strange there are many in our circles like that when someone has earned big money.
Don't be surprised, even friendships can be broken because of money.

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Quote from: Huppercase on October 12, 2023, 05:28:05 AM

Quote from: Lida93 on October 11, 2023, 09:08:54 AM

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

You don't have to used the word bald you know, that crack me up Grin

I can imagine how funny the description sounds, I was just tryna present to my readers an imaginary of what the guys look like. And i just loved how @Yogee puts it in his comment as the baldies Grin

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Show me your friend and I will tell who you really are, they are friends and they know the best reason why they acted that way. True friends don't avoid each other when money comes, they may be just ordinary guys who hook up for games or maybe they bonded because they have common goals to win bets and also share update, they might not be that close. Real niggas will share or give to friend when they hit something good from betting.

Or maybe he was politely enjoying the company while it lasted whenever they meet at the gambling shop and while those other two bald guys took it in their mind as a friendship he saw it as an interest group to tag along with in his pursuit to win from his gambling. And it has just manifested for him as planned.

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I have seen people even avoid their family after winning a jackpot, some says their family disown them during those period they struggle to make ends and they cut ties because they gamble, there is no any reason why they need to come back to them after achievement of the dream and to me, it's fair. If you can't be their when I had nothing, then you and I have nothing together when the money comes.

I can relate with this, as I have had a cross section of gamblers who complain about how their family members aren't acting nice towards all because they are gamblers and if these set of people are fortunate to win a jackpot the odds are that they will like to give a distance from those family members.

But in all family is family we can't avoid them forever regardless of their maltreatment on us when things weren't cool with us we can still create a second chance for them proven them wrong that been a gambler doesn't mean you're useless in as much as you are gambling responsibly.

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That's nothing new but human nature.
If a gambler wins big, he does not win just the money but your friend in him (the person you knew) loses against that gambler. And he thinks that the society may come and ask him for money because he now has that class to lend people, but he doesn't want to. So he decides to stay away from his friends thinking that it'd be better to sideline them and enjoy his life on his own, with some new friends of his category.

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Quote from: Natalim on October 12, 2023, 06:17:11 AM

Some folks out there, they actually act like that – they distance themselves when they strike it big. It's just the way things are in the world we live in; we can't control how people will change based on their circumstances. Typically, wealthy folks tend to stick with other wealthy folks because they think it guards against being taken advantage of.

Perhaps the winner believed that having a lot of money would earn him lots of friends, maybe even some relatives wanting a piece of the pie. People might label him as selfish, but that's just how it goes – people change, and that's the one thing you can count on in this world.

Yes, this will happen because this is the law of nature. I will exaggerate a bit. This is the law of class division. Based on many factors such as property, power, labor function, etc. The higher their property ownership, the higher their class, control, and power. On the contrary, people with little property and power are in the lower classes of society.
The fact that he won big proves that he has a lot of money. He needs to find someone with the same or more wealth than him to make friends with. For example, a police officer or a doctor cannot be close to a farmer or janitor. And This happens when their friendship crosses class boundaries.

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Quote from: batang_bitcoin on October 12, 2023, 06:31:48 AM

Quote from: ethereumhunter on October 12, 2023, 06:09:19 AM

That's a common thing to happen. Many people change because of money. Not only because you managed to win big but also because of other things related to money. So we shouldn't be surprised if that happens to people because money can change people easily. Maybe his partner doesn't want to share or share his winnings with other friends. He did that for many reasons, and rather than just guessing, it was better for him to ask his colleagues why he had changed since winning such a large amount of money. That will answer all their questions and they know the real reason.

That's one thing that will make everyone of us change, money. But also, for some that's just not a real thing because they remain what they are and they're not cutting their bridges to their friends even if they win big amounts of money. It's a matter of individuality and some really knows the true nature of them. They're willing to cut ties just because they've won some amount of jackpot with their bets and they'll not letting people know about that until they start to show signs of avoidance.

We don't know the real story since the only thing we can read here is he avoid people after he win and that is the smart action to do especially if your friends is so eager to get something big since for sure you can lost a huge percentage of your winning. If you start to lose all you got for sure those people will not come to help you that's why you really need to be smart on the money earned so that it will last long or you can use it on other valuable options like use it on investment to make your life more better. I'm sure that we don't want to get broke after that so we need act smart and don't be a one day millionaire.

Only few people can understand that and those people will get angry for the action made by the person who win big is just there if they can see a opportunity to get something from those people so we need to be aware with that and be smart to choose those people we want to give our money with.

To many people got broke immediately after they didn't manage their money so we need to understand those people do that because they are just protecting their earned wealth since they know the value of their money and maybe they already know that it can possibly gone as quickly as they think.

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Quote from: Natalim on October 12, 2023, 06:17:11 AM

Some folks out there, they actually act like that – they distance themselves when they strike it big. It's just the way things are in the world we live in; we can't control how people will change based on their circumstances. Typically, wealthy folks tend to stick with other wealthy folks because they think it guards against being taken advantage of.

Perhaps the winner believed that having a lot of money would earn him lots of friends, maybe even some relatives wanting a piece of the pie. People might label him as selfish, but that's just how it goes – people change, and that's the one thing you can count on in this world.

Only true friends would stay and true friends wouldnt really be leaving you behind no matter what happen but its true that on the time that we do speak or talk about big money then people do changed up directly or having no doubt that they would really be that changed up instant and dont really matter whether those long time friend or relationship would really come to waste. We do know that there are really people who could really exchange their friends and leave them in exchange of money and this isnt something that new or shocking knowing that peoples or human being behavior would really be something like this. Money could changed up everything even though not all but majority would really be that prepared on doing so.

So there's nothing that you can do about it because it will really be just that normal that there are people who do changed up and as a friend then better let them be.
Time come when things fucked up then for sure there would be someone who would really be looking back. lol

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