Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet - page 3. (Read 727 times)

"A thousand good things that have been done can be lost just because of one mistake" which proves that it is so easy to destroy a trust that has been built and maintained for many years. While this is not a small problem, it is quite a big problem because the man behaved carelessly by losing quite a large amount of money just in one bet. Meanwhile, to be able to collect that much money, the woman has to save for months and maybe years to be able to have that amount of savings.

And I think the woman will leave the man, because it is clear that the man is not capable of responsibility and does not want to try more to get money so he can get married. This man deserves to be left behind and this woman deserves to get a better man who is someone who can be invited to fight together.

Some how, I agree with you, I might actually not trust my parents, siblings like brothers, sisters, cousins and so on, and I might also not trust friends.
But when it comes to married, it's important to marry someone we trust, for a married where there is no trust, such a marriage may likely end up in divorce with both partners going their separate ways.

But then again, I still reason with what moneystery said, it is no doubt possible that sometimes, people we trust might betray us, for in this case, we can see that the young lady trusted her to-be-husband, who eventually failed her, it's really a pity though, for in the end, this lady may end up not ever trusting any man she meets in life again, this is if she ends her relationship with this man because of this incident.

The lady may still have decided to stay with the man, as she may have already spent months or years together with him, and to break up with him may not seem like a wise decision to her. However, if they have wise or elderly people around them, I don’t think they will break up but will take the marriage until another time when the man is able to generate another set of funds for them to settle down and marry her. The fact that she loves the man to the extent that she decides to marry him is why she won’t leave him because of this incident that happens.

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However, the guy may think betting with the money is a wise idea, as he believes if he wins the ticket, he will get more money to add to the wedding. Just that he made the mistake of putting almost complete or complete if the money, which happens due to a lack of control over his emotions, I believe he has learned his lesson now and will never do something like this again because this is an unforgettable story for both the man and the gal.

one of the very stupid behaviors that this man did and I can not think how much it hurts the woman heart. as a woman, she has given the man the opportunity to save together for the future of his marriage because the woman is a pity if her partner has to be burdened with huge costs for events the wedding, but after the woman felt sorry for her partner, the man actually spent his money on betting, which is really ridiculous.

from my personal experience, I was once a gambler who was very crazy about gambling, even like an addiction, but when I was thinking about marriage, I would not mix my future life with gambling, that was not very good, whereas that man easily believed in gambling if he could double his money and as someone who read this story, I became emotional because it was behavior beyond reason.

with this story we must really understand that there are no guarantees whatsoever in gambling. keep away from the thought of gambling where doubling your money is just a nightmare.

So you mean we shouldn't trust our parents, family, wife/husband because they can betray our trust? not really sure if you've married or not, but I can't imagine when you've married, you still treat your wife as a stranger and not completely trust her.

It's already a risk if you want to have a relationship with other people, unless you're not want to marry anyone, you will 100% free and not disappointed with your spouse.

This is the reality for many addicts every single day and it's hard to have sympathy. If he had spent his half, that would have been acceptable - although his fiancee would likely have broken up with him if he did. However to spend the full sum is basically theft when somebody else has contributed towards the total. In this situation, depending on the country they reside in, then she could theoretically take him to court and they would be able to make a claim for the amount she contributed. There is no point in trying to decipher his actions any further, because there is nothing to be gained from it and it was never a reasonable position for him to enter. Sadly he has hurt not only himself but at least one other person by his selfish actions.

Such an incident is heartbreaking, and it harms the woman. It appears that the male additionally demonstrated that he does not truly love the woman. I realize it's difficult for the girl, but she needs to go on and accept what happened to her.

That's exactly what it means: you gamble when you can't manage yourself in situations you can't handle. You should only risk with money that is excessively large, not with money that has been assigned. I feel terrible for the girl.

The current global economic crises is financially affecting more than 80% of the world population and it's made a lot of people to become financially sensitive and wise in other to survive the harsh economic situation. For two spouses to live together and fend for themselves and children as well, they'll have to be very wise in taking financial decisions and that's why I think any man that used money that was saved to finance wedding to gamble isn't mentally ready for marriage and should be avoided by at this time.
It's one thing to be a gambler but totally a different thing to gamble with almost everything and whoever that gambles with money that's not a disposal income isn't a matured enough for marriage.

Some people really need to understand that gambling is not a guaranteed way to double their money, gambling is accessible to every single person in the world, and if it was that easy to double your money through gambling, everyone would have been doing that again and again until they get ultra rich but that isn't how it works. Casinos are businesses and businesses don't make their customers earn money but they earn from their customers, that is how a business works and that is how they earn revenue.

So people need to stop using money that they have for something important in gambling only with the thought that they can double the money or at least earn something extra on top of it because that depends on your luck and you can't always be lucky and when there is extreme risk in it, why even make the attempt and risk losing the money that you actually need in your life?

I feel sorry for the lady, if the story is true. I know that people do make mistakes, but she needs to evaluate the guy a bit more before they go ahead in their lives just to make sure that he can actually provide for her in the future. I also believe that the financial status of the guy isn't good because he is a gambler and he probably uses most of his money it just like what he did with their savings.

It's really a heartbreaking incident because if a person spends long time saving money  and that earned money is wasted within minutes by gambling then it will be a sad story for everyone. It was no fault of the woman that she didn't even know that her husband was a gambler. I will not blame the gambling platform but the gambler should have known that this money was not meant for gambling. There is a picture in many places where a husband sells a lot of his personal life to manage his gambling money. A gambler needs to know what kind of money to use. If the awareness of gamblers is not increased, such incidents will continue to happen.

The action made of groom is so immature and shouldn't be tolerated so that it cannot harm more. Since if She easily forgive what his groom done for sure that there would be a worst thing to happen since guilt feeling will be taken out since the man knows that he's fiancee would just forgive him even if he commit a sin on their relationship. So I guess its better for the girl to go away and decide to cool off to see if his soon to be husband is really worth for his trust and also if there's a changes will happen after that incident and also she decide to cancel everything about him.

Yeah we can expect the man will ask for forgiveness and win her heart again but he need to learn a valuable lesson since what he does is really a big mistake and he need to fix his attitude upon dealing with critical things.

Are you married? This scenario is a perfect example of what a man would get when he gets married Did you read the first post or whole story? If not, here is what you should pay attention to: they were saving money together, he has used part of it and she is now disappointed. Did you get it? What was her is her, what was his now is their In fact, either this is not a full story, but so far it wasnt mentioned that he has lost those money. The chick just cant handle the fact that her future husband used their money without permission or saying. Imagine the guy uses the money  and doubles them. Would she also start to complain, if he makes their wedding double times better?

To everyone - either we find a full story, or stop fantasizing how the story ends. The guy just used money to gamble. It wasnt mentioned if he won or lose. Be more optimistic than pessimistic. 

Now I consider this a grave betrayal of trust, a wedding is essential for a woman, and for a guy to spend the money for their wedding is very difficult for a woman to accept, the lady should choose to cool off the wedding, it seems the man love the casino more than he loved the woman that he is going to marry.

The lady did not deserve the man there are many men that are better than this guy I'm sure he will find a better guy, and her life will be in a big misery if she decides to continue with the wedding.
You cannot build a relationship if one is betraying one's trust.

This case has happened a lot in real life and I feel sorry for people who experience bad luck like that, gambling is actually not bad, it depends on someone using it responsibly or not, sometimes someone thinks that gambling can multiply money but in reality the more we bet the more We waste a lot of money in vain and honestly what this man did was a stupid thing to spend so much money just to bet on gambling especially when he used the proceeds from his shared savings before doing that he couldn't think about the impact that would happen?? I really feel sorry for the woman, she trusted her partner to hold onto her savings, but it turns out the man used it for gambling. It's really heartbreaking. It would be better if the woman not only canceled her marriage but also broke off the relationship with the man because if the woman continues the relationship that This will have a bad impact in the future, someone who is addicted to gambling will find difficult to stop.

I think the lady already knew that this man is a gambler? That's the first red flag, as this man is a desperate gambler who thinks only for himself, if they can both gather money together and he went behind her back to make this stupid decision then he can't be trusted, assuming this man is the only one planning the wedding on his own with his money and this happened its better, but your woman also saved part of the money for the wedding? That's pure wickedness.

Why can't he just gamble with a certain amount or why not just risk his own part of the money that he saved? Why use all the entire money? Forget love for a second, this is a reckless man who don't care about others, I am also a risk taker and I don't like putting people in a bad condition or shape, I prefer risking my all for myself, and be ready to face the result but bringing someone down with me? Never!

If I can meet this man I have two things to say to him, I will describe how selfish he his to him and also tell him that he is better off without the lady because he doesn't deserve her, how can you use such money to gamble when you know it's possible you lose it? Such man can do anything, she deserves someone better.

it's quite sad to see this woman how she saved her money to get married but in the end the money was spent by her future husband. this case teaches us that sometimes trusting people with our money is not good because they could betray our trust and never gamble with other people's money, savings for education, health, or other important things.

and also if someone thinks that they can double their savings or money that is very important to them through gambling, that is a very stupid thing because they will not be able to double it, on the contrary, they will lose all the money they have and this has been experienced by many people. gambling is not a way out, people should understand that doubling their savings is not by gambling but by increasing their income or borrowing other people's money if they have to. thats the only way.

Surely he has broken any trust that was suppose to be built in that relationship and no matter what happens incase she goes on with the marriage, it will need a greater conviction to believe in him anymore. I can imagine she having such huge money and the thought of giving it to him for keep, that will be a big temptation for her.

Anyway, talking about leaving the relationship or having a future together, you will be surprised the man will reconvinced her again, there are some guys good at such convinction where there is existing love, just like they love convers multitude of sin.

You are absolutely correct. If he could use money saved for marriage to gamble then he can do more stupid acts. I have read the news of someone selling his child without the wife's consent because of money. The girl should rethink if she can really spend the rest of her life with him because he might cause more trouble in the future.

It could also be that it is just a mistake and he has never acted in such a stupid manner in the past. I have never invested in a Ponzi scheme but there are times when family members or friends will keep convincing and persuading you to put in your money. If you are not careful, you might consider putting in a big amount. Maybe this man was convinced that he would win if he staked the money. I hope he has learned his lesson and will consider gambling responsibly in the future. Nevertheless, it is up to her to take the decision.

He most likely believed that trying to double the wedding's budget was a good idea. But boy, was he in error. It's a quintessential example of well-meaning endeavors gone horribly awry. The woman is in a difficult situation. She put her trust in him and gave 60% of the savings - yes, more than half, people. She is now left with nothing. Calling off the wedding is a difficult decision, but it can be the correct one. It's a difficult choice, but sometimes, such difficult choices are unavoidable.

To be fair this depends on the personality and more about like how the relationship would go on. If he is a gambler that will go on to gamble and take these type of risks all the time during the marriage as well then yeah I think calling off the wedding is fine, that woman shouldn't marry this man. But, if this is a rare situation and he couldn't find any other way to help and normally do not gamble all that much at all, then it was a stupid mistake derived from wanting to do something nice, and that is of course a stupid move there is no doubt about that but at least it's a decent act.

I think that is an important thing and should make the difference, in that case some form of argument would be more than enough for them to go on. The difference is that, once in a year is fine, but doing it constantly means rest of your life would be like that, and no person should marry another person that would be making mistakes like this at all times constantly.