Topic: If a addict lives within, which method would you choose to help them (Read 2446 times)

I have come to realise that people only complain about gambling addiction of someone close to them only when they begin to see and feel the negative impacts of that person's lifestyle. I have seen quite a good number of addicted gamblers who have been very lucky to earn big consecutively from gambling instead of losing. Families and friends flock around them and get as much financial benefits they can get. These are thesame people that would advice or even disassociate themselves from the addict if he/she was always getting involved in troubles.

Families and friends have a lot of roles to play in ensuring that those around them are safe. First, they need to have an open mind towards gambling. They do not need to condemn gambling so bad that anyone who eventually finds interest in gambling begins to gamble in secret, this will make it difficult to help the gambler when need arises. Every advice given to a gambler goes a long way in shaping the life of that gambler. Whether  a gambler is doing well or not, Families should always speak up and do something whenever they find something fishy. Before bringing in third parties (psychiatrists or psychologists), the loved ones have a lot of roles to play.

Have you met a gambling addict in real life? do all of gambling addicts become normal after you give "advices"? don't underestimate mental health issues, you need to be grateful if you didn't have it, while other people are fighting with it.

Exactly, it's why many people choose to share their secret with their friends instead of their parents or families, it's really ironic to see it. If the parents or families are open minded and don't just scold over their kids mistakes, I'm sure the kids dare to share their secrets.

It is not taboo for us if there are many gamblers who hide their gambling, especially where gambling itself is not tolerated in a family. regardless of its relation to beliefs, or other reasons and so on. for me it doesn't have to be specific that this always leads to addiction, regardless of how someone secretly gambles without wanting their family to know. there are many reasons, and it doesn't have to be someone who is really addicted. although it cannot be denied, there are many cases where someone becomes addicted because of what you said in this post. The problem is, it's not that most people forget that gamblers are people too. It's just that fanaticism and other negative thoughts make most non-gamblers stigmatize that gambling is an addiction. In fact, addiction is the result of not having self-control. which starts from understanding, knowledge and experience. In the end, most gamblers are trapped in a situation that is a problem for them. Not a few, many gamblers are damaged due to what they do excessively, but not all gamblers are addicts.

But what is certain is that this entertainment provides a game that provides rewards and uniqueness in each game. Maybe the solution you mentioned in this post could be a reference for someone who wants to get rid of addiction. However, if it is not based on a firm desire and determination, usually a treatment like this will not last long. Honestly, I'm not a specialist in this field. However, there are many treatments that can be done by someone who wants to get rid of their addiction. Talking to the family and finding a solution is an important part. Furthermore, there are many other methods that can be used by the addict and his family to solve problems like this. However, each person has a different method for dealing with healing.

Fyi, there's a different level of addiction, if it is easy to cure them by giving advice, maybe there is no addict in the world, but it is not that easy especially if the person has reached the worst case level of addiction, they can no longer be taught or cured only through counseling because the only thing that can help them is the guidance of the family and intensive observation from medical experts. Maybe you will understand better what the purpose of psychiatrists or psychologists in the world is when you have encountered an acquaintance or relative who ended up being addicted.

Sometimes they way you guys describe a gambling addict, it looks like someone who is psychologically isane that need a psychiatrist or a sick patient that needs a doctor. All this idea propounded here looks pretty like someone who needs medical attention or a case that need people around you as if something tremendous has happen to the person. An addict just need an advice on how to control his emotions on Gambling habit, not some sort of pampering him like a sick person. We should be able to differentiate between a sick person and a gambling addict.

Most people come from familes where gambling is not tolerated or is seen as something that's not for responsible people and i believe that's why most people are still addicted to it and gamble secretly, sometimes they which they could open up to close families for help concerning their addiction but then the fear of being backlashed would stop them from doing so.

 Most individuals forget that gamblers are humans too, who knowingly or out of ignorance made the wrong decision therefore it's our duty as family, friend or close neighbors to help give advice to people suffering from gambling addiction. It's something that could ruin the financial strength of an individual that's why i think the best remedy for an addicted gambler is booking a Section with a psychologist.

that is right , those type of addicted gamblers knows nothing now but to gamble and what others
might be thinking so adding a hard conversation will just make them trust no one so chill and show of
concern conversation will help them understand everything but try not to give them any amount
resulting to more gambling games.


you have a good heart mate and you seems to be a calm person , you will truly help people that is
dealing in addiction because they need someone like you.

Each person will have different perspectives and methods in solving problems. And people addicted to gambling are also different, not everyone can use soft methods and vice versa. Depending on the personality of each person, we will have specific methods for each object. However, there are also some cases where it is necessary to apply tough measures from the beginning, that is when they fall into a dangerous situation or can no longer control their behavior. In this situation, taking a tough approach can stop the negative behavior right away before applying other measures.

In addition, we must note that we should always respect and ensure the safety and rights of people with gambling addiction while helping them get treatment. There should be no excessive coercive behavior, which can cause the opposite effect. Helping a person overcome a gambling addiction is a long process, requiring patience and time, so any hasty actions can ruin everything.

That's right, I agree with you, forcing someone to be a little harsh will only cause debates which will lead to fights or arguments which will make the chemistry between families no longer harmonious. So it's better to advise them to remain gentle even though it doesn't work for those who have stubborn nature but still over time they will melt. Like a stone that continues to be dripped with water over time the stone will become punctured due to the drops so advising an addict we really have to be patient especially if they are our family and we love them by continuing to advise them, if things This still doesn't work. You can leave it to those who are experts in handling cases like this. Curing an addict is indeed difficult and won't work just because of advice or being rude.

Well, the main factor that can encourage a person to stop is only himself who has the determination to recover with the encouragement within himself to recover then he will be easy to stop but if there is a coercion factor and he has no intention to stop himself then it will be difficult to get rid of it will continue to think of ways to continue gambling even when everyone has forbidden it, they will still make every effort to fulfill their desires.

Doesnt matter whether your father or your sister as long it would really be that inside the family then each member does have the rights on trying out to help someone whose at in trouble but of course it would really be that something that depends if its already that too obvious or already that asking for some help. There are no other things in life on which you could really be able to get help from but first will be your family and as a family member then you would really be doing your very best to help on whose at having those addiction problems. We do know that if it becomes even more worst then the family would really be that
still affected with that and we cant really be able to afford on letting them suffer and we would really be helping out as much as we could. So proper explanation and helping them out to get rid of gambling
on what are the possible things that you could really be able to help on.

It all depends on your relationship with this family member.  Is it a brother or sister, or perhaps a mother or father? There's obviously going to be a big difference in how you would handle these types of situations depending on your exact relationship with the "addict".  An important thing to remember is that many people will be unwilling to change their ways until they hit "rock bottom".  Just something to always keep in mind.

Closeness doesn't make helping and addicted gamblersl difficult, the problem lies in the affected person, if the addicted gambler is so deep, it will be difficult to help the person out but if the person is not deep into gambling, you might have your way out of him if you try harder.

A friend that you are actually closer to will likely listen to you no matter how deep the person is in gambling, if you talk to them and they never listen to you for once, the you guys are never close in the first place. A friend does listen to another person in all situation.


When you said approach, I laugh because you are making gambling addiction looks like a person that is running mad. An addiction is just when someone who loves gambling don't behave as a regular person, like consistently borrowing money to gamble, ready to place money everyday, these things are just things you discuss with mouth and nothing serious, just know that you can't force adult to your will.

Indeed, some gamblers have the strength and energy to help themselves escape gambling addiction. But it's only possible if the gambler later realizes he's no longer living his real lifestyle. Gambling could redirect the thoughts of a player to think he's still on the right track. Those players who still have themselves on check despite suffering addiction can escape addiction with lesser help from friends. But a player who is still glued and enjoys his addiction will hardly comply with his helpers. As he is still in love with the problem such that he hardly thinks of something else.

However, they still get to realize that their lifestyle is not orderly, but it's easily forgotten when the addict feels like to gamble. Such gamblers need to be allowed enough time to have a rethink before taking them to a therapist. If he's not interested in getting better they'll be no therapy. Hence, I'll refer an addict who actually wants to change to therapy. And try as much as possible to get the countervailing addict to focus on something else which could make him have some distractions whenever he wants to gamble. He could be participating in two other activities which he loves. Thereby, cutting short the time he invest on gambling.

Yes, i do agree with this approach on which there's still really that chance that it would really be resolved out considering that he/she's really not that still involved with other forms of addiction on which this could really be simply means that they would really be having that kind of chance on having such recovery in terms of this one on where we do know that their mind is really that only focus on gambling addiction and not on having others like drugs or any forms of addiction on which this would really be making more the situation even gets tougher. This is why it would really be best that when helping out someone whose inside the family then a better approach on that #1 on which it will really be that recommended on trying out to be calm and something that more chill to explain about its cons and its something that should really be needing up to stop
rather than on trying out to scold them up for them to quit. Getting harshs approach wouldnt really be leading you nowhere but somehow if that #1 wont work then you would be going for #2 of course.

It is a personal perception I have on gambling addiction, if the person who is addicted to gambling has not get involved with drugs and other illegal substances, then I still there is a good percentage, a good chance for that person to fully recover from their situation and start again to live a healthy life with no addictions.
I say it because I have seen stories of people who were pretty much addicted to hard drugs like Cocaine and crack cocaine and some of them managed to recover and stay clean for a long time until reaching a healthy and productive life again. So that could be a signal of hope for anyone who is dealing with problem gambling and no drugs.

Also, keep in mind, while it is true one is supposed to find professional help to treat gambling addiction, that professional help is not always at the reach of people, mostly because the economical situation of the family/household and the costs of those healthcare programs. It would be better for people going through it to have some subsidized help from the government, instead on going for quacks and purely religious help.

Number one would probably be better because forcing the person to stop will take them away from us so that we can no longer monitor them or approach them to give them advice and resuscitate them.
However, of all this, in my opinion, the most appropriate thing is to take him to a professional to get the right treatment because an expert has the right method to apply and help the person, although it cannot be denied that success also depends on the person's willingness to get out of the addiction they are experiencing, so no matter how hard we try to help him, it won't work if he refuses to recover from addiction.

I would choose to tell them harshly to come to their senses and tell them real facts and truths on what's happening but sometimes being harsh doesn't help at all and staying and sticking to the person too. It still depends on the individual but the best and the effective way to help them is not by talking or staying beside them but seeking professional help as you will not know the effect of what you are doing to them. Sometimes when you are trying to help, they become more aggressive and be more addictive to gambling than helping them out but this is case to case scenario.

That's true , because being mean to them won't change anything And it might even endup making things worse, so is better to be gentle and nice to them , and always keep them busy with other activities that will remove Their kind from gambling for sometime, and try be patient with them , because it took alot of gambling sections before being addicted to gambling, so it may take time before that individual can limit the urge of gambling regularly.

That's why it's really better to refer them to consult with professionals because those medical allied are always there to help them recover from whatever they are going through and at the same time, extending emotional support from their family will also help them more because people under the influence of addiction, their minds and awareness are divided, they still have the feeling that they want to get out of the situation so they also have to help themselves.

Kicking them out is risky on its own. Because if he's family, nothing will make you forget about him. They'll always be on your mind and if they eventually get into trouble, it'll bother you as well. I think working alongside their emotional problem will help the person have a rethink. Sometimes argument won't help, in cases like addiction. Because the player doesn't think he's wrong with his actions. Hence, taking care of the person seem to be the right option and more effective. It's quite difficult, but it's worth doing.

Helping other people out of their trouble also helps in building a better society. Doing it the tough ways hurts both the helper and the recipient. Thereby, increasing the anger on seeing one another. That's why therapists don't engage into argument with their clients. They focus more on building strong relationship with the person, making them smile, remind them of their past and change their perspectives of life. Some approaches with kindness is more effective to invite a positive self thought on the addict. When the player gets better, it's a fine idea to refer them to a therapist for some finishing touches.