Topic: If a addict lives within, which method would you choose to help them - page 8. (Read 2426 times)

If they are people who are addicted then it will be difficult, they will never be able to accept or listen to the advice we give even in various ways.
A gambling addict will be able to always do what they want, even this is behavior or attitude that is truly beyond anyone imagination.
Don't they just make mistakes and continuously repeat them without stopping, there is only one thing that can make them change, namely their own awareness and thoughts to be better and improve all the mistakes that previously often occurred.
Maybe we can kindly and attentively provide advice, guidance and direction to them, but if that doesn't happen, the feeling that the gambler himself wants to change for the better will also be in vain.
Key is not in us but in those who experience all this, they are the ones who determine what will happen in the future and they themselves can determine what is good or not.
We are just being good people who intercede to help as best we can, whether they succeed or not is their own choice.

Some people don't know how to realize their fault, this is what makes many believe that whatever they are doing is always right, if such people turn into a gambling addict it will be difficult to make them see that they are already a gambling addict.

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Some people do need the iron hand to wake up their senses, since they are family member you must know who they are, using harsh ways depends on who they are, making them develop the feeling of accepting that they are addicted and also the need to stop is the best solution.

Use harshes or softness, it depends on the person, but many gamblers are addicted and they don't just accept that they are addicted, make them see reasons and they will start fighting the addiction even when you are not there, a gambler is the solution to his own addiction.

I'd go with the soft and gentle approach, make him see reasons why he should quit gambling. Sometimes these addicts know that what they're doing is wrong but the addiction has taken control over them in such a way that they find themselves doing what they don't want to do. So as I am talking to him gently, I'd also make appointment with a gambling therapist, cover the expenses and be with him at every step of his recovery.

What gambling addicts need is a personal approach that is relaxed and does not corner them. Because if you force a gambling addict to stop gambling in a harsh way, they will fight you and might leave the house. So a personal approach is probably the best way to convince gambling addicts to stop gambling. But if that method doesn't work, maybe the second method can be used.

I think it would depend on the person and their situation. But mostly, being gentle is much better and works better, but if needed, being firm is necessary. But do remember to show share, love, and support and encourage them to seek help when they are ready.

Being harsh to a gambling addict will only inflict pain on both the loved ones and the addict. Staying caring and lovely with the addicted person helps to bring back the thoughts of the gambler to feel as though human and try to interact politely with people around him. I understand that we are not the cause of the addicted person's problem. But it's fine to say that gambling addiction takes a long time to heal and not everyone would be able to get hold of being kind for that long without losing it. Whatever method a person, loved one, or friend, wants to apply on his addicted friend, being harsh should be a part of it. They are only humans like us, and when they get better the person can be aggressive in the sense that when he was down bad for help, nobody, not even his close friends and family stood there for him. Instead, they applied a harsh method on him. Those attitudes will register on his brain. And he'll never suffer addiction forever. So, how good you treat them matters, because they'll remember it when their mental health gets better.

not sure if my answer has ever answered first but in my opinion the two options are suitable to be used to help families who are addicted only we have to see how the condition of the addict.
If indeed a gambling addict is able to have changes with the first option by providing gentle support and using words that can penetrate their minds and encourage their minds to continue to avoid gambling slowly and if it works well it would be better for the first option to be maintained and Increased by several aspects.

but if a gambling addict has been given assistance with the first option but in a few days it has given an increase in avoiding gambling and in a few months it seems not gambling but apparently silently still made a bet, I think the second option must be done in the sense of not being too rough using physical but enough with harsh words to push his mind even deeper so that it is really depressed and eliminating the desire to gamble.

this is all just about the two options but actually there are many more ways to help families who have the habit of gambling but from the 2 options have represented everything and can be applied to different conditions.

Whether they would be absorbing or would really be hearing out those advises or not and it would really be that something that will really be that depending
on the person that had been that affected by gambling addiction on which we know that it would really be that always important that you should really be
that be a little gentle with such approach on telling this and telling that. Make them realize that the things that they've been doing were wrong and its not really something recommended. Addicted
people wont really be that easily believe on someones words even if we do say that someone is really that part of the family but well we wont really be able to know unless we do try.

I can only do number one on the list as number two could be a little bit offensive or provocative as we all know that people are not the same as others who will just listen to us so I don't think there is a need for us to be harsh to gambling addicts. They might listen to us on this but expect that it' on them if they absorb what we advice them.

Of course all cases are different, but i`m sure that love and compassion are the worst thing we can give the gambling addict in the start. First of all he must understand that he made his life awful himself and decide to change his life himself. Only after it we can give him some love. But we must be careful with love - it can destroy all the results.

Living with a gambling addict can be frustrating however a lot of persons actually make the mistake of being hard on them and trying to isolate themselves from them. However it isn't supposed to be so. Of course addiction is a bad thing but love and compassion overtime helps gambling addicts get over their addictions.

It can also be very challenging to try to draw an addict close to yourself but trust me it is the best thing to do as pushing them away makes them feel more lonely and having reasons to gamble more often than normal which not good for their wellbeing.

Yeah right,  the way you approach and the way you deliver your speech will have different impact to the person you are speaking to,  I get your point and it's valid since there are different types of people and their take regarding to what you want to deliver might be different from how you want them to adopt your concerns,  though sometimes it's better to be direct to the point and let your own emotions to flow and leave it to the person if how they will take it.

The only thing that you want is to address and help them to solve the issue, it's up to them to work on it and to try helping themselves.

Well, I have always talked about addiction with the sleep cure option because a friend's mother had great stress at work, it was something that was so strong that she went to the psychologist, they sent her to a doctor and then she They did the sleep cure as therapy, and that was only for stress, now if stress is something I think is more harmless than an addiction like gambling, if this is applied to an addict because it cannot be controlled, I believe that I try to calm down a little, that is something that we must see and agree that it is what must be done and that it helps to make anything better, that is something that not everything can do, but in itself I think that this strategy or technique is very efficient At the medical level, I don't know how they will tell you, but I think that things can be seen like this. In another order of things, I think that it is an Addiction Depending on its degree , because it must be the treatment, what happens is that knowledge of measurements only in I don't Know that part, because it Already has to do with behaviors and personality.

Now, things can be Different , Seen from another point of view, when they can be treated without a lot of money, that is , because People do not have that much Money , they Should make other Options , but I think the healthiest will be when we can do other things. ., like doing sports, looking for ways to do things better with actions such as going for a walk , going for a coffee or watching movies, something like that can be done to Avoid Spending money on these Treatments, but the Person should be rvery Conscientious and do the kinds of things and the expenses that are due, because if you fell into addiction you must move quickly to do things, I Personally will always think that things are Better that way and that way you have much better Ways of controlling Everything , that is why things should always be done better under any Circumstance , and that it does not have many Repercussions.

In my opinion, the character of the person does not matter reasons being that the gambler is an adult and it is believed that he is gambling with his money so you don't force an adult to do or stop something whether he is a family member or not does not matter. The best option is to talk to them politely and make them see the reasons why they shouldn't continue gambling. It is a matter of being able to convince them not to gamble again and not trying to exhibit control by forcing them not to. The truth is you will only trigger anger and not solve the problem if you try to force them.

Well, sometimes the truth is better and there are people who like receiving harsh advice like that rather than having a boring heartfelt discussion.
That's why I told you in my first post here that it will depend on how close you are to that gambling addict and how you treat each other.
Imagine if one friend who is known to be a direct talker, of facts, and the truth, suddenly becomes a friend who will be in serious heart-to-heart discussion. I bet the listener will be shocked by that and he might as well just cover his ears because that ain't him.

So, there's really no good answer here and we have different approaches to different people that we meet especially if it's within our family.
In my case, I am a different guy when I am in front of my uncles and aunts because we are used to just having serious discussions but I am vice versa when I am with my close friends. I get to be talkative, full of curse words, and I laugh all the time like everything is a joke for us.
Those who know the gambler could help but I still suggest being real in front of him because if they feel that we pity them, then I bet they will not listen to us.

I agree with this. This may be the main step in guiding and pursuing a person who is a gambling addict, but what if, no matter how gentle and supportive you are, it still doesn't work? What I mean is that harshness can be a last result in a form of rehabilitation. For example, it may hurt the person who is addicted, but the point is that you come up with that solution because the person is beyond help and cannot be helped in a good and gentle manner. I personally focus more on becoming harsh, especially with my friends. If I know and notice that they are emerging from gambling, then I will be glad to slap them with harsh words in order for them to wake up from what they are doing wrong, but of course I still control and am not overboard with my words to them. I want to help them not to hurt them.

As much as possible then you should really be helping them out specially if its part of the family. As much as possible we should really be helping them and made them realize that the thing that they are currently doing
is bad but i do agree into those points that if things already worst and not something that cant be solved out with some simple talks and advises then this is the time that you would really be considering on looking for
some professional help and this is something that should really be done. We cant really just that let them on facing up that problem along specially if its a family member. We do love them and we cant just
afford on seeing them into such bad situation because we know that gambling addiction is something that could end up on miserable life.

Unless if you are really that someone who doesnt really care and just mind on your own business then you wont really be having no time on telling on things that they should gonna do.
It would really be that impossible that you could turn back yourself on them and i could tell it to myself.

I think understanding and support are more important than harshness. Key? Open, heartfelt discussions. We can give a healing safety net by supporting and never straying.

But this doesnt mean ignoring gambling's perils. Education and guidance, not control. I support setting boundaries and expectations while being supportive. Gambling responsibly can be fun, but addiction must be identified and treated.

Together, compassion and firm supervision can help people recover. Balance: providing a hand yet being clear on the line. This approach makes addiction recovery safer while recognizing responsible gambling as leisure.

If the addiction is already deep it's best to have a specialist to look at it and assess if what kind of approach is needed to work with the case of that person, I guess the only thing that can be done is to try to talk and see if the person can still help himself, though like what you mentioned, it's more on how close you are with the person and how you think his appreciation after showing him your care. If he take it as for his own good then chances to push the help can make things change for betterment but if not, expect the need of professional to assist.

The severity of an addiction has a maximum limit, in my opinion. and once the addiction reaches that point, it won't go any further, however, the effects it has won't get lower with time and the person will keep feeding the addiction until it's cured.

An addiction can only be treated quickly if the person getting addicted acknowledges it before it gets too severe, and if they don't do it, someone close to them should realize that they are addicted to a certain thing and if it isn't controlled quickly, it can keep getting stronger until it reaches a point from where it will become extremely difficult to get out. Once the realization is done, then they can think of ways that can be used to treat the addiction.