Topic: If a addict lives within, which method would you choose to help them - page 10. (Read 2446 times)

Gentle methods usually work better for gambling addicts who have a hard or quiet character, even though it may indirectly take a long time to cure them, it doesn't matter as long as it doesn't hurt our families who are addicted to gambling, because harsh methods will usually leave an impression and damage their mental health. so it won't be good in the end, even though you might be able to stop gambling completely, it's best to gently not ask him to stop completely but start by reducing it slowly.

Bad habits cannot be stopped if you are used to doing them, but what you can do is reduce your activity in gambling so that you don't really do this habit all the time because it is difficult to cure gambling addiction, which at a high level can take years. My gambling friend needs to it took him about 5 years to be able to stop completely because he was a slot gambling addict, since his family left him he began to realize and regret it by rebuilding what he had broken, but the way he did it was in a gentle way, not too much pressure and force to quickly stop but go through the process over time until it stops completely.

That means we have to look for ways to approach gambling addicts by trying to recognize their character. We cannot directly express our desire to help them cure their gambling addiction because that could offend them and they will say that they are still fine. Gamblers who are addicted to gambling are very good at hiding it from many people so we have to keep looking for ways to get them to admit their gambling addiction. Once he is willing to admit it, we can invite him to visit a rehabilitation center to cure his gambling addiction. We still have to try to continue to support him so that he can be enthusiastic about curing his gambling addiction because he really needs support from his immediate family.

If gambler is a family member then first it is necessary to talk with them gently and softly but if they don't understand and don't leave gambling then harsh words and harsh act is needed because when a person cannot understand with soft words then opposite way should be adopted.

 A person can understand but if we talk about bad things about gambling at early stage because once a person start to take loan for gambling and steal money for it then it becomes hard to talk with them because now he is out of control as from single mistakes he initiated multiples other mistakes and faults.

No mate I think you can still advise an addict who has been very deep in gambling to stop depending on how well you understand such person, they can actually get angry when you approach them with the topic but once you are able to talk to them politely with good reasons, not being too proud or hurtful in your words ro them they csn listen to you.

If the heart asks, it is better to use it in a gentle way without any violence. It is better to understand the character of a gambling addict before starting, because both methods have good and bad sides. If the gambling addict is short-tempered, it is better to use it in a gentle way. If the addict tends to keep quiet, use rather harsh methods, don't be fooled by the gambler, usually they are very clever at hiding things and tend to lie.

This is a natural and very helpful piece of advice for those who live and move around with family members who are gambling addicts. I also live next door to such a family of gambling addicts where I also live with them in a cooperative and cordial relationship. I always talk to them about the dangers of gambling and always advise them to refrain from gambling.
In the first situation they did not listen to me but opposed me but in the present situation they have been able to refrain from gambling to a large extent. I always tried to treat them well and always tried to stop them from gambling by giving them financial help as well as good advice. Hopefully this family will try to stop gambling soon.

Being harsh to them can’t get the best out of them, because they will see it as if you hate them and is using their weakness against them which the best thing for them to be at peace is not to come close to you, to me the best way is to advise and tell them things share how they can be able to get their self out of it make plans with them and keep them busy don’t leave their sight when ever you can and they should limit the amount of time they visit the casino, and if their are other activities you can get him involve at you should so that he can get his mind off their, one thing about all this addicts is that the moment they are bored they will start thinking about how to keep their self busy with gambling.

I think this will depend on the personality of the person who will talk to the gambling addict.
If he is the type who can discuss it straight to the point then I bet he will be harsh at telling the truth, or it will sound harsh. That's what I will do because in the past I've learned my lesson that sometimes being gentle to the person could make it worse. But telling them the facts and what could be done to prevent it without taking the long cut seems to be working well.
I have friends who are drug addicts and somehow I affected them with the harsh things that I've said to them. Now, they are clean and working hard for their families.
I think this will also depend on the listener/gambling addict in this case. If you two both know each other well then I think you can talk to him straight to the point and just be real. Don't let your emotion of pity become a wall and then you will talk to him like you are another person, just be yourself and try if that will work. I bet it will.

The approach is defending on the person that is addicted, we should know better what kind of atttitude he has because he  is within our home, a familiy member. My approach on this is I will not be harsh, this kind of person needs to get the compassion so he'll surrender his burden, yes, addiction is a burden as that's simply unable to control ourselves and all we do is just to gamble and lose our money.

Although we may say that we don't lose all the time, there are also instances that we win money, but the question is, how long that would last? I mean, if you are a gambler or an addicted gambler, you'll never stop gambling until you lose everything. Did anyone here know an addicted gambler stop gambling when they are winning?

I have no personal experience with gambling addictions, but I have family members that were addicted to drugs, cigarettes and alcohol. What I can tell from personal experience is that a soft approach is not working, because the addict will just take advantage of the soft demeanor in the family and use any loopholes to continue with his addiction. Of course it's important to talk with the addict and try to get him on your side, we need to make him see that he is on the wrong path and needs to change his life. The problem with addiction is that you can spend 90% of the day fighting it successful, only to ruin everything in a weak moment. In my opinion it would be much better to have a harsh approach and really try to change his actions.

if I'm in the situation and I have a relative who is experiencing gambling addiction, I would choose number 1 among the choices, because it will help more if we find out what that person is feeling and we must know what is the source of why they reach to the point of becoming addicted to gambling. It will help them think and feel better if we talk to them properly and give advice based on what their current situation is, because when we force someone to stop gambling, or we always scold them or being a nagger to them, they might just be more triggered to continue gambling because of the pressure and stress they will feel. so no matter what situation they are in, let's choose to be calm and understanding.

Gambling is a conscious physical habit, and the only way to stop a conscious habit is a conscious deliberate decision by people around or the addict himself to stop or moderate the way he/she gambles. So in regards to this question O.P just asked, for me, I will say that the best approach to helping a family member who is a gambling addict is first "Advise him/her" about the potential harm his/her addiction is liable to cause him in the near future, while preventing him from having access to gadgets likely to aid him gamble (i.e phones, laptop and the internet) in a lovingly and respectfully manner, and not being harsh.

This is why we should try to be aware before we sink, and it is not all offline casinos that are this risky though. I've been to many of them, it is just about the class of the ones you go for, and their ugly intentions to make money by all means which matters. But this shouldn't be an issue for the smart guy, even if you are a victim once depending on the different locality you found yourself in, this should not repeat itself if you are wise. No matter what I see in casinos whether big or scam, classy or less, I make sure that I do not forget my brain. I am always getting myself aware of the issues that could arise from the casinos, so any amount of temptation can't work on me, at least except they drug me which is highly unlikely.

Whether it is women, alcohol or other, I do not go beyond my limit, and that is if I want to partake in anything that might affect my psychology because I know that it is never good for my next line of action especially if I am with enough money with it. Above all, I keep my head straight anywhere I go and focus on the purpose of going there. I trust myself, the moment I know that things are getting awkward, no amount of persuasion can make me stay since I know that any action I take after then is not me who took it. So why remain there? For this, I think it is partly about us in this situation.

Hard to actually corner an addict to give up his rights unless this person is dependent.

People have different personalities. Not leaving him alone can be interpreted by this person as invading his privacy and it could take another turn which could lead him to get aggressive and in the end, instead of him getting him to avoid gambling, this will lead to a bitter quarrel. Either of the methods can be interpreted by this person as invading his privacy.

For me it's little bit hard and challenging if we will help one of our family members away from gambling cause there's a chance that they will get angry with us but it won't happen if we slowly teach them how to leave in addiction we should have them a good and true happiness outside in gambling world. Cause addiction is very serious illness  its too hard to handle it self so we need some people to help out in a gambling world.

Neglect makes people go into gambling and they end up being addicts. The feeling of loneliness can make people go into gambling and become addicts. Both neglect and loneliness can result in mental illness. Love, care, and a feeling of acceptance and importance can help a person addicted to gambling overcome it if it is done genuinely and from a place of wanting to see the addict recover. This is what I would do and the person doesn't have to be a family, I can do it for a friend who I care about deeply.

Using harsh words, teasing, mocking can never be an effective strategy. Rather it would make the addict gamble more.

Personally I would do both stages. The first is to be gentle by advising him that excessive gambling to the point of addiction will ruin everything. So, I gave warnings and advice like that 2 or 3 times. If there is still no change and gambling becomes more and more chaotic, harsh measures will definitely be taken to teach him a lesson. However, rude here means that the intention is good, not rude like hitting or slapping. but rather a firm attitude to pressure himself to think clearly. If his firm attitude is still not followed, the final option is to leave it alone until he feels the impact for himself.

I agree with you, but let me also point out that, it is very important for a gambler who is addicted to say that he or she needs help, before we decide to extent a helping hand to such a person,  going out of the street, and then seeing someone who is addicted to gambling, and throwing ourselves at him or her, in a bid to help that gambler may not always end well.
The only time I think we can offer such unsolicited help is when the person we are trying or wanting to help is a family member who is in close commission with us, or a best or very close friend or ours.

I say this because, some people are addicted to gambling and still enjoy playing it, most especially, those who are working or doing business and making just as good as enough money for themselves, and aside from being addicted to gambling, to them, gambling is also a way they ease off stress of that day after their activities at work or business place.
So, to want to advice such person to leave gambling either by force or by mild, when they did not ask for such help, could be you making yourself their enemy.

A calmer approach is what is needed to create a solution for the addict to go out of his dilemma and not to cause more problem by attacking his mentality. I guess by attacking his mentality you probably meant to tell him negative stories but I bet you such addict have perhaps heard such stories and doesn't have the capacity to stop themselves. Therefore, it goes beyond telling stories but a action, a suiting action that he won't know you are working to take him out and before you know it he is already out of addiction.

No addict wants you to use force on them and if you try and fail, you would probably not get the opportunity to try again because they will keep some distance away from you and try to avoid you, including seeing you as an enemy that is trying to deprive them of their winning as they feel any time they try, they are close to winning which is why they hardly give up by themselves.

correct as OP mentioned it is one of them living in the house meaning family member and if this is correct then they must know how to handle that person , with either by force or by calmness yet this is their call , w are not even  the person involved or living with Him so how can we answer this.

and better to wait for that addict to seek for help , because they are mostly hard to handle not until they realized what they are missing and understand the call of helping.