Topic: If a addict lives within, which method would you choose to help them - page 4. (Read 2448 times)

I know your struggle is real. Family gambling addiction treatment needs patience, perseverance, and empathy. I've witnessed it. The secret? Communication, but its easier said than done. Yes, they may first ignore you. They may not acknowledge an issue. Addiction is like that. Be gentle but firm. Discuss their feelings and experiences, not simply gambling. Human connection comes first. Remember, it's process. Small, sustained efforts can lead to breakthroughs.

Also consider professional aid. Gambling addiction therapists and support groups exist. They provide help and strategies you may not be able to deliver. Its improving your support, not giving up.

Those who have experienced a serious gambling addiction will not want to listen to advice from other people even though it is for their own good. They will continue their gambling activities and not think they are addicted to gambling.
However, we still have to try and must not give up, especially if the person who is addicted to gambling is one of our family members. We have to help them and get them out of their gambling addiction. If not, we will have bigger problems because people who are addicted to gambling might get other, bigger problems.
We must try to have a good conversation with those who are addicted to gambling so that they can accept the reality of what is happening to them. By inviting them to discuss this, we hope to open themselves and their eyes to see this reality so that they can begin to be aware of their gambling addiction.

Each person is a biopsychosocial individual, with personal subjective characteristics which can't be compared to each other as it was a cake recipe. The best working method for one person might not be the best method for another person, so you have to analyze each case particularly and closely. Nowadays everyone on the internet have the solutions for every problems humanity faces, judging from the comfort of their houses, however on practice things happen differently.

Only the family or the therapist who is close to the addict individual in a daily basis will be able to draw an accurate scenario of what is happening and what approaches could be more efficient. Moreover, it's not just a matter of best working method, that is, to be harsher or softer. The main key point is the addict individual wishing to change his life for the better and to finally overcome the addiction. If this person doesn't want treatment and doesn't see the importance of it, you can be soft, harsh or warm that it won't make any differences at all...

 It is not easy to convert or influence that person back to the normal human life again. Counseling a gambling addict is not something one can do once and it will be a continues counseling everyday. There are two approach parents normally used on those guys. Either in arsh way or in polite way. But the arsh work more than the polite way. Because the parents used polite approach in most cases they would be thinking that the parents are begging them so they would be very pride of it. And even the polite way there two approaches. Either military drilling or personal drilling. And children are afraid of military drilling so it is easier for them to stop gambling. But some gamblers listen to their parents so once they told them to stop they stopped it at once.

Healing an addict is more like a teamwork, between the addict and his friend or therapist. It's not a simple task as you mentioned, but if a step is taken the person can be better compared to when nothing is done. Friends or relatives may feel nothing can be done about the problem, thereby increasing the problem of the addict. The process takes lots of time for the addict to be healed, main reason most people withdraw from helping out the person, and he needs to comply by providing information regarding his actions and how it affects him.

Whether he's doing illicit things to generate money for his gambling habit or wagering all his earned money in gambling. Once, he's able to provide the right information the therapist will then be able to decide where to begin with recuperating the person's brain. Healing an addict, can't be achieved if he's not willing to share his pains with his relatives or therapists. Trying to help him without any background check on him is a waste of time.

Addiction is a serious difficult problem that happens when someone loses complete control on a habit they practice practically all the time, some people have it so bad leading them to do crazy things.

Gambling is one of those habits that people tend to fall into its addiction due to their irresponsibility and impulsive actions. When someone gets addicted to Gambling you can say that he will no longer have a stable healthy life,  not to mention going eventually broke because of the consecutive amounts of money that are spent daily on bets, losing so much money and not being able to stop what you are doing could push you go insane, some people even loan loads of money just to satisfy their gambling addiction needs and they ofcourse end up in big debts they can't pay back.

So imagine someone from your family or loved ones going through what I mentioned above, seeing someone you care about struggle due to gambling addiction, I don't thing treating them in a harsh way could help, it will only make it worse on them it's like adding more pressure and struggle on them. It is preferable to have calm conversations with them trying to understand them and help them fight this addiction, you should always be beside them to make sure they're away of anything related to Gambling. I think if you try the harsh way it won't help because you're gonna push this person away creating a distance between you two that will push him to even hide things from you just to avoid that harsh reaction.

That's why it is important to build a strong healthy relationship between family members for them to feel comfortable sharing their lives and opening up about their problems, violence and hard ways were never a solution.

A mix of polite confrontation and unfailing support is my friend recommendation. The key is communicating the painful facts with empathy that fosters introspection rather than resistance. This method creates a secure setting for honest addiction discussions, I've found.

I agree on parenting. Love-based discipline is tricky. Consistent love and discipline teach that advice is protective, not punitive. The key is to establish ideals and boundaries early on and make punishment seem like caring, not coercion.

Differentiating these roles is crucial. Parental speech is authoritative and concerned. Its important to approach these conversations with conscious kindness that encourages openness rather than defiance. Goal? To show mutually respectful ways out of addiction.

In as much as option 2 wouldn’t work, I think you could improve option 1 to work better. I’m not sure what you mean by not leaving their side for too long but I think that you should talk to the person and know their reason for gambling. You can’t solve a problem without knowing what the problem is. If the person says it’s because they don’t have money, then finding them a job will help them stop gambling because then they have Enough to not have a need to gamble.

It also depends on the relationship between the gambling addict and you. If you are close friends then it will be easy to tell him that he might be crossing the line on his/her gambling habit.
If you are a parent, either a father or a mother, this is where it gets chaotic. Most of the young ones today see discipline as an act of abuse. This is why I am trying my best to let my kids know that I love them whenever they hear discipline from me. It's best if they will understand that when they are younger so that they will understand it while they are growing up. It's not abuse but mostly love, because as a parent we don't want our kids to walk the wrong path.

Back to the topic. It's better if we talk nicely when we are parents. You are right about that. Maybe that way we can understand what they are going through and maybe that could patch things up and he/she will go back to his normal ways of life, avoiding gambling. As a friend though, it will be different. It's best to tell them the hard truth or tell the parents about what is happening so they will be the ones looking for a solution.

On the time that someone do really get that offended then for sure he/she would definitely be that going or trying out to keep some distance specially if it turns out that he do felt that he/she's being pressured or something. We cant really be able to stop things accordingly because if we do speak about gambling addiction then this one really pertains on someones self decisions in regarding
into the conditions that you are into. It is really just that gambling addicts wont really be able to able to realize those mistakes on the time that they would really be on such condition,
which we know that other people could really be able to see upon.

This is why if one of your family members or close to you that would be getting addicted then you would really be having that hard time on trying out to realize on what you are currently doing.
Im aint saying that it would be that able to solved out such problem but of course its not something that you could really be able to easily quit if you
dont have that strong self discipline and control.

I see your point and that's valid if we are too close with the person and we also understand how they will react with the way we will talk to them, though it will be a different take when we deal with someone who's already deeply addicted to gambling, there's no way that they will take time to listen, as everything that inside their minds is all about gambling and how they will going to please their desire to keep betting, unless you really have that bond which might break that engagement and they will spare time to sit and talk about their gambling participation.

More on how powerful your words and how you may inspire them with your statement, but yes, it's good to say that bringing good conversation and placing some engaging topics about their gambling may gain their interest and might help them to realize how far are they in terms of gambling addiction and what are the things that they already abuse.

I don't think that this kind of things can't be done by forcefully.  In these cases, we have to explain to the addicted person what problems have come in his life due to gambling addiction and what problems may come in the future. And for this they should make an appointment with a good psychologist if needed.  Moreover, family members should spend a lot of time with him.  By doing these things, if a highly addicted gambler can be turned away from their addiction.

If it is about spending your most free times with them as a monitor ship or guiding the addicted gambler not to gamble again, then that is not enough neither is it the way because there would surely be those little times you would excuse them for a personal activity or Indulgences. And it is not even about holding on hostage that would be the solution.

Psychologically, the state of their gambling addictions worsens when you places enforcement with a hard treats at them, they feels wild and captive when you become harh at them and are ignorant to whatever their gambling addictions maybe have caused them.

They are best fitted with some who would understand them such as interacting with them on why they are gambling in the first place and discuss with them about if they ever fell some lost of personalities in their livelihood within the society and also how it has affected their financial portfolios.
Be calm and talk to them like you understood why they are doing that way and the same time, you know what the consequences are.
Make them feel remorse over their addictions and not make shouting at them like they are unfit to make right decisions even though if yes really they are

By telling them the truth and trying to make them realize their mistakes, we can start to help them slowly get rid of their gambling addiction. We cannot tell them to immediately stop gambling because that would be the same as forcing them and would only cause a commotion between us.
It's better if we try to wake him up slowly and help him by finding a solution and trying to follow it. They will feel that they are trying to cure their gambling addiction with the help of others and will not feel alone.
We must be able to show concern for him so that he understands that we really want to help him get out of his gambling addiction. We don't want them to sink deeper into gambling without being able to get out, especially if they are a member of our family.

I think that there are no clear rules that will help an addicted gambler. If you constantly shout at the player, he will take away from you his gambling world in which you will not disturb him and there he will satisfy his stress hunger. On the other hand, if we behave calmly and are not critical of the addict’s game, then he will play without hindrance. I think that everyone needs to choose an individual plan to reduce the desire to play in such players. In fact, this is very difficult, because you need to know the characteristics of his character, which can only be fully studied for more than one year and then you will not learn everything you need. And even if you choose one of these options and everything goes well and the player stops playing, at one point in a year or several years he may return to this due to any stress in life. This could be a quarrel at work, breaking up with your girlfriend, or the loss of a loved one.

       -   They say the truth hurts, but it helps to make us feel better. It is also not bad to remind the person we are seeing that he will be harmed in the future if he continues what he is doing that is no longer balanced in gambling.

As long as the way of talking is good, I think that what you do with the person you have expressed concern for will also end in a good conversation, right? Now if He/She avoid you let it be until there is a good opportunity again to talk with him or her about this matter.

Someone who is addicted to gambling might get angry if there are people who want to prevent what they want to do (gambling). because in my opinion someone who is addicted to gambling will experience a change in character, where they may become more stubborn and reluctant to give in. So it's natural that when someone stands in his way, he gets angry because he has tried to block what the main perpetrator wants to do. but even so, preventing those who want to gamble or blocking the desires of people who are addicted to gambling is good, because of course we must be able to make them aware that gambling should not be done excessively, because by doing it excessively it will only make them lose more money. , not by making money. reducing gambling activities is of course good, the same as what you said, if the main perpetrators are tired then they will probably stop and rest, but what happens with gambling in my opinion will be different, because after they rest they will probably come back. in gambling with the same hope of chasing victory.

To stop gambling altogether will not be easy, because to be able to leave gambling you must be able to resist the temptation of wanting to gamble. while the temptation of gambling is very strong, especially if you are addicted to gambling then it is very likely that you will not be able to resist the temptation to gamble. Here, I think that to be able to stop gambling, of course the main perpetrator must first be able to realize that the gambling he is doing is an act that is detrimental to himself. There are some people who say they need help from other people, yes that is true, but when other people help make the main perpetrator aware of it then there is a possibility that the person who is addicted to gambling will be angry, unless the main perpetrator is already aware of the gambling he has been doing for that long. harm yourself. If they become aware of it themselves then I think they will reduce their gambling activities by themselves.

Addiction affects the brain and removes a lot of happy moments from the person's memory, if he's remembered of those past, he'd have lots of things to think about when alone. In a condition where the gambler has no funds to afford a therapist, the best option is inviting a relative over, or convincing the gambler to visit one. Those people help us a lot when in problem gambling. Their time and conversations put the brain quite busy enough to forget about whatever affects us in our daily life. An addict's worse moment is his lonely times. Keeping the person's brain active on other events puts the person in a position where he sees other aspects of life, other than gambling.

Indeed, many therapists recognize the significance of understanding an individual's past in order to address underlying issues contributing to addiction. Exploring childhood experiences can help therapists identify potential triggers, traumas, or unresolved emotions that may be driving addictive behaviors. Tapping into positive memories from childhood can be a powerful therapeutic tool for fostering happiness and emotional well-being.

Reconnecting with joyful experiences from the past can provide a sense of comfort, nostalgia, and connection, helping individuals navigate the challenges of addiction recovery with greater resilience and optimism. By creating a safe and non-judgmental space for exploration and healing, we can encourage individuals to open up about their experiences and work collaboratively towards recovery.

Yes, change is achievable, and the approach you both mentioned is the right option for healing an addicted gambler. As he'd need to discuss his troubles with us like we are friends, forcing him or yelling at him only causes a countervailing reaction on the player which can chase the gambler from our vicinity or presence, not wanting to have a conversation with us, hence making him feel very comfortable around us is the best healing technique on the addict.

In addition, tracing down on his behavior as a child also matters, many therapists, tend to discuss the person's past and figure out ways to get him out of addiction.

We all love our pasts, that's why we are happy whenever we get in touch with a childhood friend. Therapists can tap into this trick, as happiness is the goal, since the gambler has been sad and in pain during his period of addiction. Keeping him happy will drag him closer to us, and he'd never feel any need to avoid us, once that has been achieved, the player will be one step closer to being addiction free.