Topic: If a addict lives within, which method would you choose to help them - page 14. (Read 2446 times)

If that were to happen to me, I might employ the first method because, in that case, I could approach the problem with empathy and gradually demonstrate to the family member that I care about both their physical and mental well-being. I believe I should make an effort to comprehend him or her and have an honest discussion with them about how addiction has affected their lives. If the initial approach remains ineffective, it may be appropriate to seek assistance from professionals to help him or her clarify their current circumstances. Since we might be able to support them emotionally during their recovery as family members in this way, And if he/she is already open to it, perhaps I can help them accept responsibility for their deeds by suggesting that they establish reasonable objectives in order to get out of the situation they are in. After all, conquering addiction is a difficult process, and patience is crucial. It may take some time, but the most crucial thing is that you can see that a tiny progress is being made.

I mean if they are already an addict that's is for sure going to be difficult because if you're already a gambling addict you already deep on it and In my opinion all of the things that you have said are not going to work if that is just what you're going to do, however, if you're just talking about the method of being harsh or soft for sure the best way to do here is just be soft show some low and make them feel that you are on their side at this situation even though it is probably going to be a huge journey for them.

There's probably no way to help them unless they are the ones that are going to decide that they dont want it anymore, all of the addicts that I know want to stop but they just can't stop because it's not that easy, and it's a long process. It would take commitment and process in order to fix their problem probably better to undergo a certain program where you slowly fix things, like slowly reducing your gambling until you completely get rid of it. Still, I just dont see how using force is going to be a good way of helping them since it might just lead to a bigger issue in the future.

The first approach should be a lenient and soft one. You have to speak to the person and inquire what are the triggers of addictive gambling. At this stage, there should be a discussion or dialogue between you and the person which will lead to counseling based on what you have discovered. A peaceful and respectful discussion will enable you to identify the person's problem and also devise viable means of handling the situation.

Taking more drastic actions could come in if you observed that the counsel was not effective. You don't need to insult or attack the gambler but close supervision could be a good option. You will have to closely monitor the person's financial transactions to ascertain the level of gambling addiction. If the person is a dependent actions like reduction or control of financial assistance could be effective. Seeking professional help could also be an option if the first strategy failed. But you cannot force an adult who is not depending on you for finance to stop gambling. You can only advise and also suggest to them to seek assistance.

That's good, friend, if you want to do that, it means you are a person who really cares and won't let anyone in your family get addicted to gambling because in many cases gambling addiction can make someone commit a crime or act that is detrimental to themselves. I've seen my neighbor's child become an addict. gambling where his family really tried to cure him of gambling so he was locked up in his room without internet and cell phone, I know it was an act of torture against him but maybe I should understand that his family was doing it for his good so it had to be a little harsh.

But there are also gambling addicts who can be advised in a gentler way depending on the person, if those with a high level of gambling addiction are usually quite difficult to cure, in fact they will ignore advice from anyone including their family, therefore it depends on the level of addiction, if the level is low it is usually easy. to be advised so that he can be immediately cured of his bad habits and gambling addiction, namely by advising him to reduce his gambling activities permanently and remain responsible when gambling.

I understand why people won't want to be harsh with their loved ones but it should depend on the person, some people are good at listening and correcting themselves, you don't have to take it hard on them, while some people don't listen easily, they don't take words of others very seriously, such people needs extra correction, if harsh is necessary you should use it, like I've said it depends on the person who is addicted to gambling.

Some people are too stubborn that they only listen to the words of very few numbers of people, if such people can be found, you can advise them to speak with the addicted gambler, maybe he will reason the whole thing since the advice is coming from those he respected more.

Some gamblers can't be changed though, even if they leave gambling for few years they will always be back, until they are in a very messy state they won't know and accept that they are doing everything wrong, gambling can easily mess with you, it's left for you to beat the addiction.

I will do everything for the family so I will help Him/Her in every possible ways and even to
spend my last penny just to help them leave gambling addiction , actually we in family are intact so I think
this will never happen to us but if by any case that one of the family member will be involve in such a way
then the family is full force to support and find ways to make things better.

They also thought that mentally ill people will only goes on psychologist and they continue to be denial about their real condition since for them they are fine but actually they are causing to much damage to people around him especially on his family members that's why its really good for people to know that psychologist or expert is not only for crazy people but rather they can give advice or immediate help for those people experiencing gambling addiction and other more.

If they keep ignoring things and continue on what they are doing for sure they would really make things worse not only for them but also for people around them. So proper acceptance on situation is important so the person affected on gambling addiction can move on and eliminated that on their heads.

True. Problem here is that many people especially the ones living in 3rd world countries feel that trying to treat mental issues like gambling addiction could affect their reputation in society negatively which is why they avoid going to psychologists.

They end up making things worse for themselves usually due to those silly reasons.

It is hard to choose cause it would be different for each person, sometimes being soft and gentle would just get you ignored they would act like they are listening but they aren't really paying attention, on the other side being harsh and straight forward would make them realize how frustrated you are with them.
For me if you already given out some time on being gentle and they would keep on getting back to it, then it is time to be harsh and if they still continue to their addiction, then there is nothing you could do about it.
If they don't want to help their self there is no one else who could help them, no matter what effort you put up it would just go to waste, that is how I see it.
Action speaks louder than words even if they say that they want to change if they don't act it, it is all just words if they really want to change they would start even in small steps.

Well, this actually sounds like a very stressful venture for a person who it is not his or her profession or area of expertise to help and cure gamblers who are addicted to gambling.
And considering that the world we live in today is getting busier each and every passing day, and so are people in the world also getting busier as well, and I do not doubt about those who will have the money, or means of making money to introduce to the gambler who is addicted so as to get him or her engaged, possibly because I know we have a lot of wealthy persons in the world, but in the area of time, who would have such time to keep check over an addicted gambler , even if he or she is a family member?

Anyways, I am possibly comparing myself to other people out there, maybe there are alot of less busy people than I thought, but still, the best way to help I think is to take such person to a professional who can help them get out and heal from their gambling addiction - though this largely depends on the level of addiction, some that are still mild can easily get away from the addiction by a simple advice from someone the addicted love and respect.

If you really want to help an addict, ensure you engage them with something meaningful, especially something that will fill that gap and fetch them money while they stay away from the number of time that they spend in gambling else they will still fall back into their usual way, always check back on them from time to time to know if their situation is gradually improving ,talk to them and feed their minds with words of encouragement.  

They would really be in denial as much as they could until you would be able to caught them on the spot then this is where they would really be making those admission that they are really that addicted.
If ever that ones of the family members who are really that on such condition or situation then as a family member who do loves then it would really be normal that you would really doing your very best
to help them to solve out that gambling problem. Not all would really be that in concern with others situations and conditions but as a family then it would really be that impossible that you could turn back.
Why wont you would really be turning your back into someone who is your family and you do know that he/she's addicted with gambling?

It would really be that impossible that you would really be that too cold hearten on that kind of situation or condition on which even myself would really be
sure that help would really be next on the line once i do able to know such situation.

First, they have to be able to admit that they are addicted to gambling, because usually those who are addicted to gambling don't want to admit that they are addicted to gambling. also with them addicted to gambling they will not easily accept advice from others. It's true what you said, they will be easily helped if they admit they are addicted and have their own advice, but if they don't have their own awareness then in my opinion it will be difficult even if they are helped by other people or their closest family.

To be honest, when someone is addicted to gambling, his family will definitely do their best by gently helping him, but as time goes by, if the addict doesn't change, then it is likely that the family will also raise their hand to help him. because I myself am fed up of advising my friend who is addicted to gambling, so now I just let him, let him experience an incident that will make him realize it by himself. After he has his own awareness then maybe advice from other people can be accepted well.

Although there is more to solving the addiction problem in gambling, both approaches are good, and in my experience, people, especially parents and family members have used either of the approaches or both and worked, but not in all cases still. Gambling addiction is a powerful addiction since it has to do with money, and that is why it is good we do not position our minds on the money when we start gambling, this will impact a very bad root in our psychology if the care is not taken, and to uproot such will be so difficult. I think that either of the approaches should be used on the person one after the other, and I must say that I have seen that they worked for some people and failed in others. Now, if the two had been used but failed, I think that the next thing is to make sure that you solve the issue from the source.

It might be financial needs that are causing that, so the person must first be settled in that regard before the issue can be resolved, he needs financial freedom. We all need purpose in life and the more there are other means that give the gambler money and also take his time and attention away from it, then it is near time that he will be healthy again and be delivered of the menace. Just continue to advise him after securing a job for him and I know that it will go a long way to help him as this approach has helped many.

It's really up to the gamblers themselves, you have to take into consideration their mental state and attitude,

1. This is what we called empathetic approach, communication is the key, your should not be not-judgmental but instead uses a open approach and conversation. It allows for a better understanding of their perspective and can be the first step towards seeking help.

2. This is a confrontational approach, but you should approach the person with caution as the harsh approach might have a negative impact to him.

So it's important to recognized that each person situation and personality is very unique. One works for one individual, might not work for another, so it's a case to case basis. A aggressive approach could be detrimental, as usually a gambling addicts doesn't believed in the beginning that they are not addict and so this process might hinder the building of trust and so recovery might take time.

LOL, that's what I said in the post immediately preceding yours. Anyway, I can only agree: whenever you have an important problem you can't solve yourself it is usually advisable to look for help, and with addictions is not any different (in fact, seeking help is specially important to avoid derailing if you see the first symthoms). This way you(or your relative) will save much more money in the long term than the price of the consultation, and prevent further problems linked to impulsiveness.

Having an addicted relative living in your house is not something easy to deal with. I already had an addicted relative in my house and something that was very difficult for us to understand in the early years was that he was addicted and that we needed to give him appropriate treatment, but at that time my naivety was very great to the point that I couldn't reach everyone. the obvious signs that were in front of me, I and other relatives of mine focused on helping him financially and helped him with treatments for physical illnesses he had. We were being very naive, we didn't realize that his real illness was the addiction that needs to be cured very urgently, as he didn't confess that he was addicted and hid it.

I only talked about the physical illnesses he had, so I thought that his only problem was his physical illness and I didn't try to understand why he had those physical illnesses. Years passed and I and all the other members of our family constantly put him in clinics for treatment, until we discovered that he had to be admitted to a clinic for him to cure his addiction, he left the clinic because his sister gave permission for him to leave, that was a big mistake, his sister thought he was being mistreated, while he was being treated well, but as he wanted to leave to continue his addiction, so he lied. When he understood that following his sister's ideas was not good, it was already too late. With this I want to say to everyone the following:

When you have an addicted relative, do not hesitate to use force to place them in an addiction rehabilitation clinic. When I talk about using force, I am referring to going to court so that the court can use the police to take the addicted person to the hospital. You should not avoid violence against other people, you should use the laws and in these cases, addicted people are a great danger to family and friends and even to people on the streets. This is why it is necessary to go to court to force the addicted person to undergo treatment in the hospital

An old friend had this problem. Back then, we were naive enough to think we could help him by explaining that it wasn't good and taking the money away from him. However, the addiction and the desire for the kick was so great that he even ended up stealing to get money and was in prison for a short time.

In the end, he underwent several sessions of therapy and as far as I can tell, he is no longer addicted to gambling. What I'm trying to say is that you should seek professional help. Friends or family can only help with difficulty.

Gambling is more than what we see merely please permit to say that there is an extra ordinary power that hovers around gambler which I can call it "gambling addicts power" this force seems to be regularly controlling those who are damn routed into gambling that is when you would see this power manifesting in them at this point whatever you does or try to do is like a gas that is being ignite with liter to flame and explode uncontrollably. Naturally those who are found being addicted should be take to rehabilitation center where they can get their normal sense.

I don't wanna sound rude for any reason... I don't even wanna consider the fact that sometimes, I might eventually fall a victim of the consequences of Thier addiction...

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I feel anyone would tend to listen more when being spoken politely to; being harsh would only make the person see it as being an intrusion into his privacy and might revolt badly... The case of a different result isn't guaranteed should anyone decide to be calm with them but, it's better to understand that "FIRE CANNOT QUENCH FIRE".

Sandra 🧑‍🦰