Topic: If a addict lives within, which method would you choose to help them - page 16. (Read 2448 times)

Change it from option 1 and 2 to plan a and b. If a gentle approach with some sort of compassion doesn't budge them, try plan b with a harsher approach to the addict. Even if you have plans like that, the chance of the addict not changing a single bit is possible. Those kind of addicts need a plan c which is a help from professional. The plan has different approach but the goal is straight which is making the addict quit or at least slow them down to the point that they realize that they should stop doing gambling.

I think there is no need to choose between these two options or methods. Why? Simply because you can do both depends on the situation or on what extent the gambler in your family, friends, or how addicted they are. From that, you can come up with a better method suitable for that situation. As an example from the first choices, this kind of help will be effective for those gamblers who are not too deep into their addiction and will change themselves accordingly; in short, they are not too late to change or to back down in gambling. While the second method, you could do this method if the first method didn't work, and also if the extent of his addiction is too much, a calm and good way will be useless, so it's better to state the consequences of gambling addiction even in a harsh way. Yeah, harsh, but we have no option but to wake the addict to their senses.

I'm confused with the term rip off. Are you gonna take advantage of him? It's quite confusing. That's usually being used to people who are taken advantage of or something.

You do know that addicts only listen to themselves, even if you effort so much continuously, it will only work if the addict realizes it on his/her own. I hope that happens to the addicted person near you. Make them think for themselves and I believe it will follow.

My friend once advised his younger brother who started gambling, it seems he is not yet addicted to gambling at a serious level, so he can still stop gambling for a while, but that doesn't guarantee that he will stop gambling, he can just gamble hiding in his room. with a cellphone without having to be seen in public, after all gambling is now so sophisticated that just with a cellphone and the internet, gambling can be done online. so there's no point in being tough either.

People who are advised in a harsh way will usually want to continue doing it, so there is no need to exhaust our energy using a harsh method, it is better to use a gentler method of advising him, but this must be done every time so that over time he will think and feel tired of the advice given. he accepts it every time, believe me, it won't be too draining, but it can be done every day to advise him, whether it is successful or not depends on how high the level of addiction is, if the level is still very small, it is still easy to cure, unless the high level has to be done slowly. advised him, need a process and let the process run its course, time will tell in the end whether he will stop gambling or not. 

We have certainly seen many cases of gambling addicts who were eventually abandoned by their family members. To be honest that wouldn't be good for their mental situation. it can be a stress for the addict which can have worse consequences.
If the situation can still be controlled, then remind and direct the addict with positive things. The only thing that can reduce an addict's activity in gambling is to provide activity in their daily life. Give them positive things so they forget to think about gambling.
the process cannot be simple, it requires sacrifice and a lot of time from those of us around it.

Go with number One but eventually it will not work and you will have to resort to number to. Assess whether the person feels the remorse and wants to get into rehab which is essential to understand that they are willing to help themselves.

The method to explain to them that gambling is detrimental to their well being and their lives should be explicit and hammered on them constantly, so they understand that their actions are having a bad effect on the rest of the family. Try to include how they could have done differently with that money.

It is tough trying to help someone in the family, but it is possible so dont lose hope.

I think in current times being soft is much better because at least that person can understand that whatever he is doing is not only going to harm him but his family as well. If you be rude to that person who's already an addict then you'll somehow hurt his ego and that's the worst thing someone can do with their own family members.

Just be gentle and tell them that gambling addiction is one of the worst type of addictions and it can destroy someone's life. Tell him that the same addiction has destroyed lives of many young people and it will certainly destroy your life as well. Empathy can somehow help such people.

If he can still be talked to and has not entered the acute gambling addiction phase then the first option is the right choice. However, if he finds it difficult to hear advice to stop gambling then it is better to use professional help, in my opinion this is more logical and there is a big chance that he can recover from his addiction.

If gambling addiction is left unchecked, it will cause many losses, harm to himself and the people around him, he is also at risk of committing crimes to get money.

You have your own life, you have sets of problem why need to bother yourself about that addict? not unless that person is so much close to you and know that there is something you can do  to help them then act on it.
and also since this is family matter you must know what kind of person is this and what is the capacity , if you do believe that they can change then  help them but trust me you cannot help the person that does not wanted to be healed .

A gentler approach is way more effective than an aggressive one.  Human has a rebellious nature, so if we force them to quit, they might feel irritated and agitated and may probably gamble more than before.  Pride when touched and offended may lead to an unpleasant result.  We should be more sensitive and more understanding if we have a gambling addict in the family.  The best thing is to have a heart-to-heart talk to that person and know the reason behind his gambling activities.  This should be done in a most careful manner so as to not to offend the person and make him open up and trust our suggestions.  Never condemn them and as much as possible make them realize their situation in a mild manner.

It is always best to make them realize than force them to realize that they are addicted to gambling.


But before we can hand over the gambling addict to a professional psychologist, the person should accept that he needs to consult a specialist and sometimes it needs another person to make him realize that there is really a problem.

It seems like everyone would prefer the former because it cannot be denied that we also like to gamble but are not addicted to it. So treating him as gently as possible will make us feel how peaceful it is if we treat addicts like that, and over time there is a possibility that we will definitely be lulled and be able to stop.
And for the second option, we will definitely feel that if we are treated harshly just to stop gambling, we will definitely be angry. Moreover, an addict will be psychologically disturbed and his mental health will be affected by gambling addiction and that will only make the situation worse, he will rebel and get angry which will make him continue playing without control because of his irritation.

Hand over a gambling addict to a professional psychologist, and he or she will know the better way to handle the patient after taking their time to study the patient.

The reason why I said that is because there are four temperaments by nature, and people usually possess different temperaments, which makes them react differently to any kind of treatment (in this case, not medical) they receive.

There are some people who, if you show them care and attention and calmly advise them to stop a particular habit, at first it will be difficult for them to stop it, but because they don't want you to feel disappointed at them, they will exercise discipline and make sure they don't go back to addiction again.

There are also some people who, when you calmly advise them and show them care, the moment you leave them alone, they have gone back to doing that thing you just talked to them about. They know you will not do them anything, but you will also talk to them calmly.

Then, some people love to be threatened before they can stop a habit. For example, if you threaten to isolate an addict or threaten to punish them in a way they know will cause harm to them, they will try not to go back to their addiction again.

So, in conclusion, before you can help an addict, study them and know the parameters that can work. If you try the first one and it doesn't work, use the second one. There is a chance that despite the steps you take to help some gambling addicts, they will never change because they have lost their minds to it.

If you think they have a problem, then start with a nice approach. Try to offer support and to do activities to take their mind off of gambling. If that doesn't work, get them help via a therapist. Yelling at them likely isn't going to work and will most likely push them away IMO.

Being harsh to people that have an addiction is proven not working at all because you are just making yourself an additional problem and hurdle for them to deal with addiction.

Even the first option is still subjective because it depends on what kind of person you are since companionship with addicted person is not an easy task. The best choice is to let everyone in your family involved and not you alone so that the addicted person will find a majority support that will comfort him. Addiction starts when a person doesn’t have any other choice yo get the entertainment aside from gambling. It’s either ask the support of professional or deal with it with your family because it’s very hard to control them alone in reality especially if you are not the dominant member in your family.

If it is possible to frustrate their effort to always gamble then do that and get the result you want, to frustrate in this sense is not bad or being wicked it is an effort you want to take to help someone in need of your help. So take the frustrating answer serious by cutting of resources from the gambler. For example if the person is gambling because they have left over money that you gave him on some expenses and running around then cut down on how much they get from you. Again if you can relocate them to where it will be difficult for them to gamble like a strict guardian then you can do that.

Apart from those, you can choose to reorientate the gambler that it is luck base and not a source of income because most addicts see it as source of income. However, if the soft measures fail then you can apply force where necessary like to seize the phone, ban them to follow certain people who influence them, restrict their access to going online etc.

The moment you become harsh to someone who’s facing difficulties in life or trying to leave an habit you’ll only make the issue worst.

For example if it’s someone who doesn’t have a strong self-esteem they’ll feel like you’re not there to help them instead of them being close to you they’ll tend to move away from you and I personally can think of how you’d be able to help someone who doesn’t want to be around you – it will become a mission impossible.  While for some they might just tell you to keep it to yourself since you’ve decide to be harsh – they might even remind you that it’s their life and if you’re not there to help you should leave it the way it is.

So the best option here is to show compassion, always reassure them that they can make it thought the addiction if they keep trying and that they should not give up – do the little things you can as a friend [since they are close to you] and most importantly don’t judge them. This is far better than the harsh approach.

there is only one thing that you will surely help ..

NEVER GIVE THEM CHANCE TO BORROW MONEY from you because that is what they will surely ask when they run out of funds and giving them will help them become more addicted.

and also try to guide them away from gambling , bring them to other interesting things in life and activities , bring them to fishing as the calmness of water will help them realized life.

I do not think being harsh would solve the issue of addiction as it is complex and involves underlying issues such as trauma, mental health challenges, and lack of coping skills. Forcing an addict to stop will only aggravate his addiction habit. The best option is to create a supportive environment for that addict as control tactics or emotional pressure generally backfires. The best option is to hire a professional who knows how addiction issues can be worked on and how an individual can come out of his addiction. If you do not want the family to disintegrate, it is better to hire a professional rather than come out with such an absurd strategy.

First, let me say that I do not give unsolicited help, I can not just wake up one morning and leave something important I should do or be doing and walk up to someone whom I think is addicted to gambling and want to help him or her stop, what if he or she is actually enjoying it.?

But then, op did talk about the person being a family member, ans sincerely, even if the person is a family member, I still won't help except he or she calls for my help, I can only decide to help a gambling addict on my own if he or she is very close to me, either as a friend or family, if it's someone I talk to always, go out with, we play and do alot of things together, then I definitely will want to try to help him or her, and whether I go the mild and soft way, or the hard and forceful way, all depends on the type of person I am dealing with, people are of different characteristics, someone people don't like being treated soft, while there are some other who also don't like being treated hard.
So, how I chose to help will depend on the behavior or character of the person I dealing with.

Of course it's better to use the first method, but if the first method doesn't work then use the second method, if it still doesn't work then take him to a psychiatrist or professional to treat him and if it still doesn't work, then leave him alone and don't give him money, let him realize it himself because when he has nothing else maybe he will realize his mistake