It is because they are not proud of what they are doing thats why they are hiding their gambling activities sometimes it is against either their Family rule or against their religion .
there are aspects we need to consider and not just because the community is against their gambling.
I am not secreting my gambling to anybody I even show everyone about my gaming since i was young.
but that does not mean that I am also proud of what am doing because this cost me a lot from the past.
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So are you open with your own family about gambling?the reason I dont hide this activity with my family is because for me the family is the most important person in everything, they remain family who will help with any problems and will maintain confidentiality which is not appropriate to tell and I dont have full trust in people out there like friends or companions because they will only be good when there are no problems, but when they have a problem, evil will be spread, including gambling activities.
so there is no other reason to keep my gambling a secret from others and be open with my family.
Okay I agree with you on this one, even though gambling is not a good thing but maybe if you tell your family openly it can be understood by them, so it is not a problem if you play with limits by always maintaining family harmony, and don't let gambling destroy family harmony.
The reason I keeping my gambling habits secret is like hiding something I do because I'm worried about what others might think or because it's causing some issues in my life. It's a bit like keeping a secret hobby or activity to myself. Sometimes, it's because talking about it can feel embarrassing or I'm not sure how others will react. For some reason gambling addiction.
It is not really surprising that you feel this way, even if people are not as judgmental as they were on the decades prior to the current one, and gambling is more accepted as a hobby than at any point in history, at the same time there are a lot of people out there and regions of the world in which gambling is still thought to be an undesirable activity, and if you live in one of those places then if you were to reveal you like this hobby you could face some difficulties, and in that case it makes more sense to keep your activities a secret. 
Good point about hiding and feelings. People hide things they do because they are either feel uncomfortable (like feeling ashamed of it) what they do, or the things they do has illegal context. Is gambling illegal? In some countries yes, in some not. I would understand if person hide that he gamble in country where it is illegal. About feelings, if I am an adult, why would I be ashamed of gambling? Or feel uncomfortable from doing something that brings me fun. Seems absurd to me.
Telling someone about gambling is definitely out of the picture, because this might ruined our reputation. Like me, I'm not open with my gambling activities to anyone except with my colleagues, ensuring they also anticipate in the system. Telling someone about winnings in the system will only bring more eyes on you, and people will destroy what they know about and they will never have knowledge about one's plans, only if we keep everything mute. Most people always keep the activities they anticipated in lowkey because that's the appropriate way to lived.The reason I keeping my gambling habits secret is like hiding something I do because I'm worried about what others might think or because it's causing some issues in my life. It's a bit like keeping a secret hobby or activity to myself. Sometimes, it's because talking about it can feel embarrassing or I'm not sure how others will react. For some reason gambling addiction.
Good point about hiding and feelings. People hide things they do because they are either feel uncomfortable (like feeling ashamed of it) what they do, or the things they do has illegal context. Is gambling illegal? In some countries yes, in some not. I would understand if person hide that he gamble in country where it is illegal. About feelings, if I am an adult, why would I be ashamed of gambling? Or feel uncomfortable from doing something that brings me fun. Seems absurd to me.
Telling someone about gambling is definitely out of the picture, because this might ruined our reputation. Like me, I'm not open with my gambling activities to anyone except with my colleagues, ensuring they also anticipate in the system. Telling someone about winnings in the system will only bring more eyes on you, and people will destroy what they know about and they will never have knowledge about one's plans, only if we keep everything mute. Most people always keep the activities they anticipated in lowkey because that's the appropriate way to lived. 
If that the case, the conclusion is that everything is in your own hands to determine what best for you, but my advice would be better if you openly tell about your gambling activities to your family, at least your younger siblings who you can trust and hide your gambling activities from your friends maybe now your friend is the best person for you but remember mate, friends will not always be good just because of a problem and your activities will be spread by your own friends and that is very scary and a worse experience is that a friend is hostile to his own friend just because get winnings from gambling and borrow money but are not lent after that, they become hostile and spread their gambling activities.
and this is just a suggestion, you dont need to use it and if your method is the best, its better to ignore my advice.
This condition was different to every gamblers,Some had the friendly environment in their family and relations circle.So such gambler can share their gambling habit to their family and relations circle.If the gambler is from the middle class family,it’s better to hide your gambling habit to everyone.Because they will start to blame you for the money using on the gambling.So also don’t ask the loan in the emergency with your friends,they will thought you ask him loan for the gambling game.It’s better to play with your own money,because your friends use loan chance to blame you.If you used your money,they can’t blame you for the game.
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So are you open with your own family about gambling?the reason I dont hide this activity with my family is because for me the family is the most important person in everything, they remain family who will help with any problems and will maintain confidentiality which is not appropriate to tell and I dont have full trust in people out there like friends or companions because they will only be good when there are no problems, but when they have a problem, evil will be spread, including gambling activities.
so there is no other reason to keep my gambling a secret from others and be open with my family.
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We are all have different perspective in life, but I will agree with you mate if we are a gambler we must tell to our family cause if we hide it then there's a high possibility they will wit mad at you once they will know that you are involve in gambling for a long time and you didn't tell them. And thats a big mistakes for me anyways we don't have the same thought or the same idea so maybe some of you guys are prefer to be quiet than sharing to your family that you are involve in gambling.
I always try to keep my gambling habit hidden because I live in a conservative family where everyone is religious and in this religious conservative family gambling will never be accepted. Moreover, I have small children, if they see their father's gambling activities, then a kind of curiosity will arise in them, and from that curiosity, the small children will develop an addiction to gambling. Also I have many primary level children around my house and I always try to stay away from them and I don't enter gambling sites in front of them during the day. I try to avoid gambling and casinos at all times considering the overall condition of small children.
it will also be the cause of quarrels when someone in your family knows you are playing casino online. it could be a big problem that you might as well just stop before they catch you doing it. but just like many of us we are so invested in gambling, that we can't just wake up one day and stop.
while my family is not really opposed to gambling. i would rather not let them know because they might just think i have a ton of money to waste. and if one day i ask help them financially, they might think i lost my money due to my casino activity online.
So I only gamble when I'm outside the house drinking a cup of coffee, and I rarely gamble at home because I have a son who is not even two years old. And he is very close to me when I am at home, so I often do it outside the house and that too on weekends.
It is very difficult if we still like to gamble amidst unsupportive family conditions, so we have to be very careful. And I also know my limits in gambling and always use money that I can afford to lose, and I can also stop at any time if I want because I am also not an active gambler.
I always try to keep my gambling habit hidden because I live in a conservative family where everyone is religious and in this religious conservative family gambling will never be accepted. Moreover, I have small children, if they see their father's gambling activities, then a kind of curiosity will arise in them, and from that curiosity, the small children will develop an addiction to gambling. Also I have many primary level children around my house and I always try to stay away from them and I don't enter gambling sites in front of them during the day. I try to avoid gambling and casinos at all times considering the overall condition of small children.
it will also be the cause of quarrels when someone in your family knows you are playing casino online. it could be a big problem that you might as well just stop before they catch you doing it. but just like many of us we are so invested in gambling, that we can't just wake up one day and stop.
while my family is not really opposed to gambling. i would rather not let them know because they might just think i have a ton of money to waste. and if one day i ask help them financially, they might think i lost my money due to my casino activity online.
But why continue in what you're not proud of by keeping it secret cause maybe you're worried about what people may say, how their thoughts about your person might change. Or how you might loose ties with someone you hold dear to. And many other reasons that follows.
Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.
Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.
I dont think gambling habit is a thing that need to be a secret. for me, it's just a private fun that we dont need to tell to anyone, because it's a thing that can shape our mood. the fact that no gambler wins every day won't make our day feels good when people around us know we lost gambling. people tend to mock losers, that create bad atmosphere around us.
gambling habit is also not something to be proud of, no reason for it. Luck just gives us happiness, but not pride, because that's not a thing we achieve with a capability. eventhough many people make proud of their luck, but it's substantially not pride.
I always try to keep my gambling habit hidden because I live in a conservative family where everyone is religious and in this religious conservative family gambling will never be accepted. Moreover, I have small children, if they see their father's gambling activities, then a kind of curiosity will arise in them, and from that curiosity, the small children will develop an addiction to gambling. Also I have many primary level children around my house and I always try to stay away from them and I don't enter gambling sites in front of them during the day. I try to avoid gambling and casinos at all times considering the overall condition of small children.
Good point about hiding and feelings. People hide things they do because they are either feel uncomfortable (like feeling ashamed of it) what they do, or the things they do has illegal context. Is gambling illegal? In some countries yes, in some not. I would understand if person hide that he gamble in country where it is illegal. About feelings, if I am an adult, why would I be ashamed of gambling? Or feel uncomfortable from doing something that brings me fun. Seems absurd to me.
But many do feel ashamed about their gambling habit, even if they are adults. In the first place, gambling is something not to be brag about or announced to anyone you know, maybe just to your trusted and close friends. The root cause is the stereotyping created by many people or the crowd; they think that gambling is illegal and bad, but the ones who create that description are the people who do it; there is no gambling addict if those people control themselves; there are no crimes related to gambling if they discipline themselves; in short, the people themselves are the reason why gambling is being categorised as an illegal or bad habit. Well, we can't please all people, so if you don't want to be judged, then it's better to hide it as I said gambling habit is something not to brag, keep it low and keep it safe.
The entertaining part will be replace of aggresion to win back the losing amount of money that they use, if the person continue to look for a way to chase the money they already lose it will affect their emotional balance, meaning that it will reflect with how they will think about gambling and even they are trying to keep it as secret when chasing loses come out in their minds they will use additional money that not allocated to gambling, then lose it as well, emotional stress and more on focusing into gambling that may lead into addictions.
And keeping their gambling activities a secret can cause more problems to arise because they can exceed their limits and no one knows how much money they have spent gambling. This is very risky because someone could deposit more money to gamble because they think they want to win more but they don't realize that it will only cost them more money. But if he can have good self-control, he can hide his gambling activities and will not get into any trouble, although that does not guarantee that he will not exceed his limits because he gambles in secret. We will never know when we will lose self-control or how long we can control ourselves because in gambling, we can get bigger temptations than before, so we must always be alert and stop gambling immediately if we have had enough of gambling.Yeah right, even there's no direct impact to your personal life as individual those words behind your back can affect you emotionally, and like what you mentioned in gambling there are many opinion about how luck take place, supernatural believe that may prevent you from winning that's why a gambler choose to keep his gambling participation as secret as it could be, to make sure that there's no bad omen that will prevent the potential win.
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well. you have a point, maybe being a lowkey just to protect a gamblers from some evil eyes that may surrounds them, we all know that some people doesn't agree and support you once they know that you're into gambling and There's a traditional belief that once they know what you're doing, they can ruin it. In a gamblers vocabulary, Luck is very important that's why sometimes they tend to hide what they are doing even in their family members just to avoid losing in a game. Having a self control and limitations is a must and if gambler feels that they are turning being addicted to it, maybe that's the time that you can tell it to them.
If it's related to traditional beliefs, we can't relate to anything because they will easily judge gamblers by giving bad opinions, so maybe that's why there are still many gamblers who hide their gambling activities from other people because they don't want to get these bad opinions. They tend to choose to keep their gambling activities hidden from other people, even their own family members because they feel more comfortable doing so. They will also not experience a lack of self-confidence when hanging out with their friends because they are completely unaware of their gambling activities. Indeed, when they choose to hide their gambling activities, they must have better self-control so they don't experience any problems while gambling.It can be difficult for a family to prevent a gambler from exceeding their limits, even if they are aware of their gambling habits. It is up to the gambler themselves to take responsibility and make a conscious effort to prevent it. The family can support and encourage the gambler, but they cannot force them to change their behavior.
Yes, that's true. His family won't know what the problem is until a family member goes beyond his limits in gambling and becomes addicted to gambling because he has hidden his gambling activities from his family. This requires awareness for him to admit to his family that he has a gambling problem and needs help from his family. However, a gambling addict may still hide his gambling activities from his family and think he is still fine. But if he is willing to admit his gambling addiction in front of his family and ask for help, he might be able to get help from his family soon so he can overcome his problem. 
Good point about hiding and feelings. People hide things they do because they are either feel uncomfortable (like feeling ashamed of it) what they do, or the things they do has illegal context. Is gambling illegal? In some countries yes, in some not. I would understand if person hide that he gamble in country where it is illegal. About feelings, if I am an adult, why would I be ashamed of gambling? Or feel uncomfortable from doing something that brings me fun. Seems absurd to me.
It can be difficult for a family to prevent a gambler from exceeding their limits, even if they are aware of their gambling habits. It is up to the gambler themselves to take responsibility and make a conscious effort to prevent it. The family can support and encourage the gambler, but they cannot force them to change their behavior.
To be honest if it is known that the family will certainly have efforts that can be done to help the gambler to eliminate his addiction by limiting the addict not holding money, and there are many other ways that can be tried if we know that we gamble and are addicted, behavior Strange like spending a lot of money with a short time, the family will find out directly and will help us not to do the same thing again.But in my opinion, it is very possible that family members can force someone to stop gambling with any way, like locking him in the room for some time, it could have been?, I think the context of help will be greater if the family knows and you want to stop gambling.
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Therefore, however bad things that are hidden will later be found out by other people or families, because it is impossible to be safe forever, including gambling habit activities, even though it has been hidden for a long time, it will be seen from us. For example, those of us who always experience defeat must be annoyed with the defeat that is always obtained, and if we continue to lose we will be different, whether it's behavior or something like that, from here other people or family can guess that we are having problems. Inevitably we tell stories because it's impossible to keep it to ourselves, because basically everyone needs a chat buddy to ask for direction or something like that.That's for sure, because I myself am not good with my family, so that's why I prefer friends instead of family
. Even though family gives encouragement to stop gambling it's not easy for a gambler, I think most gamblers are also like this, it's difficult to accept advice from anyone because they only focus on their gambling. It's useless for the family to give encouragement to stop if there is no awareness of the harmful effects of gambling on oneself, before going to family or friends and others, of course there must be self-awareness.and this is just a suggestion, you dont need to use it and if your method is the best, its better to ignore my advice.
I really appreciate your suggestion, and I might try it later, thanks for the suggestion.
So are you open with your own family about gambling?
However, what you said is the same as what I said in another thread yesterday, not much different. But it's true, sometimes because of money problems can forget about someone or friends and even family like you said, because it's sensitive.
Your thoughts about how money affects relationships are very smart. Actually, money can make it hard to make decisions, weaken ties, and make rifts where none existed. Being careful, thoughtful, and acutely aware of how it might affect personal relationships is important when dealing with this sensitive problem
I dont really like on feeling being controlled and since its my money then they dont have the rights on what i should gonna do with my money. I would definitely be playing without any
hesitation and minding on what other people would be saying as long i would really be happy with my money then i would definitely do it.
As for my wife then she would eventually be able to understand if i do make out some explanation in regarding with my gambling habit.
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Therefore, however bad things that are hidden will later be found out by other people or families, because it is impossible to be safe forever, including gambling habit activities, even though it has been hidden for a long time, it will be seen from us. For example, those of us who always experience defeat must be annoyed with the defeat that is always obtained, and if we continue to lose we will be different, whether it's behavior or something like that, from here other people or family can guess that we are having problems. Inevitably we tell stories because it's impossible to keep it to ourselves, because basically everyone needs a chat buddy to ask for direction or something like that.That's for sure, because I myself am not good with my family, so that's why I prefer friends instead of family
. Even though family gives encouragement to stop gambling it's not easy for a gambler, I think most gamblers are also like this, it's difficult to accept advice from anyone because they only focus on their gambling. It's useless for the family to give encouragement to stop if there is no awareness of the harmful effects of gambling on oneself, before going to family or friends and others, of course there must be self-awareness.and this is just a suggestion, you dont need to use it and if your method is the best, its better to ignore my advice.
I really appreciate your suggestion, and I might try it later, thanks for the suggestion.
So are you open with your own family about gambling?
However, what you said is the same as what I said in another thread yesterday, not much different. But it's true, sometimes because of money problems can forget about someone or friends and even family like you said, because it's sensitive.
Your thoughts about how money affects relationships are very smart. Actually, money can make it hard to make decisions, weaken ties, and make rifts where none existed. Being careful, thoughtful, and acutely aware of how it might affect personal relationships is important when dealing with this sensitive problem
The entertaining part will be replace of aggresion to win back the losing amount of money that they use, if the person continue to look for a way to chase the money they already lose it will affect their emotional balance, meaning that it will reflect with how they will think about gambling and even they are trying to keep it as secret when chasing loses come out in their minds they will use additional money that not allocated to gambling, then lose it as well, emotional stress and more on focusing into gambling that may lead into addictions.
And keeping their gambling activities a secret can cause more problems to arise because they can exceed their limits and no one knows how much money they have spent gambling. This is very risky because someone could deposit more money to gamble because they think they want to win more but they don't realize that it will only cost them more money. But if he can have good self-control, he can hide his gambling activities and will not get into any trouble, although that does not guarantee that he will not exceed his limits because he gambles in secret. We will never know when we will lose self-control or how long we can control ourselves because in gambling, we can get bigger temptations than before, so we must always be alert and stop gambling immediately if we have had enough of gambling.And keeping their gambling activities a secret can cause more problems to arise because they can exceed their limits and no one knows how much money they have spent gambling. This is very risky because someone could deposit more money to gamble because they think they want to win more but they don't realize that it will only cost them more money. But if he can have good self-control, he can hide his gambling activities and will not get into any trouble, although that does not guarantee that he will not exceed his limits because he gambles in secret. We will never know when we will lose self-control or how long we can control ourselves because in gambling, we can get bigger temptations than before, so we must always be alert and stop gambling immediately if we have had enough of gambling.
It can be difficult for a family to prevent a gambler from exceeding their limits, even if they are aware of their gambling habits. It is up to the gambler themselves to take responsibility and make a conscious effort to prevent it. The family can support and encourage the gambler, but they cannot force them to change their behavior.
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