Topic: Keeping your gambling habit a secret. - page 23. (Read 8068 times)
Good point about hiding and feelings. People hide things they do because they are either feel uncomfortable (like feeling ashamed of it) what they do, or the things they do has illegal context. Is gambling illegal? In some countries yes, in some not. I would understand if person hide that he gamble in country where it is illegal. About feelings, if I am an adult, why would I be ashamed of gambling? Or feel uncomfortable from doing something that brings me fun. Seems absurd to me.
It can be difficult for a family to prevent a gambler from exceeding their limits, even if they are aware of their gambling habits. It is up to the gambler themselves to take responsibility and make a conscious effort to prevent it. The family can support and encourage the gambler, but they cannot force them to change their behavior.
To be honest if it is known that the family will certainly have efforts that can be done to help the gambler to eliminate his addiction by limiting the addict not holding money, and there are many other ways that can be tried if we know that we gamble and are addicted, behavior Strange like spending a lot of money with a short time, the family will find out directly and will help us not to do the same thing again.But in my opinion, it is very possible that family members can force someone to stop gambling with any way, like locking him in the room for some time, it could have been?, I think the context of help will be greater if the family knows and you want to stop gambling.
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Therefore, however bad things that are hidden will later be found out by other people or families, because it is impossible to be safe forever, including gambling habit activities, even though it has been hidden for a long time, it will be seen from us. For example, those of us who always experience defeat must be annoyed with the defeat that is always obtained, and if we continue to lose we will be different, whether it's behavior or something like that, from here other people or family can guess that we are having problems. Inevitably we tell stories because it's impossible to keep it to ourselves, because basically everyone needs a chat buddy to ask for direction or something like that.That's for sure, because I myself am not good with my family, so that's why I prefer friends instead of family
. Even though family gives encouragement to stop gambling it's not easy for a gambler, I think most gamblers are also like this, it's difficult to accept advice from anyone because they only focus on their gambling. It's useless for the family to give encouragement to stop if there is no awareness of the harmful effects of gambling on oneself, before going to family or friends and others, of course there must be self-awareness.and this is just a suggestion, you dont need to use it and if your method is the best, its better to ignore my advice.
I really appreciate your suggestion, and I might try it later, thanks for the suggestion.
So are you open with your own family about gambling?
However, what you said is the same as what I said in another thread yesterday, not much different. But it's true, sometimes because of money problems can forget about someone or friends and even family like you said, because it's sensitive.
Your thoughts about how money affects relationships are very smart. Actually, money can make it hard to make decisions, weaken ties, and make rifts where none existed. Being careful, thoughtful, and acutely aware of how it might affect personal relationships is important when dealing with this sensitive problem
I dont really like on feeling being controlled and since its my money then they dont have the rights on what i should gonna do with my money. I would definitely be playing without any
hesitation and minding on what other people would be saying as long i would really be happy with my money then i would definitely do it.
As for my wife then she would eventually be able to understand if i do make out some explanation in regarding with my gambling habit.
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Therefore, however bad things that are hidden will later be found out by other people or families, because it is impossible to be safe forever, including gambling habit activities, even though it has been hidden for a long time, it will be seen from us. For example, those of us who always experience defeat must be annoyed with the defeat that is always obtained, and if we continue to lose we will be different, whether it's behavior or something like that, from here other people or family can guess that we are having problems. Inevitably we tell stories because it's impossible to keep it to ourselves, because basically everyone needs a chat buddy to ask for direction or something like that.That's for sure, because I myself am not good with my family, so that's why I prefer friends instead of family
. Even though family gives encouragement to stop gambling it's not easy for a gambler, I think most gamblers are also like this, it's difficult to accept advice from anyone because they only focus on their gambling. It's useless for the family to give encouragement to stop if there is no awareness of the harmful effects of gambling on oneself, before going to family or friends and others, of course there must be self-awareness.and this is just a suggestion, you dont need to use it and if your method is the best, its better to ignore my advice.
I really appreciate your suggestion, and I might try it later, thanks for the suggestion.
So are you open with your own family about gambling?
However, what you said is the same as what I said in another thread yesterday, not much different. But it's true, sometimes because of money problems can forget about someone or friends and even family like you said, because it's sensitive.
Your thoughts about how money affects relationships are very smart. Actually, money can make it hard to make decisions, weaken ties, and make rifts where none existed. Being careful, thoughtful, and acutely aware of how it might affect personal relationships is important when dealing with this sensitive problem
The entertaining part will be replace of aggresion to win back the losing amount of money that they use, if the person continue to look for a way to chase the money they already lose it will affect their emotional balance, meaning that it will reflect with how they will think about gambling and even they are trying to keep it as secret when chasing loses come out in their minds they will use additional money that not allocated to gambling, then lose it as well, emotional stress and more on focusing into gambling that may lead into addictions.
And keeping their gambling activities a secret can cause more problems to arise because they can exceed their limits and no one knows how much money they have spent gambling. This is very risky because someone could deposit more money to gamble because they think they want to win more but they don't realize that it will only cost them more money. But if he can have good self-control, he can hide his gambling activities and will not get into any trouble, although that does not guarantee that he will not exceed his limits because he gambles in secret. We will never know when we will lose self-control or how long we can control ourselves because in gambling, we can get bigger temptations than before, so we must always be alert and stop gambling immediately if we have had enough of gambling.And keeping their gambling activities a secret can cause more problems to arise because they can exceed their limits and no one knows how much money they have spent gambling. This is very risky because someone could deposit more money to gamble because they think they want to win more but they don't realize that it will only cost them more money. But if he can have good self-control, he can hide his gambling activities and will not get into any trouble, although that does not guarantee that he will not exceed his limits because he gambles in secret. We will never know when we will lose self-control or how long we can control ourselves because in gambling, we can get bigger temptations than before, so we must always be alert and stop gambling immediately if we have had enough of gambling.
It can be difficult for a family to prevent a gambler from exceeding their limits, even if they are aware of their gambling habits. It is up to the gambler themselves to take responsibility and make a conscious effort to prevent it. The family can support and encourage the gambler, but they cannot force them to change their behavior.
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Therefore, however bad things that are hidden will later be found out by other people or families, because it is impossible to be safe forever, including gambling habit activities, even though it has been hidden for a long time, it will be seen from us. For example, those of us who always experience defeat must be annoyed with the defeat that is always obtained, and if we continue to lose we will be different, whether it's behavior or something like that, from here other people or family can guess that we are having problems. Inevitably we tell stories because it's impossible to keep it to ourselves, because basically everyone needs a chat buddy to ask for direction or something like that.That's for sure, because I myself am not good with my family, so that's why I prefer friends instead of family
. Even though family gives encouragement to stop gambling it's not easy for a gambler, I think most gamblers are also like this, it's difficult to accept advice from anyone because they only focus on their gambling. It's useless for the family to give encouragement to stop if there is no awareness of the harmful effects of gambling on oneself, before going to family or friends and others, of course there must be self-awareness.and this is just a suggestion, you dont need to use it and if your method is the best, its better to ignore my advice.
-snip
Therefore, however bad things that are hidden will later be found out by other people or families, because it is impossible to be safe forever, including gambling habit activities, even though it has been hidden for a long time, it will be seen from us. For example, those of us who always experience defeat must be annoyed with the defeat that is always obtained, and if we continue to lose we will be different, whether it's behavior or something like that, from here other people or family can guess that we are having problems. Inevitably we tell stories because it's impossible to keep it to ourselves, because basically everyone needs a chat buddy to ask for direction or something like that.That's for sure, because I myself am not good with my family, so that's why I prefer friends instead of family
. Even though family gives encouragement to stop gambling it's not easy for a gambler, I think most gamblers are also like this, it's difficult to accept advice from anyone because they only focus on their gambling. It's useless for the family to give encouragement to stop if there is no awareness of the harmful effects of gambling on oneself, before going to family or friends and others, of course there must be self-awareness.and this is just a suggestion, you dont need to use it and if your method is the best, its better to ignore my advice.
I really appreciate your suggestion, and I might try it later, thanks for the suggestion.
So are you open with your own family about gambling?
However, what you said is the same as what I said in another thread yesterday, not much different. But it's true, sometimes because of money problems can forget about someone or friends and even family like you said, because it's sensitive.
The entertaining part will be replace of aggresion to win back the losing amount of money that they use, if the person continue to look for a way to chase the money they already lose it will affect their emotional balance, meaning that it will reflect with how they will think about gambling and even they are trying to keep it as secret when chasing loses come out in their minds they will use additional money that not allocated to gambling, then lose it as well, emotional stress and more on focusing into gambling that may lead into addictions.
And keeping their gambling activities a secret can cause more problems to arise because they can exceed their limits and no one knows how much money they have spent gambling. This is very risky because someone could deposit more money to gamble because they think they want to win more but they don't realize that it will only cost them more money. But if he can have good self-control, he can hide his gambling activities and will not get into any trouble, although that does not guarantee that he will not exceed his limits because he gambles in secret. We will never know when we will lose self-control or how long we can control ourselves because in gambling, we can get bigger temptations than before, so we must always be alert and stop gambling immediately if we have had enough of gambling.about gambling and to those people who are really that getting involved with it would be automatically considered out to be bad person without even trying to look about on whats the actual
reason for a certain person to involved or play gambling. We do know that it is really just that for fun but eventually people do mess up with this thing on the time that they are really
that already making bad decisions through it. We cant really just that make ourselves not to avoid on trying to make things to be kept on secret just because of that
unjustifiable kind of treatment.
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Therefore, however bad things that are hidden will later be found out by other people or families, because it is impossible to be safe forever, including gambling habit activities, even though it has been hidden for a long time, it will be seen from us. For example, those of us who always experience defeat must be annoyed with the defeat that is always obtained, and if we continue to lose we will be different, whether it's behavior or something like that, from here other people or family can guess that we are having problems. Inevitably we tell stories because it's impossible to keep it to ourselves, because basically everyone needs a chat buddy to ask for direction or something like that.That's for sure, because I myself am not good with my family, so that's why I prefer friends instead of family
. Even though family gives encouragement to stop gambling it's not easy for a gambler, I think most gamblers are also like this, it's difficult to accept advice from anyone because they only focus on their gambling. It's useless for the family to give encouragement to stop if there is no awareness of the harmful effects of gambling on oneself, before going to family or friends and others, of course there must be self-awareness.and this is just a suggestion, you dont need to use it and if your method is the best, its better to ignore my advice.
The entertaining part will be replace of aggresion to win back the losing amount of money that they use, if the person continue to look for a way to chase the money they already lose it will affect their emotional balance, meaning that it will reflect with how they will think about gambling and even they are trying to keep it as secret when chasing loses come out in their minds they will use additional money that not allocated to gambling, then lose it as well, emotional stress and more on focusing into gambling that may lead into addictions.
And keeping their gambling activities a secret can cause more problems to arise because they can exceed their limits and no one knows how much money they have spent gambling. This is very risky because someone could deposit more money to gamble because they think they want to win more but they don't realize that it will only cost them more money. But if he can have good self-control, he can hide his gambling activities and will not get into any trouble, although that does not guarantee that he will not exceed his limits because he gambles in secret. We will never know when we will lose self-control or how long we can control ourselves because in gambling, we can get bigger temptations than before, so we must always be alert and stop gambling immediately if we have had enough of gambling.hero member
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The entertaining part will be replace of aggresion to win back the losing amount of money that they use, if the person continue to look for a way to chase the money they already lose it will affect their emotional balance, meaning that it will reflect with how they will think about gambling and even they are trying to keep it as secret when chasing loses come out in their minds they will use additional money that not allocated to gambling, then lose it as well, emotional stress and more on focusing into gambling that may lead into addictions.
And keeping their gambling activities a secret can cause more problems to arise because they can exceed their limits and no one knows how much money they have spent gambling. This is very risky because someone could deposit more money to gamble because they think they want to win more but they don't realize that it will only cost them more money. But if he can have good self-control, he can hide his gambling activities and will not get into any trouble, although that does not guarantee that he will not exceed his limits because he gambles in secret. We will never know when we will lose self-control or how long we can control ourselves because in gambling, we can get bigger temptations than before, so we must always be alert and stop gambling immediately if we have had enough of gambling. -snip
That's the way it should be, because I don't think other people need to know about the gambling we do. Take for example, suppose there is one person who has experienced heavy losses and has been heavily addicted to gambling. Then he is at the lowest point because he has nothing but family. And he told family that all of his money and assets were sold off because of gambling. I'm sure his family's reaction will be disappointed, angry, even sad. Because of what? Because this stupid person has spent all his money on a game that is uncertain of his victory.
on one hand, this is an embarrassing story that no one else needs to know, so it is right to keep his gambling activities a secret because if everyone around him knew that he was a gambling addict who had spent a lot of money and valuables, he might be bullied and criticized badly by him. people around him and maybe it does not matter to him but for his family it would be very bad and it would be a shame if the family did not know anything about what was happening suddenly getting bad criticism every day becomes the subject of bad talk to people around him and this is painful.That's the way it should be, because I don't think other people need to know about the gambling we do. Take for example, suppose there is one person who has experienced heavy losses and has been heavily addicted to gambling. Then he is at the lowest point because he has nothing but family. And he told family that all of his money and assets were sold off because of gambling. I'm sure his family's reaction will be disappointed, angry, even sad. Because of what? Because this stupid person has spent all his money on a game that is uncertain of his victory.
Its okay to keep gambling activities a secret, it does not mean we hide our addiction, but at least one family member or close relative should know because if something bad like this happens there is someone who can explain or help him or her not to become addicted to gambling.
maybe what you mean is "direction", I myself trust my friends more, for some reason I trust my friends more when it comes to direction, even though family is the only way home when we are down but for me it's not. To not get addicted depends on us if we can't take advice from others it's the same thing. So self-awareness is the main thing.
well, there is a bit of a misunderstanding here, if you trust your friends more, maybe you will ignore advice from your friends more often because there is no difference between you and your friends, but with your family there is definitely a different level, like you are afraid of your family so When your family says you have to stop gambling, you will definitely be afraid and doing this will not ignore it.
That's for sure, because I myself am not good with my family, so that's why I prefer friends instead of family
. Even though family gives encouragement to stop gambling it's not easy for a gambler, I think most gamblers are also like this, it's difficult to accept advice from anyone because they only focus on their gambling. It's useless for the family to give encouragement to stop if there is no awareness of the harmful effects of gambling on oneself, before going to family or friends and others, of course there must be self-awareness. -snip
That's the way it should be, because I don't think other people need to know about the gambling we do. Take for example, suppose there is one person who has experienced heavy losses and has been heavily addicted to gambling. Then he is at the lowest point because he has nothing but family. And he told family that all of his money and assets were sold off because of gambling. I'm sure his family's reaction will be disappointed, angry, even sad. Because of what? Because this stupid person has spent all his money on a game that is uncertain of his victory.
on one hand, this is an embarrassing story that no one else needs to know, so it is right to keep his gambling activities a secret because if everyone around him knew that he was a gambling addict who had spent a lot of money and valuables, he might be bullied and criticized badly by him. people around him and maybe it does not matter to him but for his family it would be very bad and it would be a shame if the family did not know anything about what was happening suddenly getting bad criticism every day becomes the subject of bad talk to people around him and this is painful.That's the way it should be, because I don't think other people need to know about the gambling we do. Take for example, suppose there is one person who has experienced heavy losses and has been heavily addicted to gambling. Then he is at the lowest point because he has nothing but family. And he told family that all of his money and assets were sold off because of gambling. I'm sure his family's reaction will be disappointed, angry, even sad. Because of what? Because this stupid person has spent all his money on a game that is uncertain of his victory.
Its okay to keep gambling activities a secret, it does not mean we hide our addiction, but at least one family member or close relative should know because if something bad like this happens there is someone who can explain or help him or her not to become addicted to gambling.
maybe what you mean is "direction", I myself trust my friends more, for some reason I trust my friends more when it comes to direction, even though family is the only way home when we are down but for me it's not. To not get addicted depends on us if we can't take advice from others it's the same thing. So self-awareness is the main thing.
well, there is a bit of a misunderstanding here, if you trust your friends more, maybe you will ignore advice from your friends more often because there is no difference between you and your friends, but with your family there is definitely a different level, like you are afraid of your family so When your family says you have to stop gambling, you will definitely be afraid and doing this will not ignore it.
Someone that is chasing their losses with such intensity will not take long to develop gambling issues and eventually find themselves losing a lot of money, since at that point they are not taking decisions based on some sort of strategy or rational behavior and they simply refuse to accept the reality in front of them, which is that only a very small minority can obtain profits with gambling, while the rest of us can only gamble for the fun we can get out of it, and if we no longer obtain any entertainment out of it then we must quit and find something else to do.
Yes, they will only lose a lot of money if they continue to chase their losses instead of winning. And even though they can win, the amount of money from their win will not be as much as the amount from their loss so it will still make them lose money. If he realized that continuing to chase his losses would not allow him to get his money back, he should have decided not to do it because he would suffer even bigger losses. If they continue to do it, they will no longer get entertainment from gambling but will only be eager to recover their losses. However, they will not succeed because it will be difficult to obtain. And it's best if he stops gambling for some time so he can calm himself down and reset everything, including the allocation of funds for gambling.The entertaining part will be replace of aggresion to win back the losing amount of money that they use, if the person continue to look for a way to chase the money they already lose it will affect their emotional balance, meaning that it will reflect with how they will think about gambling and even they are trying to keep it as secret when chasing loses come out in their minds they will use additional money that not allocated to gambling, then lose it as well, emotional stress and more on focusing into gambling that may lead into addictions.
Those that keep their gambling habit a secret is it that they're not proud of what they are doing?.
You have said it yourself that we live among people who have different views in assessing things. There are differences in the behavior of the people around you that are difficult to generalize.Those who hide and keep their gambling habits secret get different answers. I have my own view that I did this not because I was afraid of being found out, but because I respect other people who don't do it.
Because I am among people who do not all gamble like me.
Respect them and I will also get the same treatment from them.
It's not that they aren't proud of what they are doing, but they are also considering what society thinks. So, it's safe to say that it depends on the society. In some societies, gambling can be seen as a fun activity that is meant to just be a source of excitement or to test one's skills
I agree with you on that, because truly gambling activities most at times depends on the country the gamblers domiciled, however there are countries that loves gambling and sees gambling as a source of having fun and as a way of entertainment were as they see gambling as a daily routine stuff so with this kind of country I don't think there would be any discrimination or a negative perception on any gamblers because everybody are doing the same thing. So there wouldn't be any need keeping there gambling secret from anyone because everybody are doing the same thing as you ar, so there will not be any discrimination.
But however in times of countries that doesn't gambles much should be advised to keep there gambling as a secret because in most cases gamblers could be seen as an irresponsible people, so the best is to keep it as a secret.
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That's the way it should be, because I don't think other people need to know about the gambling we do. Take for example, suppose there is one person who has experienced heavy losses and has been heavily addicted to gambling. Then he is at the lowest point because he has nothing but family. And he told family that all of his money and assets were sold off because of gambling. I'm sure his family's reaction will be disappointed, angry, even sad. Because of what? Because this stupid person has spent all his money on a game that is uncertain of his victory.
on one hand, this is an embarrassing story that no one else needs to know, so it is right to keep his gambling activities a secret because if everyone around him knew that he was a gambling addict who had spent a lot of money and valuables, he might be bullied and criticized badly by him. people around him and maybe it does not matter to him but for his family it would be very bad and it would be a shame if the family did not know anything about what was happening suddenly getting bad criticism every day becomes the subject of bad talk to people around him and this is painful.That's the way it should be, because I don't think other people need to know about the gambling we do. Take for example, suppose there is one person who has experienced heavy losses and has been heavily addicted to gambling. Then he is at the lowest point because he has nothing but family. And he told family that all of his money and assets were sold off because of gambling. I'm sure his family's reaction will be disappointed, angry, even sad. Because of what? Because this stupid person has spent all his money on a game that is uncertain of his victory.
Its okay to keep gambling activities a secret, it does not mean we hide our addiction, but at least one family member or close relative should know because if something bad like this happens there is someone who can explain or help him or her not to become addicted to gambling.
maybe what you mean is "direction", I myself trust my friends more, for some reason I trust my friends more when it comes to direction, even though family is the only way home when we are down but for me it's not. To not get addicted depends on us if we can't take advice from others it's the same thing. So self-awareness is the main thing.
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Someone that is chasing their losses with such intensity will not take long to develop gambling issues and eventually find themselves losing a lot of money, since at that point they are not taking decisions based on some sort of strategy or rational behavior and they simply refuse to accept the reality in front of them, which is that only a very small minority can obtain profits with gambling, while the rest of us can only gamble for the fun we can get out of it, and if we no longer obtain any entertainment out of it then we must quit and find something else to do.
Yes, they will only lose a lot of money if they continue to chase their losses instead of winning. And even though they can win, the amount of money from their win will not be as much as the amount from their loss so it will still make them lose money. If he realized that continuing to chase his losses would not allow him to get his money back, he should have decided not to do it because he would suffer even bigger losses. If they continue to do it, they will no longer get entertainment from gambling but will only be eager to recover their losses. However, they will not succeed because it will be difficult to obtain. And it's best if he stops gambling for some time so he can calm himself down and reset everything, including the allocation of funds for gambling. 
Yes, online and offline casino who does have permits from regulatory bodies will not attempt to cheat, as per my personal opinion, they will think first with the permits than the amount that they can possibly cheat, it's way profitable to have that trust than to cheat against the players and lose your business after.
Something that will really be weight first by the casino owners before they will do something like this.
But it all depends on how the casino develops and earns money in the gambling industry because large casinos that are already popular and have very large community trust rating will definitely maintain trust rather than cheat customers, but for small casinos even though they have an official license they can still there is chance of committing fraud if thinks their winnings cause them to lose quite lot of money.Something that will really be weight first by the casino owners before they will do something like this.
Not all licensed casinos can be trusted except those that are large and have large community.
Casino owners have to consider everything if they want to commit series of frauds against gamblers and they come to do business not to cheat.
Talking about casino fraud can require gambler to be willing to give up their identity in order to solve such case and some gamblers are unwilling to do that.
Like my friend who experienced bad luck where his account was frozen because of several wins he had won and when he contacted the support team they actually asked for KYC to carry out the settlement process, who knows what KYC was for but without KYC the team was unwilling to resolve the problem.
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