Topic: People keep asking me to borrow money, some of them for betting - page 2. (Read 1870 times)

Why do we take the shittiest advice from our so-called friends when it comes to something as dumb as gambling? We're connection junkies. People are pack animals, wired to trust and belong. Our nature is lovely and foolish. Fitting in is preferable to making a smart choice

Gambling is about more than just earning or losing money. It depicts human life as a tumultuous dance of hope and misery. Every gamble is a tale of foolish optimism and risk-taking

Imagine changing our perspective. Instead than condemning gambling, why not use it for self-discovery? An ludicrous but informative mirror of our deepest wants, anxieties, strategies, and failures. We risk love, careers, and goals in this microcosm of life

Lol  ouch well every one have their way of doing things, as for me I prefer not to take the risk by avoiding borrowing my hard earn money to someone that is planning to use the money for gambling, and I will give out my reasons to the individual so that he or she can understand the reason why am not taken that risk . Because the chances of the person winning is not guarantee so is either he lose or win and most time is more of losing than winning, and it also depend on the amount of money the Individual is demanding for .

If someone asks money, especially for betting purposes, the best answer you can give is to tell them to seek for a lending platform or bank, instead of asking you for funds. It's just too complicated to deal with loans without guarantees ensured by the law of your country. Unfortunatelly the truth is that the law protects the monopoly of banks on this matter, so they don't have competition on this business, where common citizens could be offering loans with cheaper interest rates in an open market.

That's right, when we don't want to lend money, whether for any reason, regardless of whether the person wants to spend it on gambling or not, we have every right to deny the loan, since the money was earned by you, that doesn't make us bad people.

And not only that, opportunistic people tend to take advantage of the generosity of good people, first they ask them to borrow money, they don't pay it back and then this just evolves into other things, leading to disrupting their personal life.

I believe that the first sign of an opportunistic person is when we lend some money and in addition to not paying it back, they never mention the debt.

Friendship is nice and all until one person lends out money. I prefer keeping my friends away from financial matters. How do you perceive the person would use the funds for gaming? Players are very cunning at making up lies when asked similar questions. It's also quite very reasonable to give such friends what we are able to lose. Friends do this because of the comfort they've built with one another. Treating friends like strangers in business matters works best, just that the friendship bond would diminish, but the good aspect is, they'll return the money as agreed. Gambling friends hardly pay back even when the fun is in their wardrobe. Normally, coming across this unworthy behavior shouldn't shock you.

Sometimes it is not so easy to say No if they are close people. But if their purpose is to use the money for something not really necessary, I agree that we must say No. Borrowing the money shouldn't be the option for something unnecessary, it is for an urgent matter only. If we borrow them money for unnecessary matter, they will easily asking for borrowing money again. It is because they will think 'we are the people who can easily lend money'. This is not good for us, it will bring complicated problem. Sure, if they always avoid to repay the loan money, we must be unsatisfied and may break the relationship. Those people who borrow the money, probably will avoid to meet use very often. Finally, as you said above, it will divide the relationship.

I can borrow money for anything as long as it's a small amount like beer money. Even if it's gambling and even if I consider such behavior irresponsible. And I’m ready to say goodbye to this money in advance, but that doesn’t mean that I won’t expect it to be returned to me. If I don’t get them back, then I’ll say goodbye to him, I can give a person a chance, but if he missed it, then he won’t get a second one.

They keep asking ypu because ypu keep handing it out.  It's simple just say no.  I guess there are some exceptions but most of the time money amd friends or family don't mix well.  In the case that someone can't pay it back I wouldn't want that to divide us and our relationship.  And just tell them that.  They should respect your position.

When someone comes to me and asks me to borrow their money, first I will ask them what they will be using the money for, and if I notice the money is meant for gambling or something else that I notice is not really necessary, then I will say no. It’s really easy to request a loan from someone, but most people always find it very difficult to pay it back. I have borrowed some people, whom I call friends, but they couldn’t pay them back, and the funniest part is that some of them stopped talking to me just because they took a loan and couldn’t pay it back. So if I'm giving money to anyone, then it’s always an amount that I know, even if they don’t pay, it’s not going to affect me in any way.

As long as you don't lend money to someone to gamble, you don't have to be afraid when someone else invites you to gamble with that kind of money. Because the person who has to return the money is the borrower, not you unless you have made a promise to return the money together when you lose at gambling. But if you are only invited and are not told about it by the person who invited you, I think you are free from anything so you don't have to bear paying the money.

At first I don't think I can borrow anyone money for gambling, because am already familiar with the risk in gambling that one can either win or lose and most time the chances of losing is higher than that of winning. And you asking people to lend you money for gambling is a sign of gambling irresponsibly. Because one point about gambling is to gamble with what you can afford to risk not the other way round, because the money you are asking for is not for you, so In other word you are using money you can't afford to risk which is bad . Better still one should just wait till he or she have any amount of money to spare rather than borrowing money that you may lose at the end.

This is the reality, these people will take advantage of the good heart that we've got. We have to learn to say no.

Because if we don't, they're going to abuse that attitude of ours and they'll keep on asking it even though they haven't paid yet their outstanding balance.

I am done with that era that I've got no obligations yet in the past years and that's why I am not that strict at all in lending money. But come on, we're working hard to earn for ourselves and we just can't keep on handing it out.

They keep asking ypu because ypu keep handing it out.  It's simple just say no.  I guess there are some exceptions but most of the time money amd friends or family don't mix well.  In the case that someone can't pay it back I wouldn't want that to divide us and our relationship.  And just tell them that.  They should respect your position.

It has become increasingly common for friends and not-so-close "friends" to come and ask me to borrow money. I don't usually ask for the purpose, but some ask me because of betting at online houses.

The last time I lent money to a colleague, who I hadn't had much contact with other than at work for a short period, it was with great difficulty that I got the money back.

I don't know where people get the amount of money they think I have, they must think I look like a bank...

Who likes having to borrow money? Unless you are a loan shark and lend with collateral where the risk is almost zero, why lend money where you end up with a loss? 'cause in addition to no one paying you with interest, most never pay you on time, at least you will get your money back after repeated charges.

Some people even go so far as to ask me to borrow money for what? to bet!! What a joke. I answer briefly and bluntly that I don't have the money to lend for these purposes!

And the worst thing is that they ask me for small amounts, like $2, 5, 10$... I think that if the person doesn't have that money now, the chances of them getting that money to pay you are low. If the person is in need, it's easier for them to confess right away to see what I can do, because I'm not a bad person.

Do you usually lend money to relatives, friends, etc.? Have you ever felt bad about it, done it unwillingly?

And when they are female friends, do you lend them?

They keep asking ypu because ypu keep handing it out.  It's simple just say no.  I guess there are some exceptions but most of the time money amd friends or family don't mix well.  In the case that someone can't pay it back I wouldn't want that to divide us and our relationship.  And just tell them that.  They should respect your position.