Topic: What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble? - page 10. (Read 3238 times)

Though you are right that one should see what type of a child it is, I believe a child that doesn't need scolding wouldn't do something like this. Mostly, children who are spoilt by their parents or at least one parent tend to do such things because they don't have any fear of getting beaten or scolded since the parents always encourage them even when they make a mistake or do a bad thing. Such parents deserve such treatment in my opinion.

When you are parenting a child, you are supposed to teach them what's good and what's bad, this includes good and bad manners and everything else, and if you fail in doing that, and then you find your children doing wrong things, you are supposed to blame yourself and not the children because it was your responsibility to show them the right path.

Well if we do speak with those approach then it would really be just that normal and it has been on ages on where gambling does really have this kind of impression in towards that negativity on which it is really just that right or really just that not shocking anymore. Its true that its none others business if you do play gambling as long you are really just that making use of your own money. It turns really out that
those people who are really that comes into that kind of addiction on which they did really be able to reach out those conditions that they are already doing such act on which it isnt really supposed
to be done in the first place.

On the time that your son did really opt to steal money or something just for them to gamble, then this is a solid indication that he is already that addicted to gambling on which
it did really comes into a point that they are already having those stealing activity on which its not something good at all. Once you do able to mind
about criminal acts then it would be best that you should stop it right away or as much as possible.

If he would have won the bet, then definitely the reaction from the mother would have been different. I mean what does a middle class family expects from his children? To make money. If he would have made huge money from the bet, then definitely he would have been praised by the family members. Moreover he did two mistakes, first one is stealing and second one losing it all. So according to a middle class family’s way of thinking, getting this type of response and scoldings are normal I would say.

I think that any gambling is a bad thing in the eyes of society, although it is possible that up to now there are still many people who gamble, society has no right to prohibit it as long as gambling is legal in their country. Moreover, gambling is not a bad game if it is played correctly, but if it is gambling you play it carelessly you can becomed addict to gambling. If a child gambles with money he stole from his parent then this should be strictly enforced because this action is very wrong, they can gamble but use their from his own hard earn money.

Sometime it is the behavior of people like this that lead public opinion that gambling is a bad thing even though it is irresponsible individual who use their gambling so that it has a bad impacts, and you cannot equate gambling with theft because theft is worse than gambling, we probably see people more often a thief who is in prison is compared to a gamblers who is in prison if someone does not make a fatal mistake in their gambling. In this case parent are the ones who playing a role in educating their childrens not to steal.

Bro, no amount of justification can exonerate this boy, he did what is bad, and he should be punished one way or the other. Well, I do not know his age, or maybe I mistakingly skipped it while I was reading your post which I don't think so, nevertheless, the child whether close to that age or he is even at that adult age to gamble doesn't have the right to steal money for it. Be it your mother, friends, father's money etc, you do not have that right, stealing is stealing and what is bad is bad without any argument, and he should be severely punished for that in my opinion.

If he needed money, he could have asked politely from the mother or lied that he needed money for something important, whereas he wanted to use the money to gamble, which is still smart to me. This is still better, and the mother may not detect it, talkless of getting hurt by his actions. The mother can't be happy with what he did, but she will still be thankful that he didn't steal another person's money but hers, it would have been worse.

If the son actually won for sure the parents wouldn't really be so mad, probably still mad but not to the point where they need to punish him, they might probably just do a sermon in order for their child to realize that what he do is not good. That is probably what I would do as well if I were the parents, depending on how much he took, if he takes a huge amount of money like thousands of dollars he's probably going to be kicked out of the house for sure, but if it was just he's first for sure a warning would be enough, since they are still a child they probably not aware of it .

I mean to be honest when I was just a child I stole money from my parents as well so that I have money to use to play computer games at a computer shop after school it actually got worst since I stole money as well for buying items on the game, it was an FPS game and I bought some ecoin on the game to buy good items, that was actually the worst thing that I do because it was money from our small business so when someone bought something I took a small amount on it. My parents found out of the course and got mad at me, I mean I already had it in my for a long time that I dont want to steal money anymore that doesnt really work it was only stopped when I found out how to make money on myself when I do some work as well as finding out about cryptocurrency that is when I stop doing it.

Hold on did you just say from the mobile transfer account???
This clearly shows access was given to the son by the Mother and she is responsible for whatever happens here and shouldn't be complaining of this lost money...

It's unfortunate it happened this way, but sorry I still blame the mum for all this despite her going round trying to get an intervention which won't happen...and you know what it's difficult to stop a young man from gambling when they just started unless a replacement hobby is found like a job or gaming....

Mum playing the blame game but unfortunately she has everything to do with the sons gambling as she funds him which is where the solution is...stop giving him money on a silver platter.

Not at all because even how well you do such parenting but still there are really things on this world that cant really be inevitably avoided specially now into this era on which technology could also give out that kind of
cons when it comes on exposure into those things which arent that good and we know that our kids are really that prone into those things. This is why no matter how you do monitor your child, there would be always those path and things on which it would really be causing up such bypass that as you as a parent would be able to missed out. THis is why it would really be better that making up some explaination and educating
them about certain things on continuous manner would really be always that recommended.

On the time that your son stole money to gamble? Then as a parent then it would really be just that right that you should really be giving him a disciplinary action.
Nowadays, making some explaination to your son or kid wont really be just that enough.

carrying out 2 behaviors that are beyond the limits of a minor seems to be behavior that should be punished to provide physical education for the child.
there's nothing wrong with scolding and punishing our children in slightly harsh way, such as not giving them permission to hold a phone and being locked up in their room and not given daily money.
In this way, our children will definitely feel that it a very severe punishment and we as parents will be more comfortable giving punishment like that rather than physical punishment which can disturb our children mental health.
maybe if the child just tries to gamble maybe we will find it a little easier to provide educational lessons about the dangers gambling but making an attempt to steal can have an impact on the habit of stealing if you don't have money and if you dont give a punishment, a child definitely feels that he not given a punishment such as allowing him to steal.

but we still have to monitor our children behavior, even though they have promised not to repeat the same actions, but as parents we must still be responsible for preventing our children from gambling as long as they can't earn their own money, its better to always supervise them and not if necessary allowed to hold a phone.

It also depends on how you are training your child in the first place. It's not every situation that requires you to sat down a child to have a discussion with them. Some cases such as stealing deserves severe discipline especially when it's done just to gamble. There are cases that a parent can sit a child down to discuss it lightly with them but not cases that involve stealing, be it at home or outside. Stealing in any form should not be condone and sitting a child down to talk calmly is not the best way to handle that type of case. I think the freedom we are giving children nowadays is getting too much and it needs to be checked.

No one will stop you from gambling as long as you are using your own money to gamble. You don't inconvenient others by stealing their money to gamble and still wants to be treated with maturity. I feel for the poor mother for what the child has put her through. She will just have to be patient because asking the child to refund the money in any means will make things worse but an unforgettable discipline will be recommended.

First, it is not my wish that my son will steal money to gamble, it will not tell good of me as a father. The reason I do most of the things I do is for my heirs to have a soft landing in the issues of life so there will be no need for my son to steal.

If peradventure it happens, as it is in the power of man to propose while God disposes, then I will do my best to caution him and make him undertake serious psychological rehabilitation to avoid a repeat of such ugly act. If he is within the age to be beaten, he will receive the proportionate beating and if he has passed that age, appropriate measures will be taken.

This is why it has become necessary for us to protect our children from things that can make them for bad habits. We must endeavor to keep our gambling a secret because children are not supposed to be exposes to gambling.

As parents, we will be disappointed to know that children steal their parents' money. We should educate them well and not to steal or do other bad things. That's why we really have to educate children well and instill the understanding that stealing or taking something that doesn't belong to them is wrong. We can also punish children so they are deterred and won't do it again, but don't let it hurt them physically. But we have to be careful in punishing them because the punishment is only so that they know it was wrong and will not do it again. It is indeed difficult to educate children, but we must continue to try to make them able to differentiate between right and wrong, especially if the stolen money is used for gambling. That was a mistake.

Every child has their own attitude and not all of them will be easy to manage and give subtle directions to, some children need strong, measurable warning in educating them and that is normal.
When you as parent educate your child harshly and firmly enough, it is not an important problem, indeed, not to show excessive anger and resort to violence that affects his psychology.
This is much more acceptable than simply pampering child with tenderness.

Well, in this situation, I sure that father will also do what I said above because character building and giving strict direction is the attitude of father towards his child.
Stealing is very bad behavior and this will become habit if it continues, so father job is to provide education and learning that will really make the child feel tired or afraid to repeat it.
Occasionally acting harshly towards children when they make fatal mistakes is common thing to do.

My response as a parent is that I am very angry and very disappointed with children who steal their parents' money just to gamble, even if my child wins a big bet I will not care about his winnings. Because in my opinion something like this is a very bad action for their future lives. If we let this happen to our children, in the future they will definitely continue to do it, so we as parents must be really firm in giving warnings and lessons for their behavior. That way, incidents like this will not happen again to our children in the future.

The main action we need to take if we find behavior like this is to reprimand it and give punishment as parents should educate their children in their own way, if left alone and there is no action at all, incidents like this will continue to happen again.  Even though some people think that gambling is not a negative thing, if you find a child's behavior like this, it shows that his behavior shows two negative behaviors, namely stealing and gambling.

Let us not think about the possibility of winning millions just because some kid out there tried to gamble. Let's stick to the reality that it's not going to happen to any kid out there. Although I have seen some rare situations like this and IIRC, it was also posted here.

But then, stick to the reality.

Those parents that have been working hard for them to give their children good future and then they'll find out that they've been stealing them money to gamble is really frustrated on their end.

I won't question any type of disciplinary actions that they're going to do since it is their money and their kid to teach.

If I were a parent, I would definitely scold my child for stealing money to gamble. This is far from the principle that when someone gambles, they must be able to earn money from work. This is what is worried about if a small child learns about gambling, he Not yet able to earn money but having the courage to play gambling, of course it will have a bad impact or give rise to bad traits in children, such as stealing money to be able to gamble.

Therefore, as a parent, you also have to pay attention to your children often so that they don't get into the wrong company or even if you as a parent like to gamble, don't ever gamble in front of your children, because they will follow what you do and the effects will spread if your children are already familiar with gambling, if there are parents who think it is a normal thing so I think such parents do not have a plan for their child's future.

Of course, the environment has a very big influence in changing human behavior and nature and when a minor child chooses the wrong association and environment, it is clear that in the end changes in behavior and nature in a negative direction are very likely to occur which in turn can have a bad impact on his family, as we know that it is not uncommon for people to commit several out-of-control actions such as stealing, robbing, judging others, committing violence and other crimes, all because of the very significant influence of the environment and association.

This is very likely to happen to a child when his parents do not give full attention and do not limit the activities that a child does, however it is the duty of parents to take care and guide their children to stay on the right path and give full attention along with limiting the activities of a child is one of the good actions to prevent them from entering the wrong association which can certainly make a child a criminal or a gambler.

I agree with that. It's not about the money or the money being wasted or used on something useless, it's all about how the money has been taken. If your child is stealing money and then making good use of that money or earning more money with it, that doesn't make his first act forgivable because stealing is not a good habit for a child and if they aren't schooled or punished for it in their childhood, they can do bigger and worse things when they grow up.

So, when a child steals money or anything, they should be punished and schooled for it so that they don't repeat the same thing again, and this should be done regardless of the outcome of what they used the money for, whether they've a million dollars or a billion dollars from gambling using that money, the money was stolen and that's an issue.

Environment influence people too well, young age are the ones who can be influenced by there environment and home, if the parents are not watchful of their child the child will one day keep them in a bad mood.
Parents makes sure to put eyes on your children,some parents doesn't because they don't care, ore they have money to take care of cases, but makeing sure your kids are disciplined is very importan, now a child has withdraw miney from his parents account to gamble, there's no proper discipline there.