Topic: What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble? - page 6. (Read 3254 times)

For me, how I react to this situation depends on whether he's still a toddler or an adult. If he's still a toddler, I will definitely discipline him firmly to make him understand the seriousness of stealing. I will emphasize that gambling is absolutely off-limits for him, and I'll address whatever influenced him to steal and gamble, ensuring he learns his lesson that very day.

But if he's an adult, I can't physically discipline him. Instead, I might choose to impose a punishment, such as withholding pocket money equivalent to what he took from me. As a child, stealing from your parents is unacceptable, regardless of gender. I will then take the opportunity to educate him on the harmful effects of gambling, as it can lead to addiction and jeopardize his future.

Lastly, I will examine our relationship because children often resort to stealing from their parents due to a lack of closeness or communication. I will strive to strengthen our bond and communication, and I will  also inquire about his friends to understand his social circle better. Such behavior may stem from peer influence, so I will work to address any negative influences from his peers.

This discussions around parents and their gambling children always sounds very vague to me, owning to the fact that this days, most parents don't even know anything, or usually don't know anything about their children getting themselves involved in gambling, most especially; teenagers who have friends in schools and around their homes, and most of the time, it's completely impossible to (as a parent) know what your child is up to when ever he or she leaves your sight, and as a matter of fact, it is completely impossible to keep tabs on your child for 24 hours a day and 7 days a week, completely impossible.

So, for me, the only way I sometimes blame parents is in their failure to ask their children how they come about the money they are sometimes spending, so as to know the source and possibly take the necessary actions when the source of the fund is from something the parent don't for the child, this is where most parents miss it completely.

It should never be about winning or losing the money that has been stolen but it is all about the fact that he stole money and that too for something which he shouldn't be doing at that age which is concerning for parents if their child is doing two bad things at once. So any good and responsible parent or parents would school and discipline their children if they catch them doing something like this so that they don't repeat it in the future.

By schooling and disciplining the children I don't mean to beat them up badly that they get injured or have a broken arm or leg, but it is about finding a way to tell them what they have done is something very bad and that way shouldn't just involve love and affection because that wouldn't be effective at all.

But I think that parents will not give their children any understanding of gambling, because that way has the possibility or potential for a child to eventually feel curious about what gambling really is, and what is more appropriate is that it is better to limit a child in terms of his daily activities whether it is limiting from environmental association and in terms of using smart phones connected to the internet network. However, what is more advisable is to keep a child away from places that have the potential and bad influence on a child's personality.

And I think giving the right understanding to a child should only be done when they are already involved in gambling without the knowledge of their parents, but if they basically haven't touched gambling at all then I don't think you need to give an understanding of the dangers of gambling because obviously a child has a high curiosity and such a situation can make them even curious, and that means it's better to apply a lot of restrictions as a preventive measure as I suggested above in terms of limiting the environment and internet use.

This is clearly due to the lack of understanding given by parents to their children regarding gambling and its risks. a child who still has no income is forced to earn money from gambling, that is something bad.
the role of parents should be encouraged for such situations. Keeping away from gambling may not be easy, but parents must provide reasonable explanations to build better thinking in children towards gambling. so they can decide for themselves whether gambling is good for them or not.
improve our relationship with children. then everything will be fine.

It is very sad because if your child becomes addicted to gambling and loses his wealth. Although in the present generation it is nothing because there are many things happening around us which we know very little because it is a shameful act. All I understand is to get your child out of the gambling side and give him a chance to love because the longer he stays on the gambling side the more addicted he will become. So it should be decided as soon as possible. Although there were some ways to get addicted to gambling such as: his friends and people around him. So first of all, you have to leave with them, only then you can avoid this and father's money will not be wasted.

There should be no difficulty in educating their children but we know that the era is changed and many things also changed which make parents needs to adjust their way to educate their kids. The responsibiliti of the parents become hard especially if their kids familiar using internet which many parents now is hard to adapt to more advanced technology. They let their kids use the internet free and will become a problem for their kids because their parents not guiding them while using their devices. Parents can't teach their kids because parents needs to learn many things to understand what they want to tell to their kids. If their parents can supervise their children and provide good education, their children will not do things that could have a bad impact on their children.

We need to use different approach for our kids because of everything is change and they will confuse to understand what we want. We want to give something that can protect them from doing bad things but we can't explain it to them and that can make misunderstanding between us. We must support them as they are our kids but we also needs to adapt the situation around us so we can teach many things to them and they can understand it better.

Parent-child friendship is a good idea that can implemented by parents so they can getting close to their kids. If their kids realize that their parents is always besides them, no matter how busy their parents, their kids will not search for the other people to get the lesson. Kids will see that they can ask all things to their parents and will consider that their parents is their hero.

That is why parents needs learn many things  to educate children, especially with the emerging of the technology that make children knows many things from the internet. Parents that can't adapt the technology will feel difficult to educate their children because their children smarter than them and don't want to listen their parents. It is why parents need to be close to their children so their children can be easy to advise and not just push their children to become what their parents want. This is what I see from some parents to their children but their children can't accept it and become rebel.

Parents need to use different things to close to them and realize that their children is not the same as the other children. One child will be different with the other child so parents need to use different approaches to know what their children want. Yes, parents can give punishment to their children but don't get wrong because this punishment is just make them realize what their mistake and parents needs to explain to them and show the mistake and how they can fix the mistake. That will not give traumatic experience to their children because parents can explain with softly and their reason to do that is for their children's good. Sooner or later, their children will realize what their parents wants and will follow it without any objection.

I don't want to think that you are sounding too religious but some how it's appearing as such to me but then I'm going to look beyond that to say that luck is actually real and we could get lucky some days just like they will say grace is unmerited favour so does luck too come sometimes you can tell you actually didn't deserve but you got lucky so luck it's actually real and does affect how we we are affected by things.

Sometimes children can be really mysterious with their ways because you may be thinking they are actually under your watch and control well enough but then it will be actually really sad to later get to know that even under your watch they would still have their ways around things and before you could realize it, that which you were avoiding will still happen and you can do almost nothing about it because it's done already, but then our reactions to such things when they happen matters a lot because it will be a determinant to if such will happen again and what could possibly be done, there are certificate reactions we would give to such and we can be sure it wouldn't happen again and there's another that we give and the child will device more Smart ways of getting away with that which they want to do.

Stealing to gamble has got to be one of the worst things you'd want to see from your kid.  It shows that they have a lot to learn.  I could see how as a parent you would be extremely angry and want to punish the kid, but you really need to see this as a teachable moment.  Maybe he doesn't realize the penalties for stealing and that it could ruin his chances of completing his goals in the future.  Maybe he doesn't realize that gambling is for entertainment and you're spending money to gamble, not to get more back.  I'd have that kid sitting in a room learning statistics until he came to the realization of how stupid what he did was.

Even though stealing for the reason of making money is still not a good action. but if they have the courage to do this it is very likely that they are already addicted to the point of daring to do something like this, and what I'm afraid of is that if they are not caught stealing their parents' money they will continue like this if the gambling they do only ends in loss and that is certain. gambling will most likely only end in defeat, therefore there is a chance that they will continue to carry out these bad actions, and what is worse is that perhaps they will become more daring, to steal other people's money or goods that could possibly be sold to make money.

Parental attention and supervision must still be carried out even though their children are adults, because in my opinion when they are adults it doesn't mean they are free from parental supervision. Even though they are adults and have the right to choose their path in life, of course parents do not want their children to have the wrong life, therefore parental attention and supervision must still be carried out even though their children are adults.
It's true what you said, they should be able to feel the difficulty of making money in the world. Moreover, when you are an adult, you should have your own job and income.

When stealing is already that starting because of such gambling addiction then this is where things turns out to be shit and if it happens that your kid/children did make out such mistake then you would definitely be
scolding them for real on which it would really be just that a normal since its never been good on stealing out no matter what reason you do have whether due to gambling addiction or whatever it would be.
If you are a parent then it would be normal that you would really be having those kind of emotions or feelings of getting angry.Who would be the one wont really be on having such thing?
You would be needing to correct into those wrong things that had been done which it would be a normal act for a parent like us. We do know on whats good and whats bad, so are they.

As difficult as it is in terms of educating children, it is still the obligation and full responsibility of both parents regardless of the situation and no matter how bad your child's personality is, basically there are children who are easy to advise and there are children who are stubborn and cannot be directed, I understand this matter but for this problem I think parents are fully familiar with the personality of their children and I am sure that parents will definitely have the right formula to overcome problems like this with the aim of changing and directing them in a better direction.

If indeed they can still be advised slowly then maybe it's not too difficult but there are also children who are very hard to and that means you need firmness in terms of advising them and also like you said that there must be actions taken by parents at least to bully them and maybe with some other punishments that can make them deterrent and promise to change. I understand that a stubborn and sensitive child may rebel but isn't this an effective way to do it if basically the advice slowly and gently still cannot traumatize them? Sure, but on the other hand I don't think it will be that difficult and complicated to direct a child who is still underage because they are still living with their parents or meaning that they are still dependent on their parents so there are many situations together that have the potential to facilitate and accelerate the process of changing a child.

Actually gambling is good cause it will become a stress relief but if it gonna make sense once a person stole Money from their family to gamble. Like what other said it's gonna still okay if our son involve in gambling if they didn't make bad things to fullfil their wants. Cause if that happen that they stole money from their parents then that's not a good thing. They are addicted and for sure it will become worst once it will not resolve. Cause not just only stole they so but in the future selling some of their properties.

There can be a lot of responsibility among parents who sometimes raise their children with many freedoms, it is something that we should not have so much supremacy, because freedom is sometimes confused with debauchery, in this order of ideas, we as for When it comes to the education and training of a child, there is no guide , there are Many factors that affect their personality, the personality of the parents, depending on the father and mother, the child is their reflection, and that is something we all see. but to be honest Things can vary, if a child in full formation does not correct himself with these types of acts, that is Something that will anchor him and carry him to do it when he grows up, then we can be Very good parents but there are Children They have to reprimand them , not just to reach out and hit them but to talk to them, to punish them , because that is Necessary, so they learn that there are certain limits in life.

Obviously the mother of that son must feel bad , for that son to have made that Decision , what happened? What was it that mother lacked to do things better with that son? Only she knows, but since he is a minor, well, if he has to Repeat it, as long as he does not become aware that this is not done, that this is something that cannot be done, he will continue to do it and it will continue to bring headaches for him. that mother, then you have to give her a good punishment, what I would do is put her to work until she pays me the money she stole from me With that, she learns that the money you get is through work, and all work is hard and that money What you earn is by the Sweat of your brow, that's just what I would do, and with that you are given a choice in life.

Its our responsibility to make them understand that what they have done is not good to them since they already commit crime for stealing money from someone or to us. And this attitude should be corrected since they might go to more worse situation if they can't correct their bad action they've done.

I know this is hard for both parties but parents need to take charge on this situation so that they can guide well their parents into good future also they can decide what is bad and right for them.

This should not tolerated its because if they let their children do this then there's a huge chance that in future they regret their decisions not to stop their children on their past bad activities done.

Though polite, your approach lacks human complexity. Just words of right and wrong won't shape kids. Individuals want boundaries and independence. Communication is important, but so is knowing that each child sees the world differently. Teaching accountability relies on discipline, not punishment. Large differences exist between the two. Punishment responds; discipline teaches. Are we to support them? Absolutely. Also, we must prepare kids for the fact that the world won't always be kind. They need resilience, not reminders

And parent-child friendship? A wonderful ambition, but friendship and parenthood aren't always compatible. Our responsibility is direction, safety, and sometimes being the figure they despise, only to realize our lessons as they grow

Perhaps, there is no hard in educating our kids if we care about their future. Indeed, it is the responsibility of the parents and it is their duty for their kids not to fall into gambling addiction. If they let this happen and reconsider them because they are just a kid and do not yet know that was wrong, it is the same as teaching them to commit more mistakes. And that is not an act of being responsible parents nor an act of teaching them to be a good parent in the future. It should not be tolerated or else, it will put into their mind that it is okay to do it again.

Parents duties and responsibilities is not easy in educating their children because parents responsible to their children when their children grow up. Parents should follow their children and find a way to besides them and bring their children to the right way. We can tell them about the right and wrong thing and if they make mistakes, we can give a little punishment to them as a reminder. We don't have to be strict to them as that can make their children rebel and don't like what their parents say. With always remind them about the things they do and treat them as a friend, our children will not trying to do something that can harm themselves and will not do anything bad. While the children are still not mature, parents can teach and give good education to them so they will always remember what their parents suggest. If we can responsible to our child, we will see they grow up without doing something bad or harm themselves.

You cant really be able to tell that they wont really be raising a rod into their own child. We do know that each parent would really be that different when it comes to disciplining their kids on which there are ones who are really that too lenient but there are ones who are really that too strict on which on the senses that they would really be having that kind of actions which it is really that
pertaining about being slap out with something to make them learn about the things that they have done was totally wrong. Yes, its not always the solution but there's nothing we can do
if there would really be parents such as this on having this type of disciplining their kids. Its their own way and there's nothing we can do about it.

We exists for what exactly? and what's the meaning of our lives if we can't provide for our loved ones and our basic needs? We just keep striving daily because there's no such thing consider as luck, rather we should be able to thank GOD for his mercy and grace upon our lives. A child under our control can easily get spoilt, due to the open world he can found himself, he's still a child and quickly learn every solid things he encounter. Discipline a child that fetch you millions? I will only caution him but I'll not raise a rod because everyone make mistakes in the system.