What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble? - page 7.

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Quote from: ethereumhunter on February 22, 2024, 12:22:55 PM

Quote from: Fredomago on February 22, 2024, 10:36:35 AM

The common reaction after realizing what your child did, I go to that fact that being a parent and having that guilt that you held responsible to whatever your kids are doing, they might start to steal from you and to whoever reside inside your house but after that what's next the child can do? No matter what might be the outcome, there should be good disciplinary action to take.

Then, after you should start watching your child and start guiding them if you feel that what you are doing is ain't enough to straight their path, it's your obligation to adjust and to try all the possible ways to enlighten them to quit away from gambling, there's no good implication as they think that it's a good venue to quickly earn decent money.

It is our child who has stolen our money so we must be able to educate him better. We need to use a different approach to make him aware and show about what he did wrong thing and he won't do it again. He can ask for money from us as his parents so he doesn't have to steal money because if they do it until they are adults, they can be caught by the police and jailed. That will make difficult for them because when they are imprisoned, they will face a harsh reality that they have never seen and never imagined before. We need to straighten them so that they don't take the wrong path again and they can realize that stealing is a mistake and a bad act. Disciplining our children who have stolen is necessary to have a deterrent effect on them so they don't repeat the action again.

True, because no matter how bad a child's personality is, it is still entirely our responsibility as parents and only we can change and direct it in a better direction, however you or we must be able to change it in any way that seems reasonable and influential enough, but if in the end they still do the same action in the sense of stealing, it means that there is a mistake that you did in terms of educating them. But on the other hand I think we should be able to educate and change them because usually parents have enough formulas to overcome some personality problems that a child has. On the other hand, the fear and the thing to worry about is when they are adults, because obviously if it is not changed immediately from now on then most likely they will be bolder to do crazier and worse actions when they grow up and their actions will not only harm them but also their closest family.

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Quote from: summonerrk on February 22, 2024, 07:04:01 AM

Quote from: Blowon on February 20, 2024, 11:36:56 AM

If I were the child's mother, of course I would be very angry because he dared to act unexpectedly and was very reckless in stealing and gambling, even if he won a lot of money, I would still discipline the child.

It is necessary to figure out why the child stole the money, and this is very important, because there may be two reasons:
1) the child does not have enough money to be on the same level as his peers, and he just does not want to be an outsider.
2) the child is a bully and he is attracted to such actions. In this case, you need to understand more specifically and correct the moral principles of the child.

I believe that theft often occurs for the first reason.

Differences in levels in group of children will indeed have various influences on psychology and of course child who has the lowest level will try to have similarities with his friends because there is desire to get the same attention too.
There is lot of different treatment in group of children, if there is one who is at lower level, he or she will receive less good treatment and will be more likely to be pushed aside and ostracized.
Things like this are actually very unfortunate because they have caused various bad impacts that affect child psychology, but after all, we as parents can't do much other than fulfill what they need.

But in context like this it is not about levels to be equal but it has become part of gambling, he steals money to gamble and clearly this has much worse impact so it really has to be handled well.
If there is no good and firm attitude then it is possible that similar things could happen in the future, if they only steal money from us and their parents then we can still accept it, but if this becomes theft activity in another place or another person then the problem could be different.
There will be laws that regulate it and there are even bad sentiments among society and theft is one of the things that is really considered bad.

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Quote from: Fredomago on February 22, 2024, 10:36:35 AM

Quote from: Blowon on February 20, 2024, 11:36:56 AM

If I were the child's mother, of course I would be very angry because he dared to act unexpectedly and was very reckless in stealing and gambling, even if he won a lot of money, I would still discipline the child.

The common reaction after realizing what your child did, I go to that fact that being a parent and having that guilt that you held responsible to whatever your kids are doing, they might start to steal from you and to whoever reside inside your house but after that what's next the child can do? No matter what might be the outcome, there should be good disciplinary action to take.

Then, after you should start watching your child and start guiding them if you feel that what you are doing is ain't enough to straight their path, it's your obligation to adjust and to try all the possible ways to enlighten them to quit away from gambling, there's no good implication as they think that it's a good venue to quickly earn decent money.

It is our child who has stolen our money so we must be able to educate him better. We need to use a different approach to make him aware and show about what he did wrong thing and he won't do it again. He can ask for money from us as his parents so he doesn't have to steal money because if they do it until they are adults, they can be caught by the police and jailed. That will make difficult for them because when they are imprisoned, they will face a harsh reality that they have never seen and never imagined before. We need to straighten them so that they don't take the wrong path again and they can realize that stealing is a mistake and a bad act. Disciplining our children who have stolen is necessary to have a deterrent effect on them so they don't repeat the action again.

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Quote from: Blowon on February 20, 2024, 11:36:56 AM

If I were the child's mother, of course I would be very angry because he dared to act unexpectedly and was very reckless in stealing and gambling, even if he won a lot of money, I would still discipline the child.

The common reaction after realizing what your child did, I go to that fact that being a parent and having that guilt that you held responsible to whatever your kids are doing, they might start to steal from you and to whoever reside inside your house but after that what's next the child can do? No matter what might be the outcome, there should be good disciplinary action to take.

Then, after you should start watching your child and start guiding them if you feel that what you are doing is ain't enough to straight their path, it's your obligation to adjust and to try all the possible ways to enlighten them to quit away from gambling, there's no good implication as they think that it's a good venue to quickly earn decent money.

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Quote from: yazher on February 22, 2024, 08:54:10 AM

Quote from: Kakmakr on February 20, 2024, 12:55:57 AM

Any good parent would have been angry, but they would also be concerned. The parent should worry about the childs state of mind, when he had to steal from his parents and questions should be answered... on why he did that.

They should determine if the child are addicted to gambling and if he is, then their main concern must be to get help for their son, not on how they will get the money back. Roll Eyes

Usually, when parents detect such behaviors in their early stage, they can easily cure and prevent such kind of addiction from happening where they end up stealing their parent's money just to fund their bad habits. Prevention is better than cure and when they always monitor their children's activities, it would not end up this way because they can prevent it. But when they loosely let them do whatever they want, then the problem will occur in the future which will be hard for them to stop especially when their kids are already teens.

Stealing isn't good enough for many teens that's why they indulge and see it as a means to an end mostly when the reason for stealing is so as to make more money.
For teens who grew up with their parents not being aware of thier initial stealing nature, it becomes hard for the parents to stop them from doing so when they are much older and have access to their parents wealth stash.

Parents should endeavor to keep monies st safe distance to limit their children from stealing from them and also try as much to pay attention to their warfare and circle of friends, mostly in whatever activities they get involved in.

In the case of stealing to gamble, it becomes important to let these children stay on their own so as to assume some form of responsibility that would in the end cause them to think how to make money genuinely rather than gamble away the little they have because of greed of the hope of getting rich quickly.

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Quote from: EluguHcman on January 20, 2024, 02:55:19 PM

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

It is clear that the mother was surprised by what her son did without taking into account whether he lost the money or made gambling profits from it. This is the same as any parent would feel after discovering two surprises: The first is that the son practices gambling, and the second is that he has the audacity to steal in order to play. This may be one of the most dangerous symptoms for a child who still needs the care of his parents.
Personally, I will rush to provide psychological support to my son, including monitoring his activity on the Internet and following up on support from psychological specialists. This is the least that can be done as a first step, regardless of any amount spent by the child.

Regarding the example in your story, the mother could be considered extremely reckless if she insisted on tracking down the lost money without taking into account the behavioral stage her son has reached.

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Quote from: EluguHcman on January 20, 2024, 02:55:19 PM

What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble?

Parents have full control and role for their respective children, that is the essence of the problem.
If that happened to me personally, of course I would integrate it personally first, of course by asking carefully, where do you know about gambling, from whom and how could he carry out this theft, even though he only took my money, what is clear is that I will not immediately judge. I will communicate carefully first.

Whatever our children do, it is our full responsibility, especially if they are involved in gambling, my principle is that they steal, of course there is a reason, we have to be serious in dealing with a cool head and hope we can bring him to the right path, no more stealing and gambling.

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Quote from: Kakmakr on February 20, 2024, 12:55:57 AM

Any good parent would have been angry, but they would also be concerned. The parent should worry about the childs state of mind, when he had to steal from his parents and questions should be answered... on why he did that.

They should determine if the child are addicted to gambling and if he is, then their main concern must be to get help for their son, not on how they will get the money back. Roll Eyes

Usually, when parents detect such behaviors in their early stage, they can easily cure and prevent such kind of addiction from happening where they end up stealing their parent's money just to fund their bad habits. Prevention is better than cure and when they always monitor their children's activities, it would not end up this way because they can prevent it. But when they loosely let them do whatever they want, then the problem will occur in the future which will be hard for them to stop especially when their kids are already teens.

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Quote from: summonerrk on February 22, 2024, 07:04:01 AM

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If I were the child's mother, of course I would be very angry because he dared to act unexpectedly and was very reckless in stealing and gambling, even if he won a lot of money, I would still discipline the child.

It is necessary to figure out why the child stole the money, and this is very important, because there may be two reasons:
1) the child does not have enough money to be on the same level as his peers, and he just does not want to be an outsider.
2) the child is a bully and he is attracted to such actions. In this case, you need to understand more specifically and correct the moral principles of the child.

I believe that theft often occurs for the first reason.

That is correct. Before punishing someone, it is necessary to find out what lead to such action. The reasons why that kid stole money can be very various. From having a desire to gamble, to being forced to steal. It was mentioned that he has stolen money via mobile transfer. Before making any accusation, first it needs to be proved that the kid was the one who tapped on the screen and made that transaction. What if he was framed?

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Quote from: Blowon on February 20, 2024, 11:36:56 AM

If I were the child's mother, of course I would be very angry because he dared to act unexpectedly and was very reckless in stealing and gambling, even if he won a lot of money, I would still discipline the child.

It is necessary to figure out why the child stole the money, and this is very important, because there may be two reasons:
1) the child does not have enough money to be on the same level as his peers, and he just does not want to be an outsider.
2) the child is a bully and he is attracted to such actions. In this case, you need to understand more specifically and correct the moral principles of the child.

I believe that theft often occurs for the first reason.

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Quote from: Gheka on February 20, 2024, 09:45:09 AM

Quote from: sompitonov on February 20, 2024, 05:33:46 AM

It seems to me that only those children for whom their parents do not have enough time are capable of such an act. Spending time in close contact with your children allows you to establish a strong and trusting bond that will prevent you from committing such base acts. If parents constantly yell or punish their children, the children do not do well in school, then we should not be surprised that one day we will discover that money is missing from our wallet, which it will spend on gambling. He probably did this because of problems in all areas that haunt him.

I would find time not to lose this contact, because if our children follow this bad path, it could ultimately have a bad impact on their entire lives. That's why it's important to spend more time with them and find them no matter what.

The circumstances of each region and land are quite different, there are environments that require people to work harder every day and not have a little time to be close to their children, sometimes many people also want to have an evening to confide in themselves, but in reality, they are too tired from work and almost exhausted, continuing to deal with other tasks such as household chores is more stressful for them. Children are too free and thus interact with social elements and are exposed to online entertainment, here perhaps better modes are needed to increase a family's interaction, a little understanding of psychology changes a person's direction

Yes, I also understand that a lot of people live to earn money for food, and the rest of the time they perform household duties and children are left to their own devices a lot of time. I even remember my childhood, they also spent little time on me, but I never stole money from my parents, although my peers did this. I understood that this was very bad and something that should not be done under any circumstances and no matter how much I wanted it. It turns out that the state is indirectly to blame for not providing high wages to parents who are forced to work all the time. After all, those who earn more can devote more time to children, because they do not have to perform many responsibilities around the house.

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Stealing is not about you and your parenting—it’s about your child and the inappropriate ways they’re choosing to solve their problems at the moment.

Kids Who Steal: What You Need To Know

Now come to the outcome of the bet or game from stolen money. Let's suppose the kid earns a lot of money from that stolen money, This should not make us treat the children with softly, and not to forgive them only because they are the cause of the win and gain of money. A wrong thing is wrong and it should not be encouraged even though there is some short term monetary benefits involved in it.

Exactly and every mother with the right attitude and drill should at every point care to ask for the source of their children’s wealth especially if the wealth is so sudden and most of the ill attitudes were failed to be corrected from childhood and since the mother has the highest bound from birth, to breastfeeding and te rest of that, she should be in a more better position to correct a lot of ill things when she saw them coming.
If the child made a lot of win from the bet, the parents has every right to caution the child since they’re responsible for their ward and children and also caution them with love rather than scolding or beating the child

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If I were the child's mother, of course I would be very angry because he dared to act unexpectedly and was very reckless in stealing and gambling, even if he won a lot of money, I would still discipline the child.

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Quote from: Obari on February 20, 2024, 12:40:17 AM

I’m not the mom and I’m not also a woman to assume this but the truth be told that stealing is stealing irrespective of the purpose it was stolen for.
But mothers should at every point, learn how to treat their children with love and not push them out to the harsh realities outside and I do understand the pains of the mother as this must be a case scenario of an Africa mother and since this case is very recent considering the high rate of poverty and hunger and the current rate of global inflation now, I wouldn’t blame the mom for any action she takes but she shouldn’t be too angered and forget to correct the child in love.
Gambling is never a poverty alleviation scheme, atleast not for people who can’t afford to bear the losses.

If only the parents can clearly define the line between the good and the bad things and practices and enforce them, will make the kids a good citizen when they grow up. Usually, the moms are soft hearted and they tend to ignore the mistakes of the children. If the child realises his mistake, he will never repeat it as he knows that doing the same will be punished.

Also stealing money or anything should not be treated softly. Even the criminals are made because they were not stopped by their parents at the early age when they used to steal small things, which later turned into a habit and a crime. This is a worth reading article telling the cons of stealing at an early and non-mature age.

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Stealing is not about you and your parenting—it’s about your child and the inappropriate ways they’re choosing to solve their problems at the moment.

Kids Who Steal: What You Need To Know

Now come to the outcome of the bet or game from stolen money. Let's suppose the kid earns a lot of money from that stolen money, This should not make us treat the children with softly, and not to forgive them only because they are the cause of the win and gain of money. A wrong thing is wrong and it should not be encouraged even though there is some short term monetary benefits involved in it.

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Quote from: summonerrk on February 20, 2024, 09:15:50 AM

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It is not surprising that if a child sees that they do not like him and do not give him time, then he chooses a crooked path in life that will not lead to anything good.

Supervision and education at home really help improve a child's discipline and honesty, but parents also need to supervise their children when they are outside the home. Teenagers are still very unstable in their thinking, they don't have much experience in considering their actions, all they think about is momentary pleasure without caring about the consequences afterwards.

The level of parental activity in educating children is not only at home, parents must also know who they are friends with when they are outside the home. Promiscuity can also make him choose a crooked path due to pressure or because of prestige with his friends.

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Quote from: Kakmakr on February 20, 2024, 12:55:57 AM

Any good parent would have been angry, but they would also be concerned. The parent should worry about the childs state of mind, when he had to steal from his parents and questions should be answered... on why he did that.

They should determine if the child are addicted to gambling and if he is, then their main concern must be to get help for their son, not on how they will get the money back. Roll Eyes

How will a child display a behaviour that is frowned upon in society and then you expect his parents to check his state of mind first? In my thinking, that will do no good and will even give the child reasons to misbehave next time on the ground that his parents will not scold him but rather will be considerate and even show unmerited care and attention. This will destroy the child`s morals. What I advocate in this kind of situation is to discipline the child then knowing why he did that should follow next.

I will applaud African mothers on this, an African mom will tell the child to feed himself with that money for some days and then you will see the child crying and making promises that he will not do it again. Please, I respect everyone's belief here but for us who believe in Christianity, the Holy Bible made it clear that “whoever spares the rod hates the child…” which in my opinion talks about the importance of punishing the child when he is wrong because that is the only way he learns. When a child steals and faces consequences, they learn that there are limits to their behaviour and actions.

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Quote from: sompitonov on February 20, 2024, 05:33:46 AM

It seems to me that only those children for whom their parents do not have enough time are capable of such an act. Spending time in close contact with your children allows you to establish a strong and trusting bond that will prevent you from committing such base acts. If parents constantly yell or punish their children, the children do not do well in school, then we should not be surprised that one day we will discover that money is missing from our wallet, which it will spend on gambling. He probably did this because of problems in all areas that haunt him.

I would find time not to lose this contact, because if our children follow this bad path, it could ultimately have a bad impact on their entire lives. That's why it's important to spend more time with them and find them no matter what.

The circumstances of each region and land are quite different, there are environments that require people to work harder every day and not have a little time to be close to their children, sometimes many people also want to have an evening to confide in themselves, but in reality, they are too tired from work and almost exhausted, continuing to deal with other tasks such as household chores is more stressful for them. Children are too free and thus interact with social elements and are exposed to online entertainment, here perhaps better modes are needed to increase a family's interaction, a little understanding of psychology changes a person's direction

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Children are the most important investment in our lives. And every contribution to their development and abilities is more important than any investment in stocks or cryptocurrencies. Children need to impress with their results, and it is important that they always receive maximum attention and care from their parents.

It is not surprising that if a child sees that they do not like him and do not give him time, then he chooses a crooked path in life that will not lead to anything good.

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Quote from: CryptoPanda on February 16, 2024, 09:19:25 PM

I don’t think the mother is mad about her son gambling, just the way he got the money. Stealing is a crime and if unchecked he could develop a habit for it and steal from someone who is not as sentimental and would very well call the cops. I think the mother is trying to prevent such an occurrence from happening in the future, the OP doesn’t say the age of the boy, I can only assume he’s a teenager. The family should have a sit down with the boy and let him know the consequences of his actions.

A child or a teenager stealing money from his father or mother or anyone around him/her is a question mark on the upbringing of the parents in the first place. So the first thing they should do is question themselves about how they have raised their child. Once they do that, then they should think of a way they can handle the situation and they should make sure that whatever they do should make the child understand, it shouldn't make him too much frightened but he should learn his lesson so that he doesn't repeat the same thing again or do anything that is considered bad.

A sitting with the child should be okay but it shouldn't be full of affection and encouragement to make the child think that he can do whatever he wants because the elders won't mind or do anything at all.

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Quote from: Kakmakr on February 20, 2024, 12:55:57 AM

Any good parent would have been angry, but they would also be concerned. The parent should worry about the childs state of mind, when he had to steal from his parents and questions should be answered... on why he did that.

They should determine if the child are addicted to gambling and if he is, then their main concern must be to get help for their son, not on how they will get the money back. Roll Eyes

Some parents are able to communicate with their children with gentle and care, but some parents are not vocal or expressive so they can't have time to talk to their children. This is one of the problems that a family has that causes their children to do something inappropriate because of lack of care and guidance from their parents. If you have this parent-child relationship with your kids, you will know what your child is doing in their life, They are also the ones who are willing to tell stories or update on what is happening in their lives. .

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