Topic: What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble? - page 16. (Read 3238 times)

Yes, you are right, this is a deep problem that you need to dive into and understand what is really happening to the child. Even if he turns to specialists, there is a high chance that even they will not deal with this situation, because the child may withdraw into himself due to psychological problems and possibly internal shame. Yelling is not right, although many parents will want to do it as soon as they hear about it. This can be done under the influence of emotions.

In general, stealing money from parents is the first problem that seriously hurts morally. And the second problem is that it is necessary to solve the problem with the possible dependence that is forming in the child at this moment, if he was ready to do it. You have to speak so carefully with a child that it’s like finding the key to his moral state; it’s incredibly difficult to do. But the problem must be solved, otherwise it will happen again if nothing is done.

It can be very disheartening if we are to be in this case but it would also be an excitement if the result ended to be a big win. No body cares about negative results but we are all astonished about people when the positive result shows up. Gambling is in different ways and we need to know what we are doing so that we don't end with negative results. Normally stealing is bad but for the result to have turned positive, then there is nothing to bother about because we can also rejoice for turning a bad altitude into something of jubilation for people around who would have criticize such an act.

Woah, this kid stealing his mom's cash to gamble? That's messed up on a whole new level. It's like stealing candy from a baby... except the baby is broke and the candy is her rent money. Yikes.

Sure, punishment is important, gotta let him know that ain't cool. But just yelling and grounding him won't fix the real problem, right? This kid's clearly got something deeper going on. Maybe he's hooked on gambling, maybe he's feeling the pressure and trying to escape in a risky way, or maybe he just saw his dad blow his paycheck on the ponies and thought it was normal.

Whatever it is, the parents gotta dig in and figure it out. Slapping a bandaid on this with punishment won't cut it. They need to talk, listen, and show some real support. Maybe get some help from a therapist or counselor, someone who can untangle this mess and get the kid back on track.

It doesn't matter what they stole, how they stole it, what they used it for and even if they stole money to gamble and made  millions, I would feel the same way regardless..very upset.  If they stole money and won a bunch, sure that's great but it would certainly be a teaching lesson and they would be grounded for a very long time if it were me.

In general, I agree, but we also need to take age into account. If a child takes his parents’ money without asking at the age of 16, then this is already very close to theft, but if he does this at 10, then this is completely different. It seems to me that at this age children quite logically regard family property as something common and the “secret” waste of part of the property is perceived by them not as theft but as a cunning but harmless move (like reading a book under the blanket with a flashlight instead of sleeping). But since we are talking about gambling here, most likely the child’s age is closer to 16 than 10 and he has obvious moral problems or a gambling addiction.

I know that some people would come up with such a question to ask "Had it been he won millions from the bet", what would the mother do? To be happy about it(that's what the minds of people would assume).

There is an adage that says ''Spare the rod and spoil the child''. There are some families, whose parents won't accept the wealth of their sons if not gotten in the rightful way they assign.

For the son's mother to call everyone to inform them about her son stealing her money to gamble, means she hates what her son did with passion. If her son had won millions from it, she might not accept it.

If she accepts it as a mother who needs money, in the future her son can do the worst and by then she won't have the boldness to question him about having such a bad attitude about betting with stolen money.

To be honest, I really don't understand what you are saying here or how it all connects to the statement I made above.
 
In truth, one day, whoever is gambling, if they continue to gamble, is going to win gambling. Someday, one cannot remain unlucky for the 365 days that we have in a year, and when the right time comes with the right strategy, the person is going to go home with a good winning amount.
 
But when it comes to taking what is not yours to gamble with it all in the name of you wanting to fulfil your gambling desire, that's where I'm  against it.Whoever wants to gamble should gamble with what they can afford, but taking that which does not belong to them is stealing.
 
No matter what the gambling result is going to turn out to be, they should be punished for stealing. I know if the person wins big, they will offer to pay back the stolen money, but still, it doesn't make sense that the child should be corrected by whatever means necessary.

maybe this is what is called "the fruit doesn't fall far from the tree", so your daughter's behavior is at least similar to what you said, but even though your daughter gambles just for fun, I hope you don't ignore her too much or let her go by not watch him well. because even so, in my opinion, the risk of addiction is still there, if your daughter is fed up with the gambling she does which always ends in losing and that can trigger her emotions to rise, then it is possible that she could become addicted to gambling too. then negative thoughts are created, such as secretly stealing your money.

But did you teach your daughter to gamble yourself? or show your gambling activities in front of your daughter? because there are discussions outside this topic that discuss "don't gamble in front of children" I think this is true, we shouldn't gamble in front of our children, let alone teach them to gamble. In my opinion, educating children well is a must, not impossible, in fact, in my opinion, children should not be educated or introduced to gambling, because I'm sure you also know the bad effects of gambling. because there have been many cases of people who gamble for fun but become addicted to gambling. because losing self-control in gambling can change the mindset of someone who plays it in a short period of time.

I can't picture out how it feels but if ever it happened, it would be a big shame on myself for not guiding them to the right path. As he already knows how to steal from me, he could possibly steal things from others. It should be stopped before it gets worse and before it becomes a habit.

Even though that kid won the bet but because it was coming from stealing, we could say thanks instead, telling them that it is not right and should not be happening again. This kid of behavior should not be tolerated or else, it is just like we are telling them to do steal more.

Obviously, I'll be disappointed and I have already experienced such a scenario but my mind was not spent on gambling they spent it on online games and they even plan to get some more thankfully I was alerted by SMS on my phone so I was able to quickly prevent it. At this point, they should probably teach that kid a lesson and also make it more hard for him to acquire money from them because obviously, he won't spend it on something he really needs but rather on the things he is addicted to. Prevention is better than cure, they should step forward today or gonna cry tomorrow because they cannot stop him anymore due to his addiction becoming worse than before.

The mother was concerned that the boy had only lost $15, and that the situation could have been worse if the boy had lost a larger amount. I do not know whether the boy is an adult or not? I have seen some minors who used to gamble by transferring money to their father's account. But after a few days, one person was found in the hands of his father and he recognise that the boy steal money and gamble with that money. Later he was brought back to normal after various persuasions. If a child does such a thing, parents should quickly change their account or other wallet keys and keep them in a safe place.

Stealing is a sign of a very bad character, even if my son won millions my big concern is he will waste the money he won, you cannot expect someone with a bad character to spend his money wisely, he might waste it by continuously gambling and buy expensive things that he doesn't need or do partying because a thief who has a lot of money will just waste the money.

If this happens to my son I will be alarmed because there's a possibility that I'm raising a criminal who will become a menace or a problem child so to avoid these things from happening I will have to send my son to a rehabilitation center, and guide him and follow his progress until he is cured.

I don't have a son yet but I have a daugther who already gamble, but it's just for fun. If time will come that she will steal money from me to gamble, I would feel disappointed but I would not be to harsh to here since I also gamble and I know what gambling can do if a person gets addicted to it. I have my time focus on here and help here to recover, gambling is suppose to be for fun and we can only achieve that we are have limitations.

Maybe it's also important that we should educate our children about gambling even if they aren't gambling, so if the time comes that they will try, they won't be ignorant and will make stupid mistakes.

oh the parent would have really felt disappointed right now as she didn't raised the child that way.

Anyways, the child shouldn't just be disciplined for discipline sake but should be chastised in a manner that points to the danger of his actions and, he shouldn't be required to provide the money he had stolen and used to gamble, it could lead to worse case scenario if you know what i mean.

You are not to get too mad with your son, let him know that you are not happy with what he did but instead of showing much hate try to teach him about gambling instead, tell him what awaits someone who don't know a lot about gambling and he will either choose to quit or choose to be a responsible gambler.

I would love him to quit because I won't want were by his attention will shift from his studies into gambling, this is very possible but he might also start hiding stuffs from me, the truth is if he still have interest in gambling he can do it behind your back.

If you don't like your son hiding things from you it's better to pretend as if you are in support and expose what gambling really looks like to him, he will learn and you need to discipline him if he stole the money for gambling, this are two separate lessons you need to teach him.

One for stealing money to gamble, this is wrong, stealing is wrong.

Secondly, you need to teach him the act of a responsible gambler, you won't know of he still have interest or not, he might not quit gambling easily.

It doesn't matter to me if the child won the bet or not, what matters is that he gambled with a stolen money, and that is a criminal act, if the child is an adult then he can go to jail and serve time for stealing.

The mother telling a child that does not have a source of income to replace money that is gone is the same thing as telling him to go and steal it from someone else, but I guess that the mother said that out of frustration and never really meant it. The first thing for her to do is change her account passwords and hide every sensitive information where the child can not access them, to avoid a repeat of similar incident. Also the young Man needs continuous counseling about the dangers of stealing and the loses in gambling, by professionals or family and friends that he's familiar with,

Why should you feel disappointed in your child, if this is you who failed to raise him? Feel disappointed in yourself. Because you have failed to make him understand that stealing is bad. Its is your fault that he has used gambling to get more money for example, or did not know when to stop. You should have explained all that, but the kid only did what he thought was right. That is the problem of many parents, instead of searching the root of a problem, they blame only the final link.

first question is that , How do the Son have that withdrawal when the mobile should have password on it?

calling everyone? she is the parent meaning she have lost about how to handle Her own child, then that is insane.

I will never be that kind , because I am not careless to provide security on my phone , and also if ever this happened to me? I will make sure that my son will regret what he have done here.

A mother will be upset when she discovers her son has stolen her money. It's not a matter of the amount of money but because his actions have upset the mother and have clearly damaged her trust in her child, especially if her child uses the money to gamble. This will make his mother even more annoyed and angry because the stolen money was used for gambling, which was not what his mother taught him. Indeed, it would be better for the mother and other family members to make the child aware so that he does not steal again and learns to be responsible for his actions. Maybe a little punishment is enough to wake the child so he won't repeat it. However, this is a lesson for us to always be careful in educating our children.

I agree with you that the habit of stealing from an early age will make him become accustomed to stealing until he grows up, therefore it is best to advise him as much as possible not to do it a second time, it is a mistake of a child to steal, we cannot punish it in a harsh way because Whatever we blame, there must be a cause and reason that we don't know but it makes him want to do it. The point is to give the correct advice that stealing is not justified, especially because it is for gambling.

An addiction to gambling from an early age was probably what made him do that so he dared to do it because he thought his mother wouldn't know and would be angry, luckily he didn't do it, steal other people's money out there, possibly if he was caught he would be subject to criminal law, before the child did anything excessive. It's good to give advice because in a harsh way it won't help anything. My friend advised his child in a harsh way, but his son kept wanting to do it. Sometimes we need to approach children and advise them in a good way and then direct them that the action they are taking is wrong.