Topic: What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble? - page 18. (Read 3241 times)

If this... happened in my little family... To be honest, I would feel disappointed in my child, because so far I have never taught him to steal or take things that don't belong to him and lie to his parents. Moreover, he used his money to gamble.

And starting from this problem, this is a lesson for everyone and especially for me personally about how important education is in a family. and as parents we should always be able to take the time to provide education, advice and more attention to our children. Don't just do work, which never ends, make us forget that there are more important things we have to do, namely instilling kindness in our children. because it could be that children can run away to gamble and look for fun there, this is because they don't get more attention and affection from their parents. So they choose to look for new sensations that can provide pleasure.

In good times everyone cheers but in bad times no one stands by. Even the mother would have been very happy if her son had won a jackpot. However, not everyone will be like that. But when someone gets a large amount, many fail to handle the greed. Gambling should not be done by stealing. Because his mother must have earned that money by hard work. Gambling with his money without telling him is not acceptable. On the other hand, a mother trying to recover that money by forcing her son is also not a suitable method. Because he knows very well that his son has no source of income. I think he should be discouraged from doing such things by convincing him as much as possible.

For me I believe that I should blame myself first before blaming the child that stole money to gamble with, reason being that for the fact that stealing is a bad thing and against the law, i will judge me first because it shows that I have failed in my parenting role to the child so the blames first fall on me and after then transferred to my child.

Gambling is not a bad thing but stealing to gamble with is bad, and also if the child is up to the age of gambling that means he is already an addicts since he can still to gamble with at that age.

Regardless wether he won the games or not, it still will not make any big difference for me and for sure, some time they may be lucky to have win the games, but that not still withstanding the fact about the child act being evil since stealing was involved.

No matter what the result or the game will be, stealing is bad, and any child who engages in that should be treated in accordance with the punishment they deserve.
 
I will punish the child and earn him/her not to engage in such again, and the kind of punishment and reaction from me will tell that I'm not happy and such should not repeat itself again. If you treat the person differently based on the gambling result, there is nothing that is going to stop him from doing so next time, even if he is going to lose the game.
 
I can even treat a child who uses the money I give him or her for personal use for gambling. I will get upset and react to that, but the reaction will not be as bad and hash as it will be when they steal from me.

It is better said to be forgiven but not forgotten because such scenarios worth an immediate correctional measures so as it doesn't proceed a concurring occurrence and because we are humans, such disasterous activity is likely not easy to be forgotten by either the guys parents or the guy himself because remembrance of it is a reminder of conciousness measures.

On the other side, if your son can steal then there's probably something wrong on how you grew him up, maybe you are lacking of communication and guidance. There should be some kind of punishment for them but the blood stays in your veins. [/quote]
On a straight forward note, please it would be awful giving excuses towards this guys action to had stolen from the mom for gambling.
I also doubt if the guys action was as a lineage immunity or how he was nurtured by his parents.
Ignorance should not be an excuse because I practically know that my parents doesn't gamble but I do and of course there are other side stuffs I do which my parents doesn't know about neither do they also practices the same thing.
Lifestyle is clearly an individual choice and yeah, childrens lifestyles could still be inflicted by how they are brought up by their parents or guidances.


Verily exciting expressions in such situations is as encouraging the young boy to do more with the tips to steal and utilizes the opportunity to create income as such. Adamantly, this could signify that such act is never a mysterious concurance but a lineage immunity possessions.

If my child steals money and uses it for gambling, I will scold him and give him punishment, this is a lesson in his life, that stealing is bad, and gambling is not intended for small children, I will stress him at all costs. so that he doesn't do it again, because if left unchecked he will be even more daring to take the next action, it's better to prevent this with harsh means.

When I see people who are more interested to know about the childs age before they can determine the level of his wrong, it makes me understand how decayed the modern day society have actually gone and it's a very big issue that's giving me concerns. How did we start to use a childs age to know if he should be punished for stealing in the first place or not. For the child to be able to steal his parent's money to gamble, he must have been involving himself in other activities that are related to stealing and if he's not adequately punished for his actions, he'll continue to steal and probably go wild with his stealing habit.


A child who steals his parent's money to gamble has  proven that he's already addicted to gambling and can do anything possible to make sure he gambles stealing included. That's actually a very big problem for his parents if you ask me and if he's not stopped at his very tender age, it'll cause a disaster for the child and to also everyone around him. This is one of the major reasons why it's very advisable for adults not to engage in any gambling activities in front of kids in other not to expose them to gambling in their very early age

It's clear, I myself would scold behavior like that, because it's not good treatment, stealing is not a good thing and I think everyone knows this. If their children dare to steal, chances are they are already addicted to gambling, but it would be a shame if they are still easily addicted to gambling because that is not a commendable thing. In my opinion, people who are addicted to gambling will only think about gambling, and when the money they have runs out, they will do other things, such as stealing, on this topic.

If a child is addicted to gambling then I will advise him well, and if he dares to steal then I will scold him, because what they are doing is wrong, especially stealing to gamble, I don't think they are the only mistake they have made. What I'm afraid of is that they will get used to it and then become bolder, like committing robbery or other things like what you said.
Therefore we have to educate our children well,  because we have a role in educating children to be good and useful children. If there are children who do that, in my opinion it is because their friend environment is not good or lack of parental supervision.

No one knows the real answer here because your auntie is the one who’s involved on this situation not us.


I will be furious if my son do this even if he win huge amount of money since the fact of stealing money is an act of dishonesty which shouldn’t be praise nor rewarded despite the outcome is good because he will keep doing it in the future if you let it slide.

As a parent, we should not tolerate this kind of act because this will be a problem in the future once he have a chance to do it and with worst outcome.

It is still unethical for the kid to stole that money from his parents account even if that bet got the winning. That is a stepping stone to becoming an irresponsible gambler on his adulthood. But mixed emotions will surely happen during that time, like tears of joy and the feeling of slight disgust for stealing that hard earned money from her account.

Well, I will teach this kid a lesson to not steal money from anybody. He might get jailed for that behavior. Let his conscience haunt him so he will no longer do that again. Tell that kid he has no idea how hard it is to come up with that amount on her account.

How she's reacting is just a normal way every non-gamblers would possibly react, due to the fact they do not understand anything and the drive in gambling.
It is just exactly same way non football players will hate and curse a goalkeeper after he fails to save the ball from entering the goal post, and this very same goal keeper have in the same match saved like 8 to 10 possible or potential goals, and non will remember that, every bodies mind is shifted to just that particular one he was not able to save.

If the boy had won millions, the woman possibly will not react the way she is reacting because, she would have her $15 back, and possibly even much more than her $15 that was used for the bet.
But right now the money is lost,  she can't have her $15 back, and she did not give the consent for the money to be used to play gambling, it was stolen from her, how she is reacting is completely normal.

And if I was her or in her shoes, first, let me say that no one of my child will dare to steal my money to use for gambling, he or she will be a dead meat, it is better to ask, and I willingly decide to give you the money or not, but stealing my money and using it not anything meaningful but gambling, I possibly may not ask that you return the money by whatever means, but what I did do, you as my child will prefer I had asked you to return the money.

If my son stole my money to gamble, then I should give him more lunch money, because he is in short of funds. Just kidding

Of course this is a huge tragedy, even though people wont admit it. Proper words would be parenting failure. Because parents failed to explain basics of what is good or bad, what is accepted in society and what is not. I am already expecting people from Never gamble in front of your kids to come and talk about addiction, and the reason for act of theft was because parents gambled in front of kid. This has little to do with gambling. This is not about gambling at all. Then it will be "never steal in from of your kids". Gambling is just an excuse. The kid stole because he needed money, not because he wanted to gamble. He could have stolen money for candies, clothes, video games, toys.

Teaching hard lessons is necessary. Parents have to be careful with their children. If the son of someone gambled, that mean he is grown up enough who understand gambling. He is not a toddler who does not understand what is right and what is wrong. I won't support beating a eight years old child for stealing, I would teach him and guide him instead.

But if a 15 years old son do this, surely I will have to talk to him and teach him a hard lesson if it's necessary. I have seen people allowing their kids do whatever they want and their expectations always grew up as long as their parents allowed them doing unethical things like stealing from others. If you see that your kid is stealing, he behaving rude, you have to teach him and guide him.

A stupid question (in the context of “what if he won”). There is a factor of chance in life and sometimes bad behavior is rewarded and good behavior, on the contrary, is punished, but if you are not indifferent to the fate of your child, then most likely it is important for you that he does the right thing, regardless of the fact that sometimes bad actions bring benefits. I think that any reasonable mother would be upset by her son’s theft, regardless of the results of his gambling.
By the way, since you love thought experiments, how about this: a person kills and robs another person. Later it turns out that the murdered man was a maniac. Does this allow us to praise the burglar?

That's not the right question to ask, of course, she would be happy if he had managed to win a multi million price from that money, but since he didn't, it became a double shocker for the mom because first he stole the money and then lost it all. So, she might have felt bad for the stealing part but she surely wouldn't have been disheartened or mad if the guy could manage to win something significant and give the money to her.

Even though I'm not a female, but I can easily say that I would get extremely mad for him to first steal money from my account and then losing it all in gambling. If he had asked me for money and then used that money for gambling, it would be different, and I would maybe just be a little mad for his gambling activities but not for the stealing part.

A lot of individuals are stressing on to know if the child is old enough to gamble, i don't know if they want to give him benefits of considerations pertaining his action of stealing from his mom to gamble.
Anyway... Whether below or up to the age of Gambling, he has proven that he can't take control of his emotions and if he continues gambling, he would have all sorts of irresponsible reputations and regrettable moments in his gambling life so it would be better of him to face the disciplinary measures that it deserves.

Well that's right, before going into gambling we can discuss from the other side first, as you discuss here that the child already has a bad personality and morals in him so that he can have the courage to steal money from one of his family members, and is this as a result of the wrong upbringing of parents? this can be used as an excuse but I can't be completely sure, because on the other hand I think that indeed the impact of gambling involvement can also make a person act out of control especially if he has entered the addiction phase in the sense that he is hopeful and cannot miss the slightest time not to gamble.

We can see that it is not uncommon for cases to occur that gamblers who are addicted to them are desperate to commit acts out of control such as robbery or other criminal acts and one of the causes is because gambling activities have affected their common sense. So the point is in this problem in my opinion there are two things that can be the reason why a child can be reckless like that.

My state of mind? I would feel very disappointed and angry about it at first, because we are talking about theft. Regardless the child is part of the family and the household, one needs to call it for what it is and that was plain and simple theft. After the initial anger and misbelief I would feel, then I would think on there the implications of having a gambling addicted thief living close to me.
I would try to keep my money out of all reach for such person and the think of ways to get him a proper punishment and rehabilitation.

Also, if we are taking about 15$, as if it was an important amount of money to someone in that country, then the punishment needs to be equal to the misbehavior. If I could I would force him to pay all back in parts and get him away from means to gamble more money he could find in other places.

I would be angry, but any responsible mother or father would. Because it's not the matter of winning or not. It's the matter of taking your money without your consent (stealing) in the first place. Result of the gamble is irrelevant.

But i have a question, what this son thought would happen? He obviously knew that he would get caught for mobile transfer. With stolen cash he might have got out of it if he won and returned the money without mom noticing. Not that it would be ok either, but if mom didn't knew about it she wouldn't be angry either. Transferring the winning money on the other hand would make her be aware of the theft.

But as a first world citizen, it makes me feel disheartened that mom worked hard to save $15. I know that life expenses in some countries are low but $15 in here gets you maybe 2 beers in a cheap bar. Hopefully that mom recovers from that and son learned a lesson. Because this is not a gambling issue, this is a issue of stealing.

It's not gambling that will make me angry, it's how he steals from his family whether he will use it to gamble or for anything, you don't and you never steal from your family, it is dishonesty, cheating and a sign of bad character and it reflects on the whole family.

I will not only be disappointed but will also be alarmed to have a son like this, we'll have a heart-to-heart talk and rehabilitate him so he can be healed from gambling, and if he is still underage I will have into strict supervision, it's not natural for a child to steal and it's a huge concern not only for the family but for the society if one child thinks that stealing is ok, he will grown up to become a menace to society, so it's better for the child to be rehabilitated and to get cured from gambling and dishonesty.