Topic: What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble? - page 19. (Read 3238 times)

All these effects follows in among the disadvantages of gambling since it could lead to criminality and anyone who has gotten to the addiction phases always face this difficulties and there is no way of adjustment or to heal the son from such attitude since it was something he began to practice on time. From what I have seen from the statement it seems the son is beyond control, causing serious damage to the family it only needs the intervention of God to heal him from this attitude.

I wouldn't scold him if I knew he stole my money, but I would ask him to talk privately. I will ask him why he stole, and if I know that the money was used for gambling, I will explain that gambling has risks and that if it is stolen money, he can be caught by the police if he steals it from someone else. I will not report it to the authorities, but I will ask him not to do it again.

If a teenager is scolded, he will become wilder and more difficult to advise. They tend to want to explore their curiosity and do what they want. As parents, we may need to take a different approach, especially since they are approaching adolescence.

If the child wins a lot of money, I'm not sure if the mother will be disappointed and angry. However, the mother could be disappointed and angry because the money is used for gambling, whereas the mother does not like seeing her child gambling. But the mother will still forgive her child because I'm sure the mother will love him.

First of all, her son shouldn't have access to her banking account. If he went through it using her mobile device, it means he knew her password or it was configured to login automatically. Sorry, but it's her fault as well for being so careless with her mobile device and banking account. Imagine if it was a thief, instead of her son to take the device (after all, not that it makes much difference at all... ). I think the damage would be much superior than 15$...

Well, of course she is right by disciplining the son for his wrongdoing, however, to order him to refund her through any means can put this young into more trouble... He can seek for money though illegal activities, and it can introduce him to the criminal world. I guess the right approach would be the mother to find a work his son could execute and put him to work there until earning the 15$ back. The point is that she can't say to her son to get the money back without giving further guidance on how to do this correctly.

I believe she wouldn't be mad on him in that case, as it would have been a very fortunate surprise for the whole family. But at same time, she would have to discipline him in every cases. If I were the mother, I would grab the whole prize and invest it for the future of my son. By there, the money would remain untouchable by him as punishment for the theft.

Very normal indeed, just like you said on which no parent will really be happy basing up on the thing that had been done by his/her child on which stealing is always bad thing.
Now that you've seen that he's really that involved with gambling then it is really just that right to tell them its bad and should be avoided.

You cant really just that make yourself to get pass on what they have done and its better to tell them about the bitter truth about gambling
that majority do messed up their lives because of it.

As early as you could then better to stop those kind of habits because we've seen that theyve been stealing already not really just that because you are their parents
but high likely it would be done on other people as well. This is solid indication that you are already addicted to it.

Waw, that’s serious. If the boy has gotten to the level of stealing just to gamble, then he is already addicted to gambling, because someone who’s not addicted to gambling won’t go to the level of stealing from his mother to gamble. I'm sure the mother must have noticed some gambling behaviour from the boy, maybe they didn’t just take it seriously, and now that it has gotten to the level of stealing from the mother, that’s why she is angry and looking for a solution. If you are having children, you should make sure you monitor some of their activities.

How do you expect the boy to provide the money back when he is not working? The mother is just trying to add to her problem. What if the boy ends up doing illegal things outside the house just to get the money back? Or maybe the boy might end up keeping on gambling just to be able to get the money back? What the mother should be about is how the boy will stop gambling or the addiction.

It would really be that so normal for a parent to scold up their child about on what happened on which we do know that stealing or getting things which arent theirs is never been that good or something which is really that ethical to do so.Plus, this is you do able to see that they are involving with gambling on which it is really just that right that we should really be telling them about its cons
and its real disadvantage on which we know that this is something that good to tell them about it. We do know that cons of gambling and we dont for our children
to experience the worst and this is why it would really be that better that you should really be teaching them on whats the right way. Hitting up millions?
Its rare but you wont really be that get frustrated if ever this one happens but most of the time you would definitely lose.

I will punish him for stealing my money. I won't punish him because he gambled with the money. He has to understand that stealing is a bad habbit which is not encouraged in the society. If he must gamble he should do it with his hard earned money and not stollen funds.

mentally, this will affect the child's future and most mothers will not agree if their child gambles even if they win millions of dollars.
did you ever remember there was a thread where a boy got a big win but his father told him to return the winnings to the casino?

that's one example, not only a mother but even a father won't agree if their child gambles, even if they just want to have fun, but there are still many other ways to have fun without being involved in gambling.
parents definitely think about what's best for their children, especially if a mother finds out that her child stole money just to gamble and when he comes home with millions of dollars in large amounts of money, his mother will definitely not agree because initially the money used for betting was the money he stole and a mother would definitely think that child's future could be threatened if you let your child continue gambling and one day they could steal a large amount again and if you say imagine I am a mother I will educate my child to immediately leave gambling with the threat of not being given any money.

As it may be said, ignorant is not an excuse for misconducts and pampering with such a child whom has the arbitrary possessions of stealing within the household could serve as an encouragement for the child to do more, worse and even tends to consciencelessly practicing criminology as a normalcy.
Hence such a circumstance shouldn't be tolerated with the child and most be disciplined with all terms of preventing further occurances of the childs misbehavioural actions in both stealing and gambling.

Stealing from family members is a big no-go and the money should be returned as quickly as possible. There is no excuse for why he needed that money, taking 20,000 times money from the account is also not a good sign. He clearly planned this and tried to stay under the radar. But how didn't his mother notice this earlier? Step one should be blocking the son from all accounts, he broke the trust and this needs to have serious consequences. Step two should be to check with the bank, why didn't they lock the account earlier or informed the mother? Maybe the mother has a case against the bank as his son should never have access and the bank has to pay. Step three would be an intervention with the son and make him realise this behavior is unacceptable. Together with the whole family they should convince him to get help. It doesn't matter if he won the jackpot or not with they money, it was stolen from his mother and ruined all the trust in their relationship.

No she won't be that mad if the son had won jackpot with the stolen money. What she would have done is to only talk to him about not stealing but to inform her if he wanted some money to gamble 

We have also had issues hear about children in religious home where gambling is forbidden and the child won huge some of money and heaven didn't lose. So such cases are not going to get the perpetrator to die, it will only be more painful if the risk didn't result to winning but if it did, the mother will swallow the shame that the son stole from her but be happy that he won the bet which the stolen money was used for.

In principle, if I am faced with something, even more so to try to put myself into being a mother. what is certain is that these feelings will be mixed. starting from feelings of annoyance, anger, disappointment, and even the possibility of blaming yourself for failing to educate your child well. similarly, if my child did something similar. as a father, I will feel like I have failed to educate my child well. It's not the gambling problem, but the money he stole and that money was used for something that wasn't the time for him to be involved in gambling. in this phase, if you are a mother or father, you will feel something that is difficult to express in words. especially, if the child is still not old enough.

Well, related to this question, for me it is very interesting. Basically, there is no one who doesn't need money. All things related to our lives will be interrelated with money. for example, my son stole money, but he won millions of dollars. Will I be happy?.happy? or ? I can't answer that. In fact, I have never experienced this phase and don't want it to happen to my child even though he won millions of dollars from gambling. the main problem is not money, but attitude and behavior. the actions that a child does are wrong, and the impact will be very big if a solution is not found so that the child can live a normal life.  winning millions of dollars, at the right age it doesn't matter.  but for a child, it will certainly be a problem in the future.

I would be really disappointed if my child steal money from me. That would mean that I have failed as a parent, did not teach him what is wrong or right. It does not matter if child steal for gambling, cheat someone for money or steal candy in a shop. If the kid would as money for gambling, that would be different. Also if he steals, then I must make sort of an investigation where he learned that or where he got that idea from. From family (biggest family fail), or from friend.

Remember, if you only appreciate the results, you're teaching your kids only to get the results regardless what the process to obtain it.

So, if you happy with your son make money by stealing your own money, he will steal mores, it start from the parent, his friends or other people. That's not a good parents, I'd say it's a failed parents, that's why I feel like parenting advisor or consultant is needed to know if we're already deserve to become parents or not yet.

Stealing is one act we should always try to protect our kids from, no matter whatever the money been used for, because every mother will feel the same way she is feeling if she had kept money and it been stolen for a careless purpose. But the irony of the whole story is that if the kid had won millions with the money gambled with, that woman wouldn't have gone bad at him the way he is right now, hence, as parents discipline is an act we should never take for granted when a kid has done something wrong.

Whether it is in any amount, large or small, it is still mistake and it is highly discouraged for child to become familiar with gambling and parents and everyone around them must be able to avoid all forms of activity related to gambling.
He may have problems that make his parents worry and feel sad about what he has done, but there is also role for parents who are negligent in the context of cases like this.
As parent, you should always supervise and really suppress all activities that might have an unfavorable impact, you should always provide guidance that can truly educate in direction that is much more beneficial for growth and development.
It would be very sad to see child who does negative things stealing money just because of the impact of gambling.

Teaching harsh lessons is indeed very natural thing to happen if child has made fatal mistake, but it should not be excessive because it will affect the child psychology and mindset towards his parents.
I know that stealing is very bad thing and must always be avoided. Gradually, child must always be guided and not make the same mistakes.
He may experience lack of concern from his parents so that he can get to know gambling and he will definitely have associations in living environment that is not good.

I have never experienced this and I hope I will never experience this in my life. But it’s obvious that this is very painful, I’m even afraid to imagine how much... When you raise a child for many years, giving a lot of love and strength, and then he allows you to do this. Of course, it is clear that he did this under gambling addiction, but the very awareness of this does not make the pain any easier. I watched interviews with mothers whose sons are addicted to gambling, and they did not say that this happened to them more than once. I don’t want to tell anyone this, but they found the courage. I don't think I could do the same. When their children stole money from them, they probably didn’t think that the same thing could happen to them in the future. Only then will they understand what a moral pain this is for a parent, but they will not be able to do anything about it. I don't want anyone to know this.

If I were to be the mom I would be heartbroken and at same time I would discipline him because stealing is a bad habit that needs to be handled with correction before it gets out of hand.And also as parents we should be able to dictate/know the friends our children make how it affects them positively or negatively in the society,it is said that evil communication corrupts good manner.

Win or not, I bet a parent will not be happy with what he has done. Take this as an example being a parent, even if my son wins millions, I won't like what he had done stealing from me or his aunt and uncle because that is wrong.
If we are going to be happy with just that simple reasoning then we are worst than them.
I get it, money is everything but do imaging if a kid learns to steal everytime he is cornered. For me, that will be the worst-case scenario and I don't like that to happen with them. I love them, that's the first thing I know being a parent and I want them to learn all the lessons I can give them as much as possible. Stealing is wrong even if you double the money or you made multiple wins like x1000. First he must be disciplined and then after that, it is where I congratulate him. But on a mandate that he will never do it again. Because if he did, he will not just receive a punch, he might get a wheelchair next time just to move.

You can't forgive your own blood? I mean yes, stealing has some consequences especially if it was stolen by your son, but being unforgivable is quite harsh.

On the other side, if your son can steal then there's probably something wrong on how you grew him up, maybe you are lacking of communication and guidance. There should be some kind of punishment for them but the blood stays in your veins.

Stealing is stealing, regardless of anything.