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Why should you feel disappointed in your child, if this is you who failed to raise him? Feel disappointed in yourself. Because you have failed to make him understand that stealing is bad.
So if you tell your child that it’s bad to steal, does that mean they won’t steal? Even if you tell your child something's bad and they shouldn’t do it, don’t be surprised that they will go behind your back and end up doing things that you warned them not to do. If things like this happen, are you going to blame yourself for that? I'm sure most parents do tell their children that stealing is bad, but some children won’t just listen.

I find that guys post funny. He has failed in teaching a kid, and the kid is to blame. I am sure that kid got punished, but parents should be punished to. If my kid steals, I am going to blame myself only. Because I havent taught him well that this is bad. If the kid wont listen and steal, after being taught that this is bad - that is also my fault. Because I am not authority for him. That is why he wiped his feet over what I was teaching him. Of course parents should not be tyrants with over control. There should be limits. But in exchange there must be respect.
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I will probably discipline him the hard way, this is how my father trained up and today I am glad he handled us this way, I used to think that my father was too harsh on us until I grow up, now I can't stop thanking him for bringing us up this way.

I will do the same thing with my children, unlike the parenting skills of today's parent, they are the ones responsible for the mess that this generation are doing, the fear of their kids hating them have made them to get too soft with the kids.

Some kids are differently, very tough and stubborn that no matter what you tell them to avoid they will still not listen to you, the only thing they listen to is punishment and some b*****, it's what many kids fear and understand, find which one your kid listen to, the words of the mouth or your harsh punishment on them, and after embrace them and let them know you love them, to avoid tiger parenting which can create some boundaries between you and your kids.
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The mother was concerned that the boy had only lost $15, and that the situation could have been worse if the boy had lost a larger amount. I do not know whether the boy is an adult or not? I have seen some minors who used to gamble by transferring money to their father's account. But after a few days, one person was found in the hands of his father and he recognise that the boy steal money and gamble with that money. Later he was brought back to normal after various persuasions. If a child does such a thing, parents should quickly change their account or other wallet keys and keep them in a safe place.
Precautions need to be taken immediately before the situation gets worse, according to the story I gathered from Op story, the boy is not yet an adult. Parental supervision needs to be increased if an incident like this has occurred, changing the account is one solution to prevent it, then parents must advise their children that the act of stealing cannot be justified. Teenagers' minds are still very unstable, they will continue to do the same thing if it is not treated immediately because in their mind this way can make money more easily without having to work. When he gets used to getting money by stealing, later he will expand his actions to other people's property and that is very dangerous for his future.
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Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.
All these effects follows in among the disadvantages of gambling since it could lead to criminality and anyone who has gotten to the addiction phases always face this difficulties and there is no way of adjustment or to heal the son from such attitude
You are right, It is either criminality inspires your indulgences to get money for gambling  or your gambling addictions inspires you to criminality.
At it all,  such circumferences exposes the gambler to illegal indulgences with the tasty desperacies to fund their gambling stakes.


If that scene already happen and we see are son being out of control then do a crime just to have money to have money to use for gambling then I think he really need a disciplinary action for doing that.

Since doing nothing may lead to more worse situation and I guess if this situation happens to me I will seek professional help and ask a advice then if they tell me that my son need to go to rehab then I will do it since its for betterment of his future.

We know how gambling addiction sucks and can affect our lifestyle that's why while situation not became worse its better to stop it and let them get immediate help so they can escape those miserable life that possibly they are heading on.
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Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.
All these effects follows in among the disadvantages of gambling since it could lead to criminality and anyone who has gotten to the addiction phases always face this difficulties and there is no way of adjustment or to heal the son from such attitude
You are right, It is either criminality inspires your indulgences to get money for gambling  or your gambling addictions inspires you to criminality.
At it all,  such circumferences exposes the gambler to illegal indulgences with the tasty desperacies to fund their gambling stakes.

the only way is prevention because cure will be harder to find when its already there like how this story runs because imagine a Son can take His mothers money? never that I imagined my Children doing this to us and I don't know what to react if happens.

But for now I will do anything to hinder them from engaging in gambling and even if they did I'll make sure not to let them have this addiction problem because this will take my wife's life as she loved and gave them everything .
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Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.
All these effects follows in among the disadvantages of gambling since it could lead to criminality and anyone who has gotten to the addiction phases always face this difficulties and there is no way of adjustment or to heal the son from such attitude
You are right, It is either criminality inspires your indulgences to get money for gambling  or your gambling addictions inspires you to criminality.
At it all,  such circumferences exposes the gambler to illegal indulgences with the tasty desperacies to fund their gambling stakes.
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The truth is, the mother was disheartened because the money went to waste. But if that money turned out to be something more than what it initially was, I guess a little scolding will come after but she will still forgive her son and take some cut from the winnings. This is what our society has become, unfortunately. A lot of us no longer value honest work and will jump straight to judging and condemning without trying to see things from a different perspective.

What the son did was wrong. He should be scolded and taught a lesson for that, but not go so far as to humiliate him in front of other people because this will only keep him pushing towards the wrong direction.
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Stealing is bad practice, it does not matter what the purpose is for or what the outcome is, i would be mad if any of my children stole my money or that of any other person. It is important to train your children to be responsible in everything they do and stealing is an act of irresponsibility, even if the child won millions through the bet, you must correct them that stealing is a no for any responsible child.
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Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?
For the first question, I am not the person and I don't know her either, and neither did I know her temperament and wisdom, so we do not have anything in common. I believe she will be the one to actually state how she would react or even reacted when it happened if the story is real.

But for the second part, first, I am a man but still have a clue about this. I do not believe that my son can do that, but if he did that despite providing everything for him and still teaching him in the best way possible, of course, I would be so disheartened. I will also query myself if I've erred in my responsibility as a parent and try to do more.

You want me to be mad at the child? Well, I won't, I am not that kind of a person, not that I do not have that kind of temperament, but I concluded that being mad may not solve anything. Connecting with the child and asking questions to know how you will deal with the immediate and later in this regard is the best solution I know.
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Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?

Maybe because from someone who is hard to get $15 and could get more would be great, but we cannot consider this a trivial matter because this can be said to be a crime, if today he dared to steal his mother's money, it is very possible that he will do something worse by stealing from other people to be able to fund his gambling, and it will endanger his life and that of his family if his crimes increase.

Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?
Every mother will be angry and sad and may even think that she is a failed mother because her child becomes a thief and gambles, especially if her child is still at school age, meaning that her child is doing something that he is not allowed to do. The mother must find a way to change her child and asking for expert help is very necessary so that she can get the right treatment.
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It doesn't matter what they stole, how they stole it, what they used it for and even if they stole money to gamble and made  millions, I would feel the same way regardless..very upset.  If they stole money and won a bunch, sure that's great but it would certainly be a teaching lesson and they would be grounded for a very long time if it were me.
It can be very disheartening if we are to be in this case but it would also be an excitement if the result ended to be a big win. No body cares about negative results but we are all astonished about people when the positive result shows up. Gambling is in different ways and we need to know what we are doing so that we don't end with negative results. Normally stealing is bad but for the result to have turned positive, then there is nothing to bother about because we can also rejoice for turning a bad altitude into something of jubilation for people around who would have criticize such an act.
Whether it encouraging or even sad, it clear that there has been fatal mistake and it can become a bad habit, namely stealing, of course we can all understand that stealing will become a habit if there is no pressure to stop it.
Even though winning can give you joy and also return the stolen money, it will definitely happen again in the future and this is what should always worry about, especially if are still child or teenager.
Would be happy to see your child stealing just to bet? Of course, you will definitely get angry and reprimand him not to repeat the same thing and likewise, others definitely don't want their children to experience problems due to their love of gambling and doing various bad activities such as stealing to be able to bet.

In social life, stealing is very bad thing and there will never be positive side, so we must always pressure and give direction to our children so that they never try to do something like that.
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Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?
It depends on the situation. If I were the parent of that kid, I would be mad, stealing is bad and this is a wrong behavior that should be corrected while they are young. I don't care about the winnings if ever he won, I'd rather choose my kid to avoid stealing and any other bad behavior as much as possible because it is something that can never be bought with money.
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To start with, stealing is a wrong act. Even if he stole to gamble and still won, it is still a wrong act. He is probably either a greedy person or a gambling addict because this is a perfect example of a question of why someone would go out of his way to gamble to the extent of placing bets with money that is not his.
If he is a teen I would say he also probably did it based on peer pressure.

However the case of the aunty frowning at the stolen cash could actually be because he lost the bet. Because most persons , including some core haters of gambling would not be very angered if the guy had come hopping back home with the news that he hit a jackpot. Like I always say most people who hate gambling hate it probably because of the addicts and Losers and unfortunately most addicts lose more than they win in gambling but still can't just stop staking.
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Stealing is a mistake, when we see our children stealing it must be very embarrassing for us parents because we can also be blamed in educating our children because stealing is a fatal mistake and if this is not discovered perhaps he will do it again and again because as long as if he hasn't been caught he will still do it, especially if the money is for gambling as a parent would be very angry to see his child make the mistake of stealing and gambling so my attitude if I found out my child was doing this I would be firm and give him a punishment so that he is deterred and doesn't do it again.

I'm not sure if he can win big because getting millions in gambling is not easy, especially since the money comes from stealing, so I don't think he will get what he wants because there is only a series of things that make him embarrassed due to the theft he did himself and made his parents disappointed with his attitude.
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Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?
I think the case of that boy winning millions of dollars is very unlikely. If it happened, perhaps that mother would not have complained and called for help. What that boy did was definitely wrong, but if he compensated with a large amount of money, maybe that mother would be immediately soothed. I believe everyone would be like that. If I were that mother, I would probably be made to forget his previous mistake by the boy's winnings. Everyone has greed in them, don't say that you wouldn't care about such a large amount of money to punish your child right then and there, right? And of course, life will not be like a dream, so the boy's certainty of loss is completely unacceptable, and we don't need to discuss if this happens, right?
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Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

There is nothing that justify stealing. Stealing is stealing and the boys need to be caution against next time, if the parent don't, he will do worst than the first one because he will be like "what are they going to do"? He wouldn't feel any remorseful to doing any bad the next one.
How exactly is the boy going to win a millions judging from the amount you said he stole from his mother, he wouldn't win anything that big and even if he luckily win it, it wouldn't be a regular type of gambling unless he is a pro in gambling and very experienced.

As for the the parental role, I will make sure he doesn't repeat that again, if he is still under age then the parent work on that boy not to end up liking gambling or see gambling as a way to make money else they will suffer it and the boy will suffer gambling addiction when he becomes a full adult. They don't want to see their child sold all their property to gamble or steal from other places because he want to gamble, as they said before warn if before arm.
Stealing is a fundamental negative action that can lead to worse behavior in the future. Addressing the issue promptly can help prevent the escalation of such behavior. Warning the boy about the consequences of his actions and instilling a sense of responsibility is indeed important. The unrealistic expectation of winning millions through gambling, especially considering the amount stolen, is a practical perspective. People around need to make the boy aware that success in gambling is not guaranteed, and the potential consequences far outweigh any possible gains.

Taking proactive steps to ensure the boy understands the severity of his actions, especially if he is underage, is vital. Educating him about the potential dangers of gambling addiction and instilling values that discourage risky behavior will contribute to his overall well-being. The phrase "warn if before arm" encapsulates the idea that addressing the issue early on can prevent more significant problems in the future. It's a reminder that guidance and support from parents play a crucial role in shaping a child's attitude towards gambling and responsible decision-making.
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Why should you feel disappointed in your child, if this is you who failed to raise him? Feel disappointed in yourself. Because you have failed to make him understand that stealing is bad.
So if you tell your child that it’s bad to steal, does that mean they won’t steal? Even if you tell your child something's bad and they shouldn’t do it, don’t be surprised that they will go behind your back and end up doing things that you warned them not to do. If things like this happen, are you going to blame yourself for that? I'm sure most parents do tell their children that stealing is bad, but some children won’t just listen.

It’s is your fault that he has used gambling to get more money for example, or did not know when to stop. You should have explained all that, but the kid only did what he thought was right. That is the problem of many parents, instead of searching the root of a problem, they blame only the final link.
Some parents don’t even know that their children are gambling, gambling can be done even with mobile phones now, so children secretly gamble with their phones that even their parents won’t know they are gambling, and you don’t expect parents to monitor even their children’s mobile devices. At least they also have privacy, which should be respected, so if children are gambling, the blame shouldn’t be on parents alone.
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Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

There is nothing that justify stealing. Stealing is stealing and the boys need to be caution against next time, if the parent don't, he will do worst than the first one because he will be like "what are they going to do"? He wouldn't feel any remorseful to doing any bad the next one.
How exactly is the boy going to win a millions judging from the amount you said he stole from his mother, he wouldn't win anything that big and even if he luckily win it, it wouldn't be a regular type of gambling unless he is a pro in gambling and very experienced.

As for the the parental role, I will make sure he doesn't repeat that again, if he is still under age then the parent work on that boy not to end up liking gambling or see gambling as a way to make money else they will suffer it and the boy will suffer gambling addiction when he becomes a full adult. They don't want to see their child sold all their property to gamble or steal from other places because he want to gamble, as they said before warn if before arm.
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Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

Being disheartened or not, winning the bet or not, what is bad is bad, the child shouldn't have stolen the money to use in gambling, the word stealing is still there in the statement and that makes the whole thing wrong either winning or loosing, moreover, as parents, we should learn how to keep our money safe, then try to train the children well because if they can't steal from us, they may went ahead stealing from others which is going to be pathetic.
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Woah, this kid stealing his mom's cash to gamble? That's messed up on a whole new level. It's like stealing candy from a baby... except the baby is broke and the candy is her rent money. Yikes.

Sure, punishment is important, gotta let him know that ain't cool. But just yelling and grounding him won't fix the real problem, right? This kid's clearly got something deeper going on. Maybe he's hooked on gambling, maybe he's feeling the pressure and trying to escape in a risky way, or maybe he just saw his dad blow his paycheck on the ponies and thought it was normal.

Whatever it is, the parents gotta dig in and figure it out. Slapping a bandaid on this with punishment won't cut it. They need to talk, listen, and show some real support. Maybe get some help from a therapist or counselor, someone who can untangle this mess and get the kid back on track.
Punishment or discipline would really be just that right on such situation on which you should really be that applying it out or else it would really be that something that could really be repeated up to be committed.
This is why when it comes to those situations or probabilities then kids are really that will likely be doing things even if it wont really be that viable. Into the condition on which you are already having that a child
who do get involved with gambling on where it did come into a time that it is really that involving gambling and stealing out money for them to gamble then this is a solid indication that you are
already addicted with gambling. So better be careful and be anxious when it comes into your decision.
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