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My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

          -    Stealing is wrongdoing, we know; even if we say that he won a lot of money gambling, it can't be right. There is nothing wrong if you win at gambling; what is wrong is that gambling caused the gambler to do bad things.

That's why winning at gambling can't cover up the reason why he gambled. He will not be able to gamble if the gambler did not steal money or if the child stole money from the parents.
See the logic?
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Showing consistent care and attention to our children. Taking preventive measures should always lean on our heads, always imposed strict rules that will keep away our children from our accounts and most importantly, provide for their basic needs and wants because they alone will make them to be desperate to bad company. Stealing is weigh out of the picture and it shouldn't be something to consider in the system.
I think that children should not be subjected to such strict regimes that they become more disobedient. Only it should not be thought that they will not be in danger if they are under strict rule. As the saying goes, if the rope is too tight, the rope will break. So they should be brought up with proper education from childhood so that they can understand themselves well. They should understand that stealing is always a bad thing when they ask for the things they need. Stealing only gambling is a bad deed, but buying and eating something without stealing is also a bad deed.
You know those overly strict, "do as I say" methods? Total disaster waiting to happen. Kids arent robots, they've got fire in them. We need to channel that, not crush it. The best path, and believe me, its the best, is giving them the knowledge to make the right calls themselves. Sure, stealing is obviously wrong, everyone knows that. But its not about just yelling "dont steal!" We need to build that strong inner compass where they want to earn things, where they take pride in their own hard work. Its about lighting that fire for doing amazing things in the world, not just avoiding the bad stuff. Thats the kind of future I want for all kids.
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Even the kids is already growing we should take the time to monitor them, same with your statement, it's still part of our responsibilities to make sure that they are engaging to the right kind of environment, especially those who accompanying them, people that sorrounds them influence the most, so not just the family but more on their friends who have interactions with them, the types of influence that they bringing to our kids is very important to monitor.
We as parents must supervise our children, especially when they are grows up because they will meets many new friends that have the same old as them. Maybe their experience are different so that can influence them that doesn't have much knowledge to avoids that. We must take care our children from the bad things that can happens so we must teach our children better than before.

When we can monitor and supervise our children and we can getting close to them, they will not trying to do something that can  makes their lives harm. They will trying to take care of them better from any bad influences that comes to them. They will remember our suggestions because we as their parents always tells them to be careful when they are in the outside or with their friends.
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My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

Good question. I think that the aunt is to some extent to blame for the fact that he gained access to her account. You must prevent other people from using your account. In this case it was only $15, although in some countries it can be a larger amount.
On the other hand, it’s good that through such a relatively small amount the whole family found out that he has a gambling problem. After all, he crossed a very significant line - he stole money, this is very bad.
Returning to your question, I will say that even if he won the money, the fact of theft would still have taken place. Secondly, in this case, it may be even better that now he has lost money and his bet did not work out. If he had won, he would probably have had big problems later and would have lost all his winnings.
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My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

That’s a tough situation. If I were in the mom’s shoes, my initial reaction would likely be a mix of disappointment and concern, not just because of the lost money, but more so because of what the action represents. It’s not just about gambling with money that isn’t his, it’s about the breach of trust and the potential for a harmful pattern of behavior developing.

The fact that the money was saved up through hard work adds another layer of disappointment. It’s not just the amount that matters but the effort behind it.

Now, if the son had won a significant amount, it might temporarily mask the underlying issue, but it wouldn’t change the core problem: the act of stealing and gambling without consent. Winning might bring temporary joy or relief, but it doesn’t address the breach of trust or the risk-taking behavior.

In any case, my focus would be on addressing the behavior and its implications, emphasizing the value of honesty and the dangers of gambling, especially when it leads to taking risks with someone else’s resources. It would be essential to guide the child towards understanding the consequences of their actions and working together to find a solution to make amends, not just financially but also in rebuilding trust.
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Well to me the mistake has been done already by the son, to my opinion i will advise the mom to let it go and never allow her son to even know the access to her account, he shouldn’t have that opportunity and never you tell your son to find a way to pay the money when you know that it will be difficult for him and he don’t have any way, telling him to replace the money without caring on how he will get it, So the only thing is to take precautions and never give him that chance again. And don’t tell him to replace because you are making him to thief.
This is only a temporary solution, family members should not have the need to hide important things from each other, as you are supposed to trust your family since most of the time they are the only ones you can rely on when things are not going your way on your life, the fact a mom has to hide her money from her son as she fears it could be stolen is a massive warning signal, and if something is not done to help her son, sooner or later her money will be stolen again.

That is right. Hiding money from son because he might steal again is like fighting in wrong direction. I would say that this is not a solution but an act of adapt to situation. That is wrong.

Imo first step would be to talk about this situation with a kid. If this was the first act of stealing, he would understand that is bad. Second step would be to find out why exactly he wanted that «extra» money for. Was a one-time passion to gamble, addiction or there was something more in that story. Third step would be to load him with work, to work for that money he stole, to earn his own, to understand how hard it is to earn.

Yeah. Hiding the money might feel more secure in the immediate future, however you raise a fair point that it's no real solution.  Communicating with him definitely needs to happen.  Maybe explain why stealing is wrong, but also make an effort to understand the root of this behavior and  was this a one-time occurrence or indicative of something more profound? Maybe he just wanted something he couldn't afford, or perhaps there's a larger matter at hand.

Making him work for the money he stole is a good idea. It will teach the value of hard work and with any luck deter him from taking shortcuts again.
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Well to me the mistake has been done already by the son, to my opinion i will advise the mom to let it go and never allow her son to even know the access to her account, he shouldn’t have that opportunity and never you tell your son to find a way to pay the money when you know that it will be difficult for him and he don’t have any way, telling him to replace the money without caring on how he will get it, So the only thing is to take precautions and never give him that chance again. And don’t tell him to replace because you are making him to thief.
This is only a temporary solution, family members should not have the need to hide important things from each other, as you are supposed to trust your family since most of the time they are the only ones you can rely on when things are not going your way on your life, the fact a mom has to hide her money from her son as she fears it could be stolen is a massive warning signal, and if something is not done to help her son, sooner or later her money will be stolen again.

That is right. Hiding money from son because he might steal again is like fighting in wrong direction. I would say that this is not a solution but an act of adapt to situation. That is wrong.

Imo first step would be to talk about this situation with a kid. If this was the first act of stealing, he would understand that is bad. Second step would be to find out why exactly he wanted that «extra» money for. Was a one-time passion to gamble, addiction or there was something more in that story. Third step would be to load him with work, to work for that money he stole, to earn his own, to understand how hard it is to earn.
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Showing consistent care and attention to our children. Taking preventive measures should always lean on our heads, always imposed strict rules that will keep away our children from our accounts and most importantly, provide for their basic needs and wants because they alone will make them to be desperate to bad company. Stealing is weigh out of the picture and it shouldn't be something to consider in the system.
I think that children should not be subjected to such strict regimes that they become more disobedient. Only it should not be thought that they will not be in danger if they are under strict rule. As the saying goes, if the rope is too tight, the rope will break. So they should be brought up with proper education from childhood so that they can understand themselves well. They should understand that stealing is always a bad thing when they ask for the things they need. Stealing only gambling is a bad deed, but buying and eating something without stealing is also a bad deed.
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Well to me the mistake has been done already by the son, to my opinion i will advise the mom to let it go and never allow her son to even know the access to her account, he shouldn’t have that opportunity and never you tell your son to find a way to pay the money when you know that it will be difficult for him and he don’t have any way, telling him to replace the money without caring on how he will get it, So the only thing is to take precautions and never give him that chance again. And don’t tell him to replace because you are making him to thief.
Showing consistent care and attention to our children. Taking preventive measures should always lean on our heads, always imposed strict rules that will keep away our children from our accounts and most importantly, provide for their basic needs and wants because they alone will make them to be desperate to bad company. Stealing is weigh out of the picture and it shouldn't be something to consider in the system.
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Well to me the mistake has been done already by the son, to my opinion i will advise the mom to let it go and never allow her son to even know the access to her account, he shouldn’t have that opportunity and never you tell your son to find a way to pay the money when you know that it will be difficult for him and he don’t have any way, telling him to replace the money without caring on how he will get it, So the only thing is to take precautions and never give him that chance again. And don’t tell him to replace because you are making him to thief.
This is only a temporary solution, family members should not have the need to hide important things from each other, as you are supposed to trust your family since most of the time they are the only ones you can rely on when things are not going your way on your life, the fact a mom has to hide her money from her son as she fears it could be stolen is a massive warning signal, and if something is not done to help her son, sooner or later her money will be stolen again.
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Well to me the mistake has been done already by the son, to my opinion i will advise the mom to let it go and never allow her son to even know the access to her account, he shouldn’t have that opportunity and never you tell your son to find a way to pay the money when you know that it will be difficult for him and he don’t have any way, telling him to replace the money without caring on how he will get it, So the only thing is to take precautions and never give him that chance again. And don’t tell him to replace because you are making him to thief.
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Every parent will be disappointed if his child makes something illegal, bad or behave inappropriate. If a child steals money for gambling, then this is a huge warning sign for parents. Talking with child about this situations isnt a solution. Specially if parent has not enough respect from the child. It is also important to visit specialist, because stealing money from parents might be not the first act of stealing. Parents a kind of a last person to steal from, as imo stealing starts from friends or someone who are around, in a company, class and so on. From someone who is on the same social level. Imo stealing from parent means that person steals already on a regular basis.
Gambling is not seen as a major illegal activity nowadays.  But when a child steals his father's money, it is a greater crime than gambling. and no one can accept this. There are many cases where children steal father's money and become addicted to gambling, drinking alcohol or other drugs.  These things cause a lot of trouble to a father.  For this, the children should not get involved in any bad addiction, in this direction, parents should be careful before and if someone is from any habit of gambling or taking drugs, then before becoming a father, he should give them up or bring them under his own control, in order to protect him as well as his family.
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The message sent towards kids regarding gambling and any similar activity is very clear, kids should not gamble no matter what as they are not mature enough to decide what it is the best thing for them and their future, and some kids are deciding to ignore this advice on their own and they try to gamble by any means possible, and since as a society we cannot stop kids from doing so, as they can always find a loophole and find a way to gamble, we need to make those kids responsible for their actions, because as a society we are doing everything we can already.
It's all about the upbringing of their parents. Kids can never be persistent to do something if they are raised well and they know their parents have asked them to not go near that thing. However, if kids see their parents doing that thing, they always hear about it from here and there and the parents have never said anything about it whether it's good or bad, in such an environment, a kid would probably think of doing the same thing as their parents are doing or it or have never said no to it.

So it's all about how parents raise their children, whether they have always been teaching them not to gamble or not, whether they have taught them to respect their elders and their decisions or not, and whether the children have been taught to stay polite at all times or not. Parents are to be blamed if children do something wrong when they aren't even mature enough.
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Every parent will be disappointed if his child makes something illegal, bad or behave inappropriate. If a child steals money for gambling, then this is a huge warning sign for parents. Talking with child about this situations isnt a solution. Specially if parent has not enough respect from the child. It is also important to visit specialist, because stealing money from parents might be not the first act of stealing. Parents a kind of a last person to steal from, as imo stealing starts from friends or someone who are around, in a company, class and so on. From someone who is on the same social level. Imo stealing from parent means that person steals already on a regular basis.
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Gambling is a very bad thing when someone sees their child stealing their money and using it to gamble it is very distressing. and that's why children should always be monitored to see how they spend their time. Smartphones have become a very popular entertainment medium for kids these days. Kids now use smartphones a lot and can get addicted to the way gambling sites promote them. so parents must always track their children's activities. so that children at least do not get addicted to drugs and gambling
Gambling is not for children, even if adults playing gambling, they must be careful because many bad impacts can happens to them.  If a child stolen money to playing gambling, that child have a problem with his minds and maybe he becomes addicted to gambling. He can search where he can have money and mostly, he will steal other people's money to playing gambling. It needs parents attention to always watch and monitor what their children doing, especially if they are with their friends. Friends influence can be strong and can attract our children doing something that will give them bad impacts. That's why parents now must be careful to guide their child and must gives more attentions to their child.
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It is really necessary for our children who are minors to monitor their activities, not necessarily every move, it's like we should be aware of what they do, what they are interested in and of course the circles of friends they hang out with should we know, let's just do it in a minimal way, don't be super strict because as others say, a child becomes more rebellious if we restrict them too much, we also need to respect their privacy, that's why It would be good if we can build a good relationship between parents and children in them so that they themselves will tell stories or open up topics to their parents about their own lives.
We must monitor our children carefully if we don't wants to see them playing gambling like the other children because many children already playing gambling without their parents knows. We must knows and aware with their environment so we knows about their friends to monitor easily. We don't have to be super strict to them as they will not follow what we suggests them and yes, they will becomes rebellious if we do like that. We gives them a time to do whatever they wants but we always supervise them so they don't doing something that can makes them in trouble. If we can gets close to them, they will tells whatever they feels to us and shares many things to us so if they have a problem, they will asks us to helps them to solve it.

Even the kids is already growing we should take the time to monitor them, same with your statement, it's still part of our responsibilities to make sure that they are engaging to the right kind of environment, especially those who accompanying them, people that sorrounds them influence the most, so not just the family but more on their friends who have interactions with them, the types of influence that they bringing to our kids is very important to monitor.

A person must somehow understand that it is impossible to steal money. This is first of all. In addition, he must understand that one cannot play gambling without a system and without risk management. Each transaction must have a volume limit. If this is not the case, a bad future awaits the player. Of course, the child must be punished in some way. However, from the starting post it is not clear how old the child is. Is he already of age or not yet? But it is stupid for parents to sue their child. If the child is underage, then the punishment should be limited entertainment. And if the child is of age, then the punishment can only be limited to communication with such a son.
The lack of age information makes us think ambiguously in the matter between being old enough or not, maybe we can assume that the person concerned is not old enough, so it is unethical for a father to prosecute his underage child, we only need to give ordinary lessons in a family manner, it is much better in educating a child, but I might take legal action if my child is old enough and commits theft not only once, parents only educate to a certain extent, if a child does not understand the lesson then it needs to be taught by someone else such as being locked up in prison.

Indeed, if it's already in the right age I'll do the same, better to let them understand the hard way, I mean the consequences so they will learn about their mistakes, but if the kids still young and still have that chance to listen, maybe trying to take disciplinary actions that can help them to stay away from this kind of bad habits will do.
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A person must somehow understand that it is impossible to steal money. This is first of all. In addition, he must understand that one cannot play gambling without a system and without risk management. Each transaction must have a volume limit. If this is not the case, a bad future awaits the player. Of course, the child must be punished in some way. However, from the starting post it is not clear how old the child is. Is he already of age or not yet? But it is stupid for parents to sue their child. If the child is underage, then the punishment should be limited entertainment. And if the child is of age, then the punishment can only be limited to communication with such a son.
The lack of age information makes us think ambiguously in the matter between being old enough or not, maybe we can assume that the person concerned is not old enough, so it is unethical for a father to prosecute his underage child, we only need to give ordinary lessons in a family manner, it is much better in educating a child, but I might take legal action if my child is old enough and commits theft not only once, parents only educate to a certain extent, if a child does not understand the lesson then it needs to be taught by someone else such as being locked up in prison.
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It is really necessary for our children who are minors to monitor their activities, not necessarily every move, it's like we should be aware of what they do, what they are interested in and of course the circles of friends they hang out with should we know, let's just do it in a minimal way, don't be super strict because as others say, a child becomes more rebellious if we restrict them too much, we also need to respect their privacy, that's why It would be good if we can build a good relationship between parents and children in them so that they themselves will tell stories or open up topics to their parents about their own lives.
We must monitor our children carefully if we don't wants to see them playing gambling like the other children because many children already playing gambling without their parents knows. We must knows and aware with their environment so we knows about their friends to monitor easily. We don't have to be super strict to them as they will not follow what we suggests them and yes, they will becomes rebellious if we do like that. We gives them a time to do whatever they wants but we always supervise them so they don't doing something that can makes them in trouble. If we can gets close to them, they will tells whatever they feels to us and shares many things to us so if they have a problem, they will asks us to helps them to solve it.
Gambling is a very bad thing when someone sees their child stealing their money and using it to gamble it is very distressing. and that's why children should always be monitored to see how they spend their time. Smartphones have become a very popular entertainment medium for kids these days. Kids now use smartphones a lot and can get addicted to the way gambling sites promote them. so parents must always track their children's activities. so that children at least do not get addicted to drugs and gambling
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It is really necessary for our children who are minors to monitor their activities, not necessarily every move, it's like we should be aware of what they do, what they are interested in and of course the circles of friends they hang out with should we know, let's just do it in a minimal way, don't be super strict because as others say, a child becomes more rebellious if we restrict them too much, we also need to respect their privacy, that's why It would be good if we can build a good relationship between parents and children in them so that they themselves will tell stories or open up topics to their parents about their own lives.
We must monitor our children carefully if we don't wants to see them playing gambling like the other children because many children already playing gambling without their parents knows. We must knows and aware with their environment so we knows about their friends to monitor easily. We don't have to be super strict to them as they will not follow what we suggests them and yes, they will becomes rebellious if we do like that. We gives them a time to do whatever they wants but we always supervise them so they don't doing something that can makes them in trouble. If we can gets close to them, they will tells whatever they feels to us and shares many things to us so if they have a problem, they will asks us to helps them to solve it.
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A person must somehow understand that it is impossible to steal money. This is first of all. In addition, he must understand that one cannot play gambling without a system and without risk management. Each transaction must have a volume limit. If this is not the case, a bad future awaits the player. Of course, the child must be punished in some way. However, from the starting post it is not clear how old the child is. Is he already of age or not yet? But it is stupid for parents to sue their child. If the child is underage, then the punishment should be limited entertainment. And if the child is of age, then the punishment can only be limited to communication with such a son.
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