Topic: What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble? - page 3. (Read 3241 times)

It is really necessary for our children who are minors to monitor their activities, not necessarily every move, it's like we should be aware of what they do, what they are interested in and of course the circles of friends they hang out with should we know, let's just do it in a minimal way, don't be super strict because as others say, a child becomes more rebellious if we restrict them too much, we also need to respect their privacy, that's why It would be good if we can build a good relationship between parents and children in them so that they themselves will tell stories or open up topics to their parents about their own lives.

we have to prepare anticipatory steps to overcome this problem and the most important step is to recognize the signs that children have started to get involved in gambling, we have to stop them before they become addicted to gambling and we have to actively guide children about the rules of gambling and the impacts negative effects on mental health and financial loss if you gamble underage and are not yet financially free.

I think if we monitor their activities then it will be easy to stop them from being influenced by gambling before they become addicted to gambling, if we can stop them from being influenced by gambling then we have saved their lives and dreams to focus on education.

The message sent towards kids regarding gambling and any similar activity is very clear, kids should not gamble no matter what as they are not mature enough to decide what it is the best thing for them and their future, and some kids are deciding to ignore this advice on their own and they try to gamble by any means possible, and since as a society we cannot stop kids from doing so, as they can always find a loophole and find a way to gamble, we need to make those kids responsible for their actions, because as a society we are doing everything we can already.

Gambling can be a hobby only for people who have responsibility or that means only for responsible gamblers who can limit their approach along with their expectations of winning, but if we are talking about children who are still underage then yes obviously I am not sure that they can be responsible for their decisions and also of course gambling can have a very bad impact on a child if parents do not immediately address this problem, I think it is clear that parents must do everything they can to keep their children out of the gambling zone, one of which is to limit them from their environment and also limit their use of smartphones because as we know that now many online casinos are doing big promotions through social media which can reach anyone including children who are still minors, so the point is that it is the responsibility of parents to keep their children out of the reach of gambling.

because in the future I will get married and have children, so what's wrong with me thinking about or dedicating what I have to do to my children in the future, that's why I'm like that, also in my opinion there's no harm, but the fault lies with those who forget themselves when I try to help them. Sometimes I myself feel confused about why I have to have feelings of sympathy and discomfort so that sometimes it makes things difficult for me. but with this I learned a lesson not to overdo it in helping people because I was afraid something similar would happen again and those who were helped would forget themselves. It's true what you said, they have to face the challenges of their lives, and I don't have full responsibility for them. Thank you friend.

Maybe if you help, that's still normal, but if you put responsibility for their lives, that's not normal, especially if they already have their own relationship. but if I were someone who had a lot of money or unlimited money then I wouldn't mind doing that, but unfortunately I still occasionally have difficulties in carrying out my daily life hahaha.
I don't want my child to dare to do bad things like stealing to gamble, and if that happens, maybe I will punish him to deter him and not repeat that bad action again.

Gambling may seem like a thrilling and enjoyable pastime to a child, but it can actually be highly dangerous. Their parents' messages and those they hear in the media frequently vary significantly. A child may become divided and confused about gambling as a result. To enable kids to understand the dangers of gambling and make an educated choice about whether or not to engage, this needs to be addressed in a clear and thorough manner. It takes a consistent message to keep kids safe from the negative effects of gambling.

A person can actually be addicited to gambling and as long as he or she is gambling with only the money he or she earned, then all is well, or possibly well, but the moment that addiction has gotten to the extent of the person stealing money to gambling, then know that the life of that person is about to be totally destroyed, and as parents, time is already against us, and we have to work over time to bring such a child out of that situation immediately, doesn't matter is it's the parents money he or she stole, or used to steal, for there is this popular adage in my place which states that, being beautiful often starts from the inside of a person, then it goes outside - bad habit as well often starts from the home, a child who starts stealing from his or her parents for whatever reason, will one day, go out and steal from another person the day he tries to steal from his parents again but didn't find anything to steal.

As parents, we are supposed to keep watch over our children at all times, look after them, monitor every of their moves, know what activities they are engaging themselves in, this way, we should discover discover when they start gambling, step in at that time immediately to help them, not allow them get addicted to the extent of stealing money, before when try to bring them out, the work of bringing such a child out of addiction at this stage will be x5 more than, when the child just started gambling.

When it gets to the level of stealing to gamble, then you should know the person is already addicted to gambling, and you know it’s not an easy task to stop addicted gambler from gambling. Firstly you have to discourage the boy from gambling, I know it’s not what can be done easily, but if you keep on talking to the boy, am sure he will definitely listen one day. Make sure you are monitoring the boy’s movement, if possible change the type of friends which he is having, am sure he won’t be the only one gambling among his friends. Also make sure you don’t always leave the boy alone doing nothing, he might be tempted to go and gamble again when alone.

Then why you would really be trying out to act on that way on which you do really make yourself as if you do have a responsibility with them? Yes i do understand about having that pity
on them but we do know that its not your problem and just let them on on facing up their challenges in life. They wont really be able to realize things until they would really be able to experience those hardship in life because if you do keep on supporting them then they wouldnt really be able to learn those hard things life since they do know that there's someone who would really be
catching them and this is something wont really be that right. Its not your responsibility as i said and there's no point on doing that as a form of help. It turns out that you are the ones
who do have work hard for you to raise them. lol

You know what's funny about all this, if the son won a lump sum definitely the narrative would be different & could be the hero of the family, but because everyone knows that gambling comes with its risks then the mother will be mad as she regards this as a waste of resources that the family worked for to have!

And before others, say it's a small amount let it slide, well unfortunately when it comes to money...if you don't have the discipline with small money, imagine the indiscipline that can follow with a million bucks   so basically it's about the principal not the amount of money lost.

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That's a natural reaction from any concerned parent or guardian, but then again these habits don't develop on their own unless someone close to the kids does gamble or perhaps our media is doing so much gambling ads such that they selling dreams to the kids which gets them hooked!!
Btw, I also think in our time... gambling has gone out of hand at the moment such that KYC can't even stop underage gambling and it's the responsibility of parents not to dodge these talks and guide their children/dependants !!

Oh, damn, this is a serious problem! If your children have started stealing money from you for gambling, then something needs to be done urgently.

First, talk to them seriously and explain that such things will not work. Perhaps they need the help of a psychologist or an addiction specialist. You can also try to restrict access to money and monitor how they spend it. The main thing is not to ignore this problem, because it will only get worse over time. I hope that everything will get better and the children will understand how important it is to be honest and responsible.

If I were in the mother's shoes, I would feel mix of emotions,anger, disappointment and concern about my son. It would be frustrating to lose trust and lose your hard earned money. Disapointed because my son chose gambling over respecting our family's financial boundaries and needs. And concern about my son's well being and the potential harm of gambling to him. Winning can make the less the financial stress temporatily, but it wouldnt change the fact that he stole money for gambling which can affect his future behavior.

It's true, if it's with relatives. and what annoys me is my relative who likes to gamble, she is a woman and is married and also has a child who is only about 9 months old, but she still likes to gamble, and when I get paid occasionally she likes to ask me for money, my heart doesn't want to give it because if it is used for gambling. because in my opinion, if I obey everything she asks, one of which is always giving money when she asks, I'm afraid she will be even bolder in the future, even though she already has a husband, the husband should be the one responsible for his wife's wishes, sometimes I can understand it, but If it often comes to the point where she asks for money to buy milk and her husband also asks me for money to buy cigarettes, that's very annoying for me, because I don't think I have any responsibility for that myself. I'm sure their situation is like that because a lot of their money is used on gambling so they experience economic difficulties.

I agree with you, indeed if someone commits an act of stealing and nothing happens, meaning no one knows that he stole money, there is a possibility that he could become bolder and more reckless to commit a bigger theft. it was so terrible. The impact of addiction is very bad, therefore we must be able to educate and advise the children under us, even though we cannot supervise them all day, we must do our best to prevent major losses.

If I'm married and I have a child where my child is stealing money for gambling then I think it's obvious that I will definitely scold him first and after that I will try to give him an understanding of the dangers of the impact of gambling when someone has entered the addiction phase which not only will experience problems with finances but can also spread to many other things such as relationships with family or experiencing problems with friends because maybe he can just borrow money from his friends without thinking and having a way to pay it.

So if for example my child is not involved with gambling at all then I will never give him an understanding of the dangers of gambling because it could make them even more curious and look for many references about how gambling is, and as I said above if my child is caught stealing money for the purpose of gambling then obviously I will scold him and then I will give him the right understanding in common sense about what gambling really is and how dangerous the impact of gambling is along with putting a lot of restrictions on my child's activities such as limiting them from using smartphones and also limiting them from their environment.

In this case what has gone wrong is multiple and already we should establish a case of gambling addictions for the boy, before we go ahead to point out also the parents as being irresponsible in they actions because with risk reality we should know that the parent have failed in they responsibility to raise the boy properly he shouldn't be stealing money to gamble with, so both parents have failed in the role which is what the both of you have mentioned in your comments.

Well in this situation I will suggest that the boy should be taken to a rehabilitation center for him to come out of his gambling addictions tendency before any other civil punishment will follow.

I will throw more weight to your opinion. There is an African proverb which says that “a child is not owned by his parents alone but the community”. what this means is that the education of a child is not left in the hands of his parents alone. When you look at the agents of socialization like church, social media, school, peer groups etc we can understand that blaming parents for a child`s misconduct completely can be unjust. Most of the attitude a child exhibits is not a product of his parent's teaching. Some are inculcated in the child as he interacts with his peers and his environment.

If a child’s social environment promotes negative behaviours, it can affect the child’s understanding of manners and appropriate conduct. For instance, environment where gambling is prevalent, a child can easily be lured into gambling without the notice of his parents and then start involving in wrong acts just to gamble.

Schools and social media platforms can expose children to gambling-related content, whether through advertisements, peer influences, or online gaming platforms that incorporate gambling-like mechanics. Children tend to try something new, what they see from their friends can also make them want to try. With the widespread access to mobile phones and the internet, children today have unprecedented opportunities to engage in online activities, including gambling, often without their parents' knowledge.

Easy access to online gambling sites and apps means that children can potentially engage in these activities discreetly, without leaving any visible traces for their parents to detect. Parents play a vital role in supervising and guiding their children's online activities, but they may not always be aware of the extent of their children's exposure to gambling-related content. Setting clear boundaries regarding internet usage are crucial steps in mitigating the potential harms.

Luckily you still don't have biological children but for sure you have some relatives or someone who's close to you that might already been into gambling, taking such action is the best thing that you can do, alarming and advising young folks about gambling and how it might takeover in terms of addiction, at first they might be stealing from their households but what if there's nothing there anymore? for sure addiction can push things up and maybe lead the kids to move to another level that's  a crime that possible to happen if there's no right guidance that those kids should have while exploring to this industry.

Anyone couldnt be perfect and pretty sure that when we are still in our childhood on which we've been able to commit out some snatching or getting those coins from purse on our parents on which this is something a very common thing when we are still on our young but eventually these wrong doings would really be corrected out by our parents on which it would be something normal.
As a parent then it would really be just that right that we would really be tending to correct on whatever those wrong things our children been able to commit out. We arent perfect
and mistakes could really be done and this is why our children needs up guidance for us parents. Its normal to discipline but at the same time you would really be making them realize
that the thing they've done is never been that good.

I think parents can't be completely blamed, because external education also affects them, if they get good education from their parents then that's for sure, but external interactions can affect them too, with them not having a sense of manners I think because Their social circle is wrong, but it cannot be hidden that naughty gambling will definitely exist in every country, region or city. And with children who don't want to obey their parents' directions, maybe they have their own perception, such as a lack of love and attention from their parents, so they prefer things outside.

That's true, of course parents won't be able to supervise their children all day long, because of course they have their own activities to do, such as work or other things. Also in my opinion, when parents don't have time to supervise their children, this is where they will determine what kind of social relations they will have, if they have the wrong social relations then acts of theft may occur. If I had a child who stole my money and spent it gambling, I would be angry because it was the wrong action, unfortunately I am not married and obviously don't have any biological children of my own. However, when I see other children or other people who are still underage gambling, I will advise them, even though it doesn't make the gambling stop immediately, but at least I have taken action to ensure that nothing bad happens for their future.