Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 13. (Read 2656 times)

Yes, of course the wife should first give up gambling and then her husband should be made aware of the evils of gambling.  Because girls have less courage to take risks than boys but boys never hesitate to take big risks. Because of this, it is very difficult for girls to give up gambling to boys.  Because of this, it is more important to give up the wife's gambling. Because after giving up gambling, the wife can convince the son-in-law about its bad side and if necessary, she can put pressure on the husband and give up gambling.

Yes if both husband and wife become addicted to gambling then it is better for your wife to stop gambling. Female people are rarely addicted to gambling and taking care of their family members is more important than gambling. It will be difficult to protect the family if the girl becomes addicted. If a guy spends time gambling a girl can bring him back to normal if he wants. The better the experience about gambling the easier the game.

It's true, gambling is for everyone, including men and women. However, if you are involved in gambling together, this is not a good thing, especially if in my country eastern culture is still very strong, and it is against the culture of one family to gamble. In cases like yours, even if you have to stop, it is better for your wife to stop because the wife's job is to educate children so that they become useful people in the future. After all, children are also an investment in your future.

Well said, If they both have the worst addiction in gambling, Both of them must give up gambling so they can focus in their own family, It might be difficult at first but come to think of it, if both of them are not doing well in life, how can they give their children a good life? possibile it may cause a bad experience while growing up for them and seeing their parents being addicted in gambling and gradual breakdown of the family may affect their mental and emotional health

It depends on the degree of addiction, if one quits it might be unfair for the other one. The best solution is for both of them to give up gambling and be a good role model for the family, that is if they don't want their kids to end up like them. As an adult, I never encourage anyone in my family to engage in gambling as I myself know how it can ruin you not just financially, but it can ruin your whole life. It's not bad to learn gambling games and play them with your family as long as you teach the kids the possible consequences of gambling and let teach them the importance of handling finance.

My wife gambles with me only  meaning we are playing together , choosing which to bet together and we are doing this with fun and acceptance to what will happen if ever we lose nor win.

So there is no way that we needed to quit because of how we treated gambling since day one.

but accepting that there are others that gamble with all their assets , and even their living and family are affected , so helping them decide? maybe it is the one that mostly lose , means the money maker will remain gambling and the other one will focus in real life .

You havent answered, who should quit then, husband or wife?

If we think logically and look around, then wife should quit, as we see that women usually does more parenting than men. Imo this is people are use to men work, women do all the house thing. However, that does not mean that father is free to gamble whenever he wants. Child needs both parents attention.

Imo I would make wife quit gambling, but give her some days off, when she can do whatever she wants. That would be fair.

I think is they are addicted gambler they both should quite gambling immediately. And if they can't do it themselves, then they should consult a psychologist. Because if they are addicted gamblers then surely it will have adverse effect on their family and children which is never desirable. If they are not addicted gamblers and are gambling within their limits then I don't think anyone should quit gambling.

I think don't quit gamble. Because they have experience and they are doing gamble from long time if they are aware with their children they want to spend time with family then one of them can leave gamble. Gambling isn't a full time job but you can earn a with gambling. Because of they both want to give time with their family so they can do but not quit gambling they can do gambling in their free time.

If both husband and wife are addicted to gambling then they will not be able to nurture their child properly. I would highly recommend one of them to quit gambling. Otherwise his child will not develop properly. But if they are not into professional gambling then both of them can gamble but of course family needs to be given first priority. A situation where both husband and wife are gamblers in a family is not common. In this perspective husband or wife in the family must leave gambling for the child if they want to handle it properly.

As a wife, you should stop gambling and focus more on your children and husband as well as housework. After all, what is their purpose in gambling, is it just for entertainment or risking money to hope for big profits. If the husband just plays normally and as entertainment, it won't bother anything, as long as he doesn't spend money to use it for living expenses. The husband must be wise to manage everything, regulate gambling only as entertainment, and only use a small amount and manage other needs.

This case just like a case I heard from somewhere when husband and wife were working in the bank and, we know that bankers use to close late in the bank and once they get home, it will be difficult for the woman to perform her duty based on the nature of her work and the matter was trying to destroy the home until the woman have to quite the job to save her home. If the husband is well okay with his wife gambling, I don't think anything will happen to their finance and, I think they have amount of money they use to gamble in a day not to make them addicted to gambling.

Once the husband and wife start bearing children from the family, I will not encourage the woman to continue gambling with her husband because their children will like to follow the same step of their parents and it can lead the children to bad attitude that will affect the family wrongly in the future.

That true and basically the definition of gambling is fun place, place that can give us satisfaction and entertainment from every game.
As many people say, play with excitement and don't expect profits, as gambler must be able to instill the right approach to gambling.
They must really look for pleasure, not about profit or making money, winning and losing has become natural thing and we must be able to accept everything without any excessive effort that could bring difficulties.

In gambling there are risks and consequences that can be very detrimental or difficult for someone, even worse it can cause really complicated problems.
But it all depends on the gamblers themselves whether they choose the right path or the wrong path, there will be no coercion or direction from other people so gamblers must be smart in considering every step they take.
Don't let us make the wrong decisions or goals because that can make us feel regret later.

If both partners are gambling irresponsibly then it will not be long until they find themselves under a tremendous financial pressure, as even a single gambler doing this will put the couple into financial strain, so both of them doing this will only accelerate this process.

However this is not very common, since this will require that both of them lose control roughly at the same time, and if this does not happen then the one that has yet to do so can see what is happening and begin to take measures to not traverse that path.

For this thread, I have to be wise as I also have a family. in essence, I'm not on the side of either one of them stopping. Femomena like this is not foreign to me personally, and I have seen many cases in the area where I live. Before I assume, I want to ask what your personal perspective is. No need to answer it, you can keep it to yourself. OK, now I'm speaking my version. So far, I like gambling. However, everything has been arranged, even my wife is involved and takes responsibility for my gambling. I mean, my wife always monitors what I do and I am happy to be open for her to monitor. what's the use, it's definitely useful. My wife will carry out her duties as a wife, which when I am involved is deeply affected by emotions of defeat and difficulty controlling myself. In other words, my wife will do her job as a system to regulate when I have to stop and she will let me, when I'm in the fun phase, provided there are no problems.

Let's imagine, what if both of them like gambling. are they rich people, who have a lot of wealth and don't feel lost when they always lose in their gambling sessions? If what we describe is the opposite, I do not guarantee that life in their family will be healthy. in other words, there will usually be a lot of conflict occurring. okay if they don't have children, especially if they both work. but the fact is the opposite, and only minimal financial income. what is the fate of this family, especially their children. to be honest. I don't dare or interfere in other families' personal problems. but if I am allowed to have an opinion, both should stop for the common good. because clearly it isn't, if what you say in this thread refers to a troubled family.  For me this is not healthy, it's not just the wife who has to stop. however, so does being the head of the household. the story is different, if this husband and wife are rich people. even then, the condition is that children must not know or even be involved.

Whenever an activity threatens the goodness of the family it is something that should be considered leaving anything, that is why every time we have to make some sacrifices, those sacrifices always lead to something very good when done together, I have seen some things where the people or rather the couple, there is one in particular who is in a casino and grabs it like an addiction and when the crowd finds out, I can ask you to please stay away from that because of course, it affects the couple and the children. (if there are any) and that is a very delicate case, well for me the first thing is and always has been the family, well in the women who leave that aside and give themselves over to the game, which seems quite irresponsible to me, because at the moment you may be very comfortable in the game, but later? If he falls into an illness, who will see him? the casino? No, there are things that have always been for the better in couples because the other party that has the problem understands the problem, and corrects it.

Now, if the couple is both the ones who have the Addiction problem , then it is Difficult there , they should both go to a psychologist to be able to be well, to be able to have a better focus on things, I consider that when a person or a couple is like this and They cannot get ahead with a problem like this, help has to be their way out, there is no other option, it is the right Thing to do and it is what should be done, for me in anything that is addictive it must be attacked quickly, not quit. move forward because when we let it move forward things get worse, for that reason we must do everything possible to get out of the problem faster, it is easier to attack the addiction at the beginning than when it is already at an advanced level, that is why we always have to consider that the casino has its home advantage, and that it is practically impossible for one player or both to beat a casino, there are only moments of Luck.

This is a much more complicated situation where both of them are involved in gambling so that no one is able to control the finances, but I also want to know whether the two couples are active gamblers or they only carry out gambling activities with a budget that has been prepared so as not to disrupt cash flow to meet his living needs. It's rare to find two couples active at the same time in gambling and perhaps of the many people out in the world, only a small percentage carry out gambling activities simultaneously.

It's not a matter of talking about who should stop gambling, but rather that both of them need to think about their lives so they don't get trapped in increasingly serious financial problems. If both of them gamble irresponsibly then I am sure their finances will be in trouble and their daily living needs will be quite disturbed by gambling activities carried out irresponsibly.

Actually it looks awkward seeing husband and wife gambling at the same time because you can imagine what there children may grow up to become because one of the things about children is that they can easily get use to something they heard either from parents or an outsider and before they realize they will start practicing it, but although there are some places that gambling in both genders are very comon so if it was that kind of places the only thing I will say is that it may not be a good idea asking either the wife or the husband to quit for the wife to gamble but perhaps the main question should be that how often does the husband and wife make a win in the gambling, so perhaps if they are always lucky in times of there wining I see no reason why one person should quit for another when they are actually benefiting a lot from gambling but if perhaps they are not consistent in wining that there over all losing is higher than there wining I would suggest they both quit the gambling and look a better job that will help there family instead of gambling with the little they have.

Absolutely rightly said if one of the couple leaves the other for gambling then it will be the right decision to stop gambling. If uncontrolled gambling can affect mental health beyond the family. When gambling becomes a problem self-esteem can cause stress anxiety and depression. Gambling can become an addiction just like drugs or alcohol if you use it compulsively or feel out of control it's hard to discipline yourself. That is why it is better to think about the family and try to keep yourself under control. Have to find other ways of working other than gambling.

Yes, we're all dancing with gambling. Like a party, nobody wants to go although knowing they should. Humans love the thrill, unpredictability, and companionship of friendly wagers. Our stories and cultures incorporate it. Folkloric gambles are about the trip, thrill, and challenge, not just winning or losing.

Gambling is a double-edged sword; it does have risks. But lets not forget the enjoyable element that lights up our minds like Christmas trees. If we can channel our passion of gambling into more controlled, friendly, and responsible encounters, we may find the sweet spot. One with thrills but less hazards. Life's a gamble, right? Lets make it enjoyable.