Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 14. (Read 2656 times)

Well, if we are being totally honest, we should all quit, every single human in the world should quit, there should be no more gambling at all. Obviously we won't, and obviously we would always find a way, even if it means wagering amongst friends only, we would always keep on betting and it would never end, but we should definitely consider that if we can, that would be the good thing. We need to realize that life is not all that simple and we need to arrange something that will get a lot better over time.

I believe that we are going to end up with something that should be considered a little bit troublesome, and yes that is true that we are not going to end up with anything that would take some time, but we need to handle all the situation we can with this, and we need to arrange a situation that will benefit us the most in the end. I get that people may not end up with a situation that would take too long, but we need to let people do what they want to.

addiction is always a nightmare for gamblers who fail to control themselves, but in this scenario it seems like your opinion also makes sense, immediately learn to be a good parent or plan to have children soon so that all these activities are immediately stopped because in the long term if this often happens, it will have a bad impact, not only addiction, but divorce can occur because an addict's emotional state is very high and one of the best ways is to immediately start planning to have a child, but all of this requires awareness. before having children, you must have thoughts that are far from gambling.

plan to stop immediately, maybe both of them should do it, but if neither of them starts early, there will certainly be no effort to stop gambling and I say it is better for the husband as the head of the household to have awareness early so that what he says makes his wife obey. what her husband wants is to avoid gambling and then plan a pregnancy program to have offspring and focus on educating his child in the future.

this problem is indeed a bit complicated and maybe it would be very easy for us to say something like this, but if it actually happened to us, we would definitely have difficulty in avoiding gambling because both of them both like gambling and I think when they are comfortable with gambling, feelings of selfishness will appear more high and it is difficult to stop unless something very serious happens and forces these two people to stop immediately.
and definitely dont let this happen when the husband gambles and the wife also gambles and this will ruin the future of the household.

I see a big problem in this post in the aspect that they may be gambling beyond their limit if it actually get to the point where one of them need to quit due to financial constraint. In a situation like this, both of them need to quit and work on their finances first to ensure the family have stable income.

Secondly, gambling does not require so much time that it has to impact on their obligations in the family unless they are battling with addiction which will make them spend all day in gambling. This too is an error that have to be address.

Parents indeed an example for their children. Of course, as parents, they have to do more positive activities so that their children also do the same and don't behave badly. Children definitely always want to know what their parents are doing, such as playing on cellphones, playing games, of course their children do too. imitate it and also want to do it. It is true that children cannot access gambling, but at least one day they will be able to understand that their parents gamble so that they assume that gambling is an activity that is supported by their family so that one day they will gamble the same way their parents do.

Now, from this story, we can learn that if gambling at a young age will result in gambling addiction because those who have no gambling experience will easily fall into gambling. With your friend's story it will certainly make you think that gambling will result in significant financial losses, especially if you are already have responsibilities as parents where life's needs must be met. If you use it for gambling, this can cause your household to become a mess and it is not uncommon for many divorces to occur because of economic problems and these problems are the result of one of them being a husband and wife gambling.

why would anyone wanna stick to gambling especially when they've got kids that'll definably copy them as role models...? Personally,I think there are supposed to be restrictions to whatever a parent would do in Thier kid's presence.. if not, you shouldn't blame them for adopting any attitude in the nearest future.. secondly, a woman wouldn't gamble excessively like a man would do..
To me, I'd say it's not necessary for anyone to quit... It all depends on the net income that's made through the family's resourcefulness..

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

I highly agree, if the couple talk about quitting gamble, they should quit altogether to have a noticeable changes on their financial flow.  If one only quit, then the fund used in the other half's gambling can sure be use for the gambling activity of the other half.  Quitting all together can significantly remove the pressure of their financial status especially when the reason for quitting is due to insufficient fund for their family's daily needs.

Undoubtedly, redirecting time and money from gambling to family is a powerful and positive decision. Beyond the glitz and glamour, entertainment gambling can indeed pose risks, including financial challenges and potential conflicts within relationships. The behavior of parents has big influence on children, even if subtle, is significant that can shape their understanding of priorities and values.

People send a clear and meaningful message by choosing to prioritize family over gambling, because It communicates that the existance and happiness of loved ones matter more than the joys or potential gains from gambling. The moments spent with family are irreplaceable. Building memories with the loved ones is much much beter than memories in gambling. This conscious decision to put family first becomes even more impactful in a changing landscape of family dynamics.

If a couple can agree on something then there's no way that it won't work in their family, all they need do is discuss about it and reach an agreement that'll be favorable to both of them. The most important thing in this situation is to have a weekly or monthly budget for gambling, and as you suggested, they can alternate the gambling, one gambles for one week and the other gambles the next week. Even better if they can have the chance and gamble together, but they must be disciplined not to exceed their gambling budget.

The most important aspect for a gambling couple must be that they're gambling for fun only, never as a source of income, because it'll certainly not end well if they experience loses for a whole week or month, who'll take care of their responsibilities.

You are right, they should quit their addiction, also the funds that are usually used for gambling can be used to help their basic needs of life and that is more useful. quitting gambling can make them better financially, when the money that is usually used for gambling I think they can save it to see the results within a year, the results will be seen from every time he wants to gamble but he saves it, it is not a bad thing, but they must be able to fight the urge to gamble.

I think it is difficult to fight or resist  the urge to gamble but if with full confidence I think they can do it, because this is also for their own good. so there is no harm and no loss for them to stop gambling addiction. by doing many things that can close the urge to gamble in order to reduce gambling activities and take full responsibility for what has been chosen, then it must be completed as well as possible.

This is a good option as stopping will be the best decision so both can focus their attention on looking for a new job to supposed the family. If they were depending on gambling to take care of the family expenses which is already wrong as gambling isn't a source of income due to it not been a constant source of income. They can now look for other things to do, I'll recommend getting a paying job so they have money to take care of their family.

Gambling can destroy a family, families depending on gambling amd still stay happy are very few as the emotions of the parent gambling will always be determined by how good he or she does for the day, when he or she is betting which won't be always good as a gambler, loses more than you win due to the house always having the advantage. When one parents quits the other would be jealous and this can also spoil their relationship therefore both quitting is good option.

The best option is both of them stopping their gambling hobby. They could use the funds they use to finance the expenses of their family needs and wants.
If not, surely, 1 of them quitting will be beneficial to their finance management as there will be someone who will sort it properly.
Another case is for the both of them, just lessen the gambling activity, have attention to what they need to do, be responsible, and be disciplined.

You are right mate. Parents are the first role model to their children. So in that case, whatever the children see their parents doing is what they imitate and since their parents do that, they feel it is the right thing and they keep up with it till it becomes a habit to them.

This made me remember a family friend who gambles. He started gambling at his youthful age and is still gambling till this moment.  It is so bad that he could not control it and it affected his family including his children. I believe he never thought of it while getting married, his wife wasn't able to stop him till this moment. He has sold lots  of his properties and currently doing more. It is obvious that this is more than we could imagine.

If the both couples should have a thought over it and take a decision to stop gambling that would be in the interest of their kids as well because the gambling lifestyle would not affect their family and their kids would not have any thing to do with gambling as they know their parents do not gamble because before they were born in their parents already stopped gambling which both couples agreed before they started welcoming their kids.

Yes, everything will be fine when they can prioritize their life over their gambling. But the problem is that not many can do it and not many can control themselves while gambling. Many people become deeper into gambling so it is difficult to quit gambling or reduce their gambling activities. And if this happens in a family where the husband and wife gamble, it can worsen the situation in the family.

If they can stop gambling and prioritize their family, they can use their time to pay attention to and educate their children. Even though they are busy with their families, they can still gamble but with limits so they don't gamble excessively. But whoever has to stop gambling, they should discuss it first and it would be even better if both husband and wife stop gambling so they can focus on taking care of their household and children.

Well, I wouldn't say it's completely untrue that women tend to do more housework, even today.  But that statement is still an old-fashioned stereotype and pretty sexist too.  Nowadays in most Western relationships the partners divvy up the chores evenly - it's not just one person's domain anymore. So yeah, that whole women do housework idea belongs back in the 1950s as far as I'm concerned.

That is because women are busy at the kitchen.

There's nothing wrong when both husbands and wifes is a gambler. As long as they they their priorities in life, like their children and bringing food in the table, I think it will be good and gambling won't affect their relationships.

Of course, it's better if they are going to quit gambling if their kids are growing up. But they could still continue with their gambling and just minimized it. Sort of to meet in the middle grounds and so everything should be done in moderation.

But wait!!. Did I just hear you say "instead of just gambling that money away?" So what if the had won $1million each, would you still have told them to quit gambling? Because though the truth of the matter is that when people lose a bet, they blame gambling, but when they win a bet, they praises gambling,  it still doesn't stop them from staking responsibly with an amount they can always afford to lose, which is one thing we should always look out for, as it can only take birds of the same feather to floke together.


Yes, I agree with you on this, because that's the exact thing I said in my earlier post, as women been the people who plays a major role in the nurturing, caring & doing of domestic works at home.

In my opinion gambling can be done by anyone who is able to provide for himself and his children, if he has them. If spouses find entertainment in gambling and do not spend more than 10% of the total budget on this entertainment, it is quite normal practice. In fact, what difference does it make what the money is spent on, as long as it brings pleasure. Someone likes to sit in a restaurant, someone likes to travel to different countries, and someone likes to gamble. We all have choices and we should respect our wives/husbands' choices.

We should not take any side in this and what a man can do, a woman can do it. It all depends on the kind of jobs they do primarily, this goes a long way in planning their lives and that of the family they want to build. If it's the husband who is so busy, the wife should cover up in both her job and also in that which the husband should have done. The same goes for the husband, if the wife is such that is more busy, the husband should do the same for her without me repeating it. After all, that makes a family, but one shouldn't undermine the effort of the other, which is the most painful part in marriage.

But for the gambling aspect of it, I do not think that anyone has to quit anything if they are both responsible gamblers, but if they are irresponsible gamblers, I urge them both to quit, not only one. Only that they should be careful so that their children never know of that ugly part of them. Also, if they are responsible in doing it, I don't think it will take their time unnecessarily to the extent that it would be a thing of concern to them or anybody around them. And about what you said as if it's strange, this might be weird to you but it's not a big deal, and as a matter of fact, it is common in some environments because that's their way of life. It's part of them.

This is true, they will eventually be a gambler since they see you both into gambling and think its okay to gamble, but before it happens, you might lose you're home because of this habit, it's okay to gamble once or twice a month but if it's like daily that is a big problem how will you both be able to take care of you're family and kids future?