Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 14. (Read 2441 times)

There's nothing wrong when both husbands and wifes is a gambler. As long as they they their priorities in life, like their children and bringing food in the table, I think it will be good and gambling won't affect their relationships.

Of course, it's better if they are going to quit gambling if their kids are growing up. But they could still continue with their gambling and just minimized it. Sort of to meet in the middle grounds and so everything should be done in moderation.

But wait!!. Did I just hear you say "instead of just gambling that money away?" So what if the had won $1million each, would you still have told them to quit gambling? Because though the truth of the matter is that when people lose a bet, they blame gambling, but when they win a bet, they praises gambling,  it still doesn't stop them from staking responsibly with an amount they can always afford to lose, which is one thing we should always look out for, as it can only take birds of the same feather to floke together.


Yes, I agree with you on this, because that's the exact thing I said in my earlier post, as women been the people who plays a major role in the nurturing, caring & doing of domestic works at home.

In my opinion gambling can be done by anyone who is able to provide for himself and his children, if he has them. If spouses find entertainment in gambling and do not spend more than 10% of the total budget on this entertainment, it is quite normal practice. In fact, what difference does it make what the money is spent on, as long as it brings pleasure. Someone likes to sit in a restaurant, someone likes to travel to different countries, and someone likes to gamble. We all have choices and we should respect our wives/husbands' choices.

We should not take any side in this and what a man can do, a woman can do it. It all depends on the kind of jobs they do primarily, this goes a long way in planning their lives and that of the family they want to build. If it's the husband who is so busy, the wife should cover up in both her job and also in that which the husband should have done. The same goes for the husband, if the wife is such that is more busy, the husband should do the same for her without me repeating it. After all, that makes a family, but one shouldn't undermine the effort of the other, which is the most painful part in marriage.

But for the gambling aspect of it, I do not think that anyone has to quit anything if they are both responsible gamblers, but if they are irresponsible gamblers, I urge them both to quit, not only one. Only that they should be careful so that their children never know of that ugly part of them. Also, if they are responsible in doing it, I don't think it will take their time unnecessarily to the extent that it would be a thing of concern to them or anybody around them. And about what you said as if it's strange, this might be weird to you but it's not a big deal, and as a matter of fact, it is common in some environments because that's their way of life. It's part of them.

This is true, they will eventually be a gambler since they see you both into gambling and think its okay to gamble, but before it happens, you might lose you're home because of this habit, it's okay to gamble once or twice a month but if it's like daily that is a big problem how will you both be able to take care of you're family and kids future?

If the husband is a gambler and the wife is a gambler, it is only a matter of time before their kids pick up on gambling. If they are not gambling professionally, like say a professional poker player who teaches other about it and still earn on the side to sustain themselves then the both of them should quit.

Remember that gambling is not as the evil bad terrible thing that they have purpoted it to be . It is individuals without discipline who give it a bad rep.

As you've noticed, most of gamblers are men than woman because I believe that woman can give up easily if they have experience losses, you have a point that women can get rid easily the gambling addiction than man but It's not that easy as we think because if a person used to know a thing, there's a possibility they may return to that habit once they have a capability or money if their pockets.

Redirecting time and money from gambling to family is powerful. Glitz and glamour sometimes hide the risks of entertainment gambling, including financial hardship, conflict between individuals, and the subtle but substantial influence on children. Lost minutes may have been spent making memories, not simply money. Family dynamics are changing, right? Parents who prioritise family over gambling send the message: "You matter more than any fleeting joy."

Saving money from gambling can pay college, extracurriculars, or a family vacation for the kids. The investment in a solid, secure family environment is more crucial. We're precedent-setting, right? The kids learn that happiness comes from a loving home, not luck. The lesson is worth more than the jackpot!

Less numbers of women are into gambling and that's because they mostly don't like losing, its easier for women to get rid of gambling than men, it could be different at your end but this is what I have noticed in my own surroundings, they don't like taking too much risks and they also don't like losing, if it happens gradually they find it easy to just quit.

It will be definitely more ugly if a woman gets addicted to gambling, it will be way worse and that's why you need to choose your partner very carefully, and if they just develop the habit after you get together you need to make them quit or turn them into a responsible gambler, I believe I can deal with an addicted gambler as I believe my method always work on them.

I will just make sure you gamble together, you don't have to make them feel that you hate gambling, you just have to play along and expose them to some gambling reality, if done right they will end up opening their eye to the truth behind gambling.

One reason that makes sense is to use money wisely, especially if you have a child, of course instead of spending it on gambling, it should be used for the child's needs, for example in paying for his education and future. It wouldn't be good if both parents gambled and one of them had to stop. manage the household budget better, I am sure that it will not harm either party and feel disadvantaged if one has to stop for the child's future.

If both of them can't stop, it's best to gamble with a much more limited budget so you don't waste a lot of money because gambling can make anyone bankrupt in an instant if you don't really control it well, gambling should be used as entertainment, not a requirement that must be played all the time. just to make money, it is clearly wrong to make money in gambling.

First of all a man always choose a wife who is not involved in bad activities like gambling but if she start these things after marriage then the situations will become complicated for them because more they will be involved in gambling more they will loss money.  If only a single partner is gambling then the life of another partner become miserable so how this can happen that both are gambling but situations and conditions of living remains normal.

There will be no case of stopping gambling if a husband, wife and all children are involved in gambling because all of them are considering gambling as a beneficial step to find a financial stability. In my opinion with gambling they can only loss their money and their financial status will remains worse forever.

Why don't they involve the kids as well? You know, the more bets, the higher the chances they'll eventually win. *Sarcasm*

Although we're lacking information, such as how much time is spent gambling and with what budget, this scenario sounds really unhealthy. It can easily get out of hand; spend a fortune on gambling, and none of the partners will be able to assist each other and put a stop or a limit because they're both involved. It's best not to jump to conclusions, but I'd rather spend this time focusing on our family.

Moreover, this isn't a matter of sex, because I saw a few users pointing out that the wife should spend time with the kids, which is quite sexist. Anyone can gamble; I just find it too risky and potentially unhealthy if both partners are involved.

The best solution would be both to quit gambling. If that doesn't work out, a divorce is solution number 2(even though this won't solve their gambling problems). The kids should be taken away by the authorities(for a while). The friends and parents of both the man and the woman should intervene and talk with them about their problem. I know that this isn't very common and most families try to keep their gambling habits a secret, but there's no other way around.
I don't think that the question "who should quit for who?" is competent. The first one quitting and the other one continuing with his gambling addiction won't solve anything.

Where both husband and wife indulge in gambling, either one must give up gambling. A family can never be happy if husband and wife gamble. The wife in particular must give up gambling as a wife can play an important role in keeping the family together. Here the husband can gamble away from home. And a wife can never go away from home to gamble. Whenever a wife starts gambling at home, her children may become addicted to gambling after seeing her gambling. So I would say that here between husband and wife, the wife must take a break from gambling.

they can do it together, right? Or if it is really difficult, maybe the wife should focus more on taking care of the house and family. and allow the wife to gamble when it's time for a holiday.
but what becomes difficult is when both of them are addicted. In the life of a family that has children, it will be difficult to control family finances. It would be better to stop both gambling activities and focus on the family economy. Maybe it will be different for families who are already financially strong. the important thing is that they realize the limits of the money they can spend.

They definitely enjoy being a family of gamblers and can discuss many things about gambling, moreover, there will be no gambling activities carried out in secret because they are gamblers.
If you ask who should quit? should all of them if possible, if it turns out they can't, even the wife doesn't want to stop, then they can continue carrying out their activities with full responsibility and can remind each other if one of them has gambled beyond the limit so that they can return to what has been determined, so as not to disrupt their relationship and other important activities that they still have to do are tidying up the house and working to earn money and taking care of the children.

This is really ackward that gambling is causing some argument and drama in the family between the husband and wife,and nobody has the ability to control the other interms of their gambling activities.One thing I have known about gambling is that,the people who loses most in gambling are the people who play the most,and because they want to win back their money by all cost,and that is exactly what is making them lose more money,so in this case,the person that has to quit is the one who loses the most,and the person who hasn't won much because the luck is not there for him to win,be should just give it up to that person who isn't gambling much,but atleast,he is Winning.And also in the real sense,if the husband sees that gambling is affecting their family life,he has the ability to stop the wife because he is in that capacity to do so.

To me, it's weird that they even considered marrying and living together with both having this kind of habit of being a gambler. To humor the question though, I think that it's best for the both of them to quit gambling since that money could be spent on other stuff that could help the household instead of just gambling that money away but if there's an addiction going on and it can't be helped, I think that the wife should quit because if the husband is still working, the wife can do the housework when she stops gambling unlike with the husband who's probably the provider in the family, he might not be able to find the energy to do housework.

Of course, if husband and wife stop gambling then it is a good decision, not who will stop first, but both are making changes for the better, spending time with family is much more valuable than time spent on gambling, besides that if the family doesn't gamble then their children will have a bright future. Sometimes if their parents gamble, the children will judge their parents badly and one day the children will imitate what their parents did, so it's better to prevent things like that if they stop gambling then the Children will not be familiar with gambling and as a parent you can certainly provide education to your children when they grow up telling them about the bad experiences of gambling so that they do not follow in their parents' footsteps.

And yes, if they don't gamble, the funds they should use for gambling can be used for other more useful things, such as supplementing the child's needs and can be used to invest in the child's future.

family is indeed the most precious treasure in life, even if someone is in the hardest or worst situation but his own family will definitely accept their situation even though they are in a doomed state. also on the contrary, if parents are addicted to gambling, they should not let the impact of gambling affect their own family because it is likely that gambling addiction can damage a family relationship and can also have an impact on the future of their children later and of course this must be avoided.

Because if they are married but still like to gamble or are still addicted to gambling then this will not be good for themselves and for their families. because it is not only himself who will be affected by harmful effects, but his family can also be affected and this is not what his family wants.