Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 11. (Read 2656 times)

This sounds like an old stereotype that married woman place is in the kitchen. If we all agreed that one of gambling aims is about about having fun, then why men can have fun and women dont? I agree to facts, that there are some activities that men do better, and some women do better, some jobs are more suited for men, some for women, but gambling does not require any special skill or body condition. Maybe this has something about your religion, I dont know, but that does not look fair that married women should not gamble.

wrong , we are in the world of equal living now and what Men can do so what woman can , if the Men losses more and has no friend with luck do you think it is fair that still remain the gaming?
wrong mate , the Men should stop and the women must continue or else they must both leave gambling and have job outside risk, but the questions stands if whom will leave and for me this is the luckier that will remain gambling.

I don't see what the point of one quitting would do.  In most cases both people combine theor finances so in this case if one of them quit the likelihood of the other one just betting more probably increases.  I actually think if they split theor funds it's better to hedge theor bet that way so they aren't all in on one particular bet. 

Not a big fan of equal rights myself, but that's all true. Luckily, women tend to be much more risk-averse than men (men gamble around twice as much as women), so they are far less likely to fall victim to a gambling addiction.
There are also differences in the preferred types of gambling between the genders. Men favor more skilled games (poker, sports betting and alike) while women lean towards pure luck games (like bingo, slots, or lotteries).

This a dumb argument to discuss with. Gambling was supposed to be use for entertainment purposes only while both of them already have children that they can spend time together instead of gambling. They should think about responsibility first before they start having a children because both of them is immature especially the wife that was supposed to take care the children at home.

This is not a major issue to discuss since they should knew already the answer to their problem and start to become responsible parents and gambler at the same time.

Am with you on this bro, if am a gambler, I would never marry a gambler because it's so unwise if both husband and wife are gambling, and if they are addicted, then it's over for both of them, because their life will definitely crumbles. They will find it very difficult to hold unto money.
It will surely be a disaster if they had kids.

As much as I believe in equal rights, gambling does not suit a woman to be honest, and like I always have said here and will continue to say, I will not marry a woman who gambles, even if I myself gambles, and even if we are already married before I discovered that she gambles, she will have to stop it immediately or I just assume she not ready for marriage.

Like I said before, I believe in equal rights, but the fact remains that there are things that are better suited for men to do and there are other things that see better suited for women to do, and when it comes to gambling, gambling is a man's thing and not for women when they are married, a married woman should not gamble even if she gambled when she was single, she should understand that life when single is different from life when married.

The problem is not that they both gamble, but that their gambling habits don't let them manage their obligations, right? then they both have a problem of addiction, and I honestly think that both should stop gambling, because if only one quits it will be too hard for her/him to overcome such a hard situation and still be able to help his husband or wife.

The good thing is that it will be easy to understand each other when the craving to play is too strong for any of them, but apart from that I think that it is a really difficult situation to overcome. Like a couple of drug addicts, if they both don't solve each one's problem, it will be really hard for them to keep being together.

Imagine a couple both husband and wife are smoking cigarettes. When one of them quits, the other will look impulsive and disgusting to the side that quit smoking. The situation you talked about describes a similar scenario. If one of them quits gambling then that marriage won't last for long. It is because one of them will be making money and the other will be losing it. Someone will go mad in the end and tell the other one gfy. It is better if both of them quit at the same time. If they like to play however, then play. As long as they don't lose their life savings to their habits, there is no harm there. If one of them goes stupid, then something must be done about it.

 
I haven’t heard of a situation like this before, even outside the forum, and I have not seen any topic related to your discussion on this forum before.If both husband and wife are gamblers and a person needs to stop, I will say the wife should be the one to stop because she spends more time with the kids than the husband; she is taking care of the kids personal health and other things; she will still do house chores, cooking, and other things. If the wife is gambling, I believe there will be a big problem in that household because she won’t get enough time to do all these things I just listed, and that is why the wife should be the one stop. Gambling is very dangerous for  her.But for the husband, definitely, he will have a job that he does to make money, so even if he gambles, as long as he is not addicted to it and he does it for fun, I don’t think it is a big deal.


I don’t think it is a good idea for both couples to gamble. Remember that we are not the same, and one person may view it as something to do for fun. What if another person does not view it the same as the first person? From there, there will be misunderstandings between both of them, and problems will now start coming to them. Therefore, the other person who did not view gambling for fun will be thinking of making money from gambling, which will lead him or her to addiction, which may turn that family into financial difficulties.


Nah man. You are not a gambler, and that is why you think this way: gamblers didn’t think the way you think what gamblers do after winning some amount of money is to get another odd and stake the amount that is higher than what they staked and won previous going to get more than what have been achieved, so they don’t think of getting another thing else soing with that money but to gambler more to generate another money, which is what they are planning, which is not correct.

I don't know why this surprised you, it's not a big deal, if you go to some environment, this kind of a thing is a norm there, and they do not get to misbehave in most cases because it is their way of life. Just like it's in regular life, some spouses might be irresponsible even if they are not gamblers, so this is possible in gambling too, yet gambling mustn't be the sole means to judge people, they may not be gambling anyhow. I must say that we should differentiate the kind of gamblers we are talking about first to be sure. This takes me to the responsible gamblers and irresponsible gamblers aspect. If any man or woman is irresponsible with their gambling, I advise the other party to flee even in the courtship, it shouldn't just lead to marriage at all. But if both of them are gambling and are responsible in their gambling habit, to me, there is no big deal in this, they should only be more careful so that it does not corrupt their children.

As a matter of fact, I have seen a whole lot of women who are gambling these days, these are women who are even respected in society, so if they end up with a man like them, there can't be an issue because the gambling itself has never been the major of thing in their lives but an extra. It's secondary to the extent that it is not the main source of their income and from what I noticed with them, they are not such that would ever shift their position to think that gambling will make them rich but to face their career for good. For this, gambling is just a way of life, couples can gamble and nothing bad will happen, but when the two of them are becoming irresponsible in it, they better quit it as soon as possible for the sake of themselves, the marriage and the children.

They both need each other's cooperation to perform well in gambling. A couple who work together in adventuring the fun of gambling would succeed in gambling and any other life businesses they run. Situations differ in individuals and we may be wrong in generalizing a specific outcome for all gambling couples. Could it be about the risk of gambling and the repercussions of irresponsible gambling that will make individuals make mistakes in the future? In a family where both plan monthly and yearly activities, they'll understand the importance of paying the fees of their wards and keeping to the plans of not meddling with money meant for the growth of the family. However, we are mainly hearing about the disadvantages of gambling and would think that such a family would face problem gambling like any random gambler in the street. When people understand the importance of gambling and how it could help their family grow and feel it's also a true tool for that growth they seek.

Devising accurate techniques for balancing the funds thrown into gambling wouldn't take them lots of time. And if they succeed, the only requirement would be sticking to the plan. In my view, gamblers should have cohorts with whom they can discuss closely the strategies to implement in gambling. Players who face trouble in gambling, don't share ideas with other gamblers or don't have a close friend whom they could trust in gambling matters. Telling one person to quit gambling in such a condition, wouldn't be helpful, as one other person may get addicted along the line, or maybe the party told to quit can decide to hide their gambling activities. This would then cause the trouble as none of them can collaborate anymore in knowing how money is been spent on gambling. But, in a good relationship, both of them agreeing to an idea that circulates on making a better family and being responsible gamblers, I don't see anything wrong in both spouses being active participants in gambling.

So, are you saying that they shouldn't stop gambling and just keep doing what they are doing even though their family is at stake? They can consult or ask for help to psychological therapy if they are too focused on gambling and close to being addicted.  Who will manage the family that they created? What if they have kids? and if they run out of budget, what do they have to spare for their day-to-day expenses?
If they keep fighting, what moral will the children get from their parents?. Parents are the reflection of their children's behavior, and they can be turned into what their parents are when they grow up.

That is if they even have in-laws or any concerned relative they have, better to advise them while it is still early if the situation is not that bad. so, one of the parents or both of them should quit gambling in order to save their finances and both can make a better parent. It will also save their marriage as well.

In as much as one would definitely reach adult age before considering marriage, it's still important to know and note that even on engagements that are exclusive to adults, there are ones you'll have to avoid or quit in other to have and enjoy a happy home after marriage. Gambling is not a bad engagement if anyone who's involved in it can be responsible in his gambling activities.

However, when talking about married couples, I don't think it's a good idea to gamble after getting married even when both parties were gambling before marriage. Gambling is one engagement that anyone who engages in it regularly will surely have bad days of massive loss. So imagine where the two persons had a regrettable day, it'll surely affect the financing of the family at the end of the day. So when two adults who were good in gambling finally becomes couples it's advised that they shun every form of gambling in other to raise a good home and not the one that'll be full of regret.

Those are rare or something not really that usual because majority of gamblers are those people who are really that impulsive. Im not saying that all of them but majority would really be included into that bracket. Somewhat there are really people who do play gambling for fun and entertainment without making themselves getting addicted. This is something that we should really be that
mindful. Quitting would really be just that relevant if you do see that gambling is already that affecting you financially and emotionally on which it would really be just that right that you
shouldnt really be that tolerating that kind of addiction which mold up into your personal self. Quit if its needed but if you do see that you can handle then it would really be just that fine.

Well, if they both gamble AND are able to retain a good standard of living and a good mental state then I would be very surprised. Usually that does not work out, and I have yet to meet the person who can gamble without endangering his/her financial status. Although there may exist such people, who knows? In such a (rare) case I think there would be no issue. Why look for problems where there are none? If their gambling starts showing symptoms of problems (financial troubles, child neglect, health issues etc...) then that is a different situation...

Situations like this often arise from the man's mistakes. As a man, gambling should never be anything that can steal away your attention and responsibility of your home but some men have problems with this part. When you know that you are a gambler and know that you are married to your wife, don't forget to take care of your home, treat them like you don't gamble at all but they always do the opposite which makes their wife disrespect them.

If a married gambler provides for the wife, does the basic needs for the wife, they will never complain or fight their husband for doing what they like especially when money and attention is involved. The wife will even feel concerned if the husband is the passionate one and feels sober anytime he is lost, they will pet him just to clear the mood because they know he is a responsible gambler but I know they will not do that to a irresponsible man.


More importantly, know when to quit and know when to say goodbye for that time. You must not win all the time because if there is anything like that, the casino will not function again and they will be out of business for life. Also, don't gamble more than you can afford to lose, it hurts in the end if you lose a dear amount to gambling because you will hardly get it right the next time you try to recover it again.

now look at the large number of gamblers, the percentage of gambling responsibly is very small and very few people can do this, gambling has dangerous impacts that are not trivial, also because of that the possibility of a percentage of addiction that is difficult to hide  many of them become addicted by gambling Even if they just want to try it out,  they can become addicted to gambling, why is that? because gambling itself can make people forget themselves, where someone who plays it can become emotional and tend to be greedy. define gambling as entertainment,  okay we agree on this.
but you might also see from the number of  people here that gambling can bring bad things, right? Many of them said they had to stop because there would be repercussions that would occur if they still liked to gamble wouldn't it  be possible if they had to gamble until they were old?  Even though there are parents who still like to gamble, is  this worth using as motivation?  Are you sure that gambling where someone is only based as a player can get a  steady and profitable income? I don't think so and indirectly this all represents  someone who likes to gamble and hopes they can stop  gambling especially when they are married  or even have children why is that, because someone who likes gambling might experience changes in their attitude and behavior why?  because gambling will not continue smoothly, bro. Do you yourself think it will always be smooth? I not sure about that.

with those who like to gamble is it likely that they will continue to benefit? i don't think so. i'm not sure those who like to gamble have a greater percentage of wins and profits. i think everyone knows the percentage of losses is greater than the wins, and if they always lose will they be okay? maybe yes, but for a short time, in the long run they will probably experience upset because of the losses they always get, also maybe they will be stressed if they always gamble but there is no result. with limits and responsibility? it can be done indeed, but in my opinion they should think about the fate of their families who must maintain their relationships, because if they are still fond of gambling I think they will experience more or less conflict or quarrels. with limits and being responsible? it can be done indeed, but in my opinion they should think about the fate of his family that must be maintained relationship, because if they are still fond of gambling I think they will experience a lot of disagreements or small quarrels. not to mention the character that a person has, of course men tend to have a stubborn character, arrogant with their choices, tend not to want to give in, this also encourages those who could be worse in the future.


people's pleasure is different, it is also because everyone's thinking is different, they have their own choices. their gambling habits seem to be able to make them destroyed in the future. people who gamble at the beginning with a target or good self-control, may change when in the game, because as you said this gambling triggers adrenaline, this means that it can also make someone become emotional when gambling, right? now here's the thing, gambling has a dangerous impact, and if they have been gambling for a long time as an escape, is there nothing else that can be used as an escape? that means gambling itself has an effect that can make them change quickly. The thing that should be noted, even those who gamble responsibly can change, it is unlikely that they will continue to stay like that. because changes can occur especially with gambling that is fully tied to finances, and finances are important things in life. even those who get big wins can change especially those who get continuous losses too. it's good to stop early, because prevention is better than cure, right? the good and bad impacts that will occur with themselves, okay let people have fun, but if they don't have enough money or income, in my opinion with his habit of making gambling as an escape it's not for fun, but will torture themselves.

I think some people gonna have a heartburn after reading, but what about popular quotation "happy wife, happy life" ? And enshrined in society "man manages financing, while women manage the house" ?
On one hand husband must quit to get peace in family. On the other he must be the only one that could be allowed to gamble with real money. But in general, there is no need to create some kind of cult out of gambling. It shouldn't affect the family in any way.

That's a big problem if both of them become addicted and they have kids to attend to their needs. So, what if both of them become out of control and instead of providing what's needed by the family, they're attending first to their gambling needs? Well, that's a situation that can be dealt with in reality but most of these can be managed depending on how they attest to this situation.

Not just getting into fights but with miscommunication because it all comes to having an issue with the same hobby but, the result might be different because there's money involved. When you're in a married life, of course money is important and if you're not helping each other with the expenses or it is mostly affected because both of you gambles a lot. That's where the problem will be bigger.

Anyway, most gamblers are family oriented and for sure will get into a solution on how to handle such problem. You don't want your kids to have problems with provisions and the same goes for husband and wife. It all comes with thinking of the setup and solution to be applied.