Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 17. (Read 2441 times)

If they gamble in a proper way, I think they can both take some time to gamble by taking terms. One can gamble for X period of time and another can gamble for Y period of time. So no one is left behind and they can both enjoy gambling while also maintaining family matters or other kinds of stuff. But if they have come to a term where they think that continuing the gambling habit might hurt their relation and one of them decides to quit gambling for that sake, they should do it. But doing it forcefully will lead to many problems.

It has to be that person's own individual choice to quit gambling. Or they can both quit gambling in order to support each other.

If they are rich it's okay for them to gamble as long as they are on the point that they consider gambling as an entertainment only.

However, if they are both struggling financially and yet they are still gambling, most likely the family will be affected, and guess what, their kids will likely become gamblers when they grow up as that's what they see as they are growing up. What the parents are doing is a big influence of the children as they grow up.

I believe this kind of scenario is not new, I mean in less developed countries, we can see a lot of families like that, they gamble even if they have financial problems, and it's one of the reasons why poverty has increase. Even in our country, there's this government aid for the poor which they'll receive monthly, and instead of people are being help, it makes them more lazy as they are just relying on it and even use it in gambling.

If there's one who should quit then for me it's the wife since often she is the one managing the finances. Therefore if the wife is a gambler, she might get tempted to spend their household budget into gambling (but this still depends on the level of her gambling activity). On the other side, if both gamble just to have fun, I don't think one should quit to give way for the other. Communication and understanding each other are the key so that they still prioritize their family in general. And just gamble during free time using a money meant for their leisure.

You've got a very complicated scenario, to be honest as I seldom see husband and wife gambles. With this scenario, I think their children are not well taken care of as their time is focused on gambling.

If one should quit, it should be the wife so she could take care of their household, besides a woman who gambles a lot is not common and considered immoral in our country, don't know in your place but here in our place, a woman gambler is tag as irresponsible and not a wife material.

This is a problem that could really be just only be solved out by theirs on which if they are really that dealing with gambling and find out themselves that getting addicted already then they are really that putting their marriage on danger or simply they would really be messing up with their family relationship specially into their child. We do know that when it comes to gambling dealing then it would really be always pertaining
about money spending and with spending then we do know that it would really be ending up on making use of those funds which arent supposed to be used in gambling. You are really just that basically putting up
your own family in danger.The worst thing is that you both husband and wife do really make the same thing.

If it turns out that  you do both gamble but dont able to forget on the responsibilities that you do have in your family then it should be fine but it would be always best
that there should really be a quality time in between members because family wont really be something be called to be loving and caring if they are really that
doing something solo with their own or simply having no harmony.

It's important to consider the well-being of the entire family when it comes to gambling addiction. It's not fair for only one person to quit while the other continues to gamble. Both parties should leave gambling behind in order to maintain fairness and prevent any further harm to the family, especially the children. It's not an easy habit to break, and the temptation to gamble again can be high if one person continues to do so. It's best to work together to overcome the addiction and create a healthier, happier environment for everyone involved.

This has nothing good to bear when both parents involved in gambling. In this situation, I think this depends on how the two deals with gambling and their financial status. For poor and less fortunate couples, I think it is reasonable to quit as the family's financial needs might be compromised.

Propose a solution to this case, such as tossing a coin to choose a job. If they understand gambling, they should also accept that game and their life together according to their life rules.

But I haven't really encountered this situation in real life where a pair of teams can sustain this field. But there will also be many ways to share difficulties in family life, and both may also need to rebalance and pay attention to their existing lives together.

Gambling can appear in many stories that I find very interesting, but in the end, if it gets too unbalanced, it will destroy our lives.

wow this is getting more interesting I love this perspective of yours  but before I build on it I'll like to correct the perception of men now still having that mentality of women being house keepers and care givers of the children of the home only, in today's world the man can always come in, like in modern society it's like a 50-50 responsibility of the home-care between the man and woman. 

Now on the gambling side, I'll have agreed with you to an extent that the woman should quit for the man because both aren't working for the time being but if she's the one very good at it with a creative analytical knowledge on the activity why not she just continue and the husband who's less good quit for her, rather than she now assisting him to analyze games before he plays them. Isn't it as same thing as both of them gambling still?

Initially, women are created to be home builders, pillars of the family and the people meant to take care of the basic domestic work & children at home, and as such, it will be very bad for someone who is meant to be a builder, pillar and carer of the family to little or no chance for the family due to gambling. This scenario is far different from if had both parties been employed whereby the wife's salary is 3 times the salary of her husband's, the you asked who should resign, then everybody would have said let the husband resigned, since the wife earns more than 3 times his salary. But in this case where both are mere gamblers, it's nice if the wife gives up. (But if she is a very good sport betting analyst, then she could be analysing games for his husband).

Before I even say anything, this gambling thing in the family reminds me of someone, he loves his wife but she is a gambler who is addicted to gambling, and she became a huge burden for him because she almost make them go broke for live, I think it's bad if both husband and wife are into gambling.

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Who is going to protect one from getting addicted? Anyways, I hope they are just small time gambler who have things that they are doing in life? I don't like the sound of it but what can I do? My advice is they should not rely in gambling for any reason, if they plan for a better days they shouldn't try to get it from gambling, and they should both stick to a certain amount for gambling only.

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Responsibility is the first target for every responsible family man, they should expect less from gambling and think about their children and the family they have, happiness is the biggest gift of life, don't trade it with gambling addiction, to avoid the family going separate at the end of the day, they should be very careful with gambling.

I think this issue is quite challenging. The best approach is for the couple to sit down and talk, and both should agree to stop gambling. If one of them continues, it will be difficult for the other to accept quitting when they see the partner still engaged in gambling every day. The question is whether the gambling addiction has taken such a toll that the spouse is truly ready to give it up.

Another solution could be for both to allocate a small amount of time on weekends to gamble together as a recreational activity, satisfying both of their passions. This way, it won't affect family responsibilities or child care. I find it challenging to impose a unilateral decision for one of them to quit in this situation.

In my personal opinion, it's yourself or the man's side. The husband is the leader of the family, and he is obliged to set an example with good decisions. Husbands have a big responsibility in managing and guiding their wife's children in a better direction, such as managing finances and other important matters. However, it would be good if they both started to reduce the intensity of their gambling.

This may not be entirely true, if the couple is engaged in gambling, they may have experiences but we cannot say they are very experienced in gambling in a way that they can manage themselves and is able to make gambling as source of income.  The couple might be engaging in gambling not for a source of income but rather it is their vice for entertainment.



I agree, as long as the couple does not experience any negative thing from gambling and they are able to meet their need, there is no reason for one of them to quit.  And if ever gambling gives them negative effect, why not both of them quit gambling? I think it is the better solution than only one quitting gambling.  If one quit and the other stay in gambling I think it will make no difference because sooner or later the one who quit will think that it is unfair and eventually rejoin his partner in gambling engagement.

There's no gambler that'll proudly say that he's never had bad days in gambling whereby he ends up losing a lot of money after trying to recover his initial losses and that's why it's absolutely unwise for a couple to engage in gambling because they might end up losing all the money that was supposed to sustain the family in gambling. Again if a couple engage in gambling, it'll be very difficult for them to control their gambling activities in front of their kids and as we all know, gambling in front of kids is absolutely unwise as it'll increase the chances of making the kids gambling addicts in the future.

If two individuals of opposite gender decides to come together and become couples, there are some personal initial engagements they'll have to sacrifice to make the marriage work and if the both of them engages in gambling, then they'll have quit in other to raise a happy good home for themselves and more importantly for their kids.

If both of them have an understanding of the risk involved in gambling and having the understanding of how gambling can ruin their life and can manage all that risk,  then I don't think there be anything wrong and no one needs to quit form the other if their both can properly manage their gambling involvement and activities and not allow it to interfere with their marital responsibilities and demands,  it then ok for both to continue with their gambling activities.

But in as much as we encourage such,  if at any point the spouses discover the overbearing pressure of their gambling activities on them,  it then advises that both should resign from gambling at the same time and look out for some other recreational activities that can help them better. The

I know a case where a married couple bets on sports on boxing and football, but they only bet on their favorite team.For them, this is just another way of relaxation or even a hobbyThey are not gambling people and they have no problems with bets. With the situation as indicated I haven’t encountered it in the starting post yet, but one thing is for sure. If games take up most of your time and finances, you need to stop, as it will only get worse.

If both husband and wife gamble in the same family, it means that they are very experienced in gambling and for them gambling is an alternative source of income. If those family members feel that gambling will not have any bad effect on their child then why would they give up gambling. Or if they think that gambling may have bad effects on their children during childhood, they do not need to give up gambling because they will not discuss gambling in front of children and they will be careful not to influence gambling on their children. If the parents are careful and manage their activities well then I don't think it will have any effect on the child of that family. Hopefully the gambling will not have a bad effect on the child when he learns to understand

In such a situation, I think different and fair solutions can be applied rather than focusing on the solution of a single person quitting gambling. For example;

Both husband and wife can simultaneously stop gambling. In this way, equality will be achieved between both individuals and the budget used by both individuals for gambling will be included in the family budget and will contribute to the family budget.

As a second suggestion, I can recommend that both individuals take turns for gambling. Both the husband and the wife can continue to gamble regularly within a certain period of time with taking turns. In this way, it will be ensured that each individual gambles less and an equality will be created as in my previous suggestion.

The third and final suggestion I can make is to divide the budget that this couple can afford for gambling into two and resolve it so that both the husband and the wife gamble. For example, let's say this couple has a budget of 1,000 units available for gambling each month. This budget can be divided between 500-500 between two people, instead of being consumed by a single individual so that both individuals can gamble.

I think that by using such solution methods as I have mentioned, it can be ensured that both individuals gamble equally and fairly and that both individuals can reach a solution without giving up gambling.

It gets easier to quit when you not really been enmeshed into gambling that deep and your addiction level is at the surface level otherwise quiting gambling or any other kind of addictive practices it doesn't just happen overnight, it takes a rigorous and conscious gradually processes to eventually leave totally.

On the other hand, when it involves a husband and wife in the gambling of a thing the situation is very technical to handle even as it's not bad that both spouse gamble, no matter how the struggle to maintain responsible gambling practices there will still be key areas of the family life their gambling life will affect the family negatively which won't happen to be so if it's just one of them that's into gamble. That's why I feel one should quit but who will it be is just the hard nut to crack here.